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Who's the best friend you ever had, and why?

The best friend I ever had was my lifelong best friend. She knows me so well-sometimes better than I know myself. When I was going through a rough time in second grade, I was, well, a bit of a jerk to my friends. But they loved me enough to ask her what to do in every situation I was acting odd, and she always knew exactly what I needed from them, even when I didn't. Without her, I don't know how I could've pulled through. She feels I betrayed her by homeschooling, and that's okay. She may not know it, but I will always love her for what she has done for me.

Who's the best friend you ever had, and why?

The best friend I ever had was my lifelong best friend. She knows me so well-sometimes better than I know myself. When I was going through a rough time in second grade, I was, well, a bit of a jerk to my friends. But they loved me enough to ask her what to do in every situation I was acting odd, and she always knew exactly what I needed from them, even when I didn't. Without her, I don't know how I could've pulled through. She feels I betrayed her by homeschooling, and that's okay. She may not know it, but I will always love her for what she has done for me.

I've never had a best friend, or at least not for long. I have lost all my good friends, through the passage of time(usually within a few years each).

I think the way people establish close friendships nowadays in incredibly different to the way it was say, 30 years ago. People are less geographically static nowadays, because of work opportunities, and the affordability of travel. I know very few people who have had the same close friends their whole life, although it seems that lasting, lifelong friendships are the benchmark that everybody hopes to achieve. If you've never had a close friendship that was enduring, that's ok. It's more likely that you'll have close friendships that wax and wane. You're not likely to live in the same community your whole life. Flexibility is the norm.

Speaking for myself, the closeness of my friendships is transient, however I think it's the lasting meaningfulness of the friendship that endures. I had a best friend once, years ago. My friendship with this person was so intense and consuming that recently I became aware that my parents believed it to be a homosexual relationship. While I'm happily heterosexual at the present, I'm open to the notion that my sexuality may slide from one end of the sexuality-continuum to the other in the right conditions (fog, wet weather, bare tyres, high traffic congestion). The fact that my parents have made a conclusion without asking "So...do you fuck women?" really upsets me, though. From them, the label of homosexual comes burdened with the superfluous meanings like dirty, evil, and against god's plan. I wonder if they'd bothered to ask, they'd attribute my heterosexuality to the power of prayer? And to think I've been so discreet about all the men I've slept with, because I didn't want to offend my folks. :D I might let then have a bit more church-sympathy mileage before I start leaving condoms at their house.

Sorry to rant, but I think it's a perfectly valid point that adolesent friendships can blur the lines of what appears sexual, and I think parents have to accept and not demonise their kids for perfectly normal behaviour.

The best friend I've ever had lives on the other side of the world to me. We actually met online back in '97 I think (when we were 15), and have been friends ever since. And yes I have met her. :p She just got married a couple of weeks ago, and I have to admit, it was kinda sad, cos I couldn't go, and cos she's going on to family life and I kinda feel she's leaving me behind. We actually promised to marry each other if we hadn't found someone by the time we were 25, but that only lasted a couple of years. She's my best friend cos we understand each other so well, and just have so much love for each other. If we did end up marrying, we'd be very happy, and almost never argue. But there would always be something missing, cos we know that we aren't the ones for each other, and known that for a long time. We just knew that if it came down to it, we could be happy together.

I've got a friend that I've known for 27 years now, we met in Kindergarden. I don't really know if I would call her my best friend any more, but she definitely is the longest one.
during the years, there have always been times when we were closer and others when we didn't speak to each other or saw each other in a long time. I have friends now I'm closer with, but when talking to her there's a feeling like talking to a sister, only closer. She knows me better than most, even if we weren't always in contact, she just knows how my mind works and I know the same about her. It's amazing, really. we now live in different countries and see each other about once a year, but the closeness didn't change.

Ever since I was 10 I have tried not to pick best friends. I think that a friend is a friend. None are better than others.

I moved around a lot when I was young so all of my friends from when I was in primary (elementary) school I lost contact with...so no lifelong friends, but...

I have two really good friends from High School, but I don't favour one over the other - they're both my best friends. We're a group of three and we'll always be that way. These guys always stick by me no matter what happens, and i'll do the same for them.

I have 3 or 4 people who I always do stuff with, so they probably all are.

My general distrust of people means i dont get friends easily but my best friend i had known since i was 4 i could of stopped talking to him in 2000 not for any real reason i guess i just had found the wonders of playstation a couple of years earlier and the idea of playing Civilisation II was easier than leaving the house outside of Sport or school.
Im sure ive got NS friends......

