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*Most of you know by now that I've always got sex on the brain, but I just want to make it clear, I do not cheat on my husband, despite what you may infer from the nature of some of my posts.*

So. There is a very obvious affair going on in my office. The two people involved are married to others. Another couple, not married to others, were recently caught in a compromising situation, and no one has suspected they were even seeing one another. They were both fired. The OBVIOUS affair was never brought up.

What do you think about office affairs? Whether it involves cheating, or not? Does your workplace have a policy on this? For example, some places don't allow spouses or partners to work together.

Perhaps because of all this, I had a very explicit dream about a coworker last night, and I can't help but be rather uncomfortable around him today. Actually, I'm trying hard to avoid him completely. Anyone else had that experience?

I've fired people for having sex at work. I figure if you want to have sex, you can go to your car, or get a hotel room. I could care less that you're cheating from a business perspective.

If your relationship problems cause a problem that's brought to my attention, and is affecting morale, then it's my problem.

I do have a personal animus towards people who cheat. I've seen it too many times.

If people are going to cheat, don't do it around me. I don't want to see it and I don't want to hear about it.

Regarding your last paragraph, Sinuhue, yes I have, though it was not exactly the same. it was just weird, but amusing.

I was getting a life home from one of my friends dads one time, and at the traffic lights, I had the strongest mental compulsion and image to simply lean right over and give him the single biggest kiss I have ever wanted to give.

No idea why. Made me uncomfortable for the rest of the ride home though, I'll tell you!

As for office affairs, I'm not against them between consenting individuals, together or cheating. Although if they were to be caught "in a compromising position" -that's not what the workplace is for!
As for them cheating, that's for them to sort out. Sacking them won't end the affair.

First of all, I don't know what posts you're referring to, but I've never thought for a minute that you would be the kind of person to cheat on her husband. I think you flirt just as much as anyone else here, but it's just an internet forum. Methinks you're too hard on yourself.

Secondly, if the couple that is involved in the obvious affair keeps it from interfereing in their workplace duties, then all there can be is people talking behind their backs. So long as they're not doing anything to hinder their job, then it's their business to cheat on their spouses. Hopefully they'll get what's coming to them.

On the other hand, if the other couple was caught together when they should have been working, then that's definately something to be at least reprimanded for. They should have kept it to themselves. I personally don't have any problems with co-workers dating, but I've been subject to co-workers being unable to keep their hands off of each other during work, in front of customers, instead of doing their jobs, making me do their work too. It's frustrating.

As for your dream, that's unfortunate. I would only just remind you that it's just a dream, regardless of how explicit it was, and it is perfectly natural. It's nothing to be ashamed of or uncomfortable with, but I won't tell you how to feel.

*Most of you know by now that I've always got sex on the brain, but I just want to make it clear, I do not cheat on my husband, despite what you may infer from the nature of some of my posts.*

So. There is a very obvious affair going on in my office. The two people involved are married to others. Another couple, not married to others, were recently caught in a compromising situation, and no one has suspected they were even seeing one another. They were both fired. The OBVIOUS affair was never brought up.

What do you think about office affairs? Whether it involves cheating, or not? Does your workplace have a policy on this? For example, some places don't allow spouses or partners to work together.

Perhaps because of all this, I had a very explicit dream about a coworker last night, and I can't help but be rather uncomfortable around him today. Actually, I'm trying hard to avoid him completely. Anyone else had that experience?

I had an affair with a married colleague. It was the worst mistake of my life. Didn't really have as much to do with the working together issue as much as the moral downfall on my part and emotional chaos it created.

It has had very few negative consequences here at work, though a former boss did try to make life difficult for a while, but mostly because she was jealous rather than wanting to stop "office romances". We both still work here, but haven't spoken face to face for almost 4 years now.

As for your aviodance of your colleague, probably a good idea.

I have office fantasies. About a pay raise.

Yeah, I don't like cheating, either. If I catch someone cheating, I eject them from the UN.

--The Jovial States of Cogitation

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Okay, seriously? I don't know what my workplace policy is because I've never had need to know the policy. A bit of poking around only turns up that "indecent conduct" is prohibited; it doesn't elaborate. I assume that being caught having sex would qualify as "indecent".

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

I have office fantasies. About a pay raise.
Don't we ALL!!!

