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Do you like sex and why?

Do you like sex and why?

Yes. I didn't know you had to have a reason, though.

Hmmmm...you're getting a little spammerific here...

Hmmmm...you're getting a little spammerific here...

Yeah, even I am starting to tire...

Yes. I didn't know you had to have a reason, though.
There is usually a reason, like you like orgasm, or only with men, or only with girls, etc.

You like polls, don't you?

You like polls, don't you?
I do.

You like polls, don't you?You're also really into sexuality. :p

I, unfortunately, am still in full possession of my virginity. However, I've heard from several authoritative sources that it's fun. :)

There is usually a reason, like you like orgasm, or only with men, or only with girls, etc.

I like orgasms, only with men. But that's not all I like. I like intimacy. I like penetration. I like subjugation. I like love. Simply, I like sex. No reason for it, though.

Hmmmm...you're getting a little spammerific here...
I wont' have alot of time next week, so i am trying to combine two weeks worth of play time into one. Sorry if i am being overbearing.

I hate sex because things that are satisfying tend to be immoral.

There is usually a reason, like you like orgasm, or only with men, or only with girls, etc.

"Only with men" or "only with girls" would be stipulations, not reasons.

Getting pleasure out of sex is sort of redundant. You're very bored at the moment, aren't you?

"Only with men" or "only with girls" would be stipulations, not reasons.

Getting pleasure out of sex is sort of redundant. You're very bored at the moment, aren't you?
Fairly. I am home alone right now, and that doesnt happen much, there is always someone here. I am not quite sure what to do with myself.

As much as I do like sex, there are times when I could really do without it. Unfortunately, my husband never seems to have those times. So yeah, sometimes I just 'do it for my partner'. Other times I let my partner do it himself:). It definitely cycles...some times of the month I'm hornier than others. And sometimes it's about the last thing on my mind. Like when the kids are screaming and the house is a mess and the bills are overdue and DON'T FRIGGIN TOUCH ME RIGHT NOW YOU IDIOT!!!!

Oh yeah, and I don't take well to being woken up. Sleep has become a very precious and rare commodity since we had kids. He has the bruises to remind him not to bother once I'm out.

I hate that I'm always the one saying no (not always, but really...it's not like he ever says no, even though I don't necessarily push it the way he does....)I mean...cripes, I can TELL when he's not receptive, and I leave him alone. He just doesn't seem to have that sense. Is this a guy thing? Can you just not read body language?

Do you like sex and why?


Only if I want it.

I must say that I don't care much for unwanted sex. But maybe I'm the crazy one. :p

Fairly. I am home alone right now, and that doesnt happen much, there is always someone here. I am not quite sure what to do with myself.
Now THAT'S a leading question if ever I saw one!

Stupid question. We enjoy sex whether we like it or not. If not, you've got some mental block.

Or you are just a retard, same thing really.

I hate that I'm always the one saying no (not always, but really...it's not like he ever says no, even though I don't necessarily push it the way he does....)I mean...cripes, I can TELL when he's not receptive, and I leave him alone. He just doesn't seem to have that sense. Is this a guy thing? Can you just not read body language?

Well yes and no to it bing a guy thing. Women can smell (pardon spelling) pharimones, men can't, so you know when we want it and don't because of the change in our pharimones smell. We have to guess, and if we ask then we want it so you have to prove that you don't before most of us will let it go.

Now THAT'S a leading question if ever I saw one!
Evil laughter!

Ummmm… I'm in two minds about it. One mind says that it feels wrong and shudders at the thought of sharing my actual body with someone… the other mind says it's good. I do so love being crazy.

I hate sex because things that are satisfying tend to be immoral.

You are a sad little man, aren’t you?

You are a sad little man, aren’t you?




Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.

I hate sex because things that are satisfying tend to be immoral.Lol, that's a very strange attitude to take to life. Work is very satisfying—at least that feeling when you finish it. Is it immoral? ;)

I like it because I can make my partner happy

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.
:D

Lol, that's a very strange attitude to take to life. Work is very satisfying—at least that feeling when you finish it. Is it immoral? ;) Immoral in the sense that it is bad for me!

Stupid question. We enjoy sex whether we like it or not. If not, you've got some mental block.

Or you are just a retard, same thing really.



