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Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me.

~wondering girl

Tell him. Whatever he says, it will bug you for the rest of your life if you don't tell him now.

I don't know though... I'm sooo unsure.... I don't want to lose him as a friend.

you should go for it, take it from someone in a similar situation but doesn't have the nerve, you'll be sorry if you don't

dont tell you you "like" him

tell him you would like to keep in touch over the summer and give him your phone number, pm name, email addy, whatever seems most appropriate.

he'll take it from there.

Yeah tell him if you think you got a chance;

Yes you can just i say "i really like you". It is really that simple sometimes.

Hell, if i had had the courage to say that to half a dozen girls I might have taken a very different path in life, but believe me, tell him and don't have the spectre of "What if I had said...." nagging you for ages afterwards.

If you don't tell him you're going to spend a really long time, maybe all your life, wondering what might have been. Just take a little risk and go for it this one time. If you don't do this now and a similar situation comes up in the future you might be unable to take a risk then. The worst thing that can happen is he says he doesn't feel that way about you, and even then you can still be friends. My $.02.

How old are you may I ask?

16. but I'm not like most 16 year olds... I've never had a boy friend.

Tell him. Whatever he says, it will bug you for the rest of your life if you don't tell him now.
I agree. Better to know for sure than to always wonder.

You only live once.

Just chill out and go for it.

Don't worry about your age, believe me. Just ask the guy. Go on. You know you want to.

*Nudges Guitar Muzic in direction of mentioned bloke"

Go on. You won't regret it.

you should go for it, take it from someone in a similar situation but doesn't have the nerve, you'll be sorry if you don't
Somehow your not having "the nerve" doesn't square with the image I have of you, Tink. Shame on you for being so shy! Tsk! ;)

I agree. at the most you guys would remain friends so go for it

Title: Should I ask him?

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more./me stops reading right there and says "Yes! Ask him!"dont tell you you "like" him

tell him you would like to keep in touch over the summer and give him your phone number, pm name, email addy, whatever seems most appropriate.

he'll take it from there.I would suggest that she give him all of the above. Aside from that, I agree.

I know getting over shyness is a hard thing to do. I used to be very shy, myself. But, if you want him, then you have to ask him.

My standard advice is "Think about it for a moment." However, a case like this might be an exception. You've been thinking about it for 2 years, so when are you going to act? Remember, even if it doesn't go well, as least you will have overcome your fear and tried. That in-and-of-itself will be a major accomplishment for you.

I wish you the best of luck. :)

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

every time I think about asking him I get all nervous... right now I'm shaking and I could probably throw up....

Go for it....and if you are too much of a chicken to ask him yourself have one of your close friends ask him....just make sure you ask him

The way I see it, you have nothing to lose. If he says yes, that's great. If he says no, you're not going to see him again anyway, are you? So go for it.

Somehow your not having "the nerve" doesn't square with the image I have of you, Tink. Shame on you for being so shy! Tsk! ;)
sorry but i just can't help it

NO NO

you have to be delicate in these things. dont go declaring your everlasting love to some boy who has only ever carried a package for you.

be more subtle.

telling him you want to keep in touch is enough. if HE is interested, he'll be calling you that same evening. things can move along from there.

*tear up* but what if he says no???

*tear up* but what if he says no???
but what if he would say yes and you dont ask him???

*tear up* but what if he says no???

Then you have lost nothing. If he is a good mate then it won't change much, and as you said you prob won't see him again otherwise, so you won't have lost anything.

sorry but i just can't help it
Yes, you can, but you have to realize that first. :fluffle:

NO NO

you have to be delicate in these things. dont go declaring your everlasting love to some boy who has only ever carried a package for you.

be more subtle.

telling him you want to keep in touch is enough. if HE is interested, he'll be calling you that same evening. things can move along from there.

he's not the sort of guy who would just call me.
we actually talked about this... sort of... he said he know these 2 people and they obviously liked eachother, but would never tell eachother. I said that I thought people should just tell eachother... and then he said that he didn't think that was a good idea... he liked this one girl a long time ago and he told her... and she freaked out and wouldn't talk to him for 2 years.

it really depends on what kind of person he is. if he were a jock, then he would say yes. If he was a nerd, then he might think you were making fun of him. I'm a 12 year old boy who's a nerd, so I would know.

it really depends on what kind of person he is. if he were a jock, then he would say yes. If he was a nerd, then he might think you were making fun of him. I'm a 12 year old boy who's a nerd, so I would know.
thanks. We're both in the same "group" at school. It's not really the nerd group... there are 3 groups. The cool group, the want-to-be-cool group and then us. Our group containes everyone who doesn't fit somewhere else.

*tear up* but what if he says no???
If he says no, you'll never see him again, so it will be just as if you never asked him.

Look at it this way: If you ask him, you have a chance to win and a chance to lose. If you don't ask him, you certainly lose. There is no difference between the effects of him saying no and the effects of you not asking him.

Therefore, scientific analysis dictates that you go for it! :)

If you don't do it now, you might never see him again. If that happens, you'll regret that you didn't for a long time, maybe even your whole life.
Well, that's all the advice I have for right now. Good Luck!

every time I think about asking him I get all nervous... right now I'm shaking and I could probably throw up....I felt like that about a lovely young woman once (minus the throwing up part). Do what I did: sit in your room or lie in bed or something and think about, fantasize about, asking him. Think it through over and over again until you can fantasize about it without locking up in fear.

Go for it....and if you are too much of a chicken to ask him yourself have one of your close friends ask him....just make sure you ask himIt's best if she approach him herself, without intermediaries. At some point in her life, she does have to learn to be able to approach men on her own, without assistance. Confidence is an attractive trait in both men and women.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
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he's not the sort of guy who would just call me.
we actually talked about this... sort of... he said he know these 2 people and they obviously liked eachother, but would never tell eachother. I said that I thought people should just tell eachother... and then he said that he didn't think that was a good idea... he liked this one girl a long time ago and he told her... and she freaked out and wouldn't talk to him for 2 years.
then get HIS phone, email, pm name, whatever and start messaging HIM in a non-suggestive way. YOU can move it along slowly

it really depends on what kind of person he is. if he were a jock, then he would say yes. If he was a nerd, then he might think you were making fun of him. I'm a 12 year old boy who's a nerd, so I would know.

I may be a young, naive, immature nerd who still has his mom buy clothes, but I'm quite wise.

Yes, you can, but you have to realize that first. :fluffle:
i fail to see how i can make myself have more confidence

Ask him, it will haunt you far more if you don't ask than if he says no. You only live until you escape the cycle of life. ;)

If he says no, you'll never see him again, so it will be just as if you never asked him.

Look at it this way: If you ask him, you have a chance to win and a chance to lose. If you don't ask him, you certainly lose. There is no difference between the effects of him saying no and the effects of you not asking him.

Therefore, scientific analysis dictates that you go for it! :)
sure, scientifically it makes sence... I just go ask him... but... the only problem with science is that it doesn't account for human error... and...
man, I am seriously going to pass out if I don't stop shaking.

thanks. We're both in the same "group" at school. It's not really the nerd group... there are 3 groups. The cool group, the want-to-be-cool group and then us. Our group containes everyone who doesn't fit somewhere else.

my school is run like the middle ages. there's the evil monarch (the principal, Who i think likes men), the lords and knights, a.k.a. the jocks and their manors, a.k.a. the football field, then the peasants, a.k.a. the nerds.

there's no middle class.

sure, scientifically it makes sence... I just go ask him... but... the only problem with science is that it doesn't account for human error... and...
man, I am seriously going to pass out if I don't stop shaking.

Hell, i never asked my gf, i just stood next to her at a club looked at her and just held her hand, we have been going out for 2 years since. Sometimes you needn't say a word. :)

i just can't see myself saying anything while there are tons of people around. If we were alone I could probably ask him.

Hm. that sounded bad. I didn't mean it in a bad way. I just mean that since everyone knows everyone in my school......... asking in front of anyone would pretty much mean that everyone would know within a matter of seconds.

i just can't see myself saying anything while there are tons of people around. If we were alone I could probably ask him.

Then grab his hand and take him somewhere and ask him, once you make the first step, al the nerves will go and it'll be ok. Honestly.

i just can't see myself saying anything while there are tons of people around. If we were alone I could probably ask him.

well, if you want to make it like the movies, all dramatic and whatnot, then on Monday, when he is going on the bus, then he steps on the bus, then you grab his sholder *kissing movie music* and tell him your true feelings. right in front of the big, fat, ugly bus driver.

sure, scientifically it makes sence... I just go ask him... but... the only problem with science is that it doesn't account for human error... and...
man, I am seriously going to pass out if I don't stop shaking./me sighs.

I sympathize. I've been in the same position. So, I know this is going to be extemely difficult for you.

Don't let him pass you by without getting his contact information. Get his phone number, E-mail, or whatever he's willing to give you.

You can also write him a love letter. Put your thoughts to paper while you're not so nervous. Then, hand-deliver it to him (so that there's no doubt that it really did come from you).

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

that's the other thing! i can't picture us touching.... (which is odd, actually)

Hm. that sounded bad. I didn't mean it in a bad way. I just mean that since everyone knows everyone in my school......... asking in front of anyone would pretty much mean that everyone would know within a matter of seconds.

seriously. stuff at middle and high schools travel faster then Osama Ben laden, when the US army is after him.

i fail to see how i can make myself have more confidenceIn my opinion: You can't. Unless you have an epiphany that eliminates your fears.

Otherwise, it takes pracitce. So, fake it until you make it.

"Think about it for a moment", then act!

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

that's the other thing! i can't picture us touching.... (which is odd, actually)

Heh, nothings odd if you're as nervous as you say.

sorry but i just can't help it

BEEEEEEEEEEEP.

"I'm sorry, that's the wrong answer."

Try "I can".

If you keep saying it for long enough, you'll be able to get over it.

Also, pre-vissing it can help. I'm slowly getting less and less nervous about telling this girl that I like her.

man, I am seriously going to pass out if I don't stop shaking.
*hugs Guitar Muzic and gives the electronic equivalent of warmly looking into her eyes*
Courage is something you learn from years of practice. If you're afraid of doing something, don't dwell on it. Try to do it without thinking about it. And always try to clear your head of emotion and look at the matter objectively (yes, I know it's hard, but you'll get the hang of it if you try often enough). Things are not nearly as bad or difficult as they seem.

I would also suggest thinking in advance of the exact words you're going to say to him. Memorize them and try to say them without thinking when the moment comes. Afterwards you won't believe you just said that. :)

In my opinion: You can't. Unless you have an epiphany that eliminates your fears.

Otherwise, it takes pracitce. So, fake it until you make it.

"Think about it for a moment", then act!

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
no offence but i think that's kinda silly, you can't fake confidence

depending on how you like him, it would be a lot different. for example, if you like him for what he looks like, then hell, of course you would be nervous. but in your case, if you were friends for a while, then I don't see why ur gettin so wigged out.

I'm going to back up Cogitation, kind of. If you KNOW you won't be able to tell him than just write a little letter. It doesn't even have to be anything really fancy, just a nice little, "Hey, I think I would miss you, here's my phone number, address, etc. Call me some time, okay?" The important thing is that you have to take some kind of action. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you have.

i just can't see myself saying anything while there are tons of people around. If we were alone I could probably ask him."May I talk to you alone for a moment?" Then lead him somewhere private and ask him.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

"May I talk to you alone for a moment?" Then lead him somewhere private and ask him.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
wouldn't that freak him out??? like a lot???

depending on how you like him, it would be a lot different. for example, if you like him for what he looks like, then hell, of course you would be nervous. but in your case, if you were friends for a while, then I don't see why ur gettin so wigged out.

unless the reason he's your friend is because of what he looks like. then that would just be downright shallow.

I'm going to back up Cogitation, kind of. If you KNOW you won't be able to tell him than just write a little letter. It doesn't even have to be anything really fancy, just a nice little, "Hey, I think I would miss you, here's my phone number, address, etc. Call me some time, okay?" The important thing is that you have to take some kind of action. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you have.
You know, that's actually a really good idea. I might be able to do that.... yeah....

no offence but i think that's kinda silly, you can't fake confidence
Confidence is not about not being nervous. It's about not showing that nervousness.

no offence but i think that's kinda silly, you can't fake confidence

I think you can, you can bluff your way into it despite the nerves. Taht what got me my first gf. But i am not a confident person in anyway, but just for those moments when i asked her i was, hence you can do it if you put your mind to it and just go ahead and ask.

unless the reason he's your friend is because of what he looks like. then that would just be downright shallow.
Ha... no... he's really hot, but that's not why I like him.
Actually, 2 years ago he was the one to talk to me. It was the first day of chess club and I was the only girl. He asked if I wanted to play him and I said yes. :)
Then I found out he was really nice, and since then we've been friends.

You know, that's actually a really good idea. I might be able to do that.... yeah....

or you could go with my dramatic movie idea, like the movies you see in the 50's, where the girl's about to get on the plane, and it's windy, and... yeah, i'm just gonna shut my face now.

no offence but i think that's kinda silly, you can't fake confidenceWell, it certainly wouldn't be easy, in any event.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

wouldn't that freak him out??? like a lot???

If he is yuor friend i shouldn't think so, unless he suspects you fancy him already.

Go for it - definately.

There are a couple of girls at school that I really like - but we're in the 'friends' stage too deeply now...I left it too late to say how I felt, and now - well, it would just be awkward.

You'll regret this for the rest of your life if you do nothing, trust me.

or you could go with my dramatic movie idea, like the movies you see in the 50's, where the girl's about to get on the plane, and it's windy, and... yeah, i'm just gonna shut my face now.
The thing is that I can just picture how we'll say good bye unless I do something... we won't talk about leaving at all throughout the day, then at the last moment he'll say something like "well, I guess you're not coming back next year...." and I'll say "yeah..." and he'll say "good bye"

Ha... no... he's really hot, but that's not why I like him.
Actually, 2 years ago he was the one to talk to me. It was the first day of chess club and I was the only girl. He asked if I wanted to play him and I said yes. :)
Then I found out he was really nice, and since then we've been friends.

well, then ur killin 2 birds with one stone. he's nice on the inside and out. I'm the exact opposite. i'm mean to girl;s AND i'm butt-ugly! well not really butt-ugly, but nobody would like me from what i'm like on the outside. let's just say that.

I have been in a similar situation many a time except I am a guy and I wasn't sure the girl liked me. Some things I would suggest before asking him would be come up with a list of pros and cons about each situation. It can help get things in perspective when you have it written in front of you. If you still have not decided by the time Monday rolls around, pay very close attention to his body language to try and figure out if he likes you. Even if he doesn't speak much, body language is much harder to control so you might be able to tell from that. You might went to try "accidently" brushing him or something like that and see how he reacts. If he also goes out of his way to be close to where you are that would be a good sign as well. If he stumbles over his words a lot when you speak to him thats another good indicator.
I'd say giving him your number etc. would be a good idea. I am 17 and fantasticly shy and thinking about if a similar situation happened to me, I would still definately call if I liked the person. But if he is as shy as he sounds don't get your hopes too caught up in that he might call you that night or the night after because if he likes you back, I am guessing he will be obsessing over what to do just as much.
Guys at that age can also change their mind fairly easily if you know how to. Give subtle hints and such and he might start liking you back. I would know, I'm a guy ;)

I think you can, you can bluff your way into it despite the nerves. Taht what got me my first gf. But i am not a confident person in anyway, but just for those moments when i asked her i was, hence you can do it if you put your mind to it and just go ahead and ask.
but i can't see why on earth he would want to go out with me and i can't make myself think that he would, not even for a minute whilst i ask him out

The thing is that I can just picture how we'll say good bye unless I do something... we won't talk about leaving at all throughout the day, then at the last moment he'll say something like "well, I guess you're not coming back next year...." and I'll say "yeah..." and he'll say "good bye"

I still think you should go with my idea... y'know, with the fat bus driver...

I'm also really immature, so you shouldn't listen to me. hell, if a girl said that she liked me, i'd say, "ur mom likes you!" man, i'm gonna get killed when I hit high school, but it might be kinda cool. i've never been stuffed in a locker before.

[QUOTE=Unimportinuous]You might went to try "accidently" brushing him or something like that and see how he reacts. If he also goes out of his way to be close to where you are that would be a good sign as well. [QUOTE]
See, that's part of what I like about him... I know he wouldn't want to do anything that wasn't.... um....... kay.... yeah..... (I'm just going to hope that you all get what I'm trying to say)

[QUOTE=Unimportinuous]You might went to try "accidently" brushing him or something like that and see how he reacts. If he also goes out of his way to be close to where you are that would be a good sign as well. [QUOTE]
See, that's part of what I like about him... I know he wouldn't want to do anything that wasn't.... um....... kay.... yeah..... (I'm just going to hope that you all get what I'm trying to say)

you mean he wouldn't try to make a move on you?

[QUOTE=Guitar Muzic][QUOTE=Unimportinuous]You might went to try "accidently" brushing him or something like that and see how he reacts. If he also goes out of his way to be close to where you are that would be a good sign as well.

you mean he wouldn't try to make a move on you?
yes, exactly.

because, since i'm only 12, i have no idea what you mean. besides, this is the internet! you can say anything you want!

because, since i'm only 12, i have no idea what you mean. besides, this is the internet! you can say anything you want!
Well, this is the internet... but you can't just say whatever you want. There are still rules....

but i can't see why on earth he would want to go out with me and i can't make myself think that he would, not even for a minute whilst i ask him out
so dont ask him out, just tell him that if HE ever asked YOU out, you would say yes.

Well, this is the internet... but you can't just say whatever you want. There are still rules....

not if you don't mind being banned from a few chat rooms, which is probably going to happen to me someday.

not if you don't mind being banned from a few chat rooms, which is probably going to happen to me someday.
erm, yeah, you probably will be banned......

so dont ask him out, just tell him that if HE ever asked YOU out, you would say yes.
that isn't something that's easy to drop into conversation

erm, yeah, you probably will be banned......

well, thats me for ya!

that isn't something that's easy to drop into conversation

I agree. if someone told me that, i'd tell them to start taking their medicine every tuesday and not too forget, then i'd walk away slowly.

I also have a question. if your 12, and a girl keeps picking on you, does thjat mean that she likes you?

well, i have to go eat...... I'll probably check back a bit later...
Thanks to everyone for all the advise.... I'm definatly going to try to do something...... maybe a short letter with my e-mail.... :)

I also have a question. if your 12, and a girl keeps picking on you, does thjat mean that she likes you?
yes, it does. A lot probably.

well, i'm an american, so i just had lunch. it's only 1:38 here.

yes, it does. A lot probably.

DAMN IT!!!!

well, i'm an american, so i just had lunch. it's only 1:38 here.
I'm an American too. I'd tell you what time it was here... but I already just told my age so I'm not going to.

psst, get drunk, and then ask him!:P alcohol kills shyness

She Is So Annoying!!!

psst, get drunk, and then ask him!:P alcohol kills shyness

I'm not sure where you live, but in america, we can't drink 'till we're 21.

I'm not sure where you live, but in america, we can't drink 'till we're 21.

It's 18 here in Australia :p

I'm a guy, and I've been in this spot before. The outcome was this: neither of us said anything to eachother, and nothing ever came of it. I knew she liked me and wanted to date me, but she didn't have the courage to say anything. She knew I liked her but I didn't have the courage to say anything.

Needless to say, I regret keeping my mouth shut. I'd say go for it, because guys tend not to react the same way girls do if a guy approaches them with something like this (well, asuming this guy isn't an arrogant ass). I'm sure even if he doesn't want to have some sort of relationship that he will be flattered at the very least. Go for it.

Oh yeah, Heffalomp. Let's promote underage drinking. If she uses alcohol to take care of this problem maybe she starts using it to take care of other problems as well. That's a long, slippery slope that I don't think you really want to risk sending this girl down. Or maybe you do, whatever. I don't though, I'm a good person. Yes, that's right. Not evil at all.

She Is So Annoying!!!

The person who keeps picking on me, that is. also, I just need to tell you a funny story. the girl who picks on me and my best friend were helping each other digging a hole at the shores of lake laneer(our band went there on a trip). they are just friends, but I enjoy making fun of them, so I said,"awww, isn't that sweet, they're working together!" then he stabbed me with a fork.

jesses. 21. thats harsh. Though im sure plenty start drinking before that, just get someone old enough to buy the schnappy:P

Oh yeah, Heffalomp. Let's promote underage drinking. If she uses alcohol to take care of this problem maybe she starts using it to take care of other problems as well. That's a long, slippery slope that I don't think you really want to risk sending this girl down. Or maybe you do, whatever. I don't though, I'm a good person. Yes, that's right. Not evil at all.

I think heffalomp went down that road himself, then got others to follow him.

that isn't something that's easy to drop into conversation
sure it is. you pretend it just popped into your head and say it when there is a slight lull in the convo.

jesses. 21. thats harsh. Though im sure plenty start drinking before that, just get someone old enough to buy the schnappy:P

Where are you from?

sure it is. you pretend it just popped into your head and say it when there is a slight lull in the convo.
he'd just think i was joking

he'd just think i was joking

and if he thought you were serious, he'd tell you not to forget to take your medicine tomorrow.

the girl who picks on me and my best friend were helping each other digging a hole at the shores of lake laneer(our band went there on a trip). they are just friends, but I enjoy making fun of them, so I said,"awww, isn't that sweet, they're working together!" then he stabbed me with a fork.

it HURT! X_X

Back on subject JUST ASK HIM! It's as easy as ABC
A - Pull him over to one side
B - Tell him your feelings
C - Hug him walk away and carry on as normal.

Well, if all goes to plan you wont have to do part C, as you two will be snogging ^_^

Oh yeah, Heffalomp. Let's promote underage drinking. If she uses alcohol to take care of this problem maybe she starts using it to take care of other problems as well. That's a long, slippery slope that I don't think you really want to risk sending this girl down. Or maybe you do, whatever. I don't though, I'm a good person. Yes, that's right. Not evil at all.
No worries about me drinking... I don't think that solves anything.

Ask him.
As has been pointed out, the worst case scenario is identical to what will happen if you don't.

In fact, it's not. If you ask him, and he says "no", then you won't be forever wondering what might have been Whereas, if you don't ask him, it's the same, but you will be beating yourself up inside for not asking.
So the worst thing you can do is not ask him.

I know exactly how you feel and i say go for it! The worst that can happen is that he doesn't like you, right? Now, if you're good friends with him he's not going to laugh in your face if he doesnt feel the same way. So you've got nothing to lose.

You'll really regret it if you don't- I know I did. This guy in orchestra was really nice and funny, and my friend was sure he liked me. But I didn't do anything about it! And now I won't see him until September...

The moral of the story: tell him!

Lots of love,
Queen Canzanetti

When I said see how he reacts to accidently brushing him, I meant see if he pulls away or not. I didn't mean he would make a move on you.
If I interpreted what you said the right way that is.

When I said see how he reacts to accidently brushing him, I meant see if he pulls away or not. I didn't mean he would make a move on you.
If I interpreted what you said the right way that is.
ok :) I wasn't entirely sure what you meant....

Yes... Go for it.

BTW: What kind of Boy-girl friendship do you have?

Back on subject JUST ASK HIM! It's as easy as ABC
A - Pull him over to one side
B - Tell him your feelings
C - Hug him walk away and carry on as normal.

Well, if all goes to plan you wont have to do part C, as you two will be snogging ^_^

what does snogging mean?

what does snogging mean?
americans :rolleyes:

it means like 'making out'

what does snogging mean?A terrible british slang word for kissing.

Yes... Go for it.

BTW: What kind of Boy-girl friendship do you have?
Um, I'm not exactly sure what you're asking... Right now we talk and hang out at school all the time.

Um, I'm not exactly sure what you're asking... Right now we talk and hang out at school all the time.

*Explains point better*

What I mean is when you say 'hi', say 'goodbye' do you hug eachother or not?

BTW: If you want to have a laugh at my expense, click on the linky about getting lost in the woods...

*Explains point better*

What I mean is when you say 'hi', say 'goodbye' do you hug eachother or not?

BTW: If you want to have a laugh at my expense, click on the linky about getting lost in the woods...
Um, no, not at all. Just friends. But.... I really like him.

but you dont like him enough to overcome your shyness? :rolleyes:

but you dont like him enough to overcome your shyness? :rolleyes:
The problem is that I like him SO much that I am having a hard time. We're really good just friends... and I don't want to upset him.

i think u should just ask him coz its better knowin how he feels then lookin bk in years to come and thinkin what if and ya neva know he might be thinkin the same thing as u wounderin if u like him or not and bein to shy and unsure to ask u.its worth a try init coz then at least u can say u tried and u said how u feel so no matter what happens if i was u id be happy coz i got my feelings out in the open love nic xxxxxxx

The way I see it is if you dont ask him, you will never know, so you will more than likely always regret it. If you do ask him, then you'll know where he stands. Besides, whats the worst he can do, say he's not interested? In which case, if your never going to see him again anyway, then at least you wont have to live with the cliche` embarassment of "the guy I like knows I like him" I honestly cant see a downside to asking him, even if he doesnt like you the way you would hope for.
And dont let that excuse of "it might ruin our friendship" get in your way. It might, and it might not. I dated a guy for over a year, had a REALLY messy break up, and now hes my best friend. You will never know, and if you let things pass you up, you might never have the chance to find out agian. ;)

I'd have to agree with the general sentiment of this thread. You really ought to go for it. If you don't, you'll end up regretting it forever, wondering what might have been. I would also agree with the advice Ashmoria offered. Don't put too much pressure on him by declaring all of your feelings for him all at once. Take it slow.

Other than that, good luck!





p.s. - Kreitzmoorland is awesome

And dont let that excuse of "it might ruin our friendship" get in your way. It might, and it might not. I dated a guy for over a year, had a REALLY messy break up, and now hes my best friend. You will never know, and if you let things pass you up, you might never have the chance to find out agian. ;)
That's really encourageing... I guess I don't really have anything to lose... so I might as well find out. :)

That's really encourageing... I guess I don't really have anything to lose... so I might as well find out. :)

Go for it... Because if you don't

*Loads shotgun*

You would shoot me???

You would shoot me???

Nah, it's just an empty threat... Or is it???

*Laughs madly*

*Men in white coats suddnely appear*

*Begin to drag me away*

No! Not again! NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I'd have to agree with the general sentiment of this thread. You really ought to go for it. If you don't, you'll end up regretting it forever, wondering what might have been. I would also agree with the advice Ashmoria offered. Don't put too much pressure on him by declaring all of your feelings for him all at once. Take it slow.

Other than that, good luck!





p.s. - Kreitzmoorland is awesome[Some manner of appropriate, on topic advice]




Sdaeriji is sexy

You would shoot me??? Threats are a pretty good motivator.

That's really encourageing... I guess I don't really have anything to lose... so I might as well find out. :)

You really should. It will interfere in your friendship if you've got all these feelings that you aren't able to express to him.

Threats are a pretty good motivator.
Um, yeah... I guess so!

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me.

~wondering girl

Just ask for his phone number and email address with the idea of merely staying in touch. Then at least you can give yourself more time. He will give both to you and yet you haven't fully revealed the extent of your interest. It can then develop.

After reading 2 pages of whatever people felt were alright responses, I've finally gathered enough spunk to put my own "$.02" in.

Simply put, I get what your saying cuz I'm a guy on the other side that was in the exact same spot. Sophomore year of H.S., I had a crush, on a girl we'll call "Kayla" now, that was in my grade. The history of what happened between us is quite strange, but basically I held the same sort of feeling for her as you feel for that dude.

When I went to her house to ask her up front if she liked me or not, she said no, but it was out of fear and not out of candor. If I kept pushing her, we would have gone out and what not but I don't like to play games and I wasn't exactly heartbroken so I didn't care enough to do so.

More or less, you shouldn't push anything you think you have with this guy. If you really do like him (and if you think he likes you), then just be friendly with him. Until you understand the close line between being close friends and being B.F./ G.F., you'll just have to keep being nice to people you like. It really comes down to just a build up of spontaneous events that brings a natural glowing feeling. Finally, (not to sound melodramatic or like I'm coming str8 from the movies) just relax and give in. Don't worry about the risk and don't worry about feeling like crap afterwords. Emotions are what make you human and its because of them that you'd appreciate the experience whether its a home run or not.

What should you do? Like I said, just be nice to him and don't be afraid to get personal. If you really like him, then you shouldn't be all tense around him. Just relax and talk and behave like you've known him forever. You said he's kinda quiet, so he oughta just smile, giggle, and what not; but in reality, its because he's taking you seriously and appreciates your company.

Hope you read this and Good Luck!!
:cool:

Try your luck. You really have nothing to lose, if indeed you will probably never see him again if he does not feel the same. However, you have everything to gain. As they say, Amor Omnia Vincit.

Sdaeriji is sexy

Damn right he is.

Threats are a pretty good motivator.

That's my motto. "When in doubt, violence is the answer."

After reading 2 pages of whatever people felt were alright responses, I've finally gathered enough spunk to put my own "$.02" in.

Simply put, I get what your saying cuz I'm a guy on the other side that was in the exact same spot. Sophomore year of H.S., I had a crush, on a girl we'll call "Kayla" now, that was in my grade. The history of what happened between us is quite strange, but basically I held the same sort of feeling for her as you feel for that dude.

