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It's getting closer and closer...The day we first met. Etuc* and I. It's said that it's better to loved at least once, rather than to have never loved at all, but...I never would have felt this pain if i hadn't have loved him. Nor would I be the happy person I am today. I miss him so much now...last year we took a walk. Just a normal walk around the block, but there was a fight, a shot...everything was a blur...I held him in my arms when he died. When the paramedics came and took him away. Has anyone else ever lost a loved one before like this...?

*Nick name I gave him

Yes, it is better to have loved then to have never loved at all. Time heals all wounds... you'll get over it. :)

It's getting closer and closer...The day we first met. Etuc* and I. It's said that it's better to loved at least once, rather than to have never loved at all, but...I never would have felt this pain if i hadn't have loved him. Nor would I be the happy person I am today. I miss him so much now...last year we took a walk. Just a normal walk around the block, but there was a fight, a shot...everything was a blur...I held him in my arms when he died. When the paramedics came and took him away. Has anyone else ever lost a loved one before like this...?

*Nick name I gave him

You might do good to talk to DerFuhrer Dyszel here on NationStates.

Yes, it is better to have loved then to have never loved at all. Time heals all wounds... you'll get over it. :)

What he said, but... What happened would never leave my mind. I'd live with that moment for the rest of my days. I'm very sorry for such a turn of events. Nobody should ever be put through something like that.

It's getting closer and closer...The day we first met. Etuc* and I. It's said that it's better to loved at least once, rather than to have never loved at all, but...I never would have felt this pain if i hadn't have loved him. Nor would I be the happy person I am today. I miss him so much now...last year we took a walk. Just a normal walk around the block, but there was a fight, a shot...everything was a blur...I held him in my arms when he died. When the paramedics came and took him away. Has anyone else ever lost a loved one before like this...?

*Nick name I gave himYes, once, years ago, I lost my long-loved dog to heart disease. I first became aware of death then, and had nightmares about it for years. Of course, I'm the type of person who can get over an emotional scar quickly, by laughing it off or remembering it humorously.

About your loss, I'm really sorry. I know it was a year ago, but it's still an awful thing to lose a loved one. I want to get this post in before the Generalites tear your sorrow apart with sarcasm and completely inappropriate jokes. My advice: don't dwell on the past. It can only upset you. Think about all the things your boyfriend loved to do or everything he found amusing instead. Maybe you already do, in which case this post is pretty useless, you're doing everything right.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Yes, it is better to have loved then to have never loved at all. Time heals all wounds... you'll get over it. :)
That's what they tell me...but it is very easily said...

You might do good to talk to DerFuhrer Dyszel here on NationStates.
who is DerFuhrer Dyszel?

That's what they tell me...but it is very easily said...

Ok, I was a bit quick on the draw on that post. I posted before reading the whole post. Shame on me. I'm sorry. I didn't read that he was killed. What I said is still true, but you will never forget him. I'm sorry for your loss. But time will heal you. I know it sounds easier said than done, but I have lost people I loved to violence and while I still think of them often, I did heal. I give you nothing but good wishes.

Ok, I was a bit quick on the draw on that post. I posted before reading the whole post. Shame on me. I'm sorry. I didn't read that he was killed. What I said is still true, but you will never forget him. I'm sorry for your loss. But time will heal you. I know it sounds easier said than done, but I have lost people I loved to violence and while I still think of them often, I did heal. I give you nothing but good wishes.You need a few things to heal: courage, memory, and a sense of humor. Maybe there are more that someone else can list.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

who is DerFuhrer Dyszel?

She is a poster here on NationStates. It's her nation name. She went through something very similar to you. It might do good to talk to her; it might not. It's just a suggestion.

And, of course, I am sorry for your loss. I would never presume to know what you are going for, but I sympathize with dealing with the death of a loved one.

*hug*

Ok, I was a bit quick on the draw on that post. I posted before reading the whole post. Shame on me. I'm sorry.Yes, I might add that I never used to read whole posts before replying to them, and it got me into a whole lot of trouble.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

i would reccomend to u a book by David Gemmel called Dark Moon. A major theme in it is that to have a serious romantic relationship is to be @ the very top: it can also lead to despair and even hatred. U should never completely forget Etuc but it also might not hurt to-after a while- try and find someone else. Just a suggestion. U're in my prayers

Not too long ago, I met someone who looked quite a bit like him. My heart was almost ripped to shredds, and yet I was compelled to talk to him. I almost force myself not to treat him like he is Etuc, because I know he'll never be. But we don't talk much, too this day.

It is better to have loved...right?

No ... actually it isn't.

