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Okay, recently I went to a mates 18th. Big deal me and Adam used to play in bands and stuff together. ANyway, when I get back my boyfriend ain't talking to me. I find out FOUR DAYS LATER that it's because of this 18th. WHY? He explained that he is really jealous yadeyadyada, and how would I feel if he went and partied with his chick mates from the Bay? To which I replied yes I would be jealous, but I trust you enough not to let it get to me.
Anyway, I was just wondering why guys get jealous about their chicks hanging around other guys, when they can openly talk about how hot this chick is and how hot that chick is. It's a bit hypocrytical. HELP!!!!!!!

No, no. Your question actually should be "why are 18 year olds so jealous?" and the answer is: because they're stupid, of course.

Now, if you want a man who is sure of himself and won't act like a baby, TG me your email.

You're right, this guy is hypocritical. Dump him!! He's an asshole.

I am curious as to why your boyfiend wasnt at the party though.

Oh, and being a guy, I'm a little pissed that your thread title generalises all male behavior using your soon to be ex boyfiends as a representative example.

You're right, this guy is hypocritical. Dump him!! He's an asshole.

I am curious as to why your boyfiend wasnt at the party though.

Oh, and being a guy, I'm a little pissed that your thread title generalises all male behavior using your soon to be ex boyfiends as a representative example.

I do apologise for generalising, I'm a little pissed off. He wasn't there because he was sick, like genuinely sick, which didn't help the situation. And he's not 18, I'm not either. He's 21 I'm 19. And this is the first time either of us has had a problem. And he didn't have an issue with it until his best mate said "You let your missus go to some guys 18th who you don't know and she's drinking?" Which implies he does actually trust me - his friends don't.
And he's not a soon to be ex. I was just wondering if guys don't like chicks hanging out with other guys normally. ( I haven't had this issue before.

Yeah, but he lets himself be influenced by his friends. Not good either. And 21 is not much better than 18.

And, see? I don't mind generalizations because I know they're made just to make a point, not because that person really believes everybody is like that. Only very insecure people react like that.

Anyway, maybe he'll grow it up or you'll grow out of him.

Humans tend to be insecure and possessive, thus, jealous.

I myself don't even require physical fidelity in my relationships. I'll date someone so long as the emotional bond seems to be forming. If their emotional bond is with someone else, I shrug, and become a friend with benefits, should they so choose. If they don't want benefits, hey, I'm a friend.

Do I -feel- jealous? Sure. I like to have as much attention as possible. Especially naked attention. But MORE important, to me, is that the people I care about are happy.

No, no. Your question actually should be "why are 18 year olds so jealous?" and the answer is: because they're stupid, of course.

Now, if you want a man who is sure of himself and won't act like a baby, TG me your email.

Hey man, lighten up. I'm 17 and I am in no way stupid.

Hey man, lighten up. I'm 17 and I am in no way stupid.
Nah, I used to think the same way when I was your age. I'm still stupid, but at least now I realise it.

Just think about this: If you weren't stupid, you wouldn't have taken my commentary as a personal thing. Don't worry, it's normal.

Nah, I used to think the same way when I was your age. I'm still stupid, but at least now I realise it.

Just think about this: If you weren't stupid, you wouldn't have taken my commentary as a personal thing. Don't worry, it's normal.

How old ARE you?

Nah, I used to think the same way when I was your age. I'm still stupid, but at least now I realise it.

Just think about this: If you weren't stupid, you wouldn't have taken my commentary as a personal thing. Don't worry, it's normal.

No, that is quite illogical my friend. It wasn't an act of stupidity, it was clearly an act of arrogance(yes I must admit I am quite arrogant). YOU may have been stupid at 18, but don't automatically assume that every other 18 year old is stupid just because you were.

My question is thus: Did he even know if you were going to the party, because if you never told him i can see why he would be upset. But if you did then he just needs to lighten up.

