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In regards to my brother. I just dont understand. It seems like he got every good gene in the pool. Anything Im good at, he's better. He's way better looking, he was the most popular person at my school, He's a way better actor, better singer, better DDR player, better in everything, more or less.

He's three years older than me, but the disparity has only grown, not shrunk or stayed. The worst part of it is how he is with girls. He is currently interested in four girls, at the least, all of which he can get with. And many more(I almost want to say hundreds, considering all the girls at my school and DVC) who he isnt interested in. He does things on a nightly basis that I have never done, and may never do in years upon years. And you know what he complains about?

Not having enough time for his multiple level sixty characters on world of warcraft. I mean, he is quite established as a person of the nerdy persuasion. He will go to college for like 6 hours, hit on women there and all that, come home, read the world of warcraft forums and sleep for six more, then go hang out with people and fool around with girls for six more. Then he sleeps.

I just dont get it. We have the same parents, the same enviornment. Hell, we know most of the same people. I just dont understand how everything turns out so much better for him.

Did I get every bad, dormant allele(sp) between my parents?

In regards to my brother. I just dont understand. It seems like he got every good gene in the pool. Anything Im good at, he's better. He's way better looking, he was the most popular person at my school, He's a way better actor, better singer, better DDR player, better in everything, more or less.

He's three years older than me, but the disparity has only grown, not shrunk or stayed. The worst part of it is how he is with girls. He is currently interested in four girls, at the least, all of which he can get with. And many more(I almost want to say hundreds, considering all the girls at my school and DVC) who he isnt interested in. He does things on a nightly basis that I have never done, and may never do in years upon years. And you know what he complains about?

Not having enough time for his multiple level sixty characters on world of warcraft. I mean, he is quite established as a person of the nerdy persuasion. He will go to college for like 6 hours, hit on women there and all that, come home, read the world of warcraft forums and sleep for six more, then go hang out with people and fool around with girls for six more. Then he sleeps.

I just dont get it. We have the same parents, the same enviornment. Hell, we know most of the same people. I just dont understand how everything turns out so much better for him.

Did I get every bad, dormant allele(sp) between my parents?

I think that your just incredibly jealous. Your brother can't be better than everything, but if he is then you're just probably stupid.

I think that your just incredibly jealous. Your brother can't be better than everything, but if he is then you're just probably stupid.

He really is better at everything. Well, maybe Im better at some video games, but thats hardly a claim to fame.

And we are both smart, he is just smarter :P

He'll die sooner. You have that going for you.

He'll die sooner. You have that going for you.

I doubt it. He is straight-edge, I smoke(not cigarettes), open to drinking, am in the military, have an affinity to guns(which will end up getting me in trouble some day, Im sure), and am depressed for the most part.

I doubt it. He is straight-edge, I smoke(not cigarettes), open to drinking, am in the military, have an affinity to guns(which will end up getting me in trouble some day, Im sure), and am depressed for the most part.

Is it really a problem? You seem good at everything, so get a cushy job and enjoy life. Don't let the fact that you brother is 'better' than you at most things get in the way. if he follows the right path then he could also end up somewhere...nice.

Is it really a problem? You seem good at everything, so get a cushy job and enjoy life. Don't let the fact that you brother is 'better' than you at most things get in the way. if he follows the right path then he could also end up somewhere...nice.

The thing is, im not good at everything. Not nearly. Sure, I have my brain, but thats not much. Im unhappy, I cant get a girlfriend, Im not good looking, I'm not nearly athletic(he is ok in that area), etc.

I doubt it. He is straight-edge, I smoke(not cigarettes), open to drinking, am in the military, have an affinity to guns(which will end up getting me in trouble some day, Im sure), and am depressed for the most part.
Well whatever you do... don't get high and/or drunk shoot to kill your brother, then in a wild bout of depression and sorrow turn the gun on yourself.

That's the best advice anyone can ever give you.

The thing is, im not good at everything. Not nearly. Sure, I have my brain, but thats not much. Im unhappy, I cant get a girlfriend, Im not good looking, I'm not nearly athletic(he is ok in that area), etc.

As I said, your jealous becuase you want to be good at everything, better than your brother.

Ask somebody to slap you in the face and get back into the real world.

Well whatever you do... don't get high and/or drunk shoot to kill your brother, then in a wild bout of depression and sorrow turn the gun on yourself.

That's the best advice anyone can ever give you.

I promise I wont shoot him.

And god, its been a long time, Amerigo. You probably dont even know who I am, heh.

As I said, your jealous becuase you want to be good at everything, better than your brother.

Get somebody to slap you in the face and get back into the real world.

I am jealous. So what? It doesnt change the fact that he is better at everything, and that I dont understand why.

I am good at very few things, while he is good at all but a few things.

