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Would you marry someone with slightly different views, provided they weren't too different? Or would you marry someone with completely opposite views? Would you marry someone with any kind of views, so long as they weren't too radical? Or...?

Please explain.

Would you marry someone with slightly different views, provided they weren't too different? Or would you marry someone with completely opposite views? Would you marry someone with any kind of views, so long as they weren't too radical? Or...?

Please explain.

Slighty Different: Yes
Completely Opposite: No
Any kind, provided not too radical: Depends.


I probably wouldn't marry any conservative or authoritarian, that might be about it. Oh, and full-blown commies.

Hmmm...I don't think I could have married someone who had very different views on issues that are really important to me, but it's okay to disagree on the small stuff. If fact, I think it would be boring to always agree completely.

I voted other.

To mean, the radicalness of the views plays some factor...but a larger factor than that is their passion...if they simply have different political beliefs than me, but aren't adamant about discussing them all the time and continuously trying to meet a common ground, and can't simply agree to disagree, then I would not be able to put up with them.

who cares polically where they stand. if it is opposite of where I stand, then politics just won't be discussed in the home.

Well, my boyfriend is on the completely opposite end of the political spectrum, so I guess it wouldn't be TOO far-fetched :D

I don't take my politics that seriously.

However, if they were radical enough to where they would clash with my morality, i.e. militantly racist, revolutionary, then I wouldn't associate with them.

Well, it depends on their reasons for their beliefs. I could probably go with a moralist democrat or a compassionate republican but I would never want to be with a libertarian.

Yes. I would.

But only as long as they shared the deep love for Jazz that I do.

Of course.

Religion is the first priority.
Our relationship is second.
Parents third.

Politics and money very down the list....

If politics can overcome love, then you've already lost.

No I wouldn't.

But as I don't intend on marrying anyone that shouldn't be surprising.

I'm not planning on getting remarried, but my girlfriend and I have been together for nearly five years, and have been living together for over four, so we're about as married as we can get without the actual paperwork.

That said, as to the actual question on the thread--no, I couldn't marry someone whose political views were far afield of my own. Don't get me wrong--we have political disagreements, but on minor topics, and usually of the how to implement a policy rather than on the policy itself type.

I can understand how people to whom politics is not their overwhelming concern could be happily attached to someone who disagrees with them, even on a basic level--people marry outside their faiths all the time, after all--but just as it's unusual for two religiously devout people to marry outside their faiths, I think it's difficult for two very politically active people who disagree on a fundamental level to make it as a couple. That's part of the reason I don't trust James Carville--I can't see how he can truly be progressive and yet be so close to a right-wing hack like his wife Mary Matalin.

...This question seems really stupid to me. And yet people are treating it with dignity.

*sigh* Yes. Yes I would.

...This question seems really stupid to me. And yet people are treating it with dignity.Maybe because it's a serious question the response to which depends on the person.

If politics can overcome love, then you've already lost.

Well, I tend to love with my mind to a certain degree, so a political view that I can not morally accept would be enough to destroy whatever feelings I have. If my feelings are disrupted by disagreements of morality, then it never was love. Ultimately my heart is easy to get but my mind is what has to accept someone for me to love them.

My libertarian and capitalist views mean I could never live with the majority of the filthy hippies, rabid, hypocritical liberals and ultra-conservatives that infest these forums ;)

I'm bush like. I am a conservative, or thats what dick says I am, and I married a woman with different politicaly views than me. For instance I think all "laberal" pussies need to be shoot in the head and she thanks only so of them do. LABERLA LABERAL LABERAL!!!!!!!!

It depends. If the person is on the extreme Left or the extreme Right, no, I would not marry them partly because it is not very likely that I would start dating them in first place. I would not have problem marrying someone with different political beliefs mine as long as that they were respectful of my beliefs. I study politics so it is something that think about a lot so if they are respectful of my political views, they are not respectful of what I do. I rather marry someone that has different politicals view than someone that has the same views that is intolerant of all other political views. People like that annoy me greatly. I expect people that wish to express their views strongly to be at least willing to listen to the views of others.