No, that is quite illogical my friend. It wasn't an act of stupidity, it was clearly an act of arrogance(yes I must admit I am quite arrogant). YOU may have been stupid at 18, but don't automatically assume that every other 18 year old is stupid just because you were.
See, that's stupid of you to assume that I'm basing my commentary on just one example. It's called experience. You'll get it one of these days.

How old ARE you?
Twice 17. That makes me about two times more stupid.

See, that's stupid of you to assume that I'm basing my commentary on just one example. It's called experience. You'll get it one of this days.

Oh trust me, with all the shit I've been through I have plenty of experience. Now, if you still consider yourself stupid now, then how is it possible that you are able to generate an opinion of validity? If a mind isn't capable of producing intelligent thought then how can an opinion (yes, opinion, not a fact) of yours be true?

Edit: That makes me realise, why should I be offended by something that clearly isn't true or applies to me? Guess I shouldn't.

My question is thus: Did he even know if you were going to the party, because if you never told him i can see why he would be upset. But if you did then he just needs to lighten up.

Here's the bottom line:

If he's reacting to being jealous (yes, we all get jealous - it happens) in a negative manner, whether influenced by his friends or not, he simply doesnt trust you and your good judgement. The statement "I trust my significant other, but I dont trust other guys to leave her alone, so I dont want her going out without me" is a false statement. If you really trusted her, it wouldnt matter about other guys, since it takes 2 to tango. There's never a time (even when drunk) when a person is not responsible for their actions.

Moral of the story: If he doesnt trust you to be true to him, then you should ditch him.

Oh trust me, with all the shit I've been through I have plenty of experience. Now, if you still consider yourself stupid now, then how is it possible that you are able to generate an opinion of validity? If a mind isn't capable of producing intelligent thought then how can an opinion (yes, opinion, not a fact) of yours be true?
No opinions are truth; they're just opinions. By being stupid one recognises that opinions are to be challenged, and not taken too seriously, even those of your own. When you admit you're stupid, you start a process of inner growth and perhaps one day you can get to be a little less stupid.

Edit: That makes me realise, why should I be offended by something that clearly isn't true or applies to me? Guess I shouldn't.
Geez! At last you're getting it. There's still hope for you.

I do apologise for generalising, I'm a little pissed off. He wasn't there because he was sick, like genuinely sick, which didn't help the situation. And he's not 18, I'm not either. He's 21 I'm 19. And this is the first time either of us has had a problem. And he didn't have an issue with it until his best mate said "You let your missus go to some guys 18th who you don't know and she's drinking?" Which implies he does actually trust me - his friends don't.
And he's not a soon to be ex. I was just wondering if guys don't like chicks hanging out with other guys normally. ( I haven't had this issue before.
Oh, I think I understand the situation a little better. Your initial post made him out to be a hypocritical whiner.
As far as the jealousy is concerned, I've never had to deal with it in a relationship. I generally break up with women if they start using guilt/jealousy to control my actions.

No opinions are truth; they're just opinions. By being stupid one recognises that opinions are to be challenged, and not taken too seriously, even those of your own. When you admit you're stupid, you start a process of inner growth and perhaps one day you can get to be a little less stupid.


Geez! At last you're getting it. There's still hope for you.

Opinions are to be challenged because when people have warped ideals and try to enforce them *cough the president cough* you shouldn't sit back and take it up the ass. I may not be the brightest person in the universe but as my experiences have confirmed, I am DEFINATELY not a stupid person and I would like to be recognized for that fact.

My question is thus: Did he even know if you were going to the party, because if you never told him i can see why he would be upset. But if you did then he just needs to lighten up.

Yeah he knew I was going out. He was invited also.

Opinions are to be challenged because when people have warped ideals and try to enforce them *cough the president cough* you shouldn't sit back and take it up the ass.
People try to enforce ideas when they take them, and themselves, too seriously. And, yes, there's a point when you push back. Curiously, how and when to push back are also matters of opinion not to be taken too seriously either.

