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Question on being flirted with

12-06-2005, 01:54
Imagine someone of a gender you aren't attracted to began to hit on you or flirt with you. For example, the classic "Straight man gets hit on by gay guy" scenario.
How would that make you feel?
What would you do?

I may add a poll later if it strikes me to.

A cookie to anybody who realizes which punk song I was just listening to that inspired this...
12-06-2005, 01:56
Mildly flattered but I would try to cut it off.
12-06-2005, 01:59
It used to happen to me all the time. My ex-fiancee and I used to go to the local gay dance club all the time because they played the best dance music in town (lots of underground stuff) and guys would hit on me all the time, even with my ex-f standing right there! I'd politely tell them that I was straight. 95% of the time they'd be like "OH! Sorry! :blush:", but every now and then you'd have the insistent ones that would corner you in the bathroom and tell you "you just haven't found the right guy yet" even after finding out you are straight. THOSE are the ones that piss me off.

That's not even counting the gay guys that STILL hit on me randomly over Yahoo messenger. :headbang:
Cannot think of a name
12-06-2005, 02:00
It's not that big of a deal.

It's happened. Just normal, it becomes pretty obvious I'm heterosexual and there's never anything to it.
12-06-2005, 02:03
Flattering to say the least and as long as they back off after knowing that all is cool.
12-06-2005, 02:05
anyone willing to flirt with the old lady gets a "arent you sweet" response from me. it doesnt matter if im attracted to them or not.
12-06-2005, 02:10
Mildly flattered but I would try to cut it off.

I concur. I'd be flattered, but I'd politely explain that the feeling isn't mutual. However, if he's nice I might start a friendship. That's always cool.
12-06-2005, 02:16
A long time ago, before the shackle on my ring finger, I probably would have smiled and explained politely that I was already spoken for, but thanks for the compliment :) Avoid embarrassment by telling them you're in a relationship, it's less uncomfortable for them than if you told them you were straight
Marmite Toast
12-06-2005, 02:16
How would that make you feel?
Awkward, mostly.

What would you do?
Say "sorry, I'm not gay".
12-06-2005, 02:18
I'd feel quietly smug that I'm being hit on, regardless of their gender....

Then I'd examine them. No point in holding the rules too strictly, ey? Assuming I wasn't interested, I'd rebuff them in the same way I'd rebuff anyone else.

I'll tell you how I do that when I do.
12-06-2005, 02:20
I wouldn't realize I was being flirted with, and just think the guy was being friendly/
12-06-2005, 02:33
Mildly flattered but I would try to cut it off.

Dude! Harsh.

Personally it would bother me mainly because a lot of guys turn into assholes when they get shot down. It sucks being the one that's expected to make all the moves, but I really don't envy demure women on the meat market.

I've hung out in lesbian bars with lesbian friends because it's nice to know with absolute certainty that just because you're going home alone doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, but if you're surrounded by gay men, either you'll get hit on, or you won't, and both options suck. :(
12-06-2005, 02:48
It'd probably take me a while to realize they were serious, as I'd assume they were joking (maybe on a dare from friends or some such). Once I'd realized they were serious I'd probably vacate the area immediately with a rather confused look on my face.
12-06-2005, 02:59
huh, this will never be a problem for me.
The Elder Malaclypse
12-06-2005, 03:02
It happened once with a baboon, but Boris later realised what was happneding.......... wasted
12-06-2005, 03:11
Umm... I'm a little bi... so I wouldn't mind if it was an attractive girl...

Hell, that would be welcome, I wouldn't know how to initiate anything like that.

This is in pretend world where I am single, of course.
12-06-2005, 03:13
I used to visit a known gay hangout spot, mainly because I was tired of all the arrogent pricks at all the strait hang outs and it seemed the people at the gay hangout were more laidback and respectful. I never had to worry about being hit on, because as one person was told when they introduced me to a friend and commented that I wasn't gay that spoke up and were like, oh, we know, it shows. They laughed a bit and it was all kewl. Granted, me walking around there with two of my female friends, one on each arm didn't hurt things either, lol.

If I were hit on, I would simply let them know that I wasn't interested in that lifestyle, but thank them for the compliment. I'd introduce myself if they continued the conversation, but I'd make sure that they knew I wasn't interested, though I doubt it would be much of an issue.

I think straight guys tend to be more vocal and troublesome when they hit on females and find out they are lesbians. I've seen many times where people will ask a girl out and find out they are that way, and then freak out and start making fun of her or something. I've had to tell guys to back off before after doing such things, but normally they back off on their own.