I wouldn't be able to go out with a woman who doesn't recycle, compost, and take care of the environment *in general*. This includes NOT buying cool new stuff until our old stuff breaks down. I HATE wasting perfectly working objects or products. I hate wasting food.
I also find it extremely important to eat well, EAT LOCAL, and cook what we eat (not eat too much fast food or chemical stuff).

While I'm not an tree-hugging nutcase, but these are very important values for me.

I think every choice we make about what we eat or buy, about our activities, is moral and important.
And I'm also quite a "balanced liberal", so any extreme is likely to itch my near-centrist political nerves.

Sure, as long as my views are acknowledged as the "correct ones" in any and all political discussions. :D

My libertarian and capitalist views mean I could never live with the majority of the filthy hippies, rabid, hypocritical liberals and ultra-conservatives that infest these forums ;)

What if she was a big breasted nympho who's father owned a brewery?


(Or the male equivilent if you're a girl)

Anarcho-Syndicalists only I'm afraid. Otherwise I'll shoot you as soon as talk to you.

I think it would be very difficult to marry someone of different political views than me because they are very entrenched in me and I firmly believe in them. Marrying someone of quite different political views would probably cause me to start many arguments.

The question presumes that you meet someone and find their personality attractive (maybe the physical features too) and that you "fall in love".

Wouldn't it be prudent to consider that if you "fall in love" then you have already discovered the things that are attractive (including view points).

How can you "fall in love" without getting to know a person first?

If indeed, their political viewpoint(s) are extreme or contrary to your own, (or any point of view that is extreme or totally contrary to your own) wouldn't that inhibit the act of "falling in love"?

If we lived in a society where marriages were arranged for us (and yes I am aware that this still happens in some sections of society - but I'm talking in general), and we still had the option to veto that arrangement, then this question would be more pertinent.

So my answer is Yes, no matter how differing the viewpoint is.........if I had already fallen in love with the person then I can't imagine any attitude or opinion they might have wouldn't have already been considered during the act of "falling in love".

I equate love with like. I can't imagine how any human being can "fall in love" with another without liking them first.

That doesn't detract from the fact that although I love my partner very very much, they can be an idiot sometimes......and guess what ......... so can I.

I could tolerate any of the three major branches of socialism (anarchist, marxist, democratic socialist) pretty much fine and dandy. I'd find it somewhat difficult coping with a liberal as they just make me laugh. Conservatives, nazis, fascists, stalinists are definately off the list and im not sure about libertarians. Politics are quite important to me so this is definately an important issue

Well, as a person whose politics is pretty much that government needs to stay out of everyone’s business, I find myself, for some odd reason that I have yet to explain, attracted to paleo-conservatives and neo-cons. I can not, for the life of me, figure out just what is so attractive about a girl who can be that politically naïve.

So, to answer the question, yes I would.

It's best to marry someone if you love them, not for political compatability.

I'm well left on the political spectrum, and I enjoy conversations with intelligent conservatives. (Yes, they do exist.) Political diversity helps drive the world... honestly, it's better to talk politics with someone you disagree with than someone who mirrors your views. Furthermore, people who are informed in politics generally have views on almost everything... finding someone who fits every aspect of that code is nearly impossible. And, as has been said before, marriage is about love, not politics.

Marrying someone of quite different political views would probably cause me to start many arguments.
Arguments aren't bad... when they don't pertain to the relationship, arguments within a relationship can actually breed greater understanding and stronger bonds.

The concept of "compatibility" -- based off of similarities -- is a lie.

I did marry a girl with different views than myself. As she matured and gained responsibilities, her views changed and are much more in accordance with mine now.

It's strange ... I would have no problem marrying someone of a different race, religion, culture, etc. But different political views would be tough. I guess I am just too political ...