Ex-girlfriends and best friends.
Do you think it is ok for an ex-girlfriend (and good friend at the same time!) to flirt heavily with the best firend of her ex-boyfriend?
(I am the ex-boyfriend.)
Werteswandel
08-08-2005, 16:39
"Heavily"? How heavily...?
It's morally ok, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't hurt you like heck, which would make it morally wrong if she still cared for your feelings.
Cabra West
08-08-2005, 16:40
Do you think it is ok for an ex-girlfriend (and good friend at the same time!) to flirt heavily with the best firend of her ex-boyfriend.
(I am the ex-boyfriend.)
Depends on how long she has been ex I guess. And if they broke up badly or not. and on your reaction to her heavy flirting...
Jah Bootie
08-08-2005, 16:49
If he's a good friend he would stop if it were bothering you. But it's not really her problem I don't guess.
Tactical Grace
08-08-2005, 18:03
It's perfectly OK, but perhaps a bit unhealthy if it is indicative of an inability to cope with the end of the relationship. For example, if she is only doing it to repair her self-esteem by attempting to get at you.
Either way it makes sense to ignore it.
"Heavily"? How heavily...?
Not more than flirting... no smootching yet, but she told me that almost (not because she wanted to impress me but in order to be honest) and that she would like to (and I went to a disco with both of them and saw that this ssems to be right.)
If she's just doing it to be a bitch...no, no it isn't.
Otherwise, meh.
Santa Barbara
08-08-2005, 18:13
The phrase "all's fair in love and war" comes to mind.
Neo Kervoskia
08-08-2005, 18:14
When they start dry-humping in front of you, then it's too heavy.
It's morally ok, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't hurt you like heck, which would make it morally wrong if she still cared for your feelings.
It does not hurt like heck, first I wass pissed off, but now I think it is like I would prefer if she would not do this, but it's OK. The problem rather is that the whole story cause quite some trouble between me and my best friend (because he says to me that he does not flirt with her and wants her to stop, but in fact he seems to flirt with her as well and just tries to hide this).
I've often been tempted to bag the friend of an ex, but there's kind of an unspoken agreement that such things are not to be. So I bagged them secretly :D
Legless Pirates
08-08-2005, 18:15
If he's really your best friend he would not act on it if you'd have a problem with it
dry-humping
Could you explain this word to me? it's not in the dictionary.
Could you explain this word to me? it's not in the dictionary.
Well, If you have a pet dog (male) and they "latch onto" your leg, you see...
Legless Pirates
08-08-2005, 18:18
Could you explain this word to me? it's not in the dictionary.
Sex with the clothes on. It's quite fun
It's perfectly OK, but perhaps a bit unhealthy if it is indicative of an inability to cope with the end of the relationship. For example, if she is only doing it to repair her self-esteem by attempting to get at you.
I don't think so. First she broke up with me and second she rather seems to be (very generally) in mood like "no one has to tell me what to do" (Though yesterday she promised to stop flirting so heavily, because she saw that she had created such a mess (problems with my best friend for her and me).
Depends on how long she has been ex I guess. And if they broke up badly or not. and on your reaction to her heavy flirting...
She's been my ex for 3 month (we had been together for a little more than 2 years). She broke up with me, but it wasn't badly.
She's been my ex for 3 month (we had been together for a little more than 2 years). She broke up with me, but it wasn't badly.
Don't feel too bad. I slept with an ex's friend the day after I broke it off with the ex. Now THAT was mean. :eek:
Anarcho-syndycalism
08-08-2005, 18:23
My ex-girlfriend is currently dating my best friend and I don't care, It's not like they're hurting me.
people shouldn't care so much about these things
Neo Kervoskia
08-08-2005, 18:34
Could you explain this word to me? it's not in the dictionary.
You see, when two people consume too much alcohol and are to drunk to remove their clothes, they begin to hump with theier clothes on and then the male takes a feather and...
My ex-girlfriend is currently dating my best friend and I don't care, It's not like they're hurting me.
people shouldn't care so much about these things
Hehe, I even tried to find out for her what he wants of her (just to be nice).. its "just sex" by the way (but he would only do this, if she was not my ex), but the problem is that he seems to be lying about the whole situation (as I have said in an earlier post).
Sex with the clothes on. It's quite fun
That's rather something I do :D .
Legless Pirates
08-08-2005, 18:48
That's rather something I do :D .
Now imagine you ex and you best friend do that........ still like it?
Now imagine you ex and you best friend do that........ still like it?
1. I did not do it with a friend of my ex.
2. If they do not lie about it, I am ok with it.
Legless Pirates
08-08-2005, 18:58
1. I did not do it with a friend of my ex.
2. If they do not lie about it, I am ok with it.
You did not dry hump your own girlfriend?
Anyway I forgot two "r"s. Sorry about the 1.
You did not dry hump your own girlfriend?
Er... I'm not sure about the exact definition...
but I guess I did... when we were not yet ready to have "real" sex.
Harlesburg
09-08-2005, 09:16
No