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This is an odd sort of question. I would not mind a non-sexual relationship with either sex. It could be an emotional relationship, so long as that person is intelligent. I have no desire to have sex with anyone (or anything). I don't find myself to be sexually attracted to either. I have an idea of I am, but what do you think?

Well, if you don't feel sexual attraction, then I'd say you're spot on for being considered asexual/non-sexual, if you want to.

If you want more information about it, this is a good site: http://www.asexuality.org/home/

Depends. It's all in the mood. You'll change, no doubt.

Why do asexual people keep cropping up these days? Is it nature's solution to overpopulation? But we don't have overpopulation in the US/Europe… freaky.

Yes, I'd say you're asexual, at least practically. Don't let Armandian Cheese find out. ;)

This is an odd sort of question. I would not mind a non-sexual relationship with either sex. It could be an emotional relationship, so long as that person is intelligent. I have no desire to have sex with anyone (or anything). I don't find myself to be sexually attracted to either. I have an idea of I am, but what do you think?
...Exactly how old are you? Most people feel the need for a sexual relationship around 14-17 and then again around 21+. I think, anyway... I haven't gotten past the first one yet.

Some people just don't need that kind of thing until they're older. Maybe you're one of them.

This is an odd sort of question. I would not mind a non-sexual relationship with either sex. It could be an emotional relationship, so long as that person is intelligent. I have no desire to have sex with anyone (or anything). I don't find myself to be sexually attracted to either. I have an idea of I am, but what do you think?

Don't worry about it. There is nothing wrong with long-term non-sexual relationships, and if you spend lots of time with someone, eventually you may find an attraction growing. Or maybe not.

I find myself wanting to give you a hug right now.

no i dont think you are asexual

i think that if you developed such a friendship with a person of your gender preference you would find yourself falling deeply sexually in love with him or her. it would be like getting sucker punched. WHAM and you would be gone!

Why do asexual people keep cropping up these days? Is it nature's solution to overpopulation? But we don't have overpopulation in the US/Europe… freaky.

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It is freaky---and the people on the high end of the intelligence curve seem to be reproducing the least,while those on the lower end are increasing. What kind of world will this be in a generation or two?

no i dont think you are asexual

i think that if you developed such a friendship with a person of your gender preference you would find yourself falling deeply sexually in love with him or her. it would be like getting sucker punched. WHAM and you would be gone!
Not necessarily.

Not necessarily.

I agree. While it is possible that a person that is currently asexual may develop sexuality eventually, it is equally as possibly, maybe more so, that they won't.

I personally have a close friendship that fades into romantic love and though I may want to cuddle with her and possibly kiss her, I do not find myself sexually attracted to her (though aesthetically she is a pretty woman), nor do I feel the want or need to be with her sexually.

It is freaky---and the people on the high end of the intelligence curve seem to be reproducing the least,while those on the lower end are increasing. What kind of world will this be in a generation or two?

A world dominated by religion.

I've gone through a few of these phases myself. If you have testicles, you'll at least need to start masturbating.
If you only wish to jerk off, you're avoiding relationships and emotional entanglements, not sex.

asexuality is so boring and stupid!!!

come on, guys let us have some fun with anybody btw :p!!!

Not necessarily.
Acknowledged

but if i were a betting woman (and i am) and there were money to be put down on this (too bad there isnt) i think i would walk away richer.

I've gone through a few of these phases myself. If you have testicles, you'll at least need to start masturbating.
If you only wish to jerk off, you're avoiding relationships and emotional entanglements, not sex.
Actually I go without doing it for months at a time. However, I've heard that's not very good for the prostate.

Am I the only one who realises that the term "Asexual" actually refers to the ability to breed with one's self? Such as the regular garden Aphid?

I'm asexual.

*a sexual pervert

Not necessarily.
did you say how old you are and if you have ever had an intense sexual attraction to another person?

Am I the only one who realises that the term "Asexual" actually refers to the ability to breed with one's self? Such as the regular garden Aphid?

Yes, the term 'asexual' does indeed, or at least originally, refers to the ability of an organsim to reproduce by itself. Though I wouldn't think aphids would be examples of it so much as things like amoebas and hydras. I don't know, I've never looked into the reproductive habits of aphids.

However, lately the term is also used to describe people who feel little to no sexual attraction. I personally prefer the term 'non-sexual'.

asexuality is so boring and stupid!!!

come on, guys let us have some fun with anybody btw :p!!!

Asexuality is no more stupid than heterosexuality or homosexuality. It's just something that happens in certain people.

