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Describe your ideal mate. Don't just post physical attributes, but you want her/him to be like socially, fiscally, politically, mentally, and fiscally.

A kind commie, so the two of us can start a hippie commune and have (adopt) lots of little vegan commie kids.

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Pretty much I want somebody very much like me.....Catholic (or at least Christian), though it doesn't matter if we raise our children as such (my parents gave me a choice -- my children deserve the same). I'd prefer a social liberal, but I'd actually accept an economic conservative, even though I have some socialist tendencies myself. Most of all I'd expect somebody with a broad appreciation of the arts, as I work in the theatre, music, and photography in my life.

Other than that, it's all negotiable......

Edit: Oh yeah, forgot physical description....well, pretty much I have a real draw towards guys who are physically similar to myself -- bright eyes (mine are blue, and I really like blue and green), brunette hair, lighter skin, and tall and lean. However, the guy I'm with right now (and there are whispers of marriage -- followed by punches and screams of "shut the hell up!" -- among our friends) is, well.....he looks a lot like Cillian Murphy, except for his hair, which is blonde and all over the damn place.....

I don't need to descrie my ideal mate. I've already found her. :fluffle:

I don't need to descrie my ideal mate. I've already found her. :fluffle:

curses under breath

Actually I've found someone I'm happy with, which is a nice change to my lonely and misanthropic lifestyle.

curses under breath

Actually I've found someone I'm happy with, which is a nice change to my lonely and misanthropic lifestyle.
I can partially agree with both of you...I've found her, but the trick is how to make her love me! :D

I can partially agree with both of you...I've found her, but the trick is how to make her love me!

Ouch! Been there. Hope it goes well. :)

A clone of the opposite sex.

Describe your ideal mate. Don't just post physical attributes, but you want her/him to be like socially, fiscally, politically, mentally, and fiscally.
This is my ideal woman. If you've seen her or can find her there's a HUGE "finder's fee ( from a thread I started awhile back ):"

1. Intelligent and educated ( priority requirement )
2. Great sense of humor ( priority requirement )
3. Lack of inhabitions ( priority requirement )
4. Fiesty, stands up for herself, but knows when "surrender" is appropriate ( priority requirement )
5. Has strengths which compliment my own shortcomings ( priority requirement )
6. Physically fit ( priority requirement )
7. 5'10" or taller ( nice to have but not mandatory )
8. Long, thick black hair ( nice to have but not mandatory )
9. Blue eyes ( nice to have but not mandatory )
10. 36D/24/36 or better ( VERY nice to have but not mandatory )
11. Long, shapely legs ( nice to have but not mandatory )

Age above 18 is unimportant.

Any questions? Good! Now go find her for me! :D

A clone of the opposite sex.

I always thought if I had walked into another dimension where I was a girl, would I hit on myself...most certainly yes

Requirements:

1) Female.

2) A carbon based life form.

A cellist who sings torch songs in French.






Wait, is that too specific?

PETTUS!
My Pettus
Pettus, Pettus, Pettus, Pettus, Pettus
My Pettus! :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

Good hearted(with this comes many things), confidant(not cocky), passionate, healthy, hard working guy with wisdom, common sense, integrity and honor. We have to "get" each other (understand one another). Doesn't have to be educated but needs to be intelligent. Be man enough to fight or walk away depending on the situation. Loyal, attentive with a good sense of humor and a positive attitude. Down to earth and true to himself.

I'm generally pretty suspicious of everybody right off the bat, so when I realized I trusted the man (who is now my dh) on the second date, I knew I had to hold on to him. He's mostly my ideal...nice muscularity, very intelligent, great sense of humor, patient (needs it to put up with me!), pretty kind, could use a little more empathy, but I probably have enough for both of us. He's a geek which is a plus, I love it when I walk up behind him when he's at his computer and all I see is unreadable text flashing by and he's either laughing at it, or typing away.
We'll be married 8 years in September. :)

Intelligent enough to make me feel insecure about my own intelligence, educated, stubborn, athletic, Christian (so that we have something to debate), and most of all a conflicting personality. I tend to like people more when I conflict with them. Really I'm just describing Lashie. She's the perfect person for me. (And as an added plus, her father's a mathematician ;)). Yep, perfect :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

a rich man who is dynamite in bed?

