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kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

At least you have the chance to date at school. I went to an all boys school, so the only real dating within the confines of the premises would have seriously raised some eyebrows...

Seriously, get all the awkward stuff out of the way when you are young (not like your virginity or anything), just go out with people, have a laugh, learn about...stuff.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?
Becaues at that young a stage (in the land of the free) children have nothing else to do but to torture eachother and think about 'gorwn up stuff' because 'we're clearly so mature'.

I hated elementary school. I wont go back for any money.

I happen to go to a highschool where no one gives a dam about your personal business and homophobes get their ass kicked so Im happy for the next 2 months.

At least you have the chance to date at school. I went to an all boys school, so the only real dating within the confines of the premises would have seriously raised some eyebrows...

Seriously, get all the awkward stuff out of the way when you are young (not like your virginity or anything), just go out with people, have a laugh, learn about...stuff.
Yeah tahts the problem with segregated schools. They dont know how toa ct around eachother, they havent fucked up and said stupid things. Guys that go to all boy schools and leave after highschool usually stay bachelors for a long time. Then they end up getting milked for money by some sleasy 20 year ld model.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

When and if you are ready to date you will. In the mean time, don't worry about it.

Seriously, get all the awkward stuff out of the way when you are young (not like your virginity or anything), just go out with people, have a laugh, learn about...stuff.

Why?

Why?
Have you seen a 5 year old talk to an adult?
Because you'll be that 5 year old when your 25.
You need to learn the social lingo. I went into highschool and I didnt have a good grasp on sarcasm because i disacosiated myself from my peers. Im better now, but Im still slow to catch on to things.

An example,

I was jinggling bells for the Salvation Army for Christmas. A man came in and told me to joingle louder and I said "how much louder to you want me to jingle, my wrist is hurting". Then i realized he ment was that it was too loud and annoying.

Meh... if you're not ready for that kind of interaction, then put no stock into what the other kids say... cause they are just kids. You'll be fine. I'm 20 and I really didn't start really dating until my first year of college a couple years ago... it was unimportant to me as well to date even through high school and I made it out just fine. Do what feels right to you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

(Scottish Voice) Ah lassy! Don't ye worry! I'm fifteen yearrrrrs old, and I don't even know how it is to kiss a girly!(End Scottish Voice)

Aka, who cares. Besides, I have more important things to do. Like serve JESUS.

Have you seen a 5 year old talk to an adult?
Because you'll be that 5 year old when your 25.
You need to learn the social lingo. I went into highschool and I didnt have a good grasp on sarcasm because i disacosiated myself from my peers. Im better now, but Im still slow to catch on to things.

An example,

I was jinggling bells for the Salvation Army for Christmas. A man came in and told me to joingle louder and I said "how much louder to you want me to jingle, my wrist is hurting". Then i realized he ment was that it was too loud and annoying.

I'm not a social outcast, I just don't know why everyone places such importance on stupid little relationships that last two weeks. Half of the time people are just trying to fit in, they don't even like the person they go out with.

(Scottish Voice) Ah lassy! Don't ye worry! I'm fifteen yearrrrrs old, and I don't even know how it is to kiss a girly!(End Scottish Voice)

Aka, who cares. Besides, I have more important things to do. Like serve JESUS.


can we leave your bible humping out of this? Unless you were sarcastic. See? See what I mean?! I cant detect sarcasm well (especially online) and it makes me paranoid!

I had a boyfriend, 2 years and 4 days we lasted. Havent dated since. Havent had sex in nearly a year. I relaly have no wish to be with someone now. I enjoy being single, flirting with men, staring at womens asses, its a good life.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

Honestly, the whole "dating"-thing is truely overestimated. Take it easy, enjoy yourself. When it's time, it's time and it's up to you to decide so. You're in 8th grade? That would make you what? 14, 15?

Never mind the folks who "date a lot". You'll find a decent boyfriend soon enough (hope your Mom likes him - that's most important ;)) - until then, really, take it easy, shrug it off when "others" try to tell you - it's all gonna be fine in the end. And if it's not fine yet, it's not the end!

Cheers,
the Nightmare
(btw, I personally hated 8th grade - all the girls acted 'grown-up' and had dates and the really nice guys *hint* were still enjoying childhood's end)

they are reflecting their own insecurities by giving you a hard time over this.

why rush to get your heart torn out by some teenaged boy? you do have better things to do right now

tell your friends that your parents wont let you date until you are 16, that will get them off your back until you are ready to date.

can we leave your bible humping out of this? Unless you were sarcastic. See? See what I mean?! I cant detect sarcasm well (especially online) and it makes me paranoid!

Actually I am a Christian and that really offended me, but I will bring no more of it. And err, it's called Bible thumping good sir. :D

Honestly, the whole "dating"-thing is truely overestimated. Take it easy, enjoy yourself. When it's time, it's time and it's up to you to decide so. You're in 8th grade? That would make you what? 14, 15?

Never mind the folks who "date a lot". You'll find a decent boyfriend soon enough (hope your Mom likes him - that's most important ;)) - until then, really, take it easy, shrug it off when "others" try to tell you - it's all gonna be fine in the end. And if it's not fine yet, it's not the end!

Cheers,
the Nightmare
(btw, I personally hated 8th grade - all the girls acted 'grown-up' and had dates and the really nice guys *hint* were still enjoying childhood's end)

Thanks.

(I'm 13 by the way, I'm younger than almost everyone in my class so maybe that has something to do with it.)

I'm not a social outcast, I just don't know why everyone places such importance on stupid little relationships that last two weeks. Half of the time people are just trying to fit in, they don't even like the person they go out with.
Look, I'll put this bluntly - I'm having to learn how to act around women now. Not 6 years ago, as I would have liked. Yeah, I hung around with girls and I went out with a couple of people, but I never really 'got' dating. It's almost like most men have a 6 year headstart on me for the affections of women. And it fucking sucks.

Actually I am a Christian and that really offended me, but I will bring no more of it. And err, it's called Bible thumping good sir. :D
Im a chick, and jesus humpers are considered to hump the bible too.

they are reflecting their own insecurities by giving you a hard time over this.

why rush to get your heart torn out by some teenaged boy? you do have better things to do right now

tell your friends that your parents wont let you date until you are 16, that will get them off your back until you are ready to date.

I actually have told people that. Most of them back off after that but sometimes they'll say that my parents don't have to know...and then I usually change the subject.

Look, I'll put this bluntly - I'm having to learn how to act around women now. Not 6 years ago, as I would have liked. Yeah, I hung around with girls and I went out with a couple of people, but I never really 'got' dating. It's almost like most men have a 6 year headstart on me for the affections of women. And it fucking sucks.
YES! EXACTLY!
Is no one reading what I wrote? :S

Hey SL, I know where you're coming from - I'm a guy who's pretty much in the same boat.

Im a chick, and jesus humpers are considered to hump the bible too.

Well then, they're just perverts. >_> <_<

Anywho, let's not get off track. Who cares, you're lucky. Stay a kid, better to have one man who is going to be your eternal husband then to have thousands of them... and get herpes one day.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?
try being 20 and never having had a g/f :eek: :(

still, at least i'm not the only one of my friends (not by a long way:p)

YES! EXACTLY!
Is no one reading what I wrote? :S

What are you saying exactly? That I should go out with someone who I don't even like in that way, have a bunch of meaningless, childish "relationships" just so I