Yes, the term 'asexual' does indeed, or at least originally, refers to the ability of an organsim to reproduce by itself. Though I wouldn't think aphids would be examples of it so much as things like amoebas and hydras. I don't know, I've never looked into the reproductive habits of aphids.

However, lately the term is also used to describe people who feel little to no sexual attraction. I personally prefer the term 'non-sexual'.
It spares us lots of confusion. Similarly, "atonal" means without tones, or silence. Thus "atonal music" is really no music at all. ;)

This is an odd sort of question. I would not mind a non-sexual relationship with either sex. It could be an emotional relationship, so long as that person is intelligent. I have no desire to have sex with anyone (or anything). I don't find myself to be sexually attracted to either. I have an idea of I am, but what do you think?

HOLY CHRIST!!! Someone else like me?!?!? Please tell me you're a guy! I can't see myself in that kind of relationship, even sexless, with another woman. But I don't want sex of any kind, either, and I have long been looking for a guy who doesn't want it, either.

It is freaky---and the people on the high end of the intelligence curve seem to be reproducing the least,while those on the lower end are increasing. What kind of world will this be in a generation or two?

Well, count me in that statistic. 160 IQ and devotedly asexual. Only wish I could find an asexual man...to share the OTHER aspects of a relationship with....without sex. To me, sex is nasty, repulsive. Always has been.

Then again, that could stem from the sexual abuse I got as a child. Nevertheless, I do not want sex, in any form, with anyone, or anything...ever.

Am I the only one who realises that the term "Asexual" actually refers to the ability to breed with one's self? Such as the regular garden Aphid?

Wrong. "Asexual" actually means, "without sex." Thus, it CAN refer to asexual reproduction, such as you refer to, the actual biological term for this is parthenogenesis.

Asexual can also refer to one's sexual orientation, of not desiring sex, period.

From dictionary.com:
a·sex·u·al Audio pronunciation of "asexual" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (-sksh-l)
adj.

1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
2. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.
3. Lacking interest in or desire for sex.

It shows that smart people know what I've always suggested -- relationships in general, and sex in particular, are BAD for you. :p

It shows that smart people know what I've always suggested -- relationships in general, and sex in particular, are BAD for you. :p

So is red meat, alcohol and nicotine.

I'm damned if i'm giving them up either :p

HOLY CHRIST!!! Someone else like me?!?!? Please tell me you're a guy! I can't see myself in that kind of relationship, even sexless, with another woman. But I don't want sex of any kind, either, and I have long been looking for a guy who doesn't want it, either.

Heya, if you want to talk to other asexual people, you might want to visit the AVEN forums. There's a surprising amount of people without sexual desire out there.

I've gone through a few of these phases myself. If you have testicles, you'll at least need to start masturbating.
teehee, you said testicles, ok, maturity just kicked out for a moment there, it should be back in 4, 3, 2, 1 . . .
There we go. Anyway, I don't masturbate, and as far as I can tell my boys are still down there, though if you are really concerned I can check later and give you an update.

But, on the topic at hand (heh-heh, damn it, relapse), you might be asexual, you might just be bored with the whole (teehee, sorry) sex-thing for the moment. You might also be younger and not yet interested, the Intarweb isn't telling me one way or t'other at this moment. For myself, I just ignored the process because I found more interesting things to do with my time and don't see any obligation to see the Earth with my scion.

You sound like a little kid so it seems like you haven't grown up.

Maybe you just don't know what the bubbly glowy feeling is really like. It's more than just having your heart pulse jump and your eye balls bulge and yer crotch go berzerk. When you really feel emotional attachment (beyond affection) for someone, you feel like your whole body is floating. Some people are dead scared to tell whoever it is they like; others just go all out and assert themselves.

Your not gay and your not asexual. You just haven't found anything really attractive yet, so just relax and live on. Some people remain bachelors their whole life not out of retardation or shyness, but because they just never find anyone (those people are REALLY rare and most of them feel like they're in the crapper all the time when they're old even when they get to express themselves).

Really intelligent? WTF does that mean? Friends should be cultured and experienced people you can hangout with. Your mate oughta be someone you can do anything with. Sex is really just a test for whether or not you can be open with and trust someone to all but the fullest extent. Getting deep is something WAY different

Actually I go without doing it for months at a time. However, I've heard that's not very good for the prostate.
Dear God no, it's not. But you're talking to a Buddhist here who has respect for certain kinds of abstinence.