You're simply the younger brother. He's the elder, as simple as that. My brother is pretty much better than me, but I take it from a feudal perspective. One day, he will be the keeper of the family line, something I will never have to bear as the younger. Before thinking of being his younger brother, think of being his retainer; the loyal one whom he can always rely on. Even a genius cannot always be right, so do what you can to be a good advisor and supporter.

Bad relations between retired and present rulers, father and son, and elder and younger brothers stem from selfish motives. The proof of this is that there are no such bad relations between master and retainer.
-Hagakure

I am jealous. So what? It doesnt change the fact that he is better at everything, and that I dont understand why.

I am good at very few things, while he is good at all but a few things.

It's obvious that your brother is smart, good looking, healthy and athletic.

You, by comparison, are stupider, uglier, unhealthy and unfit.

That's the gospel truth.

I promise I wont shoot him.

And god, its been a long time, Amerigo. You probably dont even know who I am, heh.
Bah! Of course I do. I'd not have dropped a snide remark in such a thread if it wasnt authored by someone from the ol' days.

In regards to my brother. I just dont understand. It seems like he got every good gene in the pool. Anything Im good at, he's better. He's way better looking, he was the most popular person at my school, He's a way better actor, better singer, better DDR player, better in everything, more or less.

He's three years older than me, but the disparity has only grown, not shrunk or stayed. The worst part of it is how he is with girls. He is currently interested in four girls, at the least, all of which he can get with. And many more(I almost want to say hundreds, considering all the girls at my school and DVC) who he isnt interested in. He does things on a nightly basis that I have never done, and may never do in years upon years. And you know what he complains about?

Not having enough time for his multiple level sixty characters on world of warcraft. I mean, he is quite established as a person of the nerdy persuasion. He will go to college for like 6 hours, hit on women there and all that, come home, read the world of warcraft forums and sleep for six more, then go hang out with people and fool around with girls for six more. Then he sleeps.

I just dont get it. We have the same parents, the same enviornment. Hell, we know most of the same people. I just dont understand how everything turns out so much better for him.

Did I get every bad, dormant allele(sp) between my parents?


Your parents love him more than you, too. You were actually adopted from a defunct circus-folk orphanage. They didn't want to take you in, but they lost a bet. :D

Big deal. One day both of you will be on your own. You will see that sometimes the popularity you are jealous of can be bad. Live your own life don't measure yours by his.

Quit playing games and study. Don't watch tv study. Learn a language. Some people only seem to have it easy, they will create problems in their head if there are no real problems. Struggle is good and will make you a better person.

You are only a loser if you live your life to be better than him.

Second piece of advice... Reach enlightenment before him and transcend into a higher form of consciousness. That'll teach 'em!

It's obvious that your brother is smart, good looking, healthy and athletic.

You, by comparison, are stupider, uglier, unhealthy and unfit.

That's the gospel truth.

It is 100% true.

Bah! Of course I do. I'd not have dropped a snide remark in such a thread if it wasnt authored by someone from the ol' days.

<3
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Your parents love him more than you, too. You were actually adopted from a defunct circus-folk orphanage. They didn't want to take you in, but they lost a bet. :D

I think its actually the other way around, not that I have too much respect for them either way.

Big deal. One day both of you will be on your own. You will see that sometimes the popularity you are jealous of can be bad. Live your own life don't measure yours by his.

Quit playing games and study. Don't watch tv study. Learn a language. Some people only seem to have it easy, they will create problems in their head if there are no real problems. Struggle is good and will make you a better person.

You are only a loser if you live your life to be better than him.

I dont watch television. I study alot, there is nothing I want to know atm that I dont. And I do know multiple languages(well, my french is better than his french, but he had a bad teacher and dropped the class).

Second piece of advice... Reach enlightenment before him and transcend into a higher form of consciousness. That'll teach 'em!

If only we weren't both militant atheists :(

better DDR player

:D you're upset because he's better at Dance Dance Revolution than you? :D

:D you're upset because he's better at Dance Dance Revolution than you? :D

Quite. We are both pretty good at it, but he is slightly better at it.

Your parents love him more than you, too. You were actually adopted from a defunct circus-folk orphanage. They didn't want to take you in, but they lost a bet. :D
That's funny as hell. Disparaging, but funny as hell.
Not having enough time for his multiple level sixty characters on world of warcraft.
Sounds like a complete and total loser to me. Are you serious? Instead of building your world on how best to play a fantasy game, why don't you just live life itself: read a few good books, have actual conversations with real poeple that aren't centered on games, go for a hike in the woods. Is this really what our world is coming to? No wonder people want to homeschool their kids.

If only we weren't both militant atheists :(
Thats the key! Convert to say Catholicism and then preach to your brother about how he's leading a sinful life, and point to yoruself as an example of one who will be saved. Just keep vividly describing the pyres of hellfire to him. Then eventually go all the way and become a monk... with maybe periods of self flaggellation...