Or you have genital deformation, or you simply just don't like it. Not that I fit in either category, but, really, why label those who do as retarded?

Well, enjoyment is kinda the basis of sex, you know

:D


Lol, get your mind out of the gutter Sinu :D

Lol, get your mind out of the gutter Sinu :D
Now you're talking about impossibilities!

I think I like sex, but I'm 20 and still a virgin. I'm waiting for a relationship first.

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.Yay, it's Neo-R in a sex thread! *evil laughter*


What are your opinions on sex, may I ask? And how do you justify them? :D

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.

You people need to get out of the cross business. Someone needs the wood...

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.

What are you on about? You quote that verse constantly, like it’s the only one in the Bible or something. Believe it or not, Jesus wants you to be happy, and sex is a gift from God to married couples.

Immoral in the sense that it is bad for me!Lol, work is bad for you? :D

What are you on about? You quote that verse constantly, like it’s the only one in the Bible or something. Believe it or not, Jesus wants you to be happy, and sex is a gift from God to married couples.


Oh, I somehow got an impression we were talking about all types of sex. :)

mmmmm.... sex
I got laid today. Congratulate me. :fluffle:

edit:
To clarify: yes, I like sex.

mmmmm.... sex
I got laid today. Congratulate me. :fluffle:

edit:
To clarify: yes, I like sex.
You have all the congratulations you need.

Oh, I somehow got an impression we were talking about all types of sex. :)
Well tech. it is all types of sex, since it was an open ended question with no definition as to the type, just weather you like sex. Any kind even beastiality is a valid type of sex for awnsering the poll question.

Oh, I somehow got an impression we were talking about all types of sex. :)LOL! I somehow got an impression that marriage was not just between one man and one woman...... :D


((Originally from New England...))

Matthew 16:24 24Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.

Ah Neo my favourite christian right winger :) . Whay am I not supprised that your posting in this thread. Good luck in doing gods work

yum sex.

Yay, it's Neo-R in a sex thread! *evil laughter*


What are your opinions on sex, may I ask? And how do you justify them? :D



1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 3It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4that each of you should learn to control his own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. 7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.



1 Corinthians 7:1-7 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.


Hebrews 13:4 4Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.


1 Corinthians 7:9 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


1 Corinthians 7:28 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.




I tend to disagree with the Catholic doctrine that all sex, excluding that for the purpose of procreation, is immoral. As for mandatory priest celibacy:


1 Timothy 4:1-5 1The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.

Neo....

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him.


Woohoo. Spank your kids. :P

Neo....

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him.


Woohoo. Spank your kids. :P



Yes, I never said I was opposed to spanking lol.

so how are you Neo?

Yes, I never said I was opposed to spanking lol.


I know. I was just joking... I have nothing wrong with parents spanking their kids either. I just base my ideas on what I think is right and wrong. Not on what someone who killed Christians and then told people he was reformed and god gave him all knowledge said. Do you believe everyone that says they're doing god's work? I contact God by prayer, not by a book that people unwisely chose to close many many years ago.

To stay on topic, I am bisexual in that I'm attracted to guys and girls, but I'm gonna stick with girls, as I want a family. Has nothing to do with religion. In fact, my kids will be forced to go to church until they're 12 and will go to an accepting church like the Lutheran church or the United Church of Christ.

I know. I was just joking... I have nothing wrong with parents spanking their kids either. I just base my ideas on what I think is right and wrong. Not on what someone who killed Christians and then told people he was reformed and god gave him all knowledge said. Do you believe everyone that says they're doing god's work? I contact God by prayer, not by a book that people unwisely chose to close many many years ago.

To stay on topic, I am bisexual in that I'm attracted to guys and girls, but I'm gonna stick with girls, as I want a family. Has nothing to do with religion. In fact, my kids will be forced to go to church until they're 12 and will go to an accepting church like the Lutheran church or the United Church of Christ.



If God removed the scales from his eyes, the other apostles recognized him as legitimate, and he was able to perform miracles, I would say he spoke with authority :D

so how are you Neo?



Eh, I'm alright lol.

If God removed the scales from his eyes, the other apostles recognized him as legitimate, and he was able to perform miracles, I would say he spoke with authority :D


Or he could have been the antichrist.... Remember that the apostles never really did get Jesus that well, so they make mistakes as the rest of humans do.