When I went to her house to ask her up front if she liked me or not, she said no, but it was out of fear and not out of candor. If I kept pushing her, we would have gone out and what not but I don't like to play games and I wasn't exactly heartbroken so I didn't care enough to do so.

More or less, you shouldn't push anything you think you have with this guy. If you really do like him (and if you think he likes you), then just be friendly with him. Until you understand the close line between being close friends and being B.F./ G.F., you'll just have to keep being nice to people you like. It really comes down to just a build up of spontaneous events that brings a natural glowing feeling. Finally, (not to sound melodramatic or like I'm coming str8 from the movies) just relax and give in. Don't worry about the risk and don't worry about feeling like crap afterwords. Emotions are what make you human and its because of them that you'd appreciate the experience whether its home run or not.

What should you do? Like I said, just be nice to him and don't be afraid to get personal. If you really like him, then you shouldn't be all tense around him. Just relax and talk and behave like you've known him forever. You said he's kinda quiet, so he oughta just smile, giggle, and what not; but in reality, its because he's taking you seriously and appreciates your company.

Hope you read this and Good Luck!!
:cool:

i'm sure if telling this story will actually help. Yo8u could change it so she said 'yes'...

you always tell them, so u can hook up or move on, i did that once and goty shut down but i felt better afterwards anyways

Dooooooo Iiiiiiiiiitttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

he liked this one girl a long time ago and he told her... and she freaked out and wouldn't talk to him for 2 years.

Which is why he won't ask you. His psychology is tweaked towards not talking to anyone because he thinks he'll get burned! Even if he loves you with all his heart, his mind will NEVER give him the courage to ask you. However....

If you ask him, his mind will no longer have a reason to hold back. You love him! He now will know that he can say that he loves you without you freaking out and not talking to him.

My advice... got for it. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose.

Vohteria

After reading 2 pages of whatever people felt were alright responses, I've finally gathered enough spunk to put my own "$.02" in.

Simply put, I get what your saying cuz I'm a guy on the other side that was in the exact same spot. Sophomore year of H.S., I had a crush, on a girl we'll call "Kayla" now, that was in my grade. The history of what happened between us is quite strange, but basically I held the same sort of feeling for her as you feel for that dude.

When I went to her house to ask her up front if she liked me or not, she said no, but it was out of fear and not out of candor. If I kept pushing her, we would have gone out and what not but I don't like to play games and I wasn't exactly heartbroken so I didn't care enough to do so.

More or less, you shouldn't push anything you think you have with this guy. If you really do like him (and if you think he likes you), then just be friendly with him. Until you understand the close line between being close friends and being B.F./ G.F., you'll just have to keep being nice to people you like. It really comes down to just a build up of spontaneous events that brings a natural glowing feeling. Finally, (not to sound melodramatic or like I'm coming str8 from the movies) just relax and give in. Don't worry about the risk and don't worry about feeling like crap afterwords. Emotions are what make you human and its because of them that you'd appreciate the experience whether its home run or not.

What should you do? Like I said, just be nice to him and don't be afraid to get personal. If you really like him, then you shouldn't be all tense around him. Just relax and talk and behave like you've known him forever. You said he's kinda quiet, so he oughta just smile, giggle, and what not; but in reality, its because he's taking you seriously and appreciates your company.

Hope you read this and Good Luck!!
:cool:
:) that sounds the best yet. It is hard to tell friends apart from more than friends... I doesn't need to be a big deal, and I know everything will be fine either way.

Time for a quick injection of Taldaan serum, guaranteed to reduce self-esteem and increase doubt.

You see, the real question is what you look like. Do guys find you attractive? If not, don't tell him. Believe me, being flat out rejected by a friend who you subsequently lose entirely hurts. Heartbreak is one of the more painful things you can go through. If you aren't good looking, spare yourself. You sound like an alright person, so you owe yourself that. Stay friends with him, but try to deaden all your other feelings for him because they aren't worth it.

Before someone shoots me down over this, I'm just speaking from my experiences. Maybe yours are different.

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me.

~wondering girl


Well, the way I see it, you should ask him. If he says yes, then good for you. If he says no, then the worse thing he could do is avoid you for the rest of the time he sees you.

But if he's only going to see you again until Monday, what the hell? :)

I don't know though... I'm sooo unsure.... I don't want to lose him as a friend.
If you don't ask him you are just as likely to lose him aren't you? It's better to regret something you did than to regret soething you did not do.

I may be a young, naive, immature nerd who still has his mom buy clothes, but I'm quite wise.
Are you arguing with yourself?

unless the reason he's your friend is because of what he looks like. then that would just be downright shallow.
Another self-refutation! You are my new favourite user.


man, I am seriously going to pass out if I don't stop shaking.
Then stop sitting at the computer and go for a run. It will make you feel better to release some of that bottled-up energy.

I say you should keep in contact and be v good friends. Call yrself special friends if u like. My girlfriend and i split but kept each other as special friends and that kinda relationship is more likely to last and keep both sides happy than being a couple. Definitely don't lose him. Maybe after a few years you can work your lives into each other again and take it from there...

I say you should keep in contact and be v good friends. Call yrself special friends if u like. My girlfriend and i split but kept each other as special friends and that kinda relationship is more likely to last and keep both sides happy than being a couple. Definitely don't lose him. Maybe after a few years you can work your lives into each other again and take it from there...
Yeah, that sounds good... :) Thanks for posting!

iSplit the spam and flamebait.

Carry on.

--The Modified Democratic States of Cogitation

Tell Him. You have nothing to loose. I know it can be scary but you just gotta go for it & hope for the best.

Sheesh, why does everyone seem to advocate going from "Best of friends" to "Madly in love" in one step?

No-one ever tried flirting casually with the occasional off-handed compliment or look infused with a bit of cheek, a dash of charm and a dollop of humour before rushing straight to the love part?

Hell, the flirting is one of the best parts!

Works pretty well for me usually ;)

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me. ~wondering girl



Does he talk to you about other girls? Ask you how he can approach them or anything?

Since you guys seem to be good friends it shouldn't mess up things if you do approach him in that way.

Go for it. If you two are really friends, and he isn't interested you both should be able to pick up and move on from that blip and remain to be friends. If he is interested .. then good luck, ish you well in that endeavor :p

Ok, for me its monday and I want an answer dammit!!! :D

Ok, Guitar Muzic, you were given a variety of options by various members of the audience here, as to what to do today (yesterday, tommorrow whenever), in your quest to get the guy you want. Now which answer did you choose? :D

*Drum roll*

Well... it's monday morning for me! I leave in half an hour....... so basically I'll let everyone know in 9 hours. (give or take)

Well... it's monday morning for me! I leave in half an hour....... so basically I'll let everyone know in 9 hours. (give or take)

Best of luck! :)

Well... it's monday morning for me! I leave in half an hour....... so basically I'll let everyone know in 9 hours. (give or take)

Good luck! Break someone else's leg!

best of luck!

Thanks everyone!!! ;)

Good luckessss

How'd it go?

How'd it go?Patience, patience! She won't be back until about 11 PM GMT.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Patience, patience! She won't be back until about 11 PM GMT.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Ok...

I may be a young, naive, immature nerd who still has his mom buy clothes, but I'm quite wise.

I'm sorry...I thought you were me until I figured out that you were twelve.
...minus the naive part, I'm quite cynical.

