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okay, i need a little help here. Not normally the type of person who brings this subject up on the internet and seek help on the internet but i need help. Here's the story.
I started college about to years ago and have fancied one of my college mates for the 2 years. Shes beautiful, funny, smart and extremely sexy. We get on like a house on fire (really well). Everyone would tell me everyday that she fancied me but im not one to be full of praise for meself so i just ignored when they said that. I would do everything for her, cheer her up when shes down, make her laugh etc etc.

Even though everyone told me she fancied me and that i should go for it, i was just too afraid to and didnt really believe them so i just kinda gave up trying and said to myself that i should find someone else. As i went on holidays to Malta i got a text from my friend saying he knows someone that likes me in college, to which i though finally i can move onto someone else and forget bout this other girl. the nite i got back from Malta was the girl i fancies birthday. My friend then told me that the girl that fancies me was infact a friend of the girl i fancied. So i decided to kiss this other girl for the whole night and she stopped to tell me that she reckons that the girl i fancies is jeolous, i didnt understand why.

As i was walking home from the club, the girl i fancy texted me saying "Thanks for the great night, i was a bit jeolous but its ok". this stopped me right in my tracks, she then came out and told me that she fancies me alot. this really got to me because i was just with her friend. we got on as usual in college but knew that we fancied the pants off eachother. then the end of the year came and on a night out i saw her b with one of my friends so i said to meself, F**k it, and was with 2 of her friends that night.

Since then, i see her almost everyday. In fact we went for a meal last night with 4 other friends (3 guys, 3 girls) and went to the pub after. as usual she would make sure she sits beside me and was as flirtacious as ever. i parked my foot on the side of her stool, shed move her hand back resting it against my leg and i would often catch her looking at me. Annoying thing is, 2 of her friends now say they really like me and i think that she wont be with me in fear of her friends getting mad at her, which i agree is a pretty valid reason. AAAAAAAAAHHHHHH, WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO????
Thanks for listening, really fekkin glad i got this off my chest.

I stoped reading after about 4 lines, because I assume my advice would be 'you should have asked her out 20 months ago you dolt' or something similar, perhaps without the flaming.

We get on like a house on fire (really well).

cheers for clearing up that analogy for me.

ah well :headbang: :headbang: :headbang:

Ask her out?

Not that I know anything about it. At all. But that would seem wise.

All you people...with these "life" things and all these people fancying you...and then you have the cheek to complain about it!

:p

That's not the way I'd go about it. Hold out. Make her come to you.
That's what I've always done. And it's usually the more confident women/girls that take this approach, so you weed out some of those dreaded self-esteem issues.

Works for me.

Danno

you belong in drongo brongo you drongo

you liked her she likes you wats the fucking problem ask her out

i really dont see the problem here

and wats all that stuff about wanting to move on with ur life

My advice: break it up into paragraphs so I can read it without my eyes wandering off in different directions. :)

-snip-
Annoying thing is, 2 of her friends now say they really like me and i think that she wont be with me in fear of her friends getting mad at her, which i agree is a pretty valid reason. AAAAAAAAAHHHHHH, WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO????
Thanks for listening, really fekkin glad i got this off my chest.


No offense, but that sounds like a bit of a weak excuse. She plainly isn't worried about her friends getting mad at her for going out with you (unless you have a reason to believe that she is, which you haven't told us).

In short, you get on great. You've fancied her for two years and she has clearly said that she fancies you a lot. Asking her out sounds like rather a good idea to me. If you both really like each, don't miss the opportunity.

geez i'm witty

My advice: break it up into paragraphs so I can read it without my eyes wandering off in different directions. :)

Okay, I've kind of gone through it:

okay, i need a little help here. Not normally the type of person who brings this subject up on the internet and seek help on the internet but i need help. Here's the story.
I started college about two years ago and have fancied one of my college mates for the 2 years. Shes beautiful, funny, smart and extremely sexy. We get on like a house on fire (really well). Everyone would tell me everyday that she fancied me but I'm not one to be full of praise for myself so i just ignored them when they said that. I would do everything for her, cheer her up when shes down, make her laugh etc etc.

Even though everyone told me she fancied me and that i should go for it, i was just too afraid to and didnt really believe them so i just kinda gave up trying and said to myself that i should find someone else. As i went on holidays to Malta I got a text from my friend saying he knows someone that likes me in college, to which I thought "finally I can move onto someone else and forget about this other girl". the night i got back from Malta was the birthday of the girl I fancy. My friend then told me that the girl that fancies me was in fact a friend of the girl I fancied. So i decided to kiss this other girl for the whole night and she stopped to tell me that she reckons that the girl I fancy is jealous, I didnt understand why.

As I was walking home from the club, the girl I fancy texted me saying "Thanks for the great night, i was a bit jeolous but its ok". This stopped me right in my tracks, she then came out and told me that she fancies me a lot. This really got to me because I was just with her friend. We got on as usual in college but knew that we fancied the pants off each other. Then the end of the year came and on a night out i saw her be with one of my friends so i said to meself, F**k it, and was with 2 of her friends that night.

Since then, i see her almost every day. In fact we went for a meal last night with 4 other friends (3 guys, 3 girls) and went to the pub afterwards. As usual she would make sure she sits beside me and was as flirtacious as ever. I parked my foot on the side of her stool, she'd move her hand back resting it against my leg and i would often catch her looking at me.
Annoying thing is, 2 of her friends now say they really like me and i think that she wont be with me in fear of her friends getting mad at her, which i agree is a pretty valid reason. AAAAAAAAAHHHHHH, WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO????
Thanks for listening, really fekkin glad i got this off my chest.

Tip: stop trying to find reasons she would or should not like you, turn you down etc. What she wants is up to her - it is not your decision to make on her behalf.

In other words: just ask her. If she says no, you know and can get on your life. If she says yes - well.. then you can also get on with your life ;) You win in either case.

haha, cheers for all the advise