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Okay, so I was supposed to be going to my sister's house today. Had to cancel that, because my dad's not feeling good enough to go... So, he calls her and says we can't make it, and she says she'll just come and see us.

Not going to happen. "I don't like you driving by yourself on the weekend." --- The fuck? She's 30, and he still treats her like she's 16. Oh, and I haven't seen her in over three weeks (she only lives 42 miles from us). Why? My dad won't let her drive to our house.

I'm not too mad about her not coming today, but I'm very mad at the fact my dad treats his kids the way he does. He acts as if he's superior to everyone else, flaunting this opinion of his (often making himself look like a total moron). He also has that little thing about never being wrong, even when he couldn't possibly be right.

Oh, he treats me extremely well, too. For instance, when I ride my bike, he doesn't let me go further than around the block. In addition to that, I can't even walk around the block (not one crime has been committed in this neighborhood in ten years). The dickhead treats all of his kids like they're weak idiots who can't survive on their own.

I have to ask this question: Do any of you have parents like this?

Okay, so I was supposed to be going to my sister's house today. Had to cancel that, because my dad's not feeling good enough to go... So, he calls her and says we can't make it, and she says she'll just come and see us.

Not going to happen. "I don't like you driving by yourself on the weekend." --- The fuck? She's 30, and he still treats her like she's 16. Oh, and I haven't seen her in over three weeks (she only lives 42 miles from us). Why? My dad won't let her drive to our house.

I'm not too mad about her not coming today, but I'm very mad at the fact my dad treats his kids the way he does. He acts as if he's superior to everyone else, flaunting this opinion of his (often making himself look like a total moron). He also has that little thing about never being wrong, even when he couldn't possibly be right.

Oh, he treats me extremely well, too. For instance, when I ride my bike, he doesn't let me go further than around the block. In addition to that, I can't even walk around the block (not one crime has been committed in this neighborhood in ten years). The dickhead treats all of his kids like they're weak idiots who can't survive on their own.

I have to ask this question: Do any of you have parents like this?

Yup, I'm 19, with a mental maturity equal to that of people 10 to 20 years my senior, and my father treats me as if I'm 5, 12 if he's feeling gracious. It pisses me off to no end.

Your sister is thirty. She shouldn't need permission to drop by. Your dad is crazy. he should lay down.

Not even remotely. The worst I've had is having to call my mom and leave a message to tell her that I won't be lying in my bed in the morning if such were the case.

Yup, I'm 19, with a mental maturity equal to that of people 10 to 20 years my senior, and my father treats me as if I'm 5, 12 if he's feeling gracious. It pisses me off to no end.

Maybe our dads should go clubbing...

Your sister is thirty. She shouldn't need permission to drop by. Your dad is crazy. he should lay down.

1: Correct.

2: Correct.

3: The problem is, if she were to come out after he said what he said, he'd make a scene and come close to disowning her.

Maybe our dads should go clubbing...

If "clubbing" is code going to a therapy session for control freaks, then most definitely. What's worse, my mom's starting to become a control freak, too.

3: The problem is, if she were to come out after he said what he said, he'd make a scene and come close to disowning her.

Don't worry. Your dad's feeling sick. I think with both you and your sisters power combine. You can transform and defeat your Dad back from whence he came.

my dad is an alcoholic asshole, he is an anti-scoial and doesn't want any of us hanging out with anyone

If "clubbing" is code going to a therapy session for control freaks, then most definitely. What's worse, my mom's starting to become a control freak, too.

Ugh. Horrible.

You know, I first noticed what a control freak my dad was when I was 5. We were at an arcade in the Sunrise Mall at Corpus Christi, and I asked him to put a quarter in the Super Off-Road machine. I got excited, stepped up, and grabbed the steering wheel --- But wait. He decided he would control it for me! After he totally fucked up my game, I started crying, and then he yelled at me and wacked my ass for showing how I felt about what he did.

Some guy, eh?

My mothher can be psychotic, but she can all not give a damn at the same time.

Sometimes, when my mother is lecturing/yelling at me, she'll ask me a question. When I answer, she'll yet at me for answering back. Okay, so I learnt my lesson, next time she asks a question, no matter what it is, I'll assume it's rhetorical and stay quiet.

Dios mio, she starts yelling at me for not listening to her.

