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Take me and my bf.

He's nearly exclusively a heavy metal and classic rock guy with occasional country. I have a very ecclectic musical taste and will listen to anything once through. He won't dance, I will, even if the music sucks.
He loves sports, I'm indifferent. He bets big and bluffs like mad in poker, I'm a very conservative better.
I'm a bit of a nerd, I like science and will talk about random factoids I pick up wherever I pick them up. He's a nerd when it comes to sports (you should hear him on about stats) and to a lesser extent, history.
He's become somewhat religious (or spiritual.. he doesn't seem to have a particular religion) whereas I'm definitely agnostic.
He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.
He doesn't trust anybody. I trust everybody unless they give me a reason not to.

Do opposites really attract?

I think people just tend to notice their differences more than their similarities.

I wouldn't want my opposite.

Do opposites really attract?
You mean like men and women? According to *some people*, it's only natural. :p

*puts the north pole and the south pole of two magnets near each other
*they attract

*puts Dakini near here bf
*they *ahem* attract

Brilliant!

I wouldn't want my opposite.

Considering that my opposite would be an atheistic, unprincipled, ignorant, mean-spirited, promiscuous moron, neither would I.

I think people just tend to notice their differences more than their similarities.

I’m inclined to agree.

Considering that my opposite would be an atheistic, unprincipled, ignorant, mean-spirited, promiscuous moron, neither would I.



I’m inclined to agree.
Sounds like a party person to me! :cool:

Considering that my opposite would be an atheistic, unprincipled, ignorant, mean-spirited, promiscuous moron, neither would I.
Someone's got a big head.

Well, my thing is that I don't think we really have anything in common other than the things I've tried to learn about his interests. Last time I was over, he was trying to teach me how to make a wrist shot, for instance.

99.9% of the time, opposites do not attract; on the contrary, they often repel, and with extreme prejudice.

99.9% of the time, opposites do not attract; on the contrary, they often repel, and with extreme prejudice.

but what about magnets? where do you think the saying 'sheer magnetism' comes from? Of course opposites attract! :D

WHOA youve got a lot of posts

Anyways, opposites rarely attract. As somebody already said, people dont notice it when similars (is this a word?) attract, because it is so unremarkable. When opposites get along, we stand up and pay attention.

It seems to be another odd fact o' life. Think, you wouldn't always want your exact polar opposite. (Heck, I'd want to beat them.) But would you really want a copy of yourself?

Considering two women I've fallen for have been Christian, feminist, and with high standards.... they do attract, but (painfully verified) not sucessfully.

WHOA youve got a lot of posts

Not as many as Legless Pirates. :(

But would you really want a copy of yourself?

exactly. tis a bit narcissitic, in a way, isn't it? very weird.

Someone's got a big head.

Damn right.

exactly. tis a bit narcissitic, in a way, isn't it? very weird.

Heh. My dad wants everyone to be exactly like him... In fact, he wants everyone to do everything like him...

...Oh no.

Considering two women I've fallen for have been Christian, feminist, and with high standards.... they do attract, but (painfully verified) not sucessfully.

Yeah, I seem to attract the same personality types of guys... Wonder why it works that way? Do you think we set off a signal for certain types? Maybe that's why we find opposites attracting so odd!

Heh. My dad wants everyone to be exactly like him... In fact, he wants everyone to do everything like him...

...Oh no.

:eek:

Heh. I guess it's just a comfort for them.

:eek:

I'm cringing at the thought.

*shudder*

Oh yeah. That, too.

I've found that having some opposite personality traits, while having common interests is a lasting situation. You compliment each other in a Yin Yang sort of way... but with a grey area.

In Electromagnetics, yes.
In Life, no.

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He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.

nother good reason to dump him. its crazy to plan anything permanent with a man who will get you needlessly in debt. modern life heaps up enough debt without stupid spending adding to it.

In Electromagnetics, yes.
In Life, no.

In life, YES. I live that life, and have for many many years.

yes opposites attract...perhaps the reason behind it is because one is used to the characteristics they posess, but have not had as much in depth experience with those characteristics they lack...by spending a significant amount of time with an opposite individual, one may quench the thirst of their interest in said characteristics
also, it may be that it is a concept of completion...one person is hard pressed to have ALL characteristics...so having someone with different characteristics to share their lives together allows for a combination, a team effort if you will...
but it would be foolish to say that only opposites attract...similar planes of interest can be essential to a good relationship...to maintain interest in one another requires some sort of similarity---difference alone may not be enough to hold a person's interest...
can't think of anything else to say about this right now;)

Take me and my bf.