I may not be the brightest person in the universe but as my experiences have confirmed, I am DEFINATELY not a stupid person and I would like to be recognized for that fact.
If you know you're not stupid, why do you need recognition? You know you're not and that your opinions have validity and your experiences confirm them. That should be enough. Some people will listen to you, some won't, that won't change no matter what you do.

Yeah he knew I was going out. He was invited also. Then I really don't see what his problem is. This is the first case of jealousy between the two of you? Well, maybe it's just a byproduct of being really ill. Here's hoping it doesn't happen any more.

Edit: Oops, I meant what his problem with you going to the party. Not your response to his jealousy. Getting pissed with someone's unjustified jealousy is perfectly rational reasonable response.

Ask him if he's gotten his panties in a bunch, and tell him you have a purse that would go with his shoes. Then have a night of wild monkey sex. That will solve everything.

IMO the guy feels insecure, and that's the cause for his jealously. He prolly believes that you will find someone better than him and in turn ditch him, and so he's blaming you to make you feel guilty so that you won't go out again. Lol, looks like it backfired on him. Oh, and not all guys are jealous, for instance myself. My gf has way more guy friends than girlfriends, most are older and better looking than me, but I don't worry. After all, we're together and they aren't.

People try to enforce ideas when they take them, and themselves, too seriously. And, yes, there's a point when you push back. Curiously, how and when to push back are also matters of opinion not to be taken too seriously either.


If you know you're not stupid, why do you need recognition? You know you're not and that your opinions have validity and your experiences confirm them. That should be enough. Some people will listen to you, some won't, that won't change no matter what you do.

While the recognition part is quite true, being young comes with disadvantages when everybody thinks your a stupid troublemaker. It's quite frustrating and I used to put up with it but I have zero tolerence for it now. It just ignites something primal within when I see people generalizing like that.

Oh, I think I understand the situation a little better. Your initial post made him out to be a hypocritical whiner.
As far as the jealousy is concerned, I've never had to deal with it in a relationship. I generally break up with women if they start using guilt/jealousy to control my actions.

Yeah... HE is a hypocrytical whiner tho. The fact that him and his mates can sit around and talk about how hot some chick is (like the chick in Matt's toilet), and then talk about this blonde goth thing he's got (I'm naturally blonde, but not now and in no way the 'Goth' that he's referring to), and then well get stoopid when I go out with mates because they don't know him sucks. That and when I go to Melbourne next year for Uni he reckons he's not gonna cope. No long distance relationships (I'll be back every fucking weekend and I'm only there 36 weeks of the year - the rest of the time is holidays), and he's going to be jealous as all hell. WHAT THE HELL IS HE JEALOUS OF? THE GUYS AT UNI WHO AREN'T THAT GREAT? THEY GET TO SEE ME FOUR DAYS A WEEK - HE GETS TO SCREW ME 3 DAYS A WEEK - OR MORE IF HE GOT OFF HIS BUTT AND VISITED! :headbang:

Ask him if he's gotten his panties in a bunch, and tell him you have a purse that would go with his shoes. Then have a night of wild monkey sex. That will solve everything.

Yeah... Monkey Sex. It's sort of sorted, we've done the monkey sex bit - but he's still being annoying about it.

IMO the guy feels insecure, and that's the cause for his jealously. He prolly believes that you will find someone better than him and in turn ditch him, and so he's blaming you to make you feel guilty so that you won't go out again. Lol, looks like it backfired on him. Oh, and not all guys are jealous, for instance myself. My gf has way more guy friends than girlfriends, most are older and better looking than me, but I don't worry. After all, we're together and they aren't.

That's exactly what I've tried explaining - it's no different to his chick friends from the Bay - who are more his type (ie stoners). But he just doesn't get it - maybe he has a stoopid gene or something. I know about all his exes - most of which cheated on him and he is insecure about that - but like hell I'd cheat on him - the only guys left in this hole are cowdies and they aren't cool.