But I have a later curfew than most of my friends, all I have to do is call her to tell her I'll be home late and she'll be okay. I don't even ask her if I can go out anymore, I just call her and tell her I'm on my way out and that I'll be home 'not too late.'

Ugh. Horrible.

You know, I first noticed what a control freak my dad was when I was 5. We were at an arcade in the Sunrise Mall at Corpus Christi, and I asked him to put a quarter in the Super Off-Road machine. I got excited, stepped up, and grabbed the steering wheel --- But wait. He decided he would control it for me! After he totally fucked up my game, I started crying, and then he yelled at me and wacked my ass for showing how I felt about what he did.

Some guy, eh?

Yeah, sounds about like mine. He resents the fact that I've become independent and not some meek creature he can order around. He treats our family like we're a part of a corporation, and not family, not so grand.

Yeah, sounds about like mine. He resents the fact that I've become independent and not some meek creature he can order around. He treats our family like we're a part of a corporation, and not family, not so grand.

That's EXACTLY how my dad is.

He hates the fact that I like Punk Rock (he's a soft Rock weirdo), have long hair (he's strictly short... in more ways than one), and have a Northeastern accent (he has the worst Southern accent EVER).

And, opinions? Pfff! If he says he likes something, you better agree with him, or he starts yelling. I mean, fuck. If he says he likes a certain chocolate bar, and I say "Meh, I like *insert brand here* better.", I get "Don't you fucking argue with me, boy."...

Wonderful.

Don't worry. Your dad's feeling sick. I think with both you and your sisters power combine. You can transform and defeat your Dad back from whence he came.
No, no. They need three more people to combine. Two arms, two legs, and a torso.

No, no. They need three more people to combine. Two arms, two legs, and a torso.

More than that... We need an entire room full of people to get him off his pedestal.

I have very astute and intelligent parents, explaining where my own incredible genius came from. They only treat me like a 5-year-old when I act immature. When I act mature (which makes me look and feel about 18, although I won't be yet for some time, worse luck;)), I get treated maturely. The only problem I have with them concerns this very game.

They think they have to control my usage of NationStates. Namely, by preventing me from going on for the next two years. They've stated that if I continue to use it, I'll have to be institutionalized, because for some reason they think it's what caused me to kill 70,000 people and destroy a bunch of high-rise apartment buildings. I ask you, is that insane or what? But besides that, I'm given adequate freedom when I act accordingly. So no. :)

That's EXACTLY how my dad is.

He hates the fact that I like Punk Rock (he's a soft Rock weirdo), have long hair (he's strictly short... in more ways than one), and have a Northeastern accent (he has the worst Southern accent EVER).

And, opinions? Pfff! If he says he likes something, you better agree with him, or he starts yelling. I mean, fuck. If he says he likes a certain chocolate bar, and I say "Meh, I like *insert brand here* better.", I get "Don't you fucking argue with me, boy."...

Wonderful.

Wow...I don't bother talking to mine, and he never expresses any opinions on things, ever. Unless he wants to criticize me.

No, no. They need three more people to combine. Two arms, two legs, and a torso.

LOL

I have very astute and intelligent parents, explaining where my own incredible genius came from. They only treat me like a 5-year-old when I act immature. When I act mature (which makes me look and feel about 18, although I won't be yet for some time, worse luck;)), I get treated maturely. The only problem I have with them concerns this very game.

They think they have to control my usage of NationStates. Namely, by preventing me from going on for the next two years. They've stated that if I continue to use it, I'll have to be institutionalized, because for some reason they think it's what caused me to kill 70,000 people and destroy a bunch of high-rise apartment buildings. I ask you, is that insane or what? But besides that, I'm given adequate freedom when I act accordingly. So no. :)

Are you ever serious about anything? I mean, I need to laugh after thinking about what a dick my dad is, but come on, spare this thread at least.

Wow...I don't bother talking to mine, and he never expresses any opinions on things, ever. Unless he wants to criticize me.

I've pretty much stopped talking to him, mainly because he yells at me for the way I talk (yeah, yelling at somebody for not sounding like a dipshit. who'd've thought?).

@ Potaria: I'm being perfectly serious here. I also debate and RP a lot, and that's all serious, too. And IRL I'm frequently told to lighten up. After that I behave as though I've had about eight beers. :D

@ Lord-General Drache: Who's that?