Anyways, I don't wanna hijack, so I'm gonna butt out.

Eh, I'm alright lol.God (a.k.a. Czardas) has commanded that you spell it "all right". "Alright" is a corruption and an abomination before God (see above). God (ditto) is a grammar nazi. :D

Or he could have been the antichrist.... Remember that the apostles never really did get Jesus that well, so they make mistakes as the rest of humans do.

Anyways, I don't wanna hijack, so I'm gonna butt out.



Ok, I get one last reponse before I butt out too: Revelation was written after Paul's ministry :D

Eh, I'm alright lol.

good because believe it or not I like religious opposition. I know we have our differences on ethics and religion but I think in a way we both enhance our beliefs. I know its strange but hey ;)

good because believe it or not I like religious opposition. I know we have our differences on ethics and religion but I think in a way we both enhance our beliefs. I know its strange but hey ;)


Likewise :D

Sure I like sex. Why? When you are with the right person, everybody is in agreement, and do it right, what's not to like?

God (a.k.a. Czardas) has commanded that you spell it "all right". "Alright" is a corruption and an abomination before God (see above). God (ditto) is a grammar nazi. :D

Very good.

Likewise :D

can i ask? What particular part of christianity you are from?

can i ask? What particular part of christianity you are from?


Pre-Catholic (yes, there is such a thing lol). I try to emulate the church of the New Testament.

Very good.I'm glad someone approves of me, lol.

Pre-Catholic (yes, there is such a thing lol). I try to emulate the church of the New Testament.

Well People like to call me a neo catholic as I have this annoying trait of living in the real world.

Yes, I never said I was opposed to spanking lol.

dirty girl :D

Pre-Catholic (yes, there is such a thing lol). I try to emulate the church of the New Testament.
There was no New Testament before the Catholic Church.

There was no New Testament before the Catholic Church.



The gospels were all written by 100 A.D.

The gospels were all written by 100 A.D.
The Gospels, but not the entire New Testament. In fact, since there wasn't one single church and each church followed its own traditions and scriptures there wasn't one way to be Christian.

It wasn't until 367 when the Catholic Church became the Church of Rome that the bishops got together and decided which scriptures were apocryphal and which canonical, forming the New Testament.

I'm glad someone approves of me, lol.

Seriously, Im gonna tell everyone here something that i've never told anyone. I was in love with someone so much that she made me forget everything that was catholic about me. Yes I slept with her for quite a while but then she got rid of me because someone else had a car and lived closer to her. He was my best friend. Czardas the reason I'm telling you this is not to put you off woman just to choose the persoen that (personality wise fits with you)




And why am I telling you thing long boring story?

Because I gave up the girl that really cared about me

The Gospels, but not the entire New Testament. In fact, since there wasn't one single church and each church followed its own traditions and scriptures there wasn't one way to be Christian.

It wasn't until 367 when the Catholic Church became the Church of Rome that the bishops got together and decided which scriptures were apocryphal and which canonical, forming the New Testament.





If they decided which texts were canonical, why did they include things that Catholicism clearly contradicts?

If they decided which texts were canonical, why did they include things that Catholicism clearly contradicts?
It could be that the Catholic Church changed after time passed. After all, it is an organization comprised by humans, however much they care to deny it. It could also be that their interpretation was different, and, of course, translations and rewritings over the years may have changed the original meaning.

I happen to love it. For me, sex is a way of expressing emotion and receiving pleasure. I'm not into purely casual sex. However, I don't think that being in love with someone is a requirement for sex. For me, I've no problem with having "friends with benefits", so long as I hold an intense liking for said friends that has the potential for love. I'm a bit odd, I know.

Yeah, it really tones the forearms. When the right gets tired, I just switch to the left for a while With practice, you can work the timing out perfectly and get a totally even workout.

Sex is great when it's done right. You can have sex that makes you forget you're bound to this planet or sex that makes you wish you weren't. :(

Ummmm… I'm in two minds about it. One mind says that it feels wrong and shudders at the thought of sharing my actual body with someone… the other mind says it's good. I do so love being crazy.

i have to say... i kinda agree with that, on one side i'm scared and don't really know what to do, but on the other side i've heard good things

i, personally, am a virgin still, and proud of it, and single as well... not proud of that one, but i am torn about the whole sex thing

I'm surprised at the number of people who have responded saying that they've never had sex. Guess I had a few misconceptions about the NS forum community.