a rich man who is dynamite in bed?
Um ... does it matter what age he is? :D

A guy who is funny, nice and doesn't mind just relaxing with me. Also, a man who isn't needy, I'm not that type of needy person, in fact, I dislike needy people. I want him to be able to get along with my friends and hopefully like to be around family, like I do 1) because we gamble and have family Poker and Risk games 2) because I love hanging out with my older brothers. Let's see....I don't mind if he is religious as long as its to a point. I would like him to be intelligent, not a genius, but average, so he can laugh at my odd sense of humor :P And of course, someone who loves the outdoors because I love going camping and kayaking and hopefully skydiving soon, when I get the money together. :) Someone who likes sports would also be nice because I love football. Oh and he has too be taller, definitely taller. Another thing, I would like it if he was clean, I’m not saying a neat freak but normal kind of clean. A plus would be nice eyes and hair, mainly eyes though, I love eyes, it says a lot about a person. Oh and a guy who isn't obsessive or jealous when I hang out with my guy friends. And a guy I can debate with, because I like to do that, and it helps to stimulate the mind. Also, a guy who likes animals because I absolutely love them, especially dogs! :D

Wow I didn't realize I wrote so much, ohh well :)

Um ... does it matter what age he is? :D:eek: Naughty!

( :p )

On-topic: An "ideal mate" is an oxymoron. The primary reason why you pick someone is because they have shortcomings and/or differences from what you imagined. A "perfect" relationship is boring and does not last. Therefore I won't attempt.

Besides, I tend to turn women off. Maybe it's the black cloak and hood, maybe they just don't like flashing red eyes, maybe it's the cold slimy feeling of long white spidery hands... who knows really. :D

well, after 9 years of being together, my wife is still mine :)


wouldn't trade her for anyone.



well, maybe j-lo.

or that cute blonde i seen today at the gas station..

that girl on the porn site today was hot too.....



;) (Just kidding of course!!!)

My ideal partner is someone who's not afraid of commitment and loyalty. Someone who is not too serious and love cats.

:eek: Naughty!

( :p )

On-topic: An "ideal mate" is an oxymoron. The primary reason why you pick someone is because they have shortcomings and/or differences from what you imagined. A "perfect" relationship is boring and does not last. Therefore I won't attempt.

Besides, I tend to turn women off. Maybe it's the black cloak and hood, maybe they just don't like flashing red eyes, maybe it's the cold slimy feeling of long white spidery hands... who knows really. :D

Are you just trying to sound gothic and shady? lol It doesn't sound that bad, I have friends like that who are very cool.

Are you just trying to sound gothic and shady? lol It doesn't sound that bad, I have friends like that who are very cool.Listen, a good description of me is a towering creature in black with a hood, red eyes, and hands that resemble giant white spiders with steel claws instead of nails, and are slimy to the touch. I was used as the model for Lord Voldemort in Harry Potter, just the said warlock doesn't know how to use sarcasm nearly as well. (;)) My name, translated, means "Claw of Death". So use that as a description.

Ok, lets see... If it were a guy, I would say 5'9'' to 6'1'', brown to black hair, brown eyes, doesn't burn too much in the summer. Sweet, kind, the type that has a never ending amount of patience with kids. The type that would be able to sit with you for hours talking about philosophical things, things that really have no meaning nor place in life; yet the kind that can sit down and take care of an important issue. The type that is not afraid to be a bit feminine, to be outside the norm. A sense of humor, a nonjudgemental way, a leftist way of thinking. Well educated, but not stuck up and snobby.

If it were to be a woman, I would have to say around my height, maybe a couple of inches taller. Also brunnette w/ dark eyes, although green is also OK. Basically, the same mental, emotional and political attributes as for a guy.

I can sum it all up with a quote: "I want a partner, male or female, that can be a cool tough guy to my damsel in distress and a damsel in distress to my cool tough guy." ~ Rebecca Walker. Yea... I don't like labels, but if I had to pick one I'd pick omnisexual- I'd love, date, and marry a person for who they are, no matter if they're male, female, undecided or somewhere in between.

Um ... does it matter what age he is? :D
the age isnt nearly as important as the money.

the age isnt nearly as important as the money.
LOL! Why am I not surprised? :p

Many women will make all sorts of allowances for age, looks, and other things if either money or power, or both, is there. Then again, guys will make all sorts of allowances for intellect, money, power, and other things if the looks are there. Seems like some sort of law of nature.

Undoubtedly I'll be pilloried for saying this, but it is nevertheless true:

While not absolutely essential, flexibility and the ability to suck a golf ball through a garden hose compensates for quite a bit of other failings in a woman.

That being said, the qualities I look for primarily in a woman are kindness, intelligence, and beauty, in that order. The two talents above can be taught later on.;)

LOL! Why am I not surprised? :p

Many women will make all sorts of allowances for age, looks, and other things if either money or power, or both, is there. Then again, guys will make all sorts of allowances for intellect, money, power, and other things if the looks are there. Seems like some sort of law of nature.
Yep!

Women are looking for people to take care of their children- namely, the rich and the powerful do it best. When they aren't cheating. However, many bastards have gotten far in society, so the plan does seem to work.


Men, on the other hand, simply want to have sex.