I'm sorry...I thought you were me until I figured out that you were twelve.
...minus the naive part, I'm quite cynical.Everyone's cynical to some degree or another. Especially me.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Everyone's cynical to some degree or another. Especially me.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I'm super-duper-pooper-scooper cynical. *that's a lot*

She back yet?

Well....... :) today went great. (just to let you all know... I've heard my best friend talk about guys before and so I know this will sound pathetic and stupid unless you really care and understand that this guy means a lot to me)

Today we spent a lot of time together... basically all of the time we were in the same class or in lounge. Right at the begining of the day he said "today is full of mixed emotions" and I was like "yes, exactly". We talked about lot of stuff... (mostly fireworks and pranks believe it or not) (man he's so perfect...) ok, back to the story... We have Spanish last period together and the teacher let us talk for most of class. Oh wait! ok, at the begining of class I saw his backpack on the table so I put mine next to it. Then one of my friends put her purse in between them... :) I moved her purse... (hey, who could blame me???) (And he made some really good rice crispy treats!!! he cooks!!! that's really great because I don't like to cook!) (sorry! of topic again!) Um, ok, so the bell rings... and everyone gets up. Then I said "do you have e-mail?" and he was like "oh, yeah I do..." then we spent 30 seconds talking about who would write it down... (we both did) anyway, then (wow, I have his e-mail...) he said he doesn't e-mail much, but that I should e-mail him anyway. Everyone else was gone by now... and we were walking toward the door. We shook hands (guy thing...) But then he looked like he realized that it was a guy thing and he put his hand on my shoulder and said that he'd miss me... I don't really remember what I said or what he said, but we talked for like 30 seconds... then we went out the door. Then we both kind of stopped out side the door as if reluctant to leave. He turned toward me and said "you have really nice eyes... so if you're every feeling down..." and then he smiled. I said thanks... then he put his hand on my shoulder again and said good bye.
It took like 30 seconds for me to comprehend what was going on... he was leaving... I started to walk outside, fearing that it was too late to wave (don't ask, I just got this feeling and I wanted to wave soooo bad) I went outside but I didn't see him... (and I don't know what his family's car looks like) I sadly walked back inside and his mom came over and said "I heard you're leaving" I said yes then she said "you're one of my favorite people here..." and she hugged me. Then she went up the stairs. Then it hit me, if his mom was still here then so was he! (my brain was kind of messed up... i'm not usually that slow...) I sprinted up the stairs and found him and his mom. They were waiting for someone to get ready. Then his mom said "I'm going to cry!" and I said "me to!" and then he said "well don't look at eachother or something" (that was actually a really nice thing to say even though it doesn't sound like it now) it was really sad... then his mom hugged me again and said "we have phone numbers!" as if I were totally over reacting... then they left........

He obviously cares for me... and... I think we'll stay in touch. It's odd having so many people care about my personal life.... but yeah, I think we're definatly going to stay in touch, and... possably become bf/gf later. (one step at a time, right?)

the coolest part is that this doesn't feel like a crush. It feels very different. It feels.... special. :)

please please please take it from someone who has been there. ask him. if its meant to be then it won't work out and everything will be fine. but if you never know then you'll always be wondering if you should of gone for him.

WHOO for you! Now if only I could do that...

Ask him out dammit! :headbang:

Ask him out dammit! :headbang:
I'm going to take it one step at a time. I'm very doubtful that he's going to fall in love in a week. But I will be asking him soon.... I want to know if he really likes me or if we really are just meant to be friends. It's not good to be dreaming about someone who just wants to be friends. And even if he just wants to be friends that's fine with me too.

Wooo... good job... http://67.18.37.16/1381/85/emo/banana.gif

Wooo... good job... http://67.18.37.16/1381/85/emo/banana.gif
that little banana man is exactly how I feel. (only I'd dance with my eyes closed) (don't ask why, I just would)

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me.

~wondering girl

If there were only more girls like you out there....He's a lucky guy to have you as a friend and who knows, you know. ;)
Ask him. What do you have to lose??

If there were only more girls like you out there....He's a lucky guy to have you as a friend and who knows, you know. ;)
Ask him. What do you have to lose??
Wow... what did I do to deserve such a compliment??? :D

Well....... :) today went great. (just to let you all know... I've heard my best friend talk about guys before and so I know this will sound pathetic and stupid unless you really care and understand that this guy means a lot to me)

Today we spent a lot of time together... basically all of the time we were....You strongly hinted at your feelings for each other and exchanged contact information.

...

Ladies... and... gentlemen... a round of applause, please, for "Guitar Muzic".

You realize, of course, that you do have to follow-up. I would suggest that you ask him out sometime. Go to a cafe, have some coffee, or whatever, and chat for a half-hour. Hang out at a mall. Light and easy stuff to begin with, then move up to more involved things.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

He turned toward me and said "you have really nice eyes... so if you're every feeling down..." and then he smiled.

You should have kissed him right here. It would have been storybook perfect.

Other than that, it sounds like you did a real good job of not getting too afraid. Hooray for Guitar Muzic!

*feels VERY queezy* now I've done it. I'm going to finish this and go to bed before I pass out.
Kay. So. I sent him an e-mail. Um. This is it. (with name changes)


Hi! How are you?
I'm doing good. My best friend got me a new Enya CD today for my birthday (which was months ago... but best friends aren't best friends for the gifts they give!) and I'm thrilled! (I'm still a little hyper from earlier to...) I really love Enya and this is the first CD I have.
Well, I heard that you're not supposed to e-mail people the same day you get their e-mail address, but I've always had trouble following rules that seem pointless and are not required. (anyway, you already know me so there's not first impression to make)

I have a question that's sort of hard to ask... (and even harder to answer, I'm sure) (hm, I wonder how many times I'm going to re-write this before I send it?) but... well, I have to ask it anyway. Um. Kay. *deep breath* are we just friends? or maybe more? (I have a bad feeling I'm going to regret asking) I don't want anything about our friendship to change, I'm just worried that now co-op is over I won't see you again. And you're a really great guy and a great friend.

I don't want anything to change, I just want to know what you think.

You have to understand I don't want to freak you out... and if we're just friends then that's great. But really you are such a great guy that I like you. And we've never really discussed this... and I just want to know what you think. This is going to sound sooo stupid when you read it... but I'm being totally honest and... I'm just going to have to hope that because you had that girl not talk to you for 2 years you'll understand. I don't necesarily want it one way or the other...

Hm, I wonder if your Dad will read this before you do! (I think you said it was your Dad's e-mail...) I think I'm ok with that, strangely enough...

Really honestly, if this is going to mess up our friendship then just pretend I never sent it!
I can't decide weather to send this or not. But I've been wondering for awhile and I guess I'd wrather ask than keep wondering.
I know you said you don't e-mail that often... that's fine. Once a week, once a month, whatever works for you! I e-mail all the time because it lets me talk to all my friends. (ahm. you don't get a nickname like "1000 e-mails a day" for nothing)
Well! guess that's about all I could possably say (I have a tendancy to send really long e-mails) (and I tend to babble on and on)

bye! :)
~Me
P.S. I didn't have to re-write it at all. It took a long time though... :)
P.P.S. well. I guess as soon as I press the send button it's no longer mine to worry about. Somehow that button looks awefully far away though... It's going to take a lot to press it... You'll understand. I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing (but I guess that when emotions get mixed up in anything small hills become mountains)


*shakes a lot* sooo........ how stupid was that??? (on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being REALLY stupid)

You should have kissed him right here. It would have been storybook perfect.