Okay, seriously? I don't know what my workplace policy is because I've never had need to know the policy. A bit of poking around only turns up that "indecent conduct" is prohibited; it doesn't elaborate. I assume that being caught having sex would qualify as "indecent".

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

Depending on how you mean it, I suppose "poking around" might also qualify as "indecent." Bah, this culture is so puritannical though.

Don't we ALL!!!

Not the anticapitalists! Money is theft and the more you have of it, the more evil and oppressive you are, therefore it makes sense that anticapitalists prefer low-paying jobs or even volunteer work.

Not the anticapitalists! Money is theft and the more you have of it, the more evil and oppressive you are, therefore it makes sense that anticapitalists prefer low-paying jobs or even volunteer work.

Silly, naive, SB.

I'm anticapitalist... and I think you should give me all your money. For your own benefit, you understand. Evil thing. I'm the only one here trained to handle it. Same goes for the rest of you, comrades, cough it over.

As I work at home, I don't have too much problem with fantasies about my colleagues. (Well sometimes she says no :D )

As I work at home, I don't have too much problem with fantasies about my colleagues. (Well sometimes she says no :D )
Kehehehehheee....

I suppose I'll make the mandatory, "I wouldn't mind having an office affair with Sinuhue's fine self," statement.

While you dream of pay raises... I dream of a job. (Of course I'm not looking and I don't know what I want to do when I grow up. :D ) Although I should have been in a career for at least 15 yrs by now.

In former jobs, it was always outside of work one night stands, some married, some not. People talked, but that was it.

I suppose I'll make the mandatory, "I wouldn't mind having an office affair with Sinuhue's fine self," statement.
Not mandatory. Obligatory. There's a slight difference:).

I happen to be the youngest person working in my office. I find that the men here tend to think of me in two different ways:

1) Like a daughter
2) Like a hot sex-kitten

Both attitudes piss me off/creep me out.

Though this particular coworker is definately worthy of fantasy...it still creeps me out for some reason.

Not mandatory. Obligatory. There's a slight difference:).

I happen to be the youngest person working in my office. I find that the men here tend to think of me in two different ways:

1) Like a daughter
2) Like a hot sex-kitten

Both attitudes piss me off/creep me out.

Though this particular coworker is definately worthy of fantasy...it still creeps me out for some reason.

Fantasies are nice if they stay fantasies. If they become real, your life usually takes a hard left turn right over the cliff.

Fantasies are nice if they stay fantasies. If they become real, your life usually takes a hard left turn right over the cliff.
Yup. That and, fantasies are often better than the reality:).

Not mandatory. Obligatory. There's a slight difference:).

I happen to be the youngest person working in my office. I find that the men here tend to think of me in two different ways:

1) Like a daughter
2) Like a hot sex-kitten

Both attitudes piss me off/creep me out.

Though this particular coworker is definately worthy of fantasy...it still creeps me out for some reason.

Ah. The obligatory "I want to have sex with Sinuhue" comment. My apologies. And you're a wee bit older than I am, so I would likely think of you as a hot milf sex-kitten. Definately not a daughter.

Yup. That and, fantasies are often better than the reality:).

Good point! Reality might be a big letdown. I'm married and have had dreams about all kinds of different guys over time. They're just dreams. Just as real as the one about the fettucini attacking me. Keep it in your head! ;)

"One should not cr*p where one eats."

Yup. That and, fantasies are often better than the reality:).

Yes. I've had fantasies about such things as sex at the beach, but found that the grim reality of sand is tough on some things.

Ah. The obligatory "I want to have sex with Sinuhue" comment. My apologies. And you're a wee bit older than I am, so I would likely think of you as a hot milf sex-kitten. Definately not a daughter.
How old are you?

MILF...ewwwww....

How old are you?

MILF...ewwwww....

22.

You're a mom. And (probably) really hot. Ergo....

Good point! Reality might be a big letdown. I'm married and have had dreams about all kinds of different guys over time. They're just dreams. Just as real as the one about the fettucini attacking me. Keep it in your head! ;)
Hehehehe.

It's polka dots for me.

And yeah...fantasy men don't burp, fart, tell stupid jokes, or leave the toilet seat up. You can train your man to not do those things, but it takes time. Who would want to do that again and again and again?

Yes. I've had fantasies about such things as sex at the beach, but found that the grim reality of sand is tough on some things.
Hahhhahaha...the worst is when you don't notice you're doing yourself damage until later...sand burns....