No sex drive is a medical condition, though. It should be treated unless there's extenuating circumstances.

teehee, you said testicles, ok, maturity just kicked out for a moment there, it should be back in 4, 3, 2, 1 . . .
There we go. Anyway, I don't masturbate, and as far as I can tell my boys are still down there, though if you are really concerned I can check later and give you an update.

But, on the topic at hand (heh-heh, damn it, relapse), you might be asexual, you might just be bored with the whole (teehee, sorry) sex-thing for the moment. You might also be younger and not yet interested, the Intarweb isn't telling me one way or t'other at this moment. For myself, I just ignored the process because I found more interesting things to do with my time and don't see any obligation to see the Earth with my scion.That sounds a little like me. I have more important things to do.

did you say how old you are and if you have ever had an intense sexual attraction to another person?
I am seventeen, gasp my real age. I have never had any intense sexual attraction to another person. I have been emotionally attracted to a girl because we had about the same personality, though she avoided politics. I don't have any desire to have sex.

I am seventeen, gasp my real age. I have never had any intense sexual attraction to another person. I have been emotionally attracted to a girl because we had about the same personality, though she avoided politics. I don't have any desire to have sex.
Okay, I see. I thought (take it as a compliment) that you were more around my age (28). This would be highly unusual for my age.

At your age, go with the ebb and flow. Don't worry about it... that makes it worse. But not quite harder. :D

That sounds a little like me. I have more important things to do.

What can be more important than intimacy with another human being? Just wondering.

Okay, I see. I thought (take it as a compliment) that you were more around my age (28). This would be highly unusual for my age.

At your age, go with the ebb and flow. Don't worry about it... that makes it worse. But not quite harder. :D
I'm quite enjoying myself now. I have more time to read, study, and post countless times here.

What can be more important than intimacy with another human being? Just wondering.
The Intarweb, Civilization III, personal advancement in school, getting a job, finding some "Cash Money", etc. For me there were a million things, other human beings just get in the way.

I'm quite enjoying myself now. I have more time to read, study, and post countless times here.
Sounds like you've got your head (the right one) on straight.
Actually, you sound kinda sexy... :D

I am seventeen, gasp my real age. I have never had any intense sexual attraction to another person. I have been emotionally attracted to a girl because we had about the same personality, though she avoided politics. I don't have any desire to have sex.

Heh, that is so almost a dead ringer for me, only you're a guy. Funny.

But your (our?) age doesn't necessarily mean anything. You're probably just as likely to become sexual as you are to remain asexual. I do believe that there are people in their 20s and 30s that have been asexual all their lives, possibly barring a small amount of time at puberty. So it may change for you and it may not.

I am 15 in the US, and I have an IQ of about 131. I have just discovered the miracle of near-sexual intimacy with a girl that I really like (for those of you keeping track, I'm a male.) Well, all I can say on the subject is SEX RULES, and I have not even had complete sexual relations. If I had, I would probably be able to write a novel on what it was like and how good it was, but what we did came pretty close, so don't throw my opinion away lightly. I do not understand how someone (especially a male) can have no desire to reproduce. It is human, animalistic instinct. I don't care how intelligent you are, Albert Einstein had a sex drive. If you don't have a sex drive, I think you should at least investigate and learn about what you are missing out on. You will find that after a bit of searching, it gets really good, really fast. Then, if for some reason, you did not like it, then forget about it and move on. You have nothing to lose. That's my suggesstion on the subject. Sex makes the world go around :fluffle: Long live handjobs, blowjobs, and all other kinds of "jobs".

I am 15 in the US, and I have an IQ of about 131. I have just discovered the miracle of near-sexual intimacy with a girl that I really like (for those of you keeping track, I'm a male.) Well, all I can say on the subject is SEX RULES, and I have not even had complete sexual relations. If I had, I would probably be able to write a novel on what it was like and how good it was, but what we did came pretty close, so don't throw my opinion away lightly. I do not understand how someone (especially a male) can have no desire to reproduce. It is human, animalistic instinct. I don't care how intelligent you are, Albert Einstein had a sex drive. If you don't have a sex drive, I think you should at least investigate and learn about what you are missing out on. You will find that after a bit of searching, it gets really good, really fast. Then, if for some reason, you did not like it, then forget about it and move on. You have nothing to lose. That's my suggesstion on the subject. Sex makes the world go around :fluffle: Long live handjobs, blowjobs, and all other kinds of "jobs".