LOL! Why am I not surprised? :p

Many women will make all sorts of allowances for age, looks, and other things if either money or power, or both, is there. Then again, guys will make all sorts of allowances for intellect, money, power, and other things if the looks are there. Seems like some sort of law of nature.
yes but dont we all have the "dynamite in bed" part in common?

Undoubtedly I'll be pilloried for saying this, but it is nevertheless true:

While not absolutely essential, flexibility and the ability to suck a golf ball through a garden hose compensates for quite a bit of other failings in a woman.

That being said, the qualities I look for primarily in a woman are kindness, intelligence, and beauty, in that order. The two talents above can be taught later on.;)
Will the chrome off a trailer-hitch work just as well? :D

yes but dont we all have the "dynamite in bed" part in common?
If we're exceedingly lucky, yes. :)

LOL! Why am I not surprised? :p

Many women will make all sorts of allowances for age, looks, and other things if either money or power, or both, is there. Then again, guys will make all sorts of allowances for intellect, money, power, and other things if the looks are there. Seems like some sort of law of nature.Holy generalization, Batman!

Seriously, that's kind of harsh.
I will make "allowances" for age, looks, money, power, etc. for love. That's the way it should be.
We are all succeptable to making allowances for the things that actually matter if attraction or lust is there. That's human.

If we're exceedingly lucky, yes. :)
im married but if i found myself suddenly single, i would not be bothered with a man who couldnt keep me happy in bed.

Holy generalization, Batman!

Seriously, that's kind of harsh.
I will make "allowances" for age, looks, money, power, etc. for love. That's the way it should be.
We are all succeptable to making allowances for the things that actually matter if attraction or lust is there. That's human.
I don't know if that's the way it "should" be. I'm not very fond of "shoulds" and "oughts." But I certainly understand that we're all human. I married primarily for looks, but she was also very kind and loving to kids and the elderly and I admired that. Unfortunately, as soon as I was no longer making the big bucks with Exxon, after the oil bust back in the late 80s, she was no longer much interested in me. Sigh. ( shrug ) Live and learn, I suppose.

Ouch! Been there. Hope it goes well. :)
me too, but so far it's not going all that great. Yeah I took her to a movie, but it was nothing special. I think maybe I should just give up, I've tried so hard to make friends with her and have gotten nothing in return so many times, I'm just starting to make an ass of myself. *sigh*

me --> :( :mp5: :mp5: :mp5:

im married but if i found myself suddenly single, i would not be bothered with a man who couldnt keep me happy in bed.
That's perfectly understandable. I am single ... again ... and would not expect a woman to be bothered with me if I wouldn't make the effort to keep her happy in bed. :)

Found her, but had to leave her behind to go to a third world country and work for Doctors Without Borders. Waiting for the assignment now. Hopefully she'll still be there for me when I return.

Apart from that - pointy ears is a plus. :p

Male:


Physically
-Tall (6'1"+)
-Dark hair
-Green eyes

Other Stuff
-Can carry on a good conversation
-Likes to cook
-Enjoys being active
-Is content to not go out every night
-Intelligent
-Is confident with himself
-Can be warm and caring towards myself and others
-Willing to try new things/Open minded
-Is charming
-Has a good sense of his own personal style
-Charismatic
-Is creative and somewhat artistic
-Knows how to have fun
-Doesn't have to be around 24/7 (around enough that I don't have to ask for time with him, but away enough that I don't have to ask for space)
-Spontaneous
-Willing to travel
-Likes things neat and orderly (since I'm obsessive about how clean and orderly things are)
-Adapts to different situations easily

Thread that I copied and pasted this from.... (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=412370)

Or just Maciej :), that works too.

Describe your ideal mate. Don't just post physical attributes, but you want her/him to be like socially, fiscally, politically, mentally, and fiscally.

I married her. :D


P.S. Even if I didn't believe that with all my heart(and I do), my wife is armed. :p

I'm looking for that woman with honor and integrity. I know there's many of them out there, but I can't seem find even one. At least not one who's single.

There's more I'm looking for, but those qualities seem to be hardest to find!

Describe your ideal mate. Don't just post physical attributes, but you want her/him to be like socially, fiscally, politically, mentally, and fiscally.

You said fiscally twice. Nice.

Anyhoo, my “ideal mate” would be a sweet, Christian, conservative, relatively shy girl. Looks aren’t too important as long as she sincerely tries to stay in shape, considering that I do the same. I’d prefer her to be intellectually average and fiscally average to below average, because, in addition to being a set-for-life intellectual, I am also egotistical.

Lae... ;x 'nuff said...

You said fiscally twice. Nice.

Anyhoo, my “ideal mate” would be a sweet, Christian, conservative, relatively shy girl. Looks aren’t too important as long as she sincerely tries to stay in shape, considering that I do the same. I’d prefer her to be intellectually average and fiscally average to below average, because, in addition to being a set-for-life intellectual, I am also egotistical.