...the desert named 'sex on the beach' is much more satisfying:).

And yeah...fantasy men don't burp, fart, tell stupid jokes, or leave the toilet seat up. You can train your man to not do those things, but it takes time. Who would want to do that again and again and again?

Fantasy women don't fart during orgasm, either.

22.
Okay...just making sure you weren't like, 15:).

Me? Not hot. Just me.

Hehehehe.

It's polka dots for me.

And yeah...fantasy men don't burp, fart, tell stupid jokes, or leave the toilet seat up. You can train your man to not do those things, but it takes time. Who would want to do that again and again and again?

Yes they do! Just picture it happening. Next time you find yourself fantasizing, remember that Santa Barbara was talking about this and implanted the lovely image of dream man letting out a loud, impossibly long, smelly fart just before you have your most romantic moment.

Then of course he burps and scratches his balls, laughing moronically when he reaches for the TV controller, as you realize even fantasy men are pigs.

Fantasy women don't fart during orgasm, either.
*coffee squirts out nose*

Damn it WL...be careful! I don't want to pay for a new laptop!

Yes they do! Just picture it happening. Next time you find yourself fantasizing, remember that Santa Barbara was talking about this and implanted the lovely image of dream man letting out a loud, impossibly long, smelly fart just before you have your most romantic moment.

Then of course he burps and scratches his balls, laughing moronically when he reaches for the TV controller, as you realize even fantasy men are pigs.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No, just as you're about to achieve a glorious shangri-la, a sonorous wave of flatulence erupts from between his buttocks, which you happen to be gripping with your hands.

And then the stench hits you right in the face...

and then he tries to cover with a stupid joke...

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Priceless.

You bastards have completely ruined it for me.

I guess I don't need batteries anymore.

Thanks a lot.

*jerks*

Okay...just making sure you weren't like, 15:).

Me? Not hot. Just me.

No, I'm legal. Just young enough to be a younger man for you. ;)

At any rate, I wouldn't put too much into the dream. So long as you don't act on it.

Fantasy women don't fart during orgasm, either.


oh dear.... that's the most amusing mental image I've had all day....
What a mood killer!

oh, and Sinuhue, it's much more painful when drinking something like cola when it comes out your nose. That's nasal cleansing of the highest order. trust me on that :D

Ah. The obligatory "I want to have sex with Sinuhue" comment. My apologies. And you're a wee bit older than I am, so I would likely think of you as a hot milf sex-kitten. Definately not a daughter.I'm sorry.... What is this word?

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

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Just as real as the one about the fettucini attacking me.How do you know they aren't planning it? :p :D

--The Jovial States of Cogitation
NationStates Self-Proclaimed Court Jester

I'm sorry.... What is this word?

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

Do you REALLY want to know?

Mother I'd Like to F....ornicate with:).

oh dear.... that's the most amusing mental image I've had all day....
What a mood killer!


When I was younger and it happened, I tended to laugh so hard I stopped breathing - it was the laughing that was the mood killer. Women get mortified rather easily.

Later, I learned not to laugh. I figure she's really enjoying it if she's getting one that hard.

I can always laugh later.

My view is that people meet, fall in love (or lust), and fuck. It would be assinine to assume that they won't.

It happens everywhere. At bars, at health clubs, at churches, and at offices.


And, generally speaking, it is NOBODY'S BUSINESS.

Well, let me put in one big-assed caveat. It's nobody's business as long as they aren't fucking on the premises during hours that they are supposed to be working.

If they are cheating on spouses, firing them only further hurts the spouse as you are pulling some (or all) of their income out from them. That is called 'adding insult to injury', and frankly a boss has no moral authority to pass judgement on his employees extra-curricular activities done outside of work hours if it has no bearing on performance.


That being said, I think fucking your coworkers is a dumb-assed idea. IF it works out, all is well and good. But if it doesn't and you two wind up having post-breakup spats that affect either your work or the work of others, then at this point you SHOULD get your asses heaved out the door for non-performance and general stupidity.

There is an old expression that goes "don't shit where you eat" which applies heavily in this matter. But beyond that, if it isn't work-affecting then it's your business only - not the companies.

I happen to be the youngest person working in my office.
I thought you were a teacher.

I thought you were a teacher.
I 'teach' at a distance. I never wanted to be an office worker, yet here I am.

I can't wait to get back into the classroom. Right now I'm just a developer who is called a teacher :(