While the recognition part is quite true, being young comes with disadvantages when everybody thinks your a stupid troublemaker. It's quite frustrating and I used to put up with it but I have zero tolerence for it now. It just ignites something primal within when I see people generalizing like that.
But, you are generalizing, see? When you say "everybody thinks you're a stupid troublemaker", do you really think every single person in the entire world thinks like that? Of course you don't, you're just trying to make a point, that's what generalizations are for, and that's why you should not take them seriously.

Also realize that sometimes it's worth getting into, sometimes it's not.

Yeah... Monkey Sex. It's sort of sorted, we've done the monkey sex bit - but he's still being annoying about it.

Did you tell him his dress really matched his eyes?

Did you tell him his dress really matched his eyes?

No... That would be lying. I don't do that - unless I ate the last cookie and everyone is angry about it. ;)

That's exactly what I've tried explaining - it's no different to his chick friends from the Bay - who are more his type (ie stoners). But he just doesn't get it - maybe he has a stoopid gene or something. I know about all his exes - most of which cheated on him and he is insecure about that - but like hell I'd cheat on him - the only guys left in this hole are cowdies and they aren't cool.


Yep, good luck explaining that to him though. I've seen my fair share of that around, from friends relationships and stuff, and when someone gets an idea stuck in their head you're not gonna get it back out easy. If you seriously want to stick with this guy then let it slide. Keep doing what you want, but don't cheat. There's nothing he can do but accept it, and if he's so convinced that ur cheating on him then tell him to fuck off and let 'im go.

Yeah... HE is a hypocrytical whiner tho. The fact that him and his mates can sit around and talk about how hot some chick is (like the chick in Matt's toilet), and then talk about this blonde goth thing he's got (I'm naturally blonde, but not now and in no way the 'Goth' that he's referring to), and then well get stoopid when I go out with mates because they don't know him sucks. That and when I go to Melbourne next year for Uni he reckons he's not gonna cope. No long distance relationships (I'll be back every fucking weekend and I'm only there 36 weeks of the year - the rest of the time is holidays), and he's going to be jealous as all hell. WHAT THE HELL IS HE JEALOUS OF? THE GUYS AT UNI WHO AREN'T THAT GREAT? THEY GET TO SEE ME FOUR DAYS A WEEK - HE GETS TO SCREW ME 3 DAYS A WEEK - OR MORE IF HE GOT OFF HIS BUTT AND VISITED! :headbang:
Okay, now I'm starting to get the picture. It seems to me that this last party is just the latest incident in a whole slew of other shitty incidents.
It sounds like you're enjoying the sex a great deal if you're willing to put up with his stupidity, but guess what? There are plenty of great lays out there and you are going to be living away from home for an extended period.

Think of how much less stress there will be in your life once you don't have to deal with this louts garbage on a day to day basis. Oh, and you'll get to save yourself a communte every weekend since you won't have to visit just to allay mr. idiots jealousy anymore. So, feed him to the dingo's.

the only guys left in this hole are cowdies and they aren't cool.
So, what's your excuse for not having TG'd me yet? The 10,000 km separation? Bah, if you really cared that wouldn't matter.

But, you are generalizing, see? When you say "everybody thinks you're a stupid troublemaker", do you really think every single person in the entire world thinks like that? Of course you don't, you're just trying to make a point, that's what generalizations are for, and that's why you should not take them seriously.

Also realize that sometimes it's worth getting into, sometimes it's not.

Then allow me to reword: It's frustrating when a large portion of adults who aren't all that intelligent themselves accuse teenagers of being lesser than they are.

I may just have a superiority complex because I do not enjoy it when people assume they are superior to me when they know nothing about me.

But, you are generalizing, see? When you say "everybody thinks you're a stupid troublemaker", do you really think every single person in the entire world thinks like that? Of course you don't, you're just trying to make a point, that's what generalizations are for, and that's why you should not take them seriously.