As much as I do like sex, there are times when I could really do without it.The normal Female condition... (menses are a b itch...)
Unfortunately, my husband never seems to have those times.The normal Male condition. Biology is also a b itch.
So yeah, sometimes I just 'do it for my partner'. Other times I let my partner do it himself:). It definitely cycles...some times of the month I'm hornier than others.If it weren't for that bit of biology I wouldn't "get any" (damn this obsitnate morality thing...)
And sometimes it's about the last thing on my mind. Like when the kids are screaming and the house is a mess and the bills are overdue and DON'T FRIGGIN TOUCH ME RIGHT NOW YOU IDIOT!!!!Whew. At least I don't have to worry about that.
Oh yeah, and I don't take well to being woken up. Sleep has become a very precious and rare commodity since we had kids. He has the bruises to remind him not to bother once I'm out.Biology again. Tumescence happens... especially in the early hours just before waking.
I hate that I'm always the one saying no (not always, but really...it's not like he ever says no, even though I don't necessarily push it the way he does....)He just hasn't learned Stoicisim yet...I mean...cripes, I can TELL when he's not receptive, and I leave him alone. He just doesn't seem to have that sense. Is this a guy thing? Can you just not read body language?Maybe. Not a problem for me. I know right away when my wife is "in heat"... since it is the only time I can get past the rest of her psychological/medical issues...

Sex is funny thing. In humans it's somewhere between 80-90% mental. I'm hugely sensual - almost to a "feminine" extreme (touch vs. "sex"). My wife is not. As a part of her mental illness, I have had to accept that she, at best, suffers through sex "for me"... no matter what I try/ask/do to make it interesting for her. So I "get" roughly as much as your average (worldly) Priest.

Part of the ongoing "it sucks to be me" Karma recoup cycle I suppose... :(

:fluffle: Yeah, I like sex cause it is fun.

Yeah, /me likes. Because, you know, 's fun and all.
Plus, I've been told I'm rather good at it, and doing things you know you're good at makes you feel, uh, good and all.

If they decided which texts were canonical, why did they include things that Catholicism clearly contradicts?

Because we like fucking with the rest of you. Watching you all try to figure our religion out is fun. :D

Making lots of money is a lot more satisfying, so no.

Do you like sex and why?
What's not to like? It's the most fun ( done responsibly ) that two humans ( or more, if that's your thing ) can have without breaking the law. Sex is the single most powerful motivator in the entire human repitoir. It had to be. After all, what woman in her right mind would ever go through childbirth if the act which causes it weren't so pleasurable?

Making lots of money is a lot more satisfying, so no.
What if you make lots of money through sex?

What if you make lots of money through sex?
Um ... you're prostituting yourself? :rolleyes:

Um ... you're prostituting yourself? :rolleyes:
No. Guffingford said that making money was better so, naturally, I ask if shu would consider sex a better option if it allowed shum to make money.

And it wouldn't have to be prostitution. From porn to sex education to writing erotica would be choices too.

Geez! That's a dirty mind you have, Eutrusca!

What if you make lots of money through sex?I'm not a manwhore and I'd never lower myself to selling my own body.

I'm not a manwhore and I'd never lower myself to selling my own body.
You can run a prostitution ring, or write erotic novels, or sell sex paraphernalia, or become a sex education expert. Sex is a very wide an open field.

Really, what's the problem with you people? Does everyone have a one-track mind?

i guess they do...

And I really don't see the point of living without sex :D :D :D

Sex, for me, is a release, or escape, or whatever you want to call it. It's something where my partner and I can go somewhere only we can go to, an escape from life for a while, and where we're free to say whatever with eachother. It's passionate, yet casual. And with response to someone before saying that her husband can't tell when she doesn't want any, if it is a male thing, i would like to think im an exception, because i can tell by the way my girlfirned talks if she wants to and how adventureous she is, but maybe thats just me.

No. Guffingford said that making money was better so, naturally, I ask if shu would consider sex a better option if it allowed shum to make money.