He's nearly exclusively a heavy metal and classic rock guy with occasional country. I have a very ecclectic musical taste and will listen to anything once through. He won't dance, I will, even if the music sucks.
He loves sports, I'm indifferent. He bets big and bluffs like mad in poker, I'm a very conservative better.
I'm a bit of a nerd, I like science and will talk about random factoids I pick up wherever I pick them up. He's a nerd when it comes to sports (you should hear him on about stats) and to a lesser extent, history.
He's become somewhat religious (or spiritual.. he doesn't seem to have a particular religion) whereas I'm definitely agnostic.
He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.
He doesn't trust anybody. I trust everybody unless they give me a reason not to.

Take a look at this BBC story. Similarities inspire trust not lust. (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/4372651.stm)

Heh. My dad wants everyone to be exactly like him... In fact, he wants everyone to do everything like him...

...Oh no.

Well THAT answers some questions I had...

Of course, as far as fathers are concerned I probably shouldn't go there.

nother good reason to dump him. its crazy to plan anything permanent with a man who will get you needlessly in debt. modern life heaps up enough debt without stupid spending adding to it.
Yeah. That could be a big issue should we consider a future together. That plus the trust issues are what makes me think it wouldn't work.
I tend to avoid debt like the plague. I spend what's necessary and what I can afford, hell, my idea of splurging is buying chocolate soy milk when I go grocery shopping. His idea of splurging usually ends up costing him around $100 that he can ill afford.

It's not something I want to bring up at this point. He also doesn't like having things like that pointed out... which would be an issue...

Take a look at this BBC story. Similarities inspire trust not lust. (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/4372651.stm)
Holy shit!

The research was done at my school!

Well THAT answers some questions I had...

Of course, as far as fathers are concerned I probably shouldn't go there.

You should meet him. You'd probably get along quite well.

...Wait, never mind. He loathes people from Pennsylvania. There's no reason for it, either.

Personality-wise, not really.
However, I recall a documentary on human sexuality in which people were more likely to find each other attractive if they had differences in their immune systems.

You should meet him. You'd probably get along quite well.

...Wait, never mind. He loathes people from Pennsylvania. There's no reason for it, either.


Ehechh, I have my reasons for disliking that sort of character...

Of course, my father was/is a paranoid, schizoidial, borderline, anti-social, narcissistic, despotic socialist... mailman. Actually, I'm probably doing him some sort of favor in that list.

I think people just tend to notice their differences more than their similarities.

I agree. It sounds like you're searching for things that you do not have in common; but once again, we here can't really give you proper advice on your relationship situation as we don't have the full story.

I agree. It sounds like you're searching for things that you do not have in common; but once again, we here can't really give you proper advice on your relationship situation as we don't have the full story.
This thread wasn't so much for advice. I was hoping there would be members of other mismatched couples on here.

This thread wasn't so much for advice. I was hoping there would be members of other mismatched couples on here.

Oh. My apologies, then.

edit: In that case, I once dated a girl who was a Yankees fan. You don't get much more opposite than that. :D

Ehechh, I have my reasons for disliking that sort of character...

Of course, my father was/is a paranoid, schizoidial, borderline, anti-social, narcissistic, despotic socialist... mailman. Actually, I'm probably doing him some sort of favor in that list.

Ehh. Mailmen. :p

My dad was going to be a lawyer... He decided not to go through with law school, so he became an insurance salesman. No, not the typical crook/thief, either. He was actually honest, so that's one good thing about him.

Then there's the "I was a beautiful child" bullshit (yes, cleaning house like a germaphobe makes you a great kid *rolls eyes*). He shoves it down everyone's throat. "I'm this; I'm that; You weren't; You're not; You never will be". It's disgusting.

Take me and my bf.

He's nearly exclusively a heavy metal and classic rock guy with occasional country. I have a very ecclectic musical taste and will listen to anything once through. He won't dance, I will, even if the music sucks.
He loves sports, I'm indifferent. He bets big and bluffs like mad in poker, I'm a very conservative better.
I'm a bit of a nerd, I like science and will talk about random factoids I pick up wherever I pick them up. He's a nerd when it comes to sports (you should hear him on about stats) and to a lesser extent, history.
He's become somewhat religious (or spiritual.. he doesn't seem to have a particular religion) whereas I'm definitely agnostic.
He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.
He doesn't trust anybody. I trust everybody unless they give me a reason not to.