The reason you can't comprehend it is because you ARE sexual. It's like a heterosexual trying to understand what it's like to be attracted to their own gender, only I would assume more difficult, because at least attraction is involved in the proposed situation.

I myself, don't understand the drive for sex, or sexual pleasure in general (though some asexuals do have sex drives, just not sexual attraction). However, I'm not about to say that you're missing out on something by being driven by a need for sex. I don't even think that.

It's not about 'missing out on something', it's about not caring, not feeling the need for someone. Like I could say "You should try learning to play the French Horn, learn what you're missing out on. If you don't like it, you can stop playing." But if you have absolutely no interest in playing the French Horn, then learning to play it just to see what it is like is a complete waste of time and effort for you.

That's the way I see it anyway. And man, an I horrible with metaphors.

I am seventeen, gasp my real age. I have never had any intense sexual attraction to another person. I have been emotionally attracted to a girl because we had about the same personality, though she avoided politics. I don't have any desire to have sex.
are you really from the dakotas?

when i was 17, while i wasnt asexual, i had NO attraction to any of the creepy boys i went to highschool with.

in anycase, not wanting that kind of relationship at 17 is keeping you from making some of the huge mistakes the boys around you are making. from getting their hearts ripped out to becoming dads. it not a bad thing to focus on improving youself and your prospects for the future.

college may find you in a way different frame of mind. will it be next year? go someplace outside of the dakotas.

I think that there is too much emphasis on having sex. Sex is good, it is just not everything in a relationship.

are you really from the dakotas?

when i was 17, while i wasnt asexual, i had NO attraction to any of the creepy boys i went to highschool with.

in anycase, not wanting that kind of relationship at 17 is keeping you from making some of the huge mistakes the boys around you are making. from getting their hearts ripped out to becoming dads. it not a bad thing to focus on improving youself and your prospects for the future.

college may find you in a way different frame of mind. will it be next year? go someplace outside of the dakotas.
Oh, I'm not from the Dakotas, the place came up in a conversation I had. the truth is that no one here knows where I actually am. I could be in Alaska or California, New York, Canada, Florida, heh.

I'll be in college in about two years. I don't mind if I'm asexual, in fact I like it, but I will see in the future.

The reason you can't comprehend it is because you ARE sexual. It's like a heterosexual trying to understand what it's like to be attracted to their own gender, only I would assume more difficult, because at least attraction is involved in the proposed situation.

I myself, don't understand the drive for sex, or sexual pleasure in general (though some asexuals do have sex drives, just not sexual attraction). However, I'm not about to say that you're missing out on something by being driven by a need for sex. I don't even think that.

It's not about 'missing out on something', it's about not caring, not feeling the need for someone. Like I could say "You should try learning to play the French Horn, learn what you're missing out on. If you don't like it, you can stop playing." But if you have absolutely no interest in playing the French Horn, then learning to play it just to see what it is like is a complete waste of time and effort for you.

That's the way I see it anyway. And man, an I horrible with metaphors.
Well, maybe trying it will arouse the dormant sexual attraction with him or her. That's my point, though you do make a valid arguement.

Well, maybe trying it will arouse the dormant sexual attraction with him or her. That's my point, though you do make a valid arguement.

It is possible. I'm not the be-all and end-all of asexuality after all. And Neo Kervoskia seems to be slightly different then me in respects to our asexuality. Low sex drive and low/no sexual attraction, compared to my non-existant sex drive and no sexual attraction.

I wonder if that's a gender difference...?

Dude are you gay? you dont like chicks?
dam :fluffle: you should be doin some of this.

Well, I certainly learned something new today. I had no idea that there were so many asexual people out there. I always thought that everyone had a sexual preference, but it had never occurred to me that there were people with none at all. I guess we all learn something new everyday.

Dude are you gay? you dont like chicks?
dam :fluffle: you should be doin some of this.

:rolleyes:

Dude are you gay? you dont like chicks?
dam :fluffle: you should be doin some of this.

When someone says that they don't feel like having sex with anyone or anything, that includes both males and females.

Dude are you gay? you dont like chicks?
dam :fluffle: you should be doin some of this.
I used to think like that, but you have to realize that there are many types of people out there that think very differently than you do. It took me a while to learn this as well.

Than "hes" not human. Im 14 and i have a "drive"

:fluffle: whoooo hooooooooo,
doesnt that look fun?

Than "hes" not human. Im 14 and i have a "drive"

That's special dear, but you must understand that not everyone has to be like you to be human.

:rolleyes:

Kiwi-kiwi, your description is correct, though if it is different for males and females would make an interesting poll.