;x You're both worthy of the sarcastic, "Nice" comment..

You spelled Physically wrong ;x

;x You're both worthy of the sarcastic, "Nice" comment..

You spelled Physically wrong ;x

Uhh, I didn’t use the word “physically” in my post…

Uhh, I didn’t use the word “physically” in my post…


Did so, when you were commenting about how the guy who started the thread said 'fisically twice'... you spelled it wrong too. Its really physically ;x... Sorry, Im a spelling freak, Im going to be an English teacher someday..

Did so, when you were commenting about how the guy who started the thread said 'fisically twice'... you spelled it wrong too. Its really physically ;x... Sorry, Im a spelling freak, Im going to be an English teacher someday..

No. I wrote fiscally, as in money.

Sweet, then it IS just my eyes. ;x Im tired as hell and Ive been making stupid errors all night. Thanks dude.

One that thinks as I do and is also a follower of the great leader Comrade Stalin. How can I be with her if she disagrees with Great Stalin and his methods. If she is not a Stalinist then it cannot work.

Ideal? I don't know, honestly. I don't think such a thing exists.

But as for preferences: No physical preferences (as long as the person's not too shabby and dirty), no fiscal preferences though the person should be able to handle money responsibly, no religious preferences as long as the person is no fanatic or expects me to change according to their belief, no political preference, no preference as to sex as I'm bisexual.

BUT the person would have to be intelligent, have at least some education and intellectual interest, tolerant, open-minded regarding sex, and original. I'm an immensly curious person, I always appreciate learning new things and passing on that knowledge, so my partner really should be the same.
I adore people who are just themselves, who don't have to prove a thing, who have an original character, who don't hide behind stereotypes or other people's opinions.

I don't think you could describe an ideal mate... maybe I'm just naive

My personal belief is that God has someone perfect for me somewhere out there in the world and describing someone is just pointless cause this guy probably won't be what I imagine my ideal mate to be like (as in what I think right now) but God knows that he is...

Am i making sense...?

I don't think you could describe an ideal mate... maybe I'm just naive

My personal belief is that God has someone perfect for me somewhere out there in the world and describing someone is just pointless cause this guy probably won't be what I imagine my ideal mate to be like (as in what I think right now) but God knows that he is...

Am i making sense...?

Depends... how old are you?

1. She has to be smart.

If a girl has little upstairs...I generally ignore them.

2. Blonde is prefered, but not required.
Actually, anything but redheads..too many bad experiences with Reds.
In fact...dangerous things in nature come in red...they come with a warning label.

3. Has to have good musical tastes.
She doesnt have to like everything I like, and vice-versa, but excellent musical tastes are required.

4.Must have love of dogs.
Not negotiable.

5.Must have been born with extreme patience.
If she does not have the patience of Job...shes not gonna put up with me long.

6. This one is most important..and a bit strange, but its has come up in the past....

She cannot be both mother, and girlfriend.
Im not looking to date my mother, and thus nurture is okay...but smothering isnt acceptable.

No one wants to get crazy in the sack with thier mother....and yes, guys like to be taken care of, but there have to be clear boundaries, where too much smothering and attachment are not always wanted.

Any guys feel me on this one, and went through anything like this?

Well...thats about it.
Thats my dream woman.

I doubt she exists, and if she does..she could probably do better than me, anyway.

Depends... how old are you?

15yrs and about a month :D

15yrs and about a month :D

In that case, yes you're making sense ;)

In that case, yes you're making sense ;)

I feel like someones making fun of me... :(

:p well how old are you to act so smart and knowing?

I feel like someones making fun of me... :(

:p well how old are you to act so smart and knowing?


I dont think hes making fun of you.

I think hes trying to say that you're a 15 year old christian girl, and you are just beginning to figure out what kind of boy "turns your crank" , (no vulgaraity intended)

So..in a sense...your perfectly normal.

I feel like someones making fun of me... :(

:p well how old are you to act so smart and knowing?

Old enough to start lying about my age ;) (Don't ask a Lady that, you know that her best years are the ten years between her 29th and her 30th birthday)

No, I'm not making fun of you.
I hope it'll turn out the way you think, as that would really be an ideal case. But don't be disappointed if it doesn't.
If you had been my age and giving that answer, I would have considered you a bit ... well, inexperienced.

I don't think you could describe an ideal mate... maybe I'm just naive

My personal belief is that God has someone perfect for me somewhere out there in the world and describing someone is just pointless cause this guy probably won't be what I imagine my ideal mate to be like (as in what I think right now) but God knows that he is...

Am i making sense...?

Makes sense to me.