And it wouldn't have to be prostitution. From porn to sex education to writing erotica would be choices too.

Geez! That's a dirty mind you have, Eutrusca!
I know! It's great. I have so much fun! :D

Really, what's the problem with you people? Does everyone have a one-track mind?
Where sex is concerned? Well, DUH! :D

i guess they do...

And I really don't see the point of living without sex :D :D :D
Well, sex isn't the only thing.













But it's damned far ahead of whatever's second best! :D

Sex, for me, is a release, or escape, or whatever you want to call it. It's something where my partner and I can go somewhere only we can go to, an escape from life for a while, and where we're free to say whatever with eachother. It's passionate, yet casual. And with response to someone before saying that her husband can't tell when she doesn't want any, if it is a male thing, i would like to think im an exception, because i can tell by the way my girlfirned talks if she wants to and how adventureous she is, but maybe thats just me.
Sounds to me as if your girlfriend is one of those lucky women who has a partner attuned to her needs and wants. Kudos to you! :)

i have to say... i kinda agree with that, on one side i'm scared and don't really know what to do, but on the other side i've heard good things

i, personally, am a virgin still, and proud of it, and single as well... not proud of that one, but i am torn about the whole sex thing So many weird people on this forum! I love it!

Um, where was I… I probably won't ever get involved in sex, as I never want to get married or have kids, and those are sort of prerequisite requirements in Catholicism…

As much as I do like sex, there are times when I could really do without it. Unfortunately, my husband never seems to have those times. So yeah, sometimes I just 'do it for my partner'. Other times I let my partner do it himself:). It definitely cycles...some times of the month I'm hornier than others. And sometimes it's about the last thing on my mind. Like when the kids are screaming and the house is a mess and the bills are overdue and DON'T FRIGGIN TOUCH ME RIGHT NOW YOU IDIOT!!!!

Oh yeah, and I don't take well to being woken up. Sleep has become a very precious and rare commodity since we had kids. He has the bruises to remind him not to bother once I'm out.

I hate that I'm always the one saying no (not always, but really...it's not like he ever says no, even though I don't necessarily push it the way he does....)I mean...cripes, I can TELL when he's not receptive, and I leave him alone. He just doesn't seem to have that sense. Is this a guy thing? Can you just not read body language?

I've found women say no until you hit the magic button. Maybe they're a little tired, maybe they dont feel clean, or whatever. Once you hit the button though, you have ignition.


Yes- I like sex. I have heterosexual sex with a female and its great. From start to finish and everything in between-its fun, it feels great, it burns calories, chases away headaches, my knees dont ache afterwards and I sleep is long and deep afterwards.

Me? I like it. But it's most fun when she enjoys it a lot too. :D

Really, what's the problem with you people? Does everyone have a one-track mind?

Yes. Sometimes, all I think about is sex. I think most males think about it many, many times a day. Women might not talk to us anymore if they knew how often we think about it. We are usually thinking about it when we are talking to them anyway. Or see them walking down the street. Or on TV.

I've found women say no until you hit the magic button. Maybe they're a little tired, maybe they dont feel clean, or whatever. Once you hit the button though, you have ignition.


You're right. When I really don't feel like it, for whatever reason, he has to go through a lot more effort to get me in the mood. It's taken us six years to understand (and be open about) the fact that arousal is 96% mental. It took two more years for us to figure out what particular things can almost instantly get us there. However, every now and again we backslide, he doesn't make the effort, I don't bother letting him know what he could do (cuz I really don't feel like it, even though I WOULD if I just let him work his magic...). Boy do we feel stupid about that later, but meh...humans are moody individuals. Okay, I won't talk for all of you, I'll just admit that I am.