Than "hes" not human. Im 14 and i have a "drive"
Wow, you are even more ignorant than what I imagined. I feel the same way you do, but not everyone does. Some people just don't feel sexual attraction, its not their fault. Realize that everyone is different, and stop bashing them because of that. Not everyone has the same line of thought.

:fluffle: this is fun
:fluffle: :sniper: this is not

isnt that why they mad <i>viagra</i>?

isnt that why they mad <i>viagra</i>?
Oh my goodness, you just don't get it, do you? How ignorant can you be? :headbang: THEY DON'T FEEL SEXUAL ATTRACTION! They are not going to take viagra if they DON'T WANT TO DO IT IN THE FIRST PLACE! Its obvious that you're 14.

you are "asexual"too.
plus,if you were as smart as you think you are, you would know that asexual means you have male and female "special places" and breed with yourself.


duh

Kiwi-kiwi, your description is correct, though if it is different for males and females would make an interesting poll.

It would, but I'm not sure you'd be able to find enough asexuals on NationStates for it to really go anywhere.

Though I wonder if it's ever been adressed at the AVEN board? There's certainly a large enough sample group there.

you are "asexual"too.
plus,if you were as smart as you think you are, you would know that asexual means you have male and female "special places" and breed with yourself.


duh
Dang, you are so immature. I have a friggin' girlfriend, whom which has given me pleasures beyond what you can imagine (especially those from your hand.) Secondly, we already covered the actual meaning of "asexual" and decided to use the word anyway. You would know that if you were smart enough to have read previous posts. :mp5:

you are "asexual"too.
plus,if you were as smart as you think you are, you would know that asexual means you have male and female "special places" and breed with yourself.


duh

Actually, hermaphrodites are both male and female, and it does occur in humans occasionally. However, hermaphrodites cannot breed with themselves. In fact, asexually reproducing organisms don't breed with themselves either. They clone themselves in a variety of manners. Three main ones, I think? I know there's budding and mitosis...

This is an odd sort of question. I would not mind a non-sexual relationship with either sex. It could be an emotional relationship, so long as that person is intelligent. I have no desire to have sex with anyone (or anything). I don't find myself to be sexually attracted to either. I have an idea of I am, but what do you think?

Someone who values a deep relationship before sex? :eek: Wow! Are you an alien? :)

Seriously, I don't see what's wrong with that. You're young (so am I -- 18 --, but hey, I've been through that too), so you might change with time. Actually, before going out with my girlfriend, I had never felt any sexual desires, but it eventually appeared gradually as our relationship went deeper and deeper.

So, no problem here.

Still... someone who values a deep relationship before sex? I thought me and my girlfriend were the last of them... :eek: :D

you are "asexual"too.
plus,if you were as smart as you think you are, you would know that asexual means you have male and female "special places" and breed with yourself.


duh

Stop trolling/flamebaiting/whatever the hell it is you are doing. Like now. You aren't winning any friends here.

and meosis

i;earned that in the 6th grade

:upyours:

i win
:fluffle: :eek: this rules

YOu
LOse

:upyours:
ROFL! That is about the most childish thing I've ever seen anyone post in my life. Congratulations, you have now completely lost all of my respect. That's a pretty rare and difficult accomplishment.

It would, but I'm not sure you'd be able to find enough asexuals on NationStates for it to really go anywhere.

Though I wonder if it's ever been adressed at the AVEN board? There's certainly a large enough sample group there.
http://asexuality.org/discussion/viewtopic.php?t=11060&sid=93530aea9735fc39572b30cd373a413e
I started going there Sunday, but I still wasn't sure about asexuality so I came here to ask the wise Generalites.
I created that topic, it should be interesting to read the responses.

i win
:fluffle: :eek: this rules
I do way more of this :fluffle: than you have ever seen in your puny, perverted websites. That doesn't mean I can direspect other people just because they're different. Until you learn this, you'll just be a lonely, immature child.

I myself am not an asexual and I find it kind of hard to believe that there are people who are niether man nor woman. Whether it is meant by having no real personality or the lack of any sex organs. Or hether having no real desire for any sexual pra :confused: ctise

and meosis

i;earned that in the 6th grade



you may have learned that in the sixth grade, however you sure as hell havent learned to spell yet..

hey not grif, you a new kid? :gundge:

dont really say much on the fourms on whatever site has them, 'less its something that just gets me aggravated, such as the 14 year old who was being quite half-witted and inane.

fair enough kid :cool: