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What is the best way to recover from a big breakup?

get drunk and stoned every day with freinds untill you dont even care
and have lots of sex
and find a better significant other

get drunk with friends

go to a party and have sex with a drunk girl

Cry about it for a while.

Then meet someone else. A transitional person.

Kill them, their parents, their siblings, their priest and their neighbourhood. Then drink lots.

Kill them, their parents, their siblings, their priest and their neighbourhood. Then drink lots.

Or not. :)

Meditate upon it, and just say "Fuck The Bullshit".

Cry

I've done that already.

Then meet someone else. A transitional person.

I am not quite sure if I want to bother with somebody else.

male - give up. become gay. or... meaningless sex. lots and lots of meaningless sex. Even if you are all by yourself.

female - post erotic pictures of yourself online. Make sure to give us all a link. oh yes, and meaningless sex. Lots and lots of meaningless sex. Even if you are by yourself. Keep a camera handy.

When I broke up with my last girlfriend, I was devestated for a couple of weeks. But you eventually find a way to move on - it may be a girl/guy you notice when you're out on a night, or at work/school, etc.

For me - next girl I got with I met at the water dispenser at school ;)

You'll feel bad now, but it's not the end of the world!

male - give up. become gay. or... meaningless sex. lots and lots of meaningless sex. Even if you are all by yourself.


I'm already bisexual, but I don't think I want to try for a boyfriend.

I am either going to give up or wait a long to for another girlfriend. I'm not yet ready for another romantic relationship.

Ahh - don't despair!

How long had you been with this girl for?

It may seem dark now, but there is light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.

Have some casual meaningless sex - it always helps.

I've done that already.

Good, now you need to get out with your friends and people who love you.

I am not quite sure if I want to bother with somebody else.

Then it may just take a little more time.

Im pretty much in the same boat as you when it comes to a recent break-up. I've been with this girl for a year and a half (she broke up with me the night before the 1.5 anniverssary to be exact). It was hard--still is hard...but, I'm pressing on. I pray, talk with (encouraging) friends, pray more, and try to realize that things will get better.

So, if you're of the sort, I'll pray for you. If not, I'll just wish you the best of lucks and hope that things will get better for you as well.

EDIT: As for casual, meaningless sex... I don't do that myself due to personal beliefs, but if you believe that will help you, then I won't attempt at saying otherwise.

Is it a good idea to stay friends with this girl after the breakup?

Ahh - don't despair!

How long had you been with this girl for?

It lasted for seven months, going on eight.


Have some casual meaningless sex - it always helps.

No, that's okay. I am not too interested in that. Besides, masturbation works good.

What is the best way to recover from a big breakup?

strippers ;)

strippers ;)

I don't want to pay for sexual entertainment. Searching for free porn works just fine.

Buying 400 kittens- 200 pure black and 200 pure white and divide your house between them. Segregate them for about 3 months and then tear down the boundaries. See if you get a race war or integration

Buying 400 kittens- 200 pure black and 200 pure white and divide your house between them. Segregate them for about 3 months and then tear down the boundaries. See if you get a race war or integration

I'd get neither. Instead I would get 400 dead kittens. My dad hates cats.

What is the best way to recover from a big breakup?
Kill you ex-partner and dispose of the body with lye.

strippers ;)
HAHA!

<-- ex-gentlemen's club DJ and bouncer. :p

No more "kill your ex-partner" crap, please.

A little whiskey. Some country music(the music of pain.) Think about why it went wrong. Hang out with the boys a bit. Some more whiskey. Finally, decide that the time to greive is over. Pick yourself up, walk out the door. Wallowing in self pity will just waste your life. Forget about her. It may not feel like it now, but there's always someone aroung the corner.

And never, ever be friends with the girl. Not worth it. It's just gonna rip you up inside, every time you see her with the "guy you used to be" as the fella says. Walk away.

What is the best way to recover from a big breakup?

Get a pet Marmot.

Is it a good idea to stay friends with this girl after the breakup?
Depends on how pathetic that will be--is she going to mock you openly? Will others look at you and wonder what happened to your self-respect? If so, then probably not. Best bet--ask a friend of the same sex what he/she thinks (sorry about the pronoun game here, but I don't want to assume anything).

And as for recovery, lots of hangovers will usually do the trick--it helps pass the time, which is the only real cure.

And never, ever be friends with the girl. Not worth it. It's just gonna rip you up inside, every time you see her with the "guy you used to be" as the fella says. Walk away.

I think I can handle it, especially since we were friends originally.

Drums. Percussion always helps in angry moments such as these. Go to a music store and play until you get thrown out.

Get a hobby.

At the end of the day, time is alwazys the best healer. In the meantime, exert some self-control not to do some too stupid things, such as succumbing to depression.

My practical advice would be to take up a hobby. It'll clear your head, occupy you. Something that you can pick up any time when you're sitting at home thinking about her like, say, knitting. Seriously though, a good idea would be martial arts, as they help to give you focus and self-control, which is exactly what you need to face emotional turmoil.

Failing that, hookers and drugs.

Try this handy link:

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Note that I don't actually mean you to try this, 'cause that would be mean.