Someone with a lot of patience :)

...Okay, a LOT of patience. Somebody who doesn't mind hearing a joke twice...or so...or more. Someone who can listen to me as I rant, and rant at me so I can listen. Communication is important, I like to communicate, its fun to know what someone's thinking without asking, but its more important that they feel comfortable telling you.

Someone who's capable of giving and taking. So she can give me what I need, even if I don't always want it...and someone who can take all my little eccentricities, add her own, and come up with something special.

They don't have to be like me; variety is the spice of life.

They don't have to look like anything or anyone specific; women are beautiful to me.

Age doesn't matter, but maturity does. They have to be immature enough to appreciate the silly, stupid things I do for fun, and mature enough to know when I should buckle down and stop playing.

They probably should speak the same language...non-verbal commuication is fun...but its hard to get directions to the drugstore that way.

They don't have to like the same things that I do, but really, if that's a requirement somehow, I'm screwed. I mean, how many strategy-obsessed, gamer-geek, nymphomaniac, bookworms of the female persuasion are there?

Ok thanks guys, I'm just paranoid at the moment and I seem to think everyone is laughing at me... hmm maybe that came from spending 24 hrs with people who were laughing at me, lol

CW: lol I was wondering after I posted it if I should have or not...

Someone with a lot of patience :)



They don't have to like the same things that I do, but really, if that's a requirement somehow, I'm screwed. I mean, how many strategy-obsessed, gamer-geek, nymphomaniac, bookworms of the female persuasion are there?

not enough, I tell you.

They don't have to like the same things that I do, but really, if that's a requirement somehow, I'm screwed. I mean, how many strategy-obsessed, gamer-geek, nymphomaniac, bookworms of the female persuasion are there?


*lol Take away the first two and you've got a pretty good description of me right there ;)

*lol Take away the first two and you've got a pretty good description of me right there ;)


How do you feel about golden retrivers, and Black Sabbath?

Her names Aerou you may know her.

How do you feel about golden retrivers, and Black Sabbath?

I like Black Sabbath, but I'm a cat person at heart. Sorry

I like Black Sabbath, but I'm a cat person at heart. Sorry

See, and I like cats, but I'm only barely familiar with Black Sabbath. ;) That's the rub, now ain't it? Humans are endlessly complex; just finding someone you can come home to is often enough.

I like Black Sabbath, but I'm a cat person at heart. Sorry


Sigh....

So I suppose I should return this ring then?

See, and I like cats, but I'm only barely familiar with Black Sabbath. ;) That's the rub, now ain't it? Humans are endlessly complex; just finding someone you can come home to is often enough.

True, very true. You wouldn't believe the kind of relationship I'm having at the moment ;)

Btw, I like almost everykind of music, with the exception of Techno. So, I'm familiar with Black Sabbath, but it's not my favourite

*lol Take away the first two and you've got a pretty good description of me right there ;)


WHY CANT I FIND ANYONE LIKE THAT HERE?! * :headbang: :headbang: :headbang: :headbang: :headbang:


At least ones that are single!

Sigh....

So I suppose I should return this ring then?

Ah, don't. You never know who you might meet tomorrow, and a ring can always come in handy. ;)

I missed lashie by about 15 minutes. This is really not my day. :headbang:

Describe your ideal mate. Don't just post physical attributes, but you want her/him to be like socially, fiscally, politically, mentally, and fiscally.


I already have him, and we're very happy, but thanks anyway.

WHY CANT I FIND ANYONE LIKE THAT HERE?! * :headbang: :headbang: :headbang: :headbang: :headbang:


At least ones that are single!

Hmm... where is "here"?

Hmm... where is "here"?


South-ish London or more affectiatly known as "Barren Wasteland" where the local town councils anthem is "ARE YOU LONESOME TONIGHT"

South-ish London or more affectiatly known as "Barren Wasteland" where the local town councils anthem is "ARE YOU LONESOME TONIGHT"

Sounds depressing... if it's that bad, why not leave and look for greener pastures? ;)

Never been invited to before I suppose, can you recommend anywhere? ;)

Never been invited to before I suppose, can you recommend anywhere? ;)

Well, from the way you describe it, everything apart maybe from the Sahara might be better.
Dublin definitely is a nice and lively place, and so's Montreal. ;)

I can sum up my ideal mate in one word: Cait. Unfortunately I don't think I'm her ideal mate

Actually, I have a question for all of you:

Tell me if you think I would be anyone's ideal mate:

1. I am very intelligent (very well read, including philosophy, poetry, political science, the "classics" and everything else I can get my hands on). I have an advanced degree.
2. People tell me I should be a comedy writer because of my wit.
3. I hike, run and bike regularly (at least 5 times a week, if not more)
4. I travel for pleasure (I've been to many countries)
5. I volunteer at a shelter for battered women. I try to give back to the community as much as possible.
6. I have really bright blue eyes and shoulder length reddish/brown hair.
7. I laugh easily and don't judge people.
*8. I am 5'7 and weight 275lbs.