No , when I was young I basically ran abouts where ever I wanted(within a square mile or so). I lived in a rural area.. lots of tabacco fields, pastures and a golf course. It probably would've been different if we were in the city.. not sure though. I use to go with my mom when she would play Bingo.. it was in an urban area called South Side. Wasn't mean at the time or anything.. but all us bingo kids could've gotten into some shit.. luckily we all stayed safe. My friend that lived nextdoor to me use to couldn't go off his property.. it sucked.. especially him being a boy and watching a girl(me) zoom up and down the road on her go cart. After a few years of his mom not letting him even ride his bike on our dead end dirt road.. he didn't even want to leave his yard... or had a fear of doing so. I never thought that was right. If the area is relatively safe and the kids got common sense, the parents should show their child some faith, Imo. It can be very complicated I'm sure.

For your sister.. well she's 30. Unless your dad is going to not open the door to let her in once she goes against his wishes and drives there, or punish her by not letting her see you. I see no reason why she shouldn't just come anyway. But if he held that leash on her as tight as you say he's doing you.. maybe she is just programmed to do as he says regardless. /shrug

For your sister.. well she's 30. Unless your dad is going to not open the door to let her in once she goes against his wishes and drives there, or punish her by not letting her see you. I see no reason why she shouldn't just come anyway. But if he held that leash on her as tight as you say he's doing you.. maybe she is just programmed to do as he says regardless. /shrug

It's a lot like that, but she just doesn't want to have to put up with his bullshit anymore. I wouldn't, either...

It's a lot like that, but she just doesn't want to have to put up with his bullshit anymore. I wouldn't, either...

Ahh, I can understand that.

I hope your dad lets up on you some, soon.

I hope your dad lets up on you some, soon.

Haha, if only.

Okay, so I was supposed to be going to my sister's house today. Had to cancel that, because my dad's not feeling good enough to go... So, he calls her and says we can't make it, and she says she'll just come and see us.

Not going to happen. "I don't like you driving by yourself on the weekend." --- The fuck? She's 30, and he still treats her like she's 16. Oh, and I haven't seen her in over three weeks (she only lives 42 miles from us). Why? My dad won't let her drive to our house.

I'm not too mad about her not coming today, but I'm very mad at the fact my dad treats his kids the way he does. He acts as if he's superior to everyone else, flaunting this opinion of his (often making himself look like a total moron). He also has that little thing about never being wrong, even when he couldn't possibly be right.

Oh, he treats me extremely well, too. For instance, when I ride my bike, he doesn't let me go further than around the block. In addition to that, I can't even walk around the block (not one crime has been committed in this neighborhood in ten years). The dickhead treats all of his kids like they're weak idiots who can't survive on their own.

I have to ask this question: Do any of you have parents like this?
No. I was raised by my grandparents, who let me do pretty much as I damned well pleased. This may go a long way toward explaining why, for so many years, I was a self-centered, arrrogant lil prick!

Count yourself very lucky that your dad seems to actually care about you.

Count yourself very lucky that your dad seems to actually care about you.

He cares a bit, and he doesn't care. He's a control freak.

I hate that. Annoying. Just let go.

Mine have now but thats thank to my wonderful brother. After him I can do no wrong.

He cares a bit, and he doesn't care. He's a control freak.

Bet you cant wait for college?

Bet you cant wait for college?

You're damn right I can't!

Shut up about it or move out.

Shut up about it or move out.

Well, hello there, sunshine! Must be a joy to live in your house.

He cares a bit, and he doesn't care. He's a control freak.
Perhaps that's the only way he knows of to express his care for you? Not knowing him, it would be difficult to say, but quite a few people who come accross as "control freaks" are simply unable to express deep emotions.

Just a thought.

You're damn right I can't!

I suggest either going to an east or west coast school so your far away from your father. That or your going to get forced to go to a texas state college by him.

Perhaps that's the only way he knows of to express his care for you? Not knowing him, it would be difficult to say, but quite a few people who come accross as "control freaks" are simply unable to express deep emotions.

Just a thought.

Possibly, but still: Not letting your kids do anything they want is overkill.

I suggest either going to an east or west coast school so your far away from your father. That or your going to get forced to go to a texas state college by him.