Step 1:Get drunk. Listen to angry music (I suggest Pantera and Killswitch Engage)

Step 2: invite best friend over. Get drunk and do stupid stuff (blow something up)

step 3: get same-sex friends together. Go to strip joint.

step 4: find a rebound girl/guy. date untill confidence level rises, then break up

step 5: find new "real" relationship partner.


as for staying friends, right after the breakup I wouldn't count on it. Give it a month or two to cool down. Things will be really awkward. Things will get back to normal after a while. Unless she was a bitch. Then I suggest writing "Slut" on her car hood in bologna (will strip the paint) and filling the car with shaving cream (freeze gillettes shaving cream, cut off the can. slip it in through the window. As it warms, it will expand)

Step 1:Get drunk. Listen to angry music (I suggest Pantera and Killswitch Engage)

Step 2: invite best friend over. Get drunk and do stupid stuff (blow something up)

step 3: get same-sex friends together. Go to strip joint.

step 4: find a rebound girl/guy. date untill confidence level rises, then break up

step 5: find new "real" relationship partner.


as for staying friends, right after the breakup I wouldn't count on it. Give it a month or two to cool down. Things will be really awkward. Things will get back to normal after a while. Unless she was a bitch. Then I suggest writing "Slut" on her car hood in bologna (will strip the paint) and filling the car with shaving cream (freeze gillettes shaving cream, cut off the can. slip it in through the window. As it warms, it will expand)

Step one: get semi-drunk, and masterbate to the smiths.
step two: invite over same sex friend, preferrably gay ones and jsut about everyone else you know
if you're up for it, have a huge orgy, if not, whatever, just chill
step three: find a rebound person

A little whiskey. Some country music(the music of pain.) Think about why it went wrong. Hang out with the boys a bit. Some more whiskey. Finally, decide that the time to greive is over. Pick yourself up, walk out the door.
"There's A Tear In My Beer" by Hank Williams, Sr. works well in those situations. :)

For men:
Grab your friends, go get drunk, spend a night of complaining to them and random people just how women are evil. Stippers optional.

Soon as you can, go fishing (camping, hunting, hobby of choice that gets out of of the area you're currently in for at least a day or two) and spend some time to yourself thinking and getting her out of your mind. Wait a few months and it will be all gone.

For ladies:
Pretty much the same, just add in how men are assholes and go see Thunder from Down Under and go shopping (though I would add in a gallon of ice cream of your choice as all my female friends swear by it when going through a breakup).

I'd like to thank the author of my signature for giving me the answer to this thread's question.

Guys: Get totally shitfaced with your pals, then wake up the next day with one hell of a hang over, have a nice fry up breakfast just to make it worse, go paintballing / hunting, go bowling, talk about the good old days, sleep for 24 hours straight.

Gals: Get with friends, bitch about the new ex, buy shoes.

Thats what me and my ex ended up doing, but 3 weeks later we were back in the sack so... God knows, must have done something right :D

Look at your right hand........any ideas yet?

Murder/suicide

The transitional person idea is stupid, its too slack for all concerned

ask out her best friend if that dosent work well party down :fluffle:

What is the best way to recover from a big breakup?

Begin dating like crazy. Show up at places you know your ex will be with a blonde on each arm. If you are really good, hit on - and hopefully actually score with - her friends. This is a particularly special form of revenge because not only does it damage her friendships, it also makes her believe that you never cared for her in the first place. AND BEST OF ALL, it's FUN.

Well, I'm sure there are more mature ways to handle it, but that is what has always worked well for me.

-Tom Steele

I suppose I should point out that this breakup was my fault.

Hawkintom']Begin dating like crazy. Show up at places you know your ex will be with a blonde on each arm.

Forget blondes...red heads are much better. ;)

If you are really good, hit on - and hopefully actually score with - her friends.

Eh, no, that wouldn't work. Her friends are mine as well, and none of them want me like that.

Forget blondes...red heads are much better. ;)



Mmm... Redheads. Well I present to you two options:

1. Kill yourself like a true man (as posted above from God Maddox)

2. Stop being an asshole and get off of it. Like everyone here has said, you'll get over it. But don't wait to tell yourself that in three months. Tell yourself to get over her NOW, you idiot! Besides, I'm Detective John Kimbell, a cop you idiot!

Kill yourself


I have already decided against that.


I think I'll get over it as long as I don't think about it too much until I am calmed down about it.

meet new people. particularly hotter ones.

Setting yourself up for more heartbreak is not the answer. Take the time you have to your self, and discover what you actually want in a relationship. Then, make sure you find out what happened in that relationship that went sour, and make sure it doesn't happen again, so the only thing that you will get out of it is positive growth. (I found that also plotting their death works wonders ;-)

Im pretty much in the same boat as you when it comes to a recent break-up. I've been with this girl for a year and a half (she broke up with me the night before the 1.5 anniverssary to be exact). It was hard--still is hard...but, I'm pressing on. I pray, talk with (encouraging) friends, pray more, and try to realize that things will get better.


That kind of reminds me of my aunt: My gf broke up with me 2 and a half weeks ago (after 2 years and 2 month) and as my grandpa's birthday was some days later I had to tell my aunt, who is a nun.
She told me: Maybe she was not the right one, but if she was God will help you to come together again, maybe in 2 or 3 years...
This was the first time I really felt that sometimes it would be helpful to believe.

Do something occupying.
I myself started to organize a trip together with some friends and decided to take part at a MUN.