That way... you'll be better than him at religion!

Sounds like a complete and total loser to me. Are you serious? Instead of building your world on how best to play a fantasy game, why don't you just live life itself: read a few good books, have actual conversations with real poeple that aren't centered on games, go for a hike in the woods. Is this really what our world is coming to? No wonder people want to homeschool their kids.

You didnt get the point of me including that. He is uber-popular, and is yet more nerdy than me in some ways. Hell, I was the one that bought the game, and I couldnt get a character past level 25.

I do read books, but they more often than not turn out to be crap. He talks to real people much more often than me, so I cant complain. He gets out of the house more, too.

Its the fact that he can manage both, and better than I can manage one.

If only we weren't both militant atheists :(
All the more reason to follow Amerigo's advice. You can prove him WRONG for once!
:)

Thats the key! Convert to say Catholicism and then preach to your brother about how he's leading a sinful life, and point to yoruself as an example of one who will be saved. Just keep vividly describing the pyres of hellfire to him. Then eventually go all the way and become a monk... with maybe periods of self flaggellation...

That way... you'll be better than him at religion!

Thats the first good idea in this thread :P

All the more reason to follow Amerigo's advice. You can prove him WRONG for once!
:)

Prove him wrong with something I'm vehemently against? Something unprovable? You should win an award.

Not only will someone always be better at something than you. A few people will be better at everything than you. The chances of this not applying to you are nigh on zero.

So instead of spending your life bitching about people who're more talented than you are, be grateful instead that you're close to one of them. Learn from your brother. Pay attention to the ways in which he sets himself apart from you (assuming it isn't all in your head), and learn from his abilities.

Instead of wasting time and energy on bitching & doing useless crap, you can learn from hiw, without repeating all the useless shit he does. If only we all were as lucky as you are...

Dude! I know what you can do...

Give up all your possessions and travel the wolrd and get into all kinds of adventures... like Bruce Lee... and Samuel L. Jackson's character in Pulp Fiction. That would be so awesome!

:D

You didnt get the point of me including that. He is uber-popular, and is yet more nerdy than me in some ways. Hell, I was the one that bought the game, and I couldnt get a character past level 25.

I do read books, but they more often than not turn out to be crap. He talks to real people much more often than me, so I cant complain. He gets out of the house more, too.

Its the fact that he can manage both, and better than I can manage one.

follow him around, watch what he does.

you can complain about it or you can suck it up and learn from him.

I wouldn't worry overly about it, all such individuals are flawed, and have you ever countenanced the concept that he may be insecure, depressed or jealous of you?

Incidentally, I can empathise with you, I have a younger brother who is much the same, capable at all sports, popular, charismatic, the "better child" to my parents eyes. However he suffers from a severe lack of confidence, he is insecure, and all his arrogance is a facade. I have never met your brother or yourself, however the same may be applicable to him.

Not only will someone always be better at something than you. A few people will be better at everything than you. The chances of this not applying to you are nigh on zero.

So instead of spending your life bitching about people who're more talented than you are, be grateful instead that you're close to one of them. Learn from your brother. Pay attention to the ways in which he sets himself apart from you (assuming it isn't all in your head), and learn from his abilities.

Instead of wasting time and energy on bitching & doing useless crap, you can learn from hiw, without repeating all the useless shit he does. If only we all were as lucky as you are...

I would agree actually, my best friend has everything I want or aspire to, popular, charismatic etc, however I am considerably more intelligent than him. It is possible that your brother is jealous of you....

In regards to my brother. I just dont understand. It seems like he got every good gene in the pool. Anything Im good at, he's better. He's way better looking, he was the most popular person at my school, He's a way better actor, better singer, better DDR player, better in everything, more or less.

He's three years older than me, but the disparity has only grown, not shrunk or stayed. The worst part of it is how he is with girls. He is currently interested in four girls, at the least, all of which he can get with. And many more(I almost want to say hundreds, considering all the girls at my school and DVC) who he isnt interested in. He does things on a nightly basis that I have never done, and may never do in years upon years. And you know what he complains about?

Not having enough time for his multiple level sixty characters on world of warcraft. I mean, he is quite established as a person of the nerdy persuasion. He will go to college for like 6 hours, hit on women there and all that, come home, read the world of warcraft forums and sleep for six more, then go hang out with people and fool around with girls for six more. Then he sleeps.

I just dont get it. We have the same parents, the same enviornment. Hell, we know most of the same people. I just dont understand how everything turns out so much better for him.

Did I get every bad, dormant allele(sp) between my parents?
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hehe had to do that... so you're like danny devito (SP?) and he's like arnie schwartziething, right? :D
my first bit of advice: you should both get sunglasses like those cos then at least you'd both look cool :P

Three words:

Throw
Away
Trim.

Three words:

Throw
Away
Trim.

Throw away? No way - That's wasteful. Try "catch & release"