It's hard to say exactly who my best friend is. I'd narrow it down to about three people. There have been a few others in my life that I'd rate as some of my best friends ever. The kind of friend I'd take a bullet for. Preferably not in a major organ. You know, a flesh wound. But I'd take it, dammit! :p

It's hard to say exactly who my best friend is. I'd narrow it down to about three people. There have been a few others in my life that I'd rate as some of my best friends ever. The kind of friend I'd take a bullet for. Preferably not in a major organ. You know, a flesh wound. But I'd take it, dammit! :p

I doubt I'd take a bullet for my friends. I'd drive them to the hospital though.

back in school i had a group of really close friends who i knew for about 7 years in general, and i refuse to call any one of them 'best'.
sadly since we've all gone to university we've all grown apart, and even though i went to the same uni as two of them, and even live in the same house with one of them at the moment, we've drifted apart. i know its my fault cos i haven't made any new friends at uni either so it must be something i'm doing :(
well i did make a group of new friends last year but i realised i just didn't want to hang round with them anymore - too many practical jokes and not enough respect for each other, so i left.

I've had very few friends at all through the years (They prefered to try and injure me), but I found a friend in my Sisters ex boyfriend, Daniel. We hit off quite well, both liking similar things, and have become good friends. Both being busy, we admittedly don't see each other often, but we still remain friends... I think.

As far as I know right now, I'm pretty much on my own.

I lost most contact my best friend when I went to high school. Lost some contact my best friend there when I got to Uni. My best friend now is the bassist from our band.

Camaraderie is something that you only get to experience for very few instances in your whole life. Its when you're stuck with someone in a dire circumstance and you absolutely depend on that person for survival or for whatever you're trying to accomplish.

I've always been not a loner but an admirable independent. I don't say that to cover-up for anything, but to honestly say how people can know me and talk with me from out of the blue because they know, just from looking at me, that I'll be straight with them and talking from experience. Sure, there's plenty of people that are acquainted with me, but I don't stay close with too many people at any given instance. How come? To me, a real friend is someone who is as independent (or not) as you and relies on you only as much as you would on them (but no less either). Also, friends are people you're hard pressed to find after school since you will not across to many people, other than your relatives and colleagues, that will see you day-to-day while caring, in detail, over how you're doing.

Rather than talk over a "best friend", I'll describe someone I personally respect tremendously and honestly would be able to anytime get along with, even after not seeing the guy for 20 yrs.

Some people are jealous of me and instead of believing I'm an honest man to the core, they think I'm a hypocritical, arrogant, bigot who has to patronize people to stay on top. For starters, I'm not "popular", I'm not "athletic", and I'm not "brilliant". What I am is someone who has a knack for solving problems and figure out what's beyond that which I've been told. I have some whacked out talent of insight (no not anything psychic or anything, just like advanced common sense if you wanna call it that) and an interest in numbers and the arts. You put'em together and you can analyze technically while respecting emotions, balancing personability with professionalism, and knowing when to bend or stand stiff.

The guy I know well is named Rod and we started out as rivals. Rivals get to know each other real well since their whole objective is to beat each other, so the scrape up every bit of dirt on the opposition as possible. In H.S., we would always try to outperform each other at everything from grades to girls.
Music, sports, eating contests, "wrestling" matches. You name it we did it. Any shot we had at taking the other guy down we would eagerly volunteer for it.

Senior year prom wasn't exactly the best for either one of us. For myself, I forgot to buy a ticket and it was sold out. For him...

Rod's car broke down the week before and his G.F. was supposed to pick him up since his parents were out that night. Turned out his G.F. decided to go to prom with her friends on the dance team and ditched him (only to later say she was sorry to which Rod was going top say "Screw You!" but was broken up with before he could say "Bitch"). That night we saw each other at a local movie rental place. I can't remember the name of the movie I went there to get, but it had Corey Feldman in it and was about him being a camp counselor at some lakeside water-ski camp where he saved it while renewing a lost post-teen relationship with the granddaughter of the camp owner. Anyway, Rod was already in there, and he was ready to rent Goonies. I asked him (to be a man and not be a snob like most people who would just ignore a rival) what he had there. He said just some film he wanted to checkout he remembered watching in middle school. We didn't suspect anything of each other since it would have been disrespectful, but he asked me if I wanted to come over and chill. Everyone was in town anyway and we had nothing to do so I figured, eh, why not.

I slept over and we had a good time. We played Nintendo and threw hot wings at each other and ran around shooting each other with water guns all around and throughout his house. We prank called some girls including his G.F. to which I pretended to be some M.Schooler with a hi-pitched screeching voice that wanted to make out with her.