So, what do you think?

Actually, I have a question for all of you:

Tell me if you think I would be anyone's ideal mate:

1. I am very intelligent (very well read, including philosophy, poetry, political science, the "classics" and everything else I can get my hands on). I have an advanced degree.
2. People tell me I should be a comedy writer because of my wit.
3. I hike, run and bike regularly (at least 5 times a week, if not more)
4. I travel for pleasure (I've been to many countries)
5. I volunteer at a shelter for battered women. I try to give back to the community as much as possible.
6. I have really bright blue eyes and shoulder length reddish/brown hair.
7. I laugh easily and don't judge people.
*8. I am 5'7 and weight 275lbs.

So, what do you think?

Of course you'd make a perfect mate for someone...who, I'm not sure. Same way I'm not sure about who'd be my perfect mate. You might find your perfect mate is someone you'd never consider if you read about them on paper, but meeting them a "vibe" just kicked in.

Or you might meet someone else volunteering at the shelter that just clicked with you, shared all your interests, and was the perfect compliment to you. Or you could ram them in a car accident and get to talking as you filled out insurance forms together. Anything's possible.

That's the maddening fun that is human interaction. Gods, I love it. I wouldn't have it any other way. :)

Actually, I have a question for all of you:

Tell me if you think I would be anyone's ideal mate:

1. I am very intelligent (very well read, including philosophy, poetry, political science, the "classics" and everything else I can get my hands on). I have an advanced degree.
2. People tell me I should be a comedy writer because of my wit.
3. I hike, run and bike regularly (at least 5 times a week, if not more)
4. I travel for pleasure (I've been to many countries)
5. I volunteer at a shelter for battered women. I try to give back to the community as much as possible.
6. I have really bright blue eyes and shoulder length reddish/brown hair.
7. I laugh easily and don't judge people.
*8. I am 5'7 and weight 275lbs.

So, what do you think?

I think you either have a typographical error or you're seeing if people even read this- You hike run or bike at least 5 times a week, but you're 5 foot seven and 275 POUNDS?

7. I laugh easily and don't judge people

If you can find another human being who claims to deny one of the basic aspects of being human, then you should be fine.

"Linda was mine, till the time, that I found her, holding Jim, and loving him. Sue came along, love was strong, thats what I thought.
Me and Sue..but that died too.

Dont know that I will, but until, love can find me, a girl who'll stay, and wont play games behind me.
I'll be what what I am..a solitary man."

Actually, I have a question for all of you:

Tell me if you think I would be anyone's ideal mate:

1. I am very intelligent (very well read, including philosophy, poetry, political science, the "classics" and everything else I can get my hands on). I have an advanced degree.
2. People tell me I should be a comedy writer because of my wit.
3. I hike, run and bike regularly (at least 5 times a week, if not more)
4. I travel for pleasure (I've been to many countries)
5. I volunteer at a shelter for battered women. I try to give back to the community as much as possible.
6. I have really bright blue eyes and shoulder length reddish/brown hair.
7. I laugh easily and don't judge people.
*8. I am 5'7 and weight 275lbs.

So, what do you think?

People like you don't exist. They're just urban legends, like the loch ness monster, or Myrth.

I have my ideal mate-my wife. She is my best friend, shes beautiful, gentle, understanding. She gave birth to my three children and takes great care of our family. She tolerates me, she is a great cook and keeps all our affairs in order. I couldnt ask for more and wouldnt deserve more anyway.

I have my ideal mate-my wife. She is my best friend, shes beautiful, gentle, understanding. She gave birth to my three children and takes great care of our family. She tolerates me, she is a great cook and keeps all our affairs in order. I couldnt ask for more and wouldnt deserve more anyway.

I wan't to grow up just so that I can say things like that. Gloat about having a wife and kids. Yeah, rubbing it in why don't you. It's not just old people that are insecure about their age you know.

Fortyish hippie bellydancer, toxically sweet.

I wan't to grow up just so that I can say things like that. Gloat about having a wife and kids. Yeah, rubbing it in why don't you. It's not just old people that are insecure about their age you know.


I'm really not gloating!!! I'm 38-I would love to be 20 again. I'm just really thankful to have made it to this stage of the game and to have a truly wonderful wife and kids. I'm very lucky.
I do have a huge mortgage and assorted bills hanging over my head and I have no idea what I will do when my 11 year old is getting ready for college...then my 6 year old, then my 1 1/2 yr old. Its freaking scary.Sometimes I feel like a 20 yr old with the responsibilities of a 38 yr old. And the knees of a 60 yr old.