Also realize that sometimes it's worth getting into, sometimes it's not.


Thread Theft!

guys are instinctively more jealous than girls because back in our earlier times we had to keep our women to ourselves to ensure passing on our seed(aka have sex) because if we didnt then some other dude would

but many people have risen above that and so some more unevolved people still are extremely jealous as are some people who had bad childhoods that cause insecurity and jealousy

I may just have a superiority complex because I do not enjoy it when people assume they are superior to me when they know nothing about me.
I used to feel the same way, now I'm having my revenge. Not on teens, as you may think, but other adults. And, no, no, it's nothing violent either, but it's sweeeeet, sweet revenge :)

Thread Theft!
I swear I was going to give it back! ;)

I used to feel the same way, now I'm having my revenge. Not on teens, as you may think, but other adults. And, no, no, it's nothing violent either, but it's sweeeeet, sweet revenge :)

Revenge is a dish which is best served cold, and I will serve it cold alright, when I transfer into my adulthood. muhahaha :sniper:

I swear I was going to give it back! ;)
ROFL

guys are instinctively more jealous than girls because back in our earlier times we had to keep our women to ourselves to ensure passing on our seed(aka have sex) because if we didnt then some other dude would

but many people have risen above that and so some more unevolved people still are extremely jealous as are some people who had bad childhoods that cause insecurity and jealousy

I would really like to see some kind of source for that, because from what I've always been told it's men's nature to go from woman to woman to woman spreading their seed as far as it could go.

Okay, now I'm starting to get the picture. It seems to me that this last party is just the latest incident in a whole slew of other shitty incidents.
It sounds like you're enjoying the sex a great deal if you're willing to put up with his stupidity, but guess what? There are plenty of great lays out there and you are going to be living away from home for an extended period.

Think of how much less stress there will be in your life once you don't have to deal with this louts garbage on a day to day basis. Oh, and you'll get to save yourself a communte every weekend since you won't have to visit just to allay mr. idiots jealousy anymore. So, feed him to the dingo's.

I'd still have to come back every weekend because I need to practice and this is where my piano is (sorry mum's piano), and I can't get weekend access to the uni pianos. I just let him believe I'm coming back for him - I'm not lying just not revealing the complete truth. And it's really the first time anything like this has happened and we've been living together for a few months now.

Then allow me to reword: It's frustrating when a large portion of adults who aren't all that intelligent themselves accuse teenagers of being lesser than they are.

I may just have a superiority complex because I do not enjoy it when people assume they are superior to me when they know nothing about me.

Well said. And no, you don't have a superiority complex. It's perfectly natural to feel angry with a person who condescends to you.

I would really like to see some kind of source for that, because from what I've always been told it's men's nature to go from woman to woman to woman spreading their seed as far as it could go.
I don't have a source, but it's an explanation from evolutionary psychology for the causes of male infidelity. Now, the good news for women is that it has a great come back: a woman has to take from many "seeds" to ensure the diversity and maximize the survivability of her children ;)

Off you go, girls! The future of humanity depends on you!

I would really like to see some kind of source for that, because from what I've always been told it's men's nature to go from woman to woman to woman spreading their seed as far as it could go.

Seth's an extremely loyal person. He never cheats - he's known for it.

I'd still have to come back every weekend because I need to practice and this is where my piano is (sorry mum's piano), and I can't get weekend access to the uni pianos. I just let him believe I'm coming back for him - I'm not lying just not revealing the complete truth. And it's really the first time anything like this has happened and we've been living together for a few months now.
This gets more convoluted with every posting!

1: He had major jealousy attack after you went to a party and he didn't.
2: The jealousy attack ensued after a mate talked to him.
3: You've 'made up' over the incident and had some great sex.
4: He's still harping on about the party.
5: He often discusses women he finds attractive in your presence.

