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Saving the life of the one who almost killed you.

Eutrusca
17-08-2005, 14:49
COMMENTARY: Just when you thought there was little or no love left in the world, something like this comes along. Just thought you'd like to hear that there are still kind, compassionate people out there.


A Moment of Grace (http://www.nytimes.com/2005/08/17/opinion/17wed4.html?th&emc=th)

Published: August 17, 2005

In an age whose crabbed sense of justice finds expression in dismal phrases like "zero tolerance" and "three strikes and you're out," the events in a Long Island courtroom on Monday came as an undeserved gift, something startling and luminous.

It happened when Ryan Cushing, a 19-year-old charged with assault for tossing a turkey through a car windshield last fall, approached the driver he nearly killed, Victoria Ruvolo. Ms. Ruvolo, 44, suffered severe injuries and needed many hours of surgery to rebuild her shattered facial bones.

When Mr. Cushing left the courtroom after pleading guilty, he came face to face with his victim for the first time. He said he was sorry and begged her to forgive him.

She did. She cradled his head as he sobbed. She stroked his face and patted his back. "It's O.K.; it's O.K.," she said. "I just want you to make your life the best it can be."

Mr. Cushing was one of six teenagers out for a night of joy riding and crime, which often happens when childish aggression and stupidity merge with the ability to drive and steal credit cards. The five others have pleaded guilty to various acts like forgery and larceny, but Mr. Cushing, who threw the turkey, could have faced 25 years in prison. At Ms. Ruvolo's insistence, prosecutors granted him a plea bargain instead: six months in jail and five years' probation.

The prosecutor, Thomas Spota, had been ready to seek harsh punishment for a crime he rightly denounced as heedless and brutal. "This is not an act of mere stupidity," Mr. Spota said. "They're not 9- or 7-year-old children."

That is true. But Ms. Ruvolo's resolute compassion, coming seemingly out of nowhere, disarmed Mr. Spota and led to a far more satisfying result.

Many have assumed that Ms. Ruvolo's motivation is religious. But while we can estimate the size of her heart, we can't peer into it. Her impulse may have been entirely secular.

Court testimony by crime victims is often pitched as a sort of retributive therapy, a way for angry, injured people to force criminals to confront their shame. But while some convicts grovel, others smirk. Many are impassive. It's hard to imagine that those hurt by crime reliably find healing in the courtroom. Given the opportunity for retribution, Ms. Ruvolo gave and got something better: the dissipation of anger and the restoration of hope, in a gesture as cleansing as the tears washing down her damaged face, and the face of the foolish, miserable boy whose life she single-handedly restored.
Hemingsoft
17-08-2005, 14:54
lovely indeed.
The South Islands
17-08-2005, 14:55
Softie...
Angelicia
17-08-2005, 14:55
She did. She cradled his head as he sobbed. She stroked his face and patted his back. "It's O.K.; it's O.K.," she said. "I just want you to make your life the best it can be."

That just sums it up for me :)
Eutrusca
17-08-2005, 14:57
Softie...
Sometimes, yes ... not often, but sometimes. :)
Dragons Bay
17-08-2005, 15:25
WOW! Forgiving is definitely not a sign of weaknesses, but a sign of maturity and great strength. It is easy for everyone to seek revenge, but it is very difficult to truly forgive somebody.

That's what Christianity is supposed to offer, by the way. :)
Grampus
17-08-2005, 15:47
If anything reaffirming has come out of the 'troubles' in Northern Ireland, it is how often the families of murder victims ask that there be no retaliation, and express frogiveness for the killers.
Sinuhue
17-08-2005, 16:02
It's nice to see an example of something other than the 'eye for an eye' mentality at work.

Not every crime is the same. And people make mistakes. They should have the chance to make restitution for the harm they have done...if they are truly repentent and don't want to repeat the same mistake over and over again.

I think you'd like Native sentencing circles, Eut.
Carnivorous Lickers
17-08-2005, 17:04
I think you'd like Native sentencing circles, Eut.

Is that when they bind a man to a wagon wheel upside over hot embers?
Dimmimar
17-08-2005, 17:08
The boy was actually a Sodomite shapeshifting dalek. His master, Davros, told the boy to meet with the Illuminati, the Windsors (who are shapeshifting reptilians) and George Bush. He Sodomized them, then attacked the woman with a yagnish fairy.

He should be executed for his crimes against reptilian shapeshifters.
Kryozerkia
17-08-2005, 17:25
The fact that she forgave him shows that people, regardless of whether or not they're religious can forgive another. Her kindness will surely be repaid indirectly when this young man has done something good with his life as she has requested.
Dobbsworld
17-08-2005, 17:48
Goodness.
JuNii
17-08-2005, 17:59
one thing people didn't point out is the fact that the Teens all pleaded Guilty. they were willing to take their punnishment for their stupidity that night. very rare thing to see these days.
Euroslavia
17-08-2005, 21:10
The boy was actually a Sodomite shapeshifting dalek. His master, Davros, told the boy to meet with the Illuminati, the Windsors (who are shapeshifting reptilians) and George Bush. He Sodomized them, then attacked the woman with a yagnish fairy.

He should be executed for his crimes against reptilian shapeshifters.

You've been unofficially warned about your trolling before, and you didn't listen.
Dimmimar: Official Warning for Trolling
Haloman
17-08-2005, 21:29
Wow. It's good to see such kindness still exists these days.
Eutrusca
17-08-2005, 21:47
Wow. It's good to see such kindness still exists these days.
Yes it is. Very humbling.
Valori
17-08-2005, 21:51
That just sums it up for me :)

Same For Me. In a time of brutality and discouragement, I'm happy to see that there are still some people out there with a spot of hope and kindness in their heart.
Laerod
17-08-2005, 21:54
Not much I can add that hasn't been said before (and I don't mean the statement that received an official warning ;))
Anarchtyca
17-08-2005, 22:09
Perhaps there is some hope for the world, after all. Stories like these are always nice to hear about, rare though they are.
Agolthia
17-08-2005, 22:36
I guess it just reminds that regardless of what it appears like there are more good people out there than there are bad even if it doesnt always appear 2 be so. Maybe not very many people could be as compassionate as that but most people are good honest hardworking people who may never change this world but change the other peoples' worlds everyday.