Soulmates
ProMonkians
16-09-2005, 21:21
How many of yous beleive that, somewhere in this big old wide world, there exists a perfect partner for you - your soulmate? And is there one one soulmate for you in the world, or are there multiple soulmates? If you have met and settled down with somebody is this person your solumate? If your soulmate dies/leaves you, is it possible for you to go on to find a new one?
Why all the questions? I guess what I'm leading up to is this: is love a romantic joining of the souls, or a messy cocktail of hormones unleashed in a specific dirrection?
People always seem to talk about their partners as if they were uniquely compatable with them in a way that no other in the world is - as if pre-ordained by fate/god/aliens/other. If this is true then it seems statistically unlikely (at least to me anyway) that two people, out of billions of people in the world, would ever meet. Further to this it would be even more unlikely that two people would meet through some joint activity - work, university, prison, yoga class etc - which is the way most couples meet. If this is the case then either most people have a soulmate - but end up settling for somebody else; or there are numerous soulmates dispersed around the globe with an average encounter rate of one per lifetime.
Another option is that you simply take what's on offer, "Happy Valentines day dear, I'm glad I settled for you!".
What's your take on this? Aticles, sentances, peoms, songs, are all welcome.
I V Stalin
16-09-2005, 21:59
I guess to believe in soulmates, you have to believe in souls. So I fall at the first hurdle. But I believe that everyone has at least one person who is "perfect" for them. I put the quote marks round perfect, because I don't believe there is perfection in the world. There is at least one person for everyone who they will get on with as close to perfectly as is possible. I say at least one, because I believe that I have already found such a person for myself, and, supposing I live to my life expectancy, I've got about 55 years left.
I V Stalin
16-09-2005, 23:08
bump
Well, the idea of the soulmate is pretty freaky, since with about 3 billion people, the chances of missing them in a crowd are quite high... :(
Soulmates? Na. People I could see myself spending the rest of my life with? Sure. Not a lot...but more than one. If only I could convince my husband to let our marriage become polygamous...
...I could tell them ALL I had a headache.
...I could tell them to go visit one of the 'other wives'.
...we wives could be mean and leave the men out for a week or two. And only let them watch if they were really, really good.
...when one spouse is acting like a jerk, you just go hang out with one of the other spouses.
...you could have a different date every day of the week!
I prefer soulmates. :D
I V Stalin
16-09-2005, 23:19
...you could have a different date every day of the week!
I do. On Monday it was the 12th, on Tuesday, the 13th, Wednesday, the 14th...I'll stop, shall I?
I thought you'd left, anyway?
Sumamba Buwhan
16-09-2005, 23:26
There are several people with whom I vibrate on the same frequency with - some men & some women.
I do. On Monday it was the 12th, on Tuesday, the 13th, Wednesday, the 14th...I'll stop, shall I?
I thought you'd left, anyway?
Hehehehheehe...yeah, I'm not actually here. In fact, I'm gone.
There are several people with whom I vibrate on the same frequency with - some men & some women.
Wow...my vibrations are usually battery powered... :eek:
Sumamba Buwhan
16-09-2005, 23:33
Wow...my vibrations are usually battery powered... :eek:
You should try vibrating with me. Although it may seem more like an earthquake! :p
Well, if there is only one soulmate for each person in the world, then you have to believe one of two things:
1) Very few people meet their soulmate. (Princess Bride, anyone?)
2) There is a higher force that causes paired souls to be born in situations that allow them to eventually meet.
If you do not believe either of the above then you must believe one of these next two things:
3) There are multiple possible soulmates in the world for each person.
4) There is no such thing as soulmates.
Many people would find 3 and 4 synonymous. I believe, in essence, that there are many, many people in the world who MIGHT be our soulmates, but none of them are our soulmate until they BECOME such. A given person may or may not have that "soul key" that matches yours, and if not then that's why sometimes no matter how much you want it to work it doesn't. And even if they do have the "soul key" they won't become your soulmate if you don't have compatible personalities and determination to be together. Sometimes you could have been soulmates, if only you'd met at a different time. But that's life.
Which is why there's a fair conception that there's only one soulmate. Because that's the person with whom all things work out. You are compatible. You want to stay together. You have the corresponding soul keys. And so you fall in love and never fall out of it. And once that is cemented, all the other possibles will have to pass you by and keep looking. There's only one of THOSE because once you find the first one you never leave.
The Plutonian Empire
17-09-2005, 00:03
How many of yous beleive that, somewhere in this big old wide world, there exists a perfect partner for you - your soulmate?
I don't have one. :(
or there are numerous soulmates dispersed around the globe with an average encounter rate of one per lifetime.
Actually, the encounter rate is 0.015 per lifetime, not 1. :(
Soulmates are merely glitches in the matrix, made by substandard binary coding.
Some people have soul mates and some don’t. Some people aren’t even meant to ever even love. It’s just part of my belief that some people’s lives are heavily predetermined (like say George Washington’s) while others have more of a choice.
Some people have soul mates and some don’t. Some people aren’t even meant to ever even love. It’s just part of my belief that some people’s lives are heavily predetermined (like say George Washington’s) while others have more of a choice.
Good notions. But it could also be thought that perhaps everyone has a soul mate, but it's either that they're not found yet, dead or not born yet.
Morvonia
17-09-2005, 00:41
i do but she moved away a couple of weeks ago to alberta or somethin....damn if i were old enough i would have married her a long tme ago :( (i am 15...i have known her since second grade)
i do but she moved away a couple of weeks ago to alberta or somethin....damn if i were old enough i would have married her a long tme ago :( (i am 15...i have known her since second grade)
You're 15 and already thinking of marriage?