I'm thinking about that, really. I do *not* want to go to a Texas college. Yeugh.

I'm thinking about that, really. I do *not* want to go to a Texas college. Yeugh.

Well there are plenty of great schools all over the place so its not like you wont have a choice....unless your father wont pay for a college thats out of texas.

Well there are plenty of great schools all over the place so its not like you wont have a choice....unless your father wont pay for a college thats out of texas.

I should have more than enough money to pay for tuition myself at that time.

I should have more than enough money to pay for tuition myself at that time.

Well then your fine when it comes to going to college. Now all you have to do is survive a few more years at home.

She called her Father a dickhead? Pardon me, if you're living with him, move your fat, lazy ass out of his house and find your own place to roost. That way, sweetie, you can walk the streets all night if you want to and not have to worry about the old dickhead!

Best thing that could happen to you, he should kick your ass out and make you fend for yourself. Didn't your parents ever teach you any form of resepct?

Well then your fine when it comes to going to college. Now all you have to do is survive a few more years at home.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. I'm hitting a growth spurt... I'll be at least 6'2" by age 19 (bigger than my idiot brother, which is good enough). I should be fine.

She called her Father a dickhead? Pardon me, if you're living with him, move your fat, lazy ass out of his house and find your own place to roost. That way, sweetie, you can walk the streets all night if you want to and not have to worry about the old dickhead!

Best thing that could happen to you, he should kick your ass out and make you fend for yourself. Didn't your parents ever teach you any form of resepct?

Okay, who lost their puppet?

She called her Father a dickhead? Pardon me, if you're living with him, move your fat, lazy ass out of his house and find your own place to roost. That way, sweetie, you can walk the streets all night if you want to and not have to worry about the old dickhead!

Best thing that could happen to you, he should kick your ass out and make you fend for yourself. Didn't your parents ever teach you any form of resepct?

1. Flamy.

2. POTARIA IS A MINOR. HE CANNOT MOVE OUT.

I should have more than enough money to pay for tuition myself at that time.


Good, good :p You don't have too much longer til you're outta there!

1. Flamy.

2. POTARIA IS A MINOR. HE CANNOT MOVE OUT.

Actually, I'm over 15 (17), and Texas law states that I can live with whoever I wish.

I'm staying with my dad for financial gains. It's necessary.

Maybe you just need to get over yourself, Potoria. Parents need to be strict and realize that their job isn’t to be their kid’s friend. Their job is to be a parent, and make sure that their kids grow up to be decent human beings. Remember, he wouldn’t be so controlling if he didn’t care.

Maybe you just need to get over yourself, Potoria. Parents need to be strict and realize that their job isn’t to be their kid’s friend. Their job is to be a parent, and make sure that their kids grow up to be decent human beings. Remember, he wouldn’t be so controlling if he didn’t care.

*looks at your PC standings*

Erm, not to be a dick, but I don't think I can take you seriously.

Maybe you just need to get over yourself, Potoria. Parents need to be strict and realize that their job isn’t to be their kid’s friend. Their job is to be a parent, and make sure that their kids grow up to be decent human beings. Remember, he wouldn’t be so controlling if he didn’t care.

Yeah he does care, and he has been stifling him. But it doesn't matter.. cuz Pot's going to college soon, he obviously has a good head on his shoulders (wanting to go to college & sticking it out with his dad to save up cash) and his dad probably had alot to do with that inderictly or directly.

We get upset about things and need to vent sometimes. It's healthy :)

When your old enough to support yourself, move out and do what you want.

hmm... i know some people arent going to like this advice, but whatever...

i dont get along with my parents either, they werent horrible or even bad parents or anything, but i havent talked to them in ...5? years i think.... and my life has been incredibly easier since, lot less stress and all.

anyways, dont say anything or make any threats to it, but make plans to move out. if you dont have a job, get one, look into school and financial aid(will probabally be easier if you are not living with your parents for? a year? i think, im not sure, but im pretty sure you can get info on the FAFSA site. talk to some friends who have moved out, see about getting an apartment or something(if you split it with someone, be wary of moving in with a friend, especially a good one, as good friends do not always make good housemates.)

but yeah, definately go to school, dont let a job or whatever interfere with that. it may be tough, but its doable.

good luck