It seems like you have been upset by him over a long series of incidents, and that while this is the first time that jealousy has been the issue there are a wealth of other negative experiences that have you pissed off. sounds like a number of good reasons to break up.

Oh, and lying by ommision is still lying.

Twice 17. That makes me about two times more stupid.

:p Made me chuckle. Just have a heart to heart and say that if he can not trust you then the relationship has no future. I believe that relationships are built on trust.

Seth's an extremely loyal person. He never cheats - he's known for it.

Oh, I wasn't accusing him of cheating. I was just saying that I've generally been told that men are genetically wired to seek out as many women as possible to spread their "seed".

So, what's your excuse for not having TG'd me yet? The 10,000 km separation? Bah, if you really cared that wouldn't matter.

That could have something to do with - and the age gap.

Oh, and lying by ommision is still lying.

Dammit your onto me...

This gets more convoluted with every posting!

1: He had major jealousy attack after you went to a party and he didn't.
2: The jealousy attack ensued after a mate talked to him.
3: You've 'made up' over the incident and had some great sex.
4: He's still harping on about the party.
5: He often discusses women he finds attractive in your presence.

It seems like you have been upset by him over a long series of incidents, and that while this is the first time that jealousy has been the issue there are a wealth of other negative experiences that have you pissed off. sounds like a number of good reasons to break up.

Oh, and lying by ommision is still lying.

Oh and even if I did break up with him I'd have to move - and the only place is mum's. I don't want to go there - she let my ex move in with her...

Oh and even if I did break up with him I'd have to move - and the only place is mum's. I don't want to go there - she let my ex move in with her...
She let your ex move in with her? Please explain that as that seems very weird

That could have something to do with - and the age gap.
Don't worry. Sure, I like them mature and sophisticated, but I'm willing to lower my standards a bit for you.

Oh and even if I did break up with him I'd have to move - and the only place is mum's. I don't want to go there - she let my ex move in with her...

OUCH! I don't envy your situation. Trapped between an ex and a hard place. Well, good luck at uni next year. When do you start?

Oh and even if I did break up with him I'd have to move - and the only place is mum's. I don't want to go there - she let my ex move in with her...
Damn! All of a sudden I feel I'm in Jerry Springer.

She let your ex move in with her? Please explain that as that seems very weird

Finally someone with a brain on this one. Basically he was living with his mum - mind you he's 22 - and she kicked him out. He moved out of town a bit - out bush basically - and couldn't get work coz he lost his license. Now he moved back into town mum took pity on him and let him move in until he moves to America, which is meant to be later this year. When I bailed him up about it (mum doesn't understand that as he was cheating on me I don't like to see his face at all), he claims he had no choice. SO I punched him in the gut told him to fuck as quick as possible and left. I only come up when he's at work. That and Seth threatened him if he didn't move out cuz it was pissing him off as much as me. Dickhead paid no attention and now thinks I'm friends with him again. And he's playing my Dad's guitars that I want and mm's being a bitch about (he died 10 years ago and I have nothing of his so I want the guitars coz I play). Basically mum is being a big smelly stoopid head

Then i suggest just 'borrowing' the guitars. As for the mum situation, she seems to be very ignorant of how you feel. I feel really sorry that you lost a parent, that must be very difficult.

OUCH! I don't envy your situation. Trapped between an ex and a hard place. Well, good luck at uni next year. When do you start?

Feb/March. It all depends. It's a private music college and I worked my butt off to get there. So i'm not chucking it in. And my best friend (who is a chick - so I can see her whenever I want ;) ) says my life is like DAys of Our Lives or something

Then i suggest just 'borrowing' the guitars. As for the mum situation, she seems to be very ignorant of how you feel. I feel really sorry that you lost a parent, that must be very difficult.

I've tried that. She caught onto it. Even though she told me I could have them when I left home. Hmmm... I've left home mum...