If you need to ask.... Your not getting enough! :gundge:

Yes. Sometimes, all I think about is sex. I think most males think about it many, many times a day. Women might not talk to us anymore if they knew how often we think about it. We are usually thinking about it when we are talking to them anyway. Or see them walking down the street. Or on TV.
... or when there's a strong breeze, or when it's raining, or when the sun shines! :D

... or when there's a strong breeze, or when it's raining, or when the sun shines! :D
You need reasons to think about it? :confused:

You're right. When I really don't feel like it, for whatever reason, he has to go through a lot more effort to get me in the mood. It's taken us six years to understand (and be open about) the fact that arousal is 96% mental. It took two more years for us to figure out what particular things can almost instantly get us there. However, every now and again we backslide, he doesn't make the effort, I don't bother letting him know what he could do (cuz I really don't feel like it, even though I WOULD if I just let him work his magic...). Boy do we feel stupid about that later, but meh...humans are moody individuals. Okay, I won't talk for all of you, I'll just admit that I am.
Sounds like both of you could benefit from behavior modification. Just have him use the same word or phrase everytime you have an orgasm. Give it about a month, then let him suprise you by saying the word or phrase at an unexpected ( preferably private! ) moment. The results will astonish you, although it will still be under your control. :)

You need reasons to think about it? :confused:
HELL no! LOL!

Sex is funny thing. In humans it's somewhere between 80-90% mental. I'm hugely sensual - almost to a "feminine" extreme (touch vs. "sex"). My wife is not. As a part of her mental illness, I have had to accept that she, at best, suffers through sex "for me"... no matter what I try/ask/do to make it interesting for her. So I "get" roughly as much as your average (worldly) Priest.

Hmmm...I really didn't enjoy our sex for a couple of years. In fact, I'd kind of just accepted that the sex was going to suck, but that oh well, I'd made a commitment, and I had to take the bad with the good. It was hard, because when I met my husband, I was a horny little thing...an ALL the time horny little thing. It might have had something to do with all the drinking I did back then, or not, who knows? The sex got so damn bad, we just avoided it most of the time. And let me tell you, I was never as off my nut as I was during that time. I was a frigging mess, and started thinking I had some serious mental issues myself (unfortunately, this sort of thing runs in my family, and so my concerns were legitimate). It took a really terrible episode of him cheating and passing on an unsavory 'gift' to me for us to realise that we weren't going to make it in a bad-sex or sexless marriage. We've had to be more open about what we like and what we'd like to do, and oddly, despite the fact that he comes from a very macho, closed-mouth-about-sex culture, it was ME who has had the hardest time being open about this sort of thing.

Point being, sex for me was about as pleasurable as cleaning the bathtub, because I wasn't mentally enjoying it, and that translated to my physical responses. Once I actually allowed myself to enjoy sex again, BOOM...it's like it's all new again. DON'T GIVE UP AND SETTLE FOR UNSATISFYING SEX is what I'm saying, Syniks.

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I've come to realize quite early on that exchanging fantasies and trying some of them out is the best way to enjoy sex. Makes it a heck of a lot more fun. As it turned out, my girlfriend and I had the same fantasy, only in opposite roles :D

...........and people thought the USA vs. France thread was stupid!

... or when there's a strong breeze, or when it's raining, or when the sun shines! :D

*L*

Yes, I absolutely love sex!! And that's because it is the ultimate sacrafice that any man can make with any woman - and especially the woman he loves (and vise versa)

...........and people thought the USA vs. France thread was stupid!That one WAS stupid. This however, makes perfect sense :D

Hmmm...I really didn't enjoy our sex for a couple of years. In fact, I'd kind of just accepted that the sex was going to suck, but that oh well, I'd made a commitment, and I had to take the bad with the good. It was hard, because when I met my husband, I was a horny little thing...an ALL the time horny little thing. It might have had something to do with all the drinking I did back then, or not, who knows? The sex got so damn bad, we just avoided it most of the time. And let me tell you, I was never as off my nut as I was during that time. I was a frigging mess, and started thinking I had some serious mental issues myself (unfortunately, this sort of thing runs in my family, and so my concerns were legitimate). It took a really terrible episode of him cheating and passing on an unsavory 'gift' to me for us to realise that we weren't going to make it in a bad-sex or sexless marriage. We've had to be more open about what we like and what we'd like to do, and oddly, despite the fact that he comes from a very macho, closed-mouth-about-sex culture, it was ME who has had the hardest time being open about this sort of thing.

Point being, sex for me was about as pleasurable as cleaning the bathtub, because I wasn't mentally enjoying it, and that translated to my physical responses. Once I actually allowed myself to enjoy sex again, BOOM...it's like it's all new again. DON'T GIVE UP AND SETTLE FOR UNSATISFYING SEX is what I'm saying, Syniks.

