How long have you been together with your partner before you married?
Of course this poll is only for married persons.
EDIT: By "being together" I mean having s/o as a boy/girlfriend.
Istenert
13-06-2005, 12:05
Of course this poll is only for married persons.
You should probably also ask for "how long until you got divorced" statistics as well
You should probably also ask for "how long until you got divorced" statistics as well
Then there would have to be not a list, but a chart of answers.
Istenert
13-06-2005, 12:12
Then there would have to be not a list, but a chart of answers.
too complex?
too complex?
Impossible due to technical restraints!
Istenert
13-06-2005, 12:15
Impossible due to technical restraints!
Dam technology
Puddytat
13-06-2005, 13:05
Just over a year in total, but divorced just under 3 (well she had an affair. and didn't like my threat to spike his colon to the ground and make him dance around a pole disembowling himself, something about barbarism)
Kuroi Hiryuu Joouheika
13-06-2005, 13:20
The 5 years we were together before getting married was no different than being married. (Other than bureaucratic crap to go through.) We lived together most the time prior to being married. :)
Eriadhin
13-06-2005, 15:00
I did not live with my wife prior to getting married. Nor did I sleep with her prior. So I said less than 2 months, meaning zero.
We dated for 7 months and were engaged for another 7 months. But never lived together etc until our wedding night.
That was a little over a year ago. Still happy :)
Moleland
13-06-2005, 15:06
Where's the 'Not married' option?
Greater Merchantville
13-06-2005, 15:11
Opinions may vary on what "together" means. Some might mean intimately. Others may mean how long did they live together. Others (like me) may mean first date to marraige.
Our first date to wedding was 2 years, 2 months and 11 days.
Our first intimate encounter was a couple of weeks after the first date.
We quasi-lived together only after having been dating for about a year.
Liskeinland
13-06-2005, 15:19
Where's the 'Not married' option? Where's the "not anything" option? Also it should differentiate between under 2 months and nil time, for the *ahem* Jesus freaks among us. ;)
Lived together for 5 years and have been married for 13 this August.
Of my wife's classmates who got married w/o living together only 1 couple is still together (I haven't kept in touch with my classmates, went to my 10th reunion and left after 30 minutes.)
Opinions may vary on what "together" means. Some might mean intimately. Others may mean how long did they live together. Others (like me) may mean first date to marraige.
Our first date to wedding was 2 years, 2 months and 11 days.
Our first intimate encounter was a couple of weeks after the first date.
We quasi-lived together only after having been dating for about a year.
I'm sorry for that. As a German I was notaware of the fact that this was to compliclated. (I only was aware the first date definition. Had heard about the intimately definition, but was not aware of it at that moment.) Sorry...
10 years next year, two kids, and still not married:). Not planning on it either.
Liskeinland
13-06-2005, 17:52
10 years next year, two kids, and still not married:). Not planning on it either. Just curious, but why? There are good legal/financial reasons for doing so, but are there any reasons not to, in your case?
Lunatic Goofballs
13-06-2005, 17:54
We were together for about six months before we decided to get engaged. Shortly afterward, she got pregnant. We set a date, and we were married while she was still six months along.
2004 was a great year for me. :)
Just curious, but why? There are good legal/financial reasons for doing so, but are there any reasons not to, in your case?
Ah...the eternal puzzled furrowing of the brow...I think perhaps that is the main reason I don't get married. Because it confuses people:)
We are common-law, and have most of the rights/responsibilities as a married couple. I'm not aware (as of yet) of any legal reasons why I would 'improve' my situation by getting married. I do not believe that marriage means anything, and therefore, to me, a marriage would be an empty ceremony. I might go through with an empty ceremony, if it would really make people in my family happy (as I did for my graduations), but since it seems to be a non-issue, why bother? Until there is some pressing legal need that is brought to my attention, I will abstain.
And if I DO get married, it will be amusing in the extreme to say, "Yes, we've been married a year", when our relationship really did not begin with marriage, and is really a silly way to date it.
Eriadhin
13-06-2005, 19:08
Where's the "not anything" option? Also it should differentiate between under 2 months and nil time, for the *ahem* Jesus freaks among us. ;)
Thank you :)
I fall in that second category :)
Dobbsworld
13-06-2005, 19:13
In about two weeks, my partner and I will celebrate 17 years of togetherness.
We still have yet to marry.
Why ruin a good thing?
Carnivorous Lickers
13-06-2005, 19:22
In about two weeks, my partner and I will celebrate 17 years of togetherness.
We still have yet to marry.
Why ruin a good thing?
Good for you.
My wife and I were together for just over 9 years before we were married. We were young when we met and I wanted to be an adult and resposnible before we got married. After being together a year or two, we were already married in spirit. The marriage ceremony was just that-a ceremony. Now our bond is recognized by our church and the state and our family and friends. Its legitimized by the certificates they gave us.
The bond and commitment we had for each other is much stronger than what the church and the state paperwork says though. It also means more to both of us. We've had our ups and downs, but I see us as always together. I wont say "soul-mates" as so many drop that term so easliy, but you know what I mean. and the three kids we had only strengthened what was already strong.
I'm not married.
I wouldn't do it unless I knew the guy for 5 years or more. This would includ friendship time (assuming good friends the whole time) as well as romantic, dating/relationship time.
Underemployed Pirates
15-06-2005, 05:41
My wife and I started dating in high school. We dated for 4 years, were virgins when we married, and have been monogamously married for 34 years.
Lacadaemon
15-06-2005, 05:58
Ah...the eternal puzzled furrowing of the brow...I think perhaps that is the main reason I don't get married. Because it confuses people:)
We are common-law, and have most of the rights/responsibilities as a married couple. I'm not aware (as of yet) of any legal reasons why I would 'improve' my situation by getting married. I do not believe that marriage means anything, and therefore, to me, a marriage would be an empty ceremony. I might go through with an empty ceremony, if it would really make people in my family happy (as I did for my graduations), but since it seems to be a non-issue, why bother? Until there is some pressing legal need that is brought to my attention, I will abstain.
And if I DO get married, it will be amusing in the extreme to say, "Yes, we've been married a year", when our relationship really did not begin with marriage, and is really a silly way to date it.
Eh, usually its surviving spouse benefits from pension schemes. Sometimes there are tax advantages too.
Venus Mound
15-06-2005, 07:03
Given that I'm single, that would be 0, or infinity, depending on how you look at it.
As I've said before though, if I find the right girl I'm prepared to marry her within the day.