There was a very famous philosopher called Shaupenhaur who wrote a lot on the topic of love. He said that there was this thing called the 'will to life' which governed that forces of attraction between people.

If two people have big noses, they will produce offspring with big noses (same applies for small noses). The will to life seeks perfection. If somebody has a big nose, they will be attracted to somebody with a smaller nose because if the two have children, the two will cancel each other out to produce a perfect nose. He thought opposites attract.

There was a very famous philosopher called Shaupenhaur who wrote a lot on the topic of love. He said that there was this thing called the 'will to life' which governed that forces of attraction between people.

If two people have big noses, they will produce offspring with big noses (same applies for small noses). The will to life seeks perfection. If somebody has a big nose, they will be attracted to somebody with a smaller nose because if the two have children, the two will cancel each other out to produce a perfect nose. He thought opposites attract.

That actually makes a fair bit of sense.

That actually makes a fair bit of sense.

It gets better, once the opposite personalities have completed their duty and produced offspring, they realize how little they have in common and start to dislike each other. This eventually leads to arguments, resentment, and divorce. Opposites attract, but the only way to find happiness is if two perfect people (ie, Perfect noses, Perfect eyes, same personalities) get together and have perfect children. Since there are few perfect people, there is a lot of unhappiness in the world.

I don't think of it so much as 'opposites attract'. It's more like a cimplimentary relationship.

My wife is a police officer. She's responsible, level headed and likes to relax every free moment she gets. I'm a clown. I can barely keep my bills paid on time, and I constantly have to be ding something, whether it's reading a book or tackling objects and/or people. As different as possible, right?

Well, we also have certain things in common. For instance, we both have very good senses of humor. We're both very open sexually, and have few inhibitions when it comes to eachother's fantasies.

Most importantly, we are both cat people. Cat people and dog people just can't work out for long. :p

Take me and my bf.

He's nearly exclusively a heavy metal and classic rock guy with occasional country. I have a very ecclectic musical taste and will listen to anything once through. He won't dance, I will, even if the music sucks.
He loves sports, I'm indifferent. He bets big and bluffs like mad in poker, I'm a very conservative better.
I'm a bit of a nerd, I like science and will talk about random factoids I pick up wherever I pick them up. He's a nerd when it comes to sports (you should hear him on about stats) and to a lesser extent, history.
He's become somewhat religious (or spiritual.. he doesn't seem to have a particular religion) whereas I'm definitely agnostic.
He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.
He doesn't trust anybody. I trust everybody unless they give me a reason not to.


were not you the one complaining about how he annoys you since you don't give him enough felatio

I don't really think that opposites attract.

I haven't really met her, but I wouldn't like to meet my opposite fanatically religious, not-drinking, not-dancing, unfriendly girl :)

Look at it this way: how often do you see short, fat, stupid and ugly people holding hands with supermodels for Victoria's Secret?! (Even though I bet Victoria's Secret models are dumb as well).

Somewhat different is great. It brings a little spice to life.
Absolutely opposite, not so good. The only reason I'd want to meet my exact opposite is so I could bludgeon him to death.
Though I tend to like slightly geeky guys who let me have my way. Two dominant personalities can be a little too spicy.

Take me and my bf.

He's nearly exclusively a heavy metal and classic rock guy with occasional country. I have a very ecclectic musical taste and will listen to anything once through. He won't dance, I will, even if the music sucks.
He loves sports, I'm indifferent. He bets big and bluffs like mad in poker, I'm a very conservative better.
I'm a bit of a nerd, I like science and will talk about random factoids I pick up wherever I pick them up. He's a nerd when it comes to sports (you should hear him on about stats) and to a lesser extent, history.
He's become somewhat religious (or spiritual.. he doesn't seem to have a particular religion) whereas I'm definitely agnostic.
He will spend until he's horribly in debt. If I don't have money, I won't spend a dime if I can avoid it.
He doesn't trust anybody. I trust everybody unless they give me a reason not to.


Firstly, he's a boyfriend, not a husband. Secondly, these are unimportant details in a relationship. Peanutbutter and Peanutbutter dosent make a sandwich. You probably have simmilar personalities. How you deal with problems, what you laugh at, etc.