Morvonia
17-09-2005, 00:48
You're 15 and already thinking of marriage?
that is how much i loved her,it felt like that forever type of love....i mean love in its fulliest sense not just infactuation....but that is too late now. :( i suppose.
Free Beer and Chicks
17-09-2005, 00:49
...we wives could be mean and leave the men out for a week or two. And only let them watch if they were really, really good.
i 've been very very good and nice - trust me :D
can i watch now? pretty please? PLEASE i need to watch
I don't believe in soulmates, there's just levels of comfort, trust and compatibility. I think the whole 'idea' of soulmates and a person being 'the one' is, well it just rings false to me. I think it's an idea that was thought up in conjunction between Hallmark Greetings and Hollywood movie production companies. Even if it wasn't, it would still sound wrong to me, and if it's the ONLY reason you're basing a relationship on, then you're going to have some issues.
Kimberly Ann Sanchez
17-09-2005, 01:40
that is how much i loved her,it felt like that forever type of love....i mean love in its fulliest sense not just infactuation....but that is too late now. :( i suppose.
take it from one that knows kid, the love you feel at 15 changes when you become an adult...you will look back and say to yourself, "what did I even see in him/her?"
Morvonia
17-09-2005, 01:45
take it from one that knows kid, the love you feel at 15 changes when you become an adult...you will look back and say to yourself, "what did I even see in him/her?"
i felt this way about her from grade 2...all the way till now.I would never question that in a second.
The Plutonian Empire
17-09-2005, 02:29
I don't believe in soulmates, there's just levels of comfort, trust and compatibility. I think the whole 'idea' of soulmates and a person being 'the one' is, well it just rings false to me. I think it's an idea that was thought up in conjunction between Hallmark Greetings and Hollywood movie production companies. Even if it wasn't, it would still sound wrong to me, and if it's the ONLY reason you're basing a relationship on, then you're going to have some issues.
I'm inclined to agree.
Eutrusca
17-09-2005, 03:23
Thought I had a "soulmate." Turns out I was wrong ... after over 30 years. Sigh.
There are a number of people with whom you can be supremely happy. Other than that, I seriously doubt the validity of the "soulmate" theory.
I hope to god I have a soul mate because if I don't I'm never going to get married and have a cute little daughter :(
My sister says I'm never going to get a girlfriend unless she hits on me first :D
Smunkeeville
17-09-2005, 05:33
I know my husband was meant for me and me for him. We both knew on the first date that we were going to get married. Before we officially met, we have figured out that circumstances put us very close to meeting at least 3 times, and then when we did meet the strangest chain of events ended up to where we (who were complete strangers and didn't even know anyone in common) ended up in the same place at the same time on a bowling team together. It is a really long story to explain all the stuff that happened. When we do break down and tell people they get chills because it is so weird. My mother in law swears that my hubby had a dream about me when he was little, she says he described me perfectly to her and said he would marry a kangaroo girl. (my first name is kangaroo related, and I was named that because I reminded my mom of a kangaroo when I was in her womb) she (my mother in law) wrote down his statement about marrying a kangaroo girl in the back cover of his baby book because she thought it was so funny. She gave me the book on our wedding day. :D
The Plutonian Empire
17-09-2005, 05:36
I know my husband was meant for me and me for him. We both knew on the first date that we were going to get married. Before we officially met, we have figured out that circumstances put us very close to meeting at least 3 times, and then when we did meet the strangest chain of events ended up to where we (who were complete strangers and didn't even know anyone in common) ended up in the same place at the same time on a bowling team together. It is a really long story to explain all the stuff that happened. When we do break down and tell people they get chills because it is so weird. My mother in law swears that my hubby had a dream about me when he was little, she says he described me perfectly to her and said he would marry a kangaroo girl. (my first name is kangaroo related, and I was named that because I reminded my mom of a kangaroo when I was in her womb) she (my mother in law) wrote down his statement about marrying a kangaroo girl in the back cover of his baby book because she thought it was so funny. She gave me the book on our wedding day. :D
See, everyone? this is PROOF that mother nature, the Mother Planet we all live on, is NOT the destructive force that society portrays her! :)
Cabra West
17-09-2005, 10:00
I believe that there is something like soulmates. Not really in the sense that everybody seems to be taking it here, namely your perfect partner for life, but rather in a way that you can all of a sudden connect to people you hardly know, just met, or never thought about much before. That can lead to a relationship, it can also lead to the most amazing and closest friendships.
I've met two people so far in life that I would describe as something like soulmates of mine, and I'm most certainly never going to marry either of them.
I do think there's more than one soulmate that you can meet in a lifetime, especially since your soul is changing throughout your life, which will close the door on some and open it on others.
Rabbitude
17-09-2005, 10:41
take it from one that knows kid, the love you feel at 15 changes when you become an adult...you will look back and say to yourself, "what did I even see in him/her?"
I still dearly love the young lass that I first met in high school.
Greedy Pig
17-09-2005, 12:50
I don't believe in perfect soulmates.
I just believe there's many mates out there, and some fit, some don't fit. But a relationship doesn't "Happen" because you we're born to be together.
A relationship is hard work on both sides.
I'd like one, but I don't have one now. Actually most people I know have perceptions of a soul mate being of the opposite sex(or same depending on your preferences) and being a husban/partner/or wife. But a soul mate can be a best friend too. I do have a best friend and while we know each other backwards I'll keep my soul mate to be the love of my life...who seems to be continuously missing! :(