I think a lot of desire and arousal is hormonal. Most men I know are ready to have sex at the drop of a hat- we dont need to be wined and dined or anything. You could walk up to us on the street and lift your skirt and that is all it would take.
Women seem to need a bit more attention to discover that yes- they are full of desire too. I dont think the average woman can respond to it as quickly as men do. So afeter some meaningful attention, a woman comes to realize that ,yeah, I could use some of that and this guy is kind of nice and looks good. I just think women on average need more stimulus than a man before they are aware that they are horny too.

Good to hear you're over that uh...hump. And if you do find sex with the one you obviously love unsatisfying, it is time to change the routine. Be sponataneous. Wake him up in the middle of the night for it. Jump in the shower with him, if you're working outside or at the store or at the beach, flash him. A little teasing-if you can get a way with it-can be a lot of fun for both of you-and when the time is right, there will be fireworks.

That one WAS stupid. This however, makes perfect sense :D

Compared to.......???

Me? I like it. But it's most fun when she enjoys it a lot too. :D

Aint that right? There is little more satisfying than knowing she is completely satisfied. Flushed red, sweaty and trying to catch her breath.

Aint that right? There is little more satisfying than knowing she is completely satisfied. Flushed red, sweaty and trying to catch her breath.Meh, I need it to get anywhere. It's all part of the fun for me. The best way to tell if she had fun is to feel her abdomen just above her crotch. If it's grown hard, you did a good job. And there's nothing like a thank you kiss. :D

Compared to.......???
Just go to StrategyPage.com and look up the color coded war plans. Look at the modern one for France. That should explain a bit.
Then try and compare that to something that's been around longer than war, and that's so fun it still gets practiced today.

<snip>Point being, sex for me was about as pleasurable as cleaning the bathtub, because I wasn't mentally enjoying it, and that translated to my physical responses. Once I actually allowed myself to enjoy sex again, BOOM...it's like it's all new again. DON'T GIVE UP AND SETTLE FOR UNSATISFYING SEX is what I'm saying, Syniks.
Ah well, there are quite a few things I've given up for this relationship. I haven't "given up" on good sex - unfortunately it's just not my problem to "fix" my wife has to get past her hangups largely on her own... I can only do so much in the coaxing/teaching/thearapy department.

I like it very much. First and foremost, I like it because it is an opportunity to shower my wife with unbridled affection born of the deepest human love I have ever known. I also like it because it is physically pleasant, because I love to provide pleasure for my wife, because of the intimacy it represents and creates, because I get to be with my wife during said activity, because it is good exersize, because it is tension relieving, and because it is a God ordained part of marriege.

I'm ashamed to quote this, but:

It's natural
It's chemical (let's do it)
It's logical
Habitual (can we do it?)
It's sensual
But most of all...
Sex is something we should do
Sex is something for me and you

Sex is natural - sex is good
Not everybody does it
But everybody should
Sex is natural - sex is fun
Sex is best when it's... One on one

(Twenty pathetic points for name of song and singer. :p )

So... sex, eh?

Of course I enjoy it, usually. Although, as I'm sure people have already pointed out, it's only really worth it when it's with someone you love. Soppy, I know (and out of character), but true.

Unfortunately, it's been a long time since that's been the case, subsequent encounters have been a bit flat, a bit listless and a bit rubbish by comparison. Take one night stands for example, from my first I've known that they're pointless and leave me feeling cheap and worthless, but I never learn.. A wank is a more positive and life-affirming experience, in my humble opinion..

I'm just waiting for the next special lady. But, y'know, I'm young, I'm a student, I'm in a band, anything can happen..

Fairly. I am home alone right now, and that doesnt happen much, there is always someone here. I am not quite sure what to do with myself.
masturbate

Of course I like sex. I am more turned on by the thoughts behind it though. Orgasms are rather rare for me so perhaps its mostly about pleasing the other person?
Either way, I am fully addicted.

God (a.k.a. Czardas) has commanded that you spell it "all right". "Alright" is a corruption and an abomination before God (see above). God (ditto) is a grammar nazi. :D
Alright is fine. (http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary?book=Dictionary&va=alright&x=0&y=0)