The story goes on and on as you would expect with us making up, and now having each others pics in the yearbook signed with "Godspeed and best of luck." I haven't seen him since the summer of our graduation (our class didn't have any reunions) but if I ever saw him again, I'd ask "D'ya see any good movies recently?" and find out what's up.

The best friend i ever had...

we had been friends for years, long before we ended up at the same school together. He was gay, and none of us cared. nobody in school cared. he was just the sort of guy everybody liked, he could make anybody laugh. Then one day when we were 16 and mildly drunk he kissed me. He knew i wasnt interested at all, but he did it anyway. Of course, i was slightly taken aback, and he apologised and asked me not to tell anyone, so i agreed. He was my best friend, I wasnt about to go round telling everyone that he was kissing guys when he felt like it, and i didnt mind that much anyway.

So, i thought the whole thing had just been forgotten about. Oh, no. He told someone in school that I had kissed him.

Spread like wildfire, and ended with me punching him.

Nobody in school really cared (i went to a school that was surprisingly liberal for an all boys school), but it was the end of our friendship. I felt betrayed, and ive barely given him the time of day since.

But he was the best friend i ever had.

The best friend i ever had...

we had been friends for years, long before we ended up at the same school together. He was gay, and none of us cared. nobody in school cared. he was just the sort of guy everybody liked, he could make anybody laugh. Then one day when we were 16 and mildly drunk he kissed me. He knew i wasnt interested at all, but he did it anyway. Of course, i was slightly taken aback, and he apologised and asked me not to tell anyone, so i agreed. He was my best friend, I wasnt about to go round telling everyone that he was kissing guys when he felt like it, and i didnt mind that much anyway.

So, i thought the whole thing had just been forgotten about. Oh, no. He told someone in school that I had kissed him.

Spread like wildfire, and ended with me punching him.

Nobody in school really cared (i went to a school that was surprisingly liberal for an all boys school), but it was the end of our friendship. I felt betrayed, and ive barely given him the time of day since.

But he was the best friend i ever had.
that sucks :(
i mean why would he be the one to blab after he asked you not to? unless it was to spite you, in which case he doesn't sound like much of a friend...

It's hard to say who is the best friend I've ever had. I'm going to venture a guess and say my friend Susan. She and I share a love of sports (though she's a Dallas Cowboys fan and I'm a Washington Redskins fan) and we are both Stevie Nicks fanatics. We don't talk on the phone very often, but when we do, it's usually a major gab fest.

Honourable mention goes to my friend Nicole, whom I actually use as a regular character in RPs. She's my soon-to-be-retitled Lieutenant President in the game, and in real life, we also have a love of sports coupled with a passion for writing. We worked together on The Diamondback as staff columnists in the spring of 1999 and we worked together at The ECLIPSE, which is a traditionally black news magazine. According to the staff box, she was the editor in chief and I was the managing editor, but in her eyes, we were equal partners.

In recent years, my friend JT and I have gotten closer and closer, to the point where we think of each other as brothers. He has immense talent as a songwriter and musician and he and I have collaborated on song lyrics in the past.

Hmmm...I think the best friend I ever had was my triple strength plasma beam AK-97 ionizer. Or perhaps the glass medicine bottle filled with potassium cyanide. :D

Seriously? I don't have friends, I have non-enemies.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

that sucks :(
i mean why would he be the one to blab after he asked you not to? unless it was to spite you, in which case he doesn't sound like much of a friend...
I dont know, he always had a bit of an evil streak in him. I guess he probably told someone just without thinking and then tried to cover his tracks by saying i had kissed him, and then it all got out. Then there was an argument between us and he decided to just tell people out of anger really. that was the end of that friendship.

It's hard to say who is the best friend I've ever had. I'm going to venture a guess and say my friend Susan. She and I share a love of sports (though she's a Dallas Cowboys fan and I'm a Washington Redskins fan) and we are both Stevie Nicks fanatics. We don't talk on the phone very often, but when we do, it's usually a major gab fest.




Hey-we saw Stevie Nicks this past Saturday night at the PNC arts center in NJ. I still love her.


My best friend- he and I have been friends since kindergarten- 33 years. We went through elementary and jr high, then high school together. Our wives were friends through high school and now his kids and my kids are close friends, though we live two hours away now. We still get together a lot. We have the same likes, interests and values and if neither of us moves furtehr away, I see things staying like they are.

We walked together in step. We could be apart for months and start up as if I'd been in the next room. People envied us, asked how this could be. I got married; he passed away. You have no idea.