Remind her of that fact, tell her why you want them. Explain to her why you do not want your ex in the house living there. If that does not work, use another person to explain it to her, sometimes its not the message but the messenger

Remind her of that fact, tell her why you want them. Explain to her why you do not want your ex in the house living there. If that does not work, use another person to explain it to her, sometimes its not the message but the messenger

Or I could just start a war... that seems to work for all the world leaders when someone upsets them. :p

Feb/March. It all depends. It's a private music college and I worked my butt off to get there. So i'm not chucking it in. And my best friend (who is a chick - so I can see her whenever I want ;) ) says my life is like DAys of Our Lives or something
Congrats on getting into the school, it's quite an achievement.

Your best friend has it dead right. You have been sucked into an Alternate Universe that is controlled by script writers of bad soap operas. Having been there, I can confidently say that life is so much better outside of Soap Opera land.

Congrats on getting into the school, it's quite an achievement.

Your best friend has it dead right. You have been sucked into an Alternate Universe that is controlled by script writers of bad soap operas. Having been there, I can confidently say that life is so much better outside of Soap Opera land.

Damned alternate universes why must they screw with me and my potatoes.

All I can say is not to let your feelings against this guy come between you and your mom. Explain to her how it makes you feel but you also should try to get over your feelings and learn to accept the fact that sometimes your mom and other people you care about will do things that piss you off. Confront them, but be ready to compromise.

And maybe if you get the guitars one by one...

MAybe I should just blow up the town... That would solve oh so many problems. Or I could move in with my exs mum!!!!!!!!

Or I could move in with my exs mum!!!!!!!!
Excellent Idea :p

MAybe I should just blow up the town... That would solve oh so many problems. Or I could move in with my exs mum!!!!!!!!
I was going to suggest, lose the guy and move in with ex's mum, but I figured you wouldn't like that idea.

Btw, yes, we men are jealous. I persoanlly hate it when my wife is with other guys especially if they're attractive or if I don't trust them. She has a lot of really close guy friends that she feels comfortable sitting on and playing with where it seems like she's flirting with them and it pisses me off horribly, but as for him being a boyfriend and him being sick for a party, he needs to back off...

MAybe I should just blow up the town... That would solve oh so many problems. Or I could move in with my exs mum!!!!!!!!
Move out to Melbourne, become a musician, see the world, go back to your town 20 years later, and buy it! Then make everyone pay.

Move out to Melbourne, become a musician, see the world, go back to your town 20 years later, and buy it! Then make everyone pay.
first steal one of your dads guitars, though

first steal one of your dads guitars, though

Yeah... I managed to steal the acoustic yesterday - for umm... busking that's right. Me and a friend are busking...

as much as i despise treating men like children....

ignore him. dont feed into his jealousy at all. no more talking about it. if it insists say "we have talked about this already and im done talking about it"
thats it.

if he cant let it go, he has a real problem and you need to make new living arrangements. there is no happiness in living with an irrationally jealous man.

Humans tend to be insecure and possessive, thus, jealous.

I myself don't even require physical fidelity in my relationships. I'll date someone so long as the emotional bond seems to be forming. If their emotional bond is with someone else, I shrug, and become a friend with benefits, should they so choose. If they don't want benefits, hey, I'm a friend.

Do I -feel- jealous? Sure. I like to have as much attention as possible. Especially naked attention. But MORE important, to me, is that the people I care about are happy.
Why can't I do relationships like that? :(

I was just wondering if guys don't like chicks hanging out with other guys normally. ( I haven't had this issue before.

When the guy is young, generally yes.

However, any unusual possessiveness is a bad sign. It's usually a sign of upcoming abuse.

Not that all jealous guys are abusers. But keep your eyes peeled.

When the guy is young, generally yes.

However, any unusual possessiveness is a bad sign. It's usually a sign of upcoming abuse.

Not that all jealous guys are abusers. But keep your eyes peeled.

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