Other than that, it sounds like you did a real good job of not getting too afraid. Hooray for Guitar Muzic!
and I only see 3 problems with the whole kiss thing..... #1 he's really tall. He would have wanted to kiss me! #2 NO bf/gf relationships at school #3 I think that would have freaked him out... maybe not... I'm not really a guy so I don't really know...

It's sweet and very cute. I know it's not going to change anything, but you're really worrying about nothing. From what you told us about your last day, he obviously likes you. You'll be just fine. :)

and I only see 3 problems with the whole kiss thing..... #1 he's really tall. He would have wanted to kiss me! #2 NO bf/gf relationships at school #3 I think that would have freaked him out... maybe not... I'm not really a guy so I don't really know...

1. Who cares, if you really like him? :)

2. Who cares, if you really like him? :)

3. From what you said, he seemed to want to kiss you but couldn't work up the nerve. He wouldn't have freaked out.

It's sweet and very cute. I know it's not going to change anything, but you're really worrying about nothing. From what you told us about your last day, he obviously likes you. You'll be just fine. :)
Thanks. I think I may be able to go to sleep now. Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe I'll just pass out and I won't have to worry about anything!
Why do guys have to be so........ I guess the real question is why do I have to be freaking out so much???

3. From what you said, he seemed to want to kiss you but couldn't work up the nerve. He wouldn't have freaked out.
you think so??? I wanted a hug. Really a lot.

Thanks. I think I may be able to go to sleep now. Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe I'll just pass out and I won't have to worry about anything!
Why do guys have to be so........ I guess the real question is why do I have to be freaking out so much???

Because you're a 16 year old girl. Relax. It's normal. I guarantee you he was shitting bricks today before you guys parted.

you think so??? I wanted a hug. Really a lot.

You should have. You'd have better luck with him not freaking out about a hug than a kiss. Oh well. From the sounds of it, you'll have plenty of opportunities to hug him in the future. ;)

Because you're a 16 year old girl. Relax. It's normal. I guarantee you he was shitting bricks today before you guys parted.
relax??? ha!!! that's REALLY funny........ I'm the farthest from relaxed that I've ever been (I can't even type!)

hey,

I hope it works out for you. Might give me some confidence if a guy i like comes along. I'm also 16 and never had a boyfriend. So your not that weird. . .wait, I am weird! I hope he says yes for you!

the coolest part is that this doesn't feel like a crush. It feels very different. It feels.... special. :)

http://img281.echo.cx/img281/8802/000002039lh.gif

That is so sweet...

hey,

I hope it works out for you. Might give me some confidence if a guy i like comes along. I'm also 16 and never had a boyfriend. So your not that weird. . .wait, I am weird! I hope he says yes for you!

Heh, just caus you're 16 and never had a boyfriend you ARE NOT wierd, honestly. Most of my friends didn't have gf/bfs until they were in 6th form college (17/18 years old) or when they got to uni. I had my first gf at 16 *shrugs* so I wouldn't worry.

Ok...... so.... my school is going to end on monday and I really like this one guy. We've been friends for about 2 years now, but nothing more. I REALLY like him and am afraid I won't see him again. I can't imagine saying goodbye. (the school I go to meets only every monday and he lives pretty far away)

I'm not sure if he likes me as just a friend... or if... I don't know.
But he's really sweet and like the perfect guy. I want to tell him that I really like him and would really miss him. (I don't want to lose him.)
He's more of a quiet guy when it comes to relationships and I know he wouldn't say anything to me even if he did like me. But we always hang out during our free period and he always sits next to me in class.
2 weeks ago I was carying a heavy box and he walks up and says "here, let me cary that for you" I was like "ok" and yeah... I just can't figure out if that was just him being kind or if he likes me.

~wondering girl

Yes, tell him, tell him, tell him... i could say that so many more times... it is vital that you get that point... and then tell me how it goes :)

*feels VERY queezy* now I've done it. I'm going to finish this and go to bed before I pass out.
Kay. So. I sent him an e-mail. Um. This is it. (with name changes)


<huge snip>


*shakes a lot* sooo........ how stupid was that??? (on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being REALLY stupid)

apart from sounding way too much like something i would write... it sounded like a good e mail. He probably would have picked up on how nervous you were and been quite shocked (in agood way) that anyone could get that nervous over him... anyhow, hope it goes well for you guys

Do it Tar Musik Vitamin C says so if you dont you will regret the thought of never knowing.
God knows i blew it!

Congratulations GM, I hope that you two take the next step and become more than the good friends that you say you are.

:) Another happy NS Generalite. Success!

Looking back on highschool it makes me smile to think of how hugely important everything seemed then. Believe me, none of it makes a bit of difference after you graduate. We all turn into completely different people by the age of about 20. For the most part you will forget the unpleasant or embarrassing or uncomfortable moments anyway, and the only memories you will really be left with are (a) the really good times, and how easy things really were, had you but known it, and (b) the chances you let slip away through fear or indecision.

Find a cool way to let him know you would like to keep in touch, you don't have to gush at him and scare him off, just say "Hey we should really do such-and-such sometime this summer, here's my number" (or e-mail address or whatever), and get him to give you his. If he is shy or standard sixteen-year-old-awkward he may feel shy about phoning you, so a quick e-mail may be the ice-breaker you need.

Good luck!

relax??? ha!!! that's REALLY funny........ I'm the farthest from relaxed that I've ever been (I can't even type!)Wow, that reminds me so much of my high school years...



...which I'm in the middle of going through....

:D

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Well. I couldn't sleep last night (really I still can't sleep since I'd still be in bed on a regular day) I turned the light off at 11:00.... but I know I didn't go to sleep for at least and hour and a half, maybe 2 hours. Then something woke me up at 5:30 and nautrally I couldn't get back to sleep. (thus I got up and took a shower at 6 and am here by 6:30)
As soon as it's a reasonable time to call I'm going to call him. I can't wait any more. (I would have called him at 12:30 last night... but it was 12:30! I don't think anyone in his house would have liked to be woken up.......)

I did a whole lot of thinking last night... If I don't ask he never will... and then I'll never know. What he did yesterday was as close to saying he liked me as he's going to get... and I think that it will work out.
Thanks to everyone who has stayed with me through the whole thing... I'm praying that there will be a happy ending to the story. ;)

apart from sounding way too much like something i would write... it sounded like a good e mail. He probably would have picked up on how nervous you were and been quite shocked (in a good way) that anyone could get that nervous over him... anyhow, hope it goes well for you guys
*shoked face* wait, you think he'll up on how nervous I was??? No way! (um, very very VERY sarcastic) (ha! look! I'm being sarcastic!!! that's a good sign!!!) Actually.... wow.... I so cannot believe I'm doing this. But I guess love is a risk....


(I hope that didn't sound totally mean.... my brain is kind of pre-occupied....)

*shoked face* wait, you think he'll up on how nervous I was??? No way! (um, very very VERY sarcastic) (ha! look! I'm being sarcastic!!! that's a good sign!!!) Actually.... wow.... I so cannot believe I'm doing this. But I guess love is a risk....


(I hope that didn't sound totally mean.... my brain is kind of pre-occupied....)

No! Really? (Sarcastic)

*shoked face* wait, you think he'll up on how nervous I was??? No way! (um, very very VERY sarcastic) (ha! look! I'm being sarcastic!!! that's a good sign!!!) Actually.... wow.... I so cannot believe I'm doing this. But I guess love is a risk....


(I hope that didn't sound totally mean.... my brain is kind of pre-occupied....)