Dont be insecure- Live Man! Get all the living in that you can. Travel and take classes. Soon enough , you may be foregoing those things so you can provide them for the people you love.

One of my goals in finding a wife was;

1. Find someone who could at least understand why I found my jokes funny, if not actually agree they were funny.
2. Liked Loud Music
3. Could tolerate a computer geek.
and
4. Beautiful Redhead.

Considering I've been married to her for eight years, I think I've succeeded.

One of my goals in finding a wife was;

1. Find someone who could at least understand why I found my jokes funny, if not actually agree they were funny.
2. Liked Loud Music
3. Could tolerate a computer geek.
and
4. Beautiful Redhead.

Considering I've been married to her for eight years, I think I've succeeded.


I would agree.

I have absolutely no idea how or what my wife's political views are or how they are arrived at. It really isn't any of my business.

We get along well, that is/was my only requirement.

Actually, I have a question for all of you:

Tell me if you think I would be anyone's ideal mate:

1. I am very intelligent (very well read, including philosophy, poetry, political science, the "classics" and everything else I can get my hands on). I have an advanced degree.
2. People tell me I should be a comedy writer because of my wit.
3. I hike, run and bike regularly (at least 5 times a week, if not more)
4. I travel for pleasure (I've been to many countries)
5. I volunteer at a shelter for battered women. I try to give back to the community as much as possible.
6. I have really bright blue eyes and shoulder length reddish/brown hair.
7. I laugh easily and don't judge people.
*8. I am 5'7 and weight 275lbs.

So, what do you think?

of course youre someones ideal mate. you have too much to offer to not be perfect for someone

i expect the question is "is the man for whom you are ideal, ideal for YOU?"

Mexican.

I think you either have a typographical error or you're seeing if people even read this- You hike run or bike at least 5 times a week, but you're 5 foot seven and 275 POUNDS?


Guess what? It's NOT a typographical error. Heavy people can actually BE FIT!! Surprised? Get your head out of the stereotypes and into reality.

Now, I ask again, given the whole list, is it possible for people to see an "ideal mate" who is 5'7 and 275??

of course youre someones ideal mate. you have too much to offer to not be perfect for someone

i expect the question is "is the man for whom you are ideal, ideal for YOU?"

No, no, no. Given the WHOLE list, including #8....what do you think now?

Guess what? It's NOT a typographical error. Heavy people can actually BE FIT!! Surprised? Get your head out of the stereotypes and into reality.

Now, I ask again, given the whole list, is it possible for people to see an "ideal mate" who is 5'7 and 275??


I'm sorry- even with your snippy response- 5'7" and 275 pounds? This is reality- I dont pay attention to any stereo types, my friend. Thats about 100 to 120 pounds overweight. Dont expect anyone to believe you're fit, if this is in fact, your correct height and weight. I have no bias against overweight people.
This is by no means a personal attack, but I'm not getting past the claim of running at that size.

Hmmm....Sounds like there's a fight brewing on this thread. What's wrong with being fit, yet heavy? Its possible.

I'm just 6'1" and I weigh 275 pounds. I'm built like a tank, looking quite stocky despite my height. Sure I'm not completely fit, but I'm not "100lbs overweight" or anything near it. I'm just heavily muscled after years of weightlifting and football. Most BMI charts have caveats for such people, "May not be applicable to some people, like Atheletes" and such.

If I lost more than 25lbs I'd be cutting off limbs to achive it!

"All sugars, gone. MAUNALLY!" (ATHF quote)

There is more than one "body type" in this world. Some people simply wear weight easily, others show every little pound. To suggest otherwise is folly, and possibly the reason so many get defensive about their physical stats.

What matters is how you look, and feel...both to yourself and your ideal mate ;)

No, no, no. Given the WHOLE list, including #8....what do you think now?
yes koko, i read the list. the WHOLE list.

big people get married too. to spouses who love them just the way they are.

i wonder if you are too defensive about it to accept the advances of a man who prefers large women.

Hmmm....Sounds like there's a fight brewing on this thread. What's wrong with being fit, yet heavy? Its possible.

I'm just 6'1" and I weigh 275 pounds. I'm built like a tank, looking quite stocky despite my height. Sure I'm not completely fit, but I'm not "100lbs overweight" or anything near it. I'm just heavily muscled after years of weightlifting and football. Most BMI charts have caveats for such people, "May not be applicable to some people, like Atheletes" and such.

If I lost more than 25lbs I'd be cutting off limbs to achive it!

"All sugars, gone. MAUNALLY!" (ATHF quote)

There is more than one "body type" in this world. Some people simply wear weight easily, others show every little pound. To suggest otherwise is folly, and possibly the reason so many get defensive about their physical stats.

What matters is how you look, and feel...both to yourself and your ideal mate ;)
Perzactly!

