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I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

Of course you can love more than one person at a time. Thats like asking if you can only love one parent at a time.

However, if you are truly in love with one, its pretty hard to find another that you love... you should make sure it isn't infatuation.

I agree with Chellis.
Also, your love is diluted between two people.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

Course you can. I love two people. My girlfriend. And me. Thats two.

For the epitome of romantic love, no.
For some cheap substitute, yeah, but thats hardly love in my eyes.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?
It's seldom manageable, but yes, it is possible to love two people at the same time. As a matter of fact, they have a name for it: polyamory. Google it.; lots of sites.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?
If parents have another child do we expect them to stop loving the one(s) they have?

Love doesn't have limits like that.

I agree with Chellis.
Also, your love is diluted between two people.
Love isn't divisible. I love all my five children equally, yet none is loved less than the others. Same thing for my grandchildren. Love is one of the few things which doesn't diminish when it's shared.

If parents have another child do we expect them to stop loving the one(s) they have?

Love doesn't have limits like that.
Exactly! :)

Haha, hope they're both polygamous! However, it's highly unlikely that they are. Do what feels right, just give yourself a while with the current girlfriend. What may seem like an obvious choice now may not be in the coming weeks.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?
Is there an underlying question here of whether you should stay with the first girl, go with the second, or have both of them? Or do you feel guilty for thinking about this other girl.....
I'm sure there was a quote once, which went something along the lines of... 'the only way to get rid of temptation is to succumb to it'.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

I think it sounds like, from what you said, that you are only infatuated with the other girl, not in love. Infatuation never lasts. I do think it is possible to love more than one person, but you should probably figure out the difference between love and infatuation. It'll save you lots of trouble if you do.

As another note, the love for a wife or girlfriend is not the same type of love as for a child for their parents or vice versa. While it may be possible to romantically love more than one person, it isn't a situation you should allow yourself to get into.

For the epitome of romantic love, no.
For some cheap substitute, yeah, but thats hardly love in my eyes.
Exactly.

The concept of polyamoury is absurd--I have never met a female happy with the arrangement. It is for sex.
Yes you can be infatuated with two, three or four people at the same time.

You can care deeply about many people at the same time.

But no you can not be In Love with two people at the same.

That is just your small head running the show.

I say you dont love either of these girls.

If you were really in love with the first one the other would never have gotten your attention.

And yes--I would also that anyone who feels that it is too difficult to be dedicated to one mate is simply self centered and incapable of making a truely deep emotional connection.

You are just being greedy and trying to justify your lust by calling it love.

I am not slamming you here--I am just putting an honest name on it.

Take a long look at this girl you claim to be in Love with, maybe you just in love with the idea of being In Love.

As far as loving your children goes--the comparison is absurd, completely ridiculous.

Loving your children is not a Romantic love, it is not the love of a mate.
I am abashed to see Eutrusca a fellow seasoned adult hop on that band wagon of comparing the Love a parent holds for a child to the Love one feels for their mate.

Its like comparing firecrackers to atom bombs.

If you are really In Love with this first girl then why isnt she sufficient?
You dont to seem to be thinking too much of her--sounds like your thinking more about just you, and your desires. That doesnt sound like love.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

Well...

A) Be sure its not just an obsessive "love" based more in novelty than in actual feelings.

B) Review your feelings about the first one as well.

C) Yeah, its completely possible to love more than one person romantically.

D) Most people aint comfortable with it, but there's nothing wrong with relatioships with more than two partners.

Well...



D) Most people aint comfortable with it, but there's nothing wrong with relatioships with more than two partners.

No there is not, but it isnt love.
Someone is not being Loved.
My wife and I can throw a third in no problem--but we dont pretend to love the person. They are a prop.

No there is not, but it isnt love.
Someone is not being Loved.
My wife and I can throw a third in no problem--but we dont pretend to love the person. They are a prop.

Maybe to you they are. Don't be so closed-minded as to say others couldn't successfully have a polyamorous relationship. You live your way and let others live their way, eh?

Love isn't a constricted thing which is identical in each person. Rules about how "love" must be area stupid, and cause more harm than good. I agree that a romantic-polyamorous relationship would be a much more difficult arangement, but it is not impossible.

sure its possible to "love" 2 women at the same time. but its also very possible that both of those women will kick you to the curb for it.

tell your current girlfriend how you feel and see how long she remains your girlfriend. if your relationship with her is not worth disredarding your feelings for girl #2 then its probably better to move on now.

It depends entirely on the person and the values with which they have adopted. I myself love many people in both the romantic sense and otherwise..... I don't feel that I have only a certain amount of love to give the world. It depends entirely how you feel.... chances are, if you are questionning loving either person, then you probably don't love on of them.... in the romantic sense, anyway. Just take a good hard look at the practical side of things. Who do YOU see yourself with in twenty, thirty, fifty years time? After all, that should be the reason you're in a relationship anyway, right? to look for a prospective life partner?

Sure you can! There's nothing wrong with polyamoury - as long as everyone concerned has no problem with it.

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

If it is possible to be in love, I believe it is possible to be in love with more than one person at once, but I do not believe what you are describing is love, at least not with girl #2, though since you really didn't describe your feelings for girl #1 clearly, I will not definitely say you are not in love with her. I think you're just trying to find a reason to cheat on your girlfriend.

Love isn't divisible. I love all my five children equally, yet none is loved less than the others. Same thing for my grandchildren. Love is one of the few things which doesn't diminish when it's shared. It's a different sort of love.

Of course it's possible to love two people at the same time. If you are a woman, you can get up to five before all orifices and hands are used.

I think it sounds like, from what you said, that you are only infatuated with the other girl, not in love. Infatuation never lasts. I do think it is possible to love more than one person, but you should probably figure out the difference between love and infatuation. It'll save you lots of trouble if you do.

As another note, the love for a wife or girlfriend is not the same type of love as for a child for their parents or vice versa. While it may be possible to romantically love more than one person, it isn't a situation you should allow yourself to get into.

Infatuation, or what is commonly known as a crush is different from love, and in some cases can lead to it. The fact of the matter is, everyone has crushes, even married people get them. The trick is to know the difference between a loving relationship and a crush. Now, if you think that you have a better chance at love with the second girl, go for it, but don't expect the first one the take you back if you change your mind.

As to actually romantically loving two people at the same time, it may be possible, but doesn't happen too often. Polygamy leads to jealousy, and we have many ancient texts (think the Bible, Greek mythology, etc.) that bring us the dilemma of the loved and the hated wife.

Anyway, good luck and most important of all, remember that life is fun.

Of course it's possible to love two people at the same time. If you are a woman, you can get up to five before all orifices and hands are used.

*rofl
That sounds a little too much like stress for my taste... ;)

I guess the subject pretty much asks the question, but here's my situation:

I am in love with this girl, and she is really great. But, I recently met a new girl, and now I can't get her out of my mind. I think about her all throughout the day and I dream about her at night- mostly about her stealing me away from my current girl.

What do you think?

You are not in love. You are in lust. :eek:

Yes....... Duh :rolleyes:

Of course it's possible to love two people at the same time. If you are a woman, you can get up to five before all orifices and hands are used.
You forgot ears and nostrils (gnomes need love too).

um fuck yes

i love my mom, my dad, and my little brother even though he is annoying all at the same time

Of course you can love more than one person at a time. Thats like asking if you can only love one parent at a time.

However, if you are truly in love with one, its pretty hard to find another that you love... you should make sure it isn't infatuation.

Agreed.