King Saul fell on his sword
When it all went wrong
and Joseph's brother sold him
down the river for a song
and Sonny Liston rubbed
some Tigerbalm in his glove
some things you do for money
and some you do for love love love

Raskalnikov felt sick
but he couldn't say why
when he saw his face reflected
in his victim's twinkling eye
Some things you do for money
and some you'll do for fun
but the things you do for love
are gonna come back to you one by one

Love, love is gonna lead you by the hand
into a white and soundless place
Now we see this
as in a mirror dimley
then we shall see each other
face to face

Way out in Seattle
young Kurt Cobain
snuck out to the garden
put a bullet in his brain
Snakes in the grass beneath our feet
Rain in the clouds above
Some moments last forever
and some flare out with love love love

It's getting closer and closer...The day we first met. Etuc* and I. It's said that it's better to loved at least once, rather than to have never loved at all, but...I never would have felt this pain if i hadn't have loved him. Nor would I be the happy person I am today. I miss him so much now...last year we took a walk. Just a normal walk around the block, but there was a fight, a shot...everything was a blur...I held him in my arms when he died. When the paramedics came and took him away. Has anyone else ever lost a loved one before like this...?

*Nick name I gave himUnfortunatly, I have no one That I care for that much... yet.

the fact that in that breif time, you two were happy together is something you can aways cherish, A joy that I, unfortunatly, have yet to experience. I can only say to be strong and know that as long as he is dear to your heart, he was worth knowing and you were blessed and fortunate to know him.

I'm getting the same answer over and over again...

I've lost friends to death before. It happens more often as you get older.

Doesn't stop me from making friends. Doesn't stop me from loving someone. I tend to think that I'll see them again someday.

I've lost friends to death before. It happens more often as you get older.

Doesn't stop me from making friends. Doesn't stop me from loving someone. I tend to think that I'll see them again someday.
but it's not like it's kept me from living my life...I just really really miss him. Today was the day we first met.

but it's not like it's kept me from living my life...I just really really miss him. Today was the day we first met.
Well, then you miss him. I miss quite a few people (more than the number of fingers and toes at this point).

It makes you treasure the time you do have with the people who are still alive, though.

I'm getting the same answer over and over again...Why doesn't everyone who doesn't have something original to say stop posting? I can understand that your commiseration comes from a deep inner sympathy and compassion, but you're cluttering up the bandwidth by repeating what other people said.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I don't want to start up the whole Christian, non-Christian debates, but my Grandpa passed away when I was six and the most comforting thing that my mom told me was that he has gone to be with Jesus. True I was only six, but I have lost other loved ones since then and those words still stick with me today. The real comfort is not looking back on the good times we had together while he was alive, rather it is looking forward to when we will be together again.

I don't want to start up the whole Christian, non-Christian debates, but my Grandpa passed away when I was six and the most comforting thing that my mom told me was that he has gone to be with Jesus. True I was only six, but I have lost other loved ones since then and those words still stick with me today. The real comfort is not looking back on the good times we had together while he was alive, rather it is looking forward to when we will be together again.Ah. So you recommend religion?


~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I don't want to start up the whole Christian, non-Christian debates, but my Grandpa passed away when I was six and the most comforting thing that my mom told me was that he has gone to be with Jesus. True I was only six, but I have lost other loved ones since then and those words still stick with me today. The real comfort is not looking back on the good times we had together while he was alive, rather it is looking forward to when we will be together again.
so, you're looking forward to death then.

Well, the day has come and gone. Though I still miss him, he shall always be in my heart, and no one can take away my memories of him...

Well, the day has come and gone. Though I still miss him, he shall always be in my heart, and no one can take away my memories of him...and no one should. I hope you found some comfort talking about him and remembering the good time you two had. :)

King Saul fell on his sword
When it all went wrong
and Joseph's brother sold him
down the river for a song

*snip*

Hmm, what's that song? Pretty pessimistic, really - something I might listen to.


I have never had someone I cared about like that, although I hope that eventually I can find someone. Everyone must face a loss like this sometime in their lives; always remember him, and move on, doing what he'd want you to do - keep on living.

Hmm, what's that song? Pretty pessimistic, really - something I might listen to.


I have never had someone I cared about like that, although I hope that eventually I can find someone. Everyone must face a loss like this sometime in their lives; always remember him, and move on, doing what he'd want you to do - keep on living.
keep on living? of course...maybe I should go out and treat myself...I'm going out to buy a book...

Well, the day has come and gone. Though I still miss him, he shall always be in my heart, and no one can take away my memories of him...

i lost the first girl i ever Loved seven years ago last February, and from my experience, you will always miss things about him, there will always be little things that can set you to crying at the drop of a hat, but all told, you'll always be grateful for the time that you had. You will always remember the person that they wanted most for you to be, and being that person will be that much easier.

Courtesy.