Dude! I could have used your help in 'Nam! :D

I don't think you could describe an ideal mate... maybe I'm just naive

My personal belief is that God has someone perfect for me somewhere out there in the world and describing someone is just pointless cause this guy probably won't be what I imagine my ideal mate to be like (as in what I think right now) but God knows that he is...

Am i making sense...?
Sorta.

My oldest daughter use to say something very similar, but then stayed in her room every hour while not in school. Finally I asked her, "Do you think God is going to bust open the cieling of that room and just drop a man in your lap? Get out of there and LOOK! God helps those who put forth effort."

Socially: Not too rich, lest she be on the wrong side of the class war :p
Politically: Left wing and anti-authoritarian, unsurprizingly
Physically: small waist, huge hips, butt, and thighs, short red hair

Perzactly!

Dude! I could have used your help in 'Nam! :D

I comes down to teaching people how to use what they have. Combat, love, education, its all about doing the best you can with what you have. That means taking advantage of your body, you mind, and focusing.

Take a martial arts class, you don't expect a 130 pound little woman to use iron body techniques as easily as a 250 pound linebacker from the St. Louis Rams, do you? Sure, she can learn them, and even use them with the same or greater skill as any man alive, but her BODY is suited for other techniques.

180lbs is this mystical number to some fitness gurus as the "ideal" we males should all aspire to...And its a made-up, fictional, mythical number. Somebody pulled it out of their ass many, many years ago. It possibly makes for a good number for an "average" weight for European decendants living in the US...beyond that, who knows?

The average weight of an Asian man is considerably less than an European, so are they "too light"? No...again, common sense tells us that its simply a matter of body type.

Its just common sense. If KoKo Pachu and Nakas is built sturdy and is fit as a fiddle, that's the way they turned out. Its NOT a sign of an unfit, overweight person or anything like it. Male or Female, we are all built differently.

Great personality.

Anything else is just wall hangings and decoration.

Besides, I found mine, we're moving in together later this year.

We're even making (yes making, not buying, not simply decorating, making) a dinner service together.

Well, physical isn't all that important too me, but I would like her to be at least moderately intelligent, friendly, and capable of liking my wierd sense of humor. If that's even possible. I'd prefer if religion-wise she wasn't a devout anything, because I have a tendency to make fun of all forms of religion plus athiesm. And she couldn't be an ideologue of any sort. That would sort of ruin any relationship. Hmm... I'd like it if she had brown eyes. That's about it, though.

This is for the Brits but my ideal mates would be: Paul Merton, Baddiel & Skinner and Ricky Gervais

Sorta.

My oldest daughter use to say something very similar, but then stayed in her room every hour while not in school. Finally I asked her, "Do you think God is going to bust open the cieling of that room and just drop a man in your lap? Get out of there and LOOK! God helps those who put forth effort."

Oh yeah, don't worry I live life and meet guys too :D

Oh yeah, don't worry I live life and meet guys too :D

You're making me jealous you realize?

liberal, non-religious, smart, ambitious, respectable, doesn't have to be a supermodel but be at least so-so

liberal, non-religious, smart, ambitious, respectable, doesn't have to be a supermodel but be at least so-so

Any particular ambitions? Ambition to be a good mother, to be an academic, to become the Prime Ministers secretary? Or doesn't it really matter?

8 foot tall with eyes of fire and muscles to beat off all others from me, but otherwise a lovely lady, with a nice personality who laughs at my horrible jokes and doesn't run off with my pet rabbit Jerry.

You're making me jealous you realize?

You'll live :rolleyes:

I comes down to teaching people how to use what they have. Combat, love, education, its all about doing the best you can with what you have. That means taking advantage of your body, you mind, and focusing.

Take a martial arts class, you don't expect a 130 pound little woman to use iron body techniques as easily as a 250 pound linebacker from the St. Louis Rams, do you? Sure, she can learn them, and even use them with the same or greater skill as any man alive, but her BODY is suited for other techniques.

180lbs is this mystical number to some fitness gurus as the "ideal" we males should all aspire to...And its a made-up, fictional, mythical number. Somebody pulled it out of their ass many, many years ago. It possibly makes for a good number for an "average" weight for European decendants living in the US...beyond that, who knows?

The average weight of an Asian man is considerably less than an European, so are they "too light"? No...again, common sense tells us that its simply a matter of body type.

Its just common sense. If KoKo Pachu and Nakas is built sturdy and is fit as a fiddle, that's the way they turned out. Its NOT a sign of an unfit, overweight person or anything like it. Male or Female, we are all built differently.

Yep, that's about right. But I BET people could never get past size...a shame isn't it. Luckily, I live with a wonderful man who likes a hefty woman, though I am VERY solid and don't jiggle anywhere...YAY!