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I dunno, somehow I got a lot of responses on my last topic about me trying to get with this girl I'm really really into.

Well the week before last, Wednesday, I told her how I felt at the last possible second. Only told her that I liked her.

Since then I've been highly avoidant of her. Sure we talked...twice last week. Once where we joked about our teacher, another where we joked...about our teacher.

I don't know why I'm avoiding her. But I think I've confused her significantly.

I want to ask her this Wednesday (next time I see her) if I'm really wasting my time trying to get with her.

Because really. She's only 1 out of 3 girls I'm into. I mean...


How do you ask a girl if your wasting your time trying to get her or not?

Funny and serious responses prefered, people. ;)

Um...if you're avoiding her, you don't need to ask her if you're wasting your time.

The only advice I can give is that you have to risk something to gain something, even in love. If you're not willing to risk hurt, you'll never find it. Took me forty odd years to get that through my thick skull, but it's true.

How do you ask a girl if your wasting your time trying to get her or not?

Almost just like that, only slightly less harshly. Tell her you are interested, and then ask if she feels the same way.

Of course, if you are more the impulsive type, you can try the way my boyfriend (now of about 4 years) made sure I knew he was interested. We were goofing around and watching TV and I went to turn my head towards him and he just kissed me. That was a pretty obvious indication that he was interested. =)

:D That did kinda tip his hand, didn't it?

The only advice I can give is that you have to risk something to gain something, even in love. If you're not willing to risk hurt, you'll never find it. Took me forty odd years to get that through my thick skull, but it's true.
Yeahhhhhh....damn....

just say: "fucking hell. Just sit on my fucking dick, bitch"

just say: "fucking hell. Just sit on my fucking dick, bitch"

How do you read my mind? :eek:

How do you read my mind? :eek:
it's a curse :p

I dunno, somehow I got a lot of responses on my last topic about me trying to get with this girl I'm really really into.

Well the week before last, Wednesday, I told her how I felt at the last possible second. Only told her that I liked her.

Since then I've been highly avoidant of her. Sure we talked...twice last week. Once where we joked about our teacher, another where we joked...about our teacher.

I don't know why I'm avoiding her. But I think I've confused her significantly.

I want to ask her this Wednesday (next time I see her) if I'm really wasting my time trying to get with her.

Because really. She's only 1 out of 3 girls I'm into. I mean...


How do you ask a girl if your wasting your time trying to get her or not?

Funny and serious responses prefered, people. ;)

She's still talking to you which is good :)

Just ask her (or write a letter if you're chicken) whether she likes you as any more than a friend,

if she says no make it clear you still want to be friends,
if she says yes... congrats
if she says no but means yes, she's screwing with your mind, you should try to get over her

I see two ways of saying your intentions towards her. I'd approach her and look her deep in the eyes confidently(put a little bass in your voice too) and say "You know, I'm wondering. Can a guy like me be with a girl like you?" If you don't think that'll work try the exact same steps except say "I'm into you, and I want to be with you but I'm not sure I'll waste YOUR time"

If those don't work then feel free to travel here and personally bitch slap me.

I see two ways of saying your intentions towards her. I'd approach her and look her deep in the eyes confidently(put a little bass in your voice too) and say "You know, I'm wondering. Can a guy like me be with a girl like you?" If you don't think that'll work try the exact same steps except say "I'm into you, and I want to be with you but I'm not sure I'll waste YOUR time"

If those don't work then feel free to travel here and personally bitch slap me.

Yeah they sound good too :)

If there was ever an occasion to take a risk, this is it. You'll benefit whichever way it goes. Just reach out and grasp the thistle of life. Good luck.

JUST TELL HER YOU HAVE A TERMINAL DISEASE.

(don't listen to him, he's crazy)

I dunno, somehow I got a lot of responses on my last topic about me trying to get with this girl I'm really really into.

Well the week before last, Wednesday, I told her how I felt at the last possible second. Only told her that I liked her.

Since then I've been highly avoidant of her. Sure we talked...twice last week. Once where we joked about our teacher, another where we joked...about our teacher.

I don't know why I'm avoiding her. But I think I've confused her significantly.

I want to ask her this Wednesday (next time I see her) if I'm really wasting my time trying to get with her.

Because really. She's only 1 out of 3 girls I'm into. I mean...


How do you ask a girl if your wasting your time trying to get her or not?

Funny and serious responses prefered, people. ;)

Just ask her out, and if she says no, you can move on with your life.

hey, i did it that way and it worked out for me. so you might as well. what have you got to lose anyway if she already knows you like her?

Just ask her (or write a letter if you're chicken) whether she likes you as any more than a friend,

No, no, no. Don't do this. Nope, nyet, never, no.

You'd be just giving her a way out. Don't ask her anything, you told her what you feel and that's done. Now, keep talking to her, try to be as much fun and as much of a tease as you can and treat her the same as always.

You want to bring her in steadily and firmly, not start acting like a wuss.

think about if you realy want to move past where you are- its always fun to be in the unkown place, and sometimes moving into the bedroom esque relationship isnt as fun


(im assuming ur a pretty little kid)

Theres only one answer for this kind of thing... suicide.

Is there any way which is completely risk-free and has a high success rate?

You clearly love her - Tell her how you feel