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I'm just wondering firstly if I am the only one who has noticed this, and secondly if others think its accurate. It seems to me more commonly that if in a realationship if the man is unfaithful to the women then often the woman will be angry with not only that man but will often proceed to make generalisations about all men in general. However, I havent known any situation where when a woman is unfaithful to a man in a relationship the man proceeds to make generalisations about all women. Has anyone else noticed this difference in reactions

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I'm just wondering firstly if I am the only one who has noticed this, and secondly if others think its accurate. It seems to me more commonly that if in a realationship if the man is unfaithful to the women then often the woman will be angry with not only that man but will often proceed to make generalisations about all men in general. However, I havent known any situation where when a woman is unfaithful to a man in a relationship the man proceeds to make generalisations about all women. Has anyone else noticed this difference in reactions

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I don't know what kind of friends you have, but where I come from any anger at women for ANY reason leads directly to a rant about "bitches" and way they are all worthless whores and trash.

Only instances I have been privy to have been guys whose girlfriends have cheated on them (NOT ment to imply frequency on either side, it's just my 'luck of the draw' experience.') The strongest reaction was the dude who felt that all women where unfaithful. What's worse, his 'revenge' was to date a chick who had a boyfriend. (Great event in that little story-the three of us where out and she accidently calls him by sitting on her phone wrong, you know how that happened a lot for a while? Anyway-calls her boyfriend while she's out with dude and me. Later on thier talking about how he heard that message and 'thinks something is going on.' Dude, it's not 'thinks'-something is going on, he's not wrong...that was a fun conversation)

It took a while to stress to him that that dude didn't do him wrong and that he was doing that dude wrong because some other set of people did him wrong-it was like he was kicking a puppy because he had a bad day.

So it happens, but all I have is ancedotal evidence.

Usually what I see is when the guy cheats on the girl the girl will go on a rampage and get mad at the other girl. Neither will blame the guy. They* will proceed to pull eachother's hair and name call (ho, bich, slut...). The guy is seen as innocent. He was seduced by the slut!
I never understood why a girl would go back to a guy that cheats on her. And usually these are the ones that will call you at 1 am to whine about how they only seem to attract losers and how guys won't respect them. Hm, I wonder why? :rolleyes:
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I'm just wondering firstly if I am the only one who has noticed this, and secondly if others think its accurate. It seems to me more commonly that if in a realationship if the man is unfaithful to the women then often the woman will be angry with not only that man but will often proceed to make generalisations about all men in general. However, I havent known any situation where when a woman is unfaithful to a man in a relationship the man proceeds to make generalisations about all women. Has anyone else noticed this difference in reactions

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I can't say that my experience supports what you suggest. Men and women seem to fairly democratic when it comes to blaming the other gender for the actions of a few.

I can't say that my experience supports what you suggest. Men and women seem to fairly democratic when it comes to blaming the other gender for the actions of a few.
"democratic", that's putting it charitably!

I'm just wondering firstly if I am the only one who has noticed this, and secondly if others think its accurate. It seems to me more commonly that if in a realationship if the man is unfaithful to the women then often the woman will be angry with not only that man but will often proceed to make generalisations about all men in general. However, I havent known any situation where when a woman is unfaithful to a man in a relationship the man proceeds to make generalisations about all women. Has anyone else noticed this difference in reactions

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I've seen enough of both to last several lifetimes. :(

Makes a really good argument for setting basic ground rules early on for a relationship, yes? I'm in a sort-of relationship right now where neither the girl nor I is interested in any exclusivity. So we have just accepted right up front that she will have sex with other guys if she decides to, and I will have sex with other women if I want to. This may or may not change, but for right now it's how we want to act toward each other. Given this, each of us has to accept the possibility that the other will find someone they like more, so it becomes a matter of acceptance on both our parts, and if there are feelings involved we will just have to deal with them.