Well, you've written it, its gone, now just have to wait for the reply :D

In the meantime, i suggest going keeping yourself occupied with other things, keep your mind off it for now.

Well, you've written it, its gone, now just have to wait for the reply :D

In the meantime, i suggest going keeping yourself occupied with other things, keep your mind off it for now.
Love- so easy to give good advice, so hard to take it.

Life is to short not to live long

Love- so easy to give good advice, so hard to take it.

Very true, but you'd rather have some advice than non at all right? :)

Very true, but you'd rather have some advice than non at all right? :)
Yes! definatly!!! there is no way I would have gotten this far on my own....

Yes! definatly!!! there is no way I would have gotten this far on my own....

Hehe, well its good to know :) Besides, i started with my 1st gf like this kinda.

We met at a party, exchanged email addresses, she wrote to me as soon as she got home, I replied and it took off from there.

I hope yours goes the same way :)

Hehe, well its good to know :) Besides, i started with my 1st gf like this kinda.

We met at a party, exchanged email addresses, she wrote to me as soon as she got home, I replied and it took off from there.

I hope yours goes the same way :)
Thanks very much! I hope it does too......

Thanks very much! I hope it does too......

Best of luck with it all!

a ma gawd, so exciting, just like a decent tv show ;)

:) well, he replied to my e-mail...

You sure don't waste time in e-mailling people do you. I really enjoyed reading you e-mail.

I think what you asked was actually a very brave thing to ask. Truthfully I enjoy being around you and I want to keep the relationship going.
I'm not sure quite how to say this. I don't date, my philosophy is that God will bring the right girl along at the right time. I believe that it is good to be friends and if something more grows naturally out of that.....

Anyhow, are you coming to the school Picnic? And (bad grammar) Who is "Enya" what style etc.

A little about my life.
SAT's today. Today is just the first day of two. Todays test when well and I actually knew the answer to almost every science question. I'm not so certain about Spelling.

As soon as I finish writing this I'm going to head over the neighbors to mow their lawn for them.

OHHH!!! I just had an idea. If you like I could let you know when and where my summer soccer games are. So if one was in your area you could come. (If I don't let you know before a few weeks you can just remind me. I tend to forget these types of things.)

Anyhow I got your E-mail address in my "book" and I gave you your "1000 e-mail" nickname L.O.L.

I've got to get going .

In friendship
*name of the most perfect guy ever*


:) well I'm really happy. I have to go e-mail him back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thanks everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) :) :) :) :)

Good job, GM... :)

"WHOO!" for you.

Thanks!!! I'm in total smiles mood! all I can do is smile!!! :)

See? You're gamble has payed off

http://img281.echo.cx/img281/8802/000002039lh.gif

Nice one :)

"God will bring the right girl along...???" What is this guy, a mormon?

Damn, i wish i had your guts:headbang:, then again i'm at Uni not high school

"God will bring the right girl along...???" What is this guy, a mormon?
He's a Christian, just like me. :D

*Applause*

Well, it looks like it payed off. Well done!

Good job, GM... :)
What s/he said. Superlative, GM, superlative! :) :D

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Looks like a great outcome!

Yep!!! I'm soooo happy!!!!!!!

Mr. "I only e-mail once a month" has already e-mailed me 3 times since monday. :D
And not just little e-mails either.... long, time consuming 3 page e-mails. :D :D :D
And I'm absolutly just giggly. (no way on earth I'll be able to sleep tonight...)

Mr. "I only e-mail once a month" has already e-mailed me 3 times since monday. :D
And not just little e-mails either.... long, time consuming 3 page e-mails. :D :D :D
And I'm absolutly just giggly. (no way on earth I'll be able to sleep tonight...)

Aww... thats great!!! I'm excited and i don't even know you guys :p

im a guy and a gal whose got a great body but is a total bitch do i go out with her

you should go for it, take it from someone in a similar situation but doesn't have the nerve, you'll be sorry if you don't
[almost totally off-topic]you really shouldn't give that kind of advice if you don't take it yourself ...[/almost totally off-topic]
yeah, I guess I'm being a hypocrite myself, being in a kind of similar situation myself :blush:

Cheres for the reply
:fluffle:

*whipes away a tear*

Wow, this thread reminded me why I come back to this forums - despite all the political bashing and rants - from time to time. So many good people here.

:)

thanks she just asked me out and i said yes

thanks every body and gals should be asked out for there personalitys not there looks

*snif*
I was in a similar situation once... well it wasn't at all similar, my girlfriend picked me up one night in a bar and we've been toghether for 6 years now. :D

Aww... thats great!!! I'm excited and i don't even know you guys :p
:D that is funny!!! I'll admit it is really odd having this many people know about this!!!

*whipes away a tear*

Wow, this thread reminded me why I come back to this forums - despite all the political bashing and rants - from time to time. So many good people here.

:)
I know exactly what you mean. It's the same reason that I came here to ask this question in the first place..... sure, not all the people are great..... but you're bound to get at least a few good answers. (and in my case I got tons of great answers!!!)

:) thanks everyone. Since I haven't stopped smiling since monday I have a feeling that this is going to last a long time and be totally great. And who know.... maybe eventually :fluffle: :P

Congrats and nice to see everything worked out.

[QUOTE=Guitar Muzic]sure, not all the people are great..... but you're bound to get at least a few good answers. (and in my case I got tons of great answers!!!)

my idea wasn't one of the great ones...

This whole thread is so sweet. It makes me wish I were sixteen and crazy for someone again.

it's really inspiring.

This whole thread is so sweet. It makes me wish I were sixteen and crazy for someone again.


how old are you?

[QUOTE=Guitar Muzic]sure, not all the people are great..... but you're bound to get at least a few good answers. (and in my case I got tons of great answers!!!)

my idea wasn't one of the great ones...

Yes it was. It encouraged me to get out there an DO something! I never would have done that if it hadn't been for everyone saying I should.

And I regretted not telling him.

Of course, 5 years later we met up again, and this time we got married.

But that was 5 years wasted because I was afraid to speak up.

how old are you?

Twenty-two.

And I regretted not telling him.

Of course, 5 years later we met up again, and this time we got married.

But that was 5 years wasted because I was afraid to speak up.
Awe... well, it took us 2 years... on the last day, end of last period! :P
It's funny... I'm almost glad school ended now. First I was really sad because I was leaving all of my friends.... but now.... it's not so bad.

GM...congratulations and good luck with your relationship. School just ended for me as well...so I know how it feels to see everyone you've grown close to start going thier own ways...and how it kinda sucks knowing that some of them you won't see for a long time.

It's a good feeling when somethink like your...um...guy friend...comes along. The perfect counter-agent.

*takes a bow*

Yeah... what do I call him??? :D
Yesterday he called (I called first so he was just returning my call) and Mom answered the phone.... later she was all "so, who was that" and I said "a friend" and she asked "what did he want" and I said "stuff"
So now Mom is freaked out.... maybe in a good way though....

Yeah... what do I call him??? :D
Yesterday he called (I called first so he was just returning my call) and Mom answered the phone.... later she was all "so, who was that" and I said "a friend" and she asked "what did he want" and I said "stuff"
So now Mom is freaked out.... maybe in a good way though....

Cute :p

Awe... well, it took us 2 years... on the last day, end of last period! :P
It's funny... I'm almost glad school ended now. First I was really sad because I was leaving all of my friends.... but now.... it's not so bad.

Hmm... wonder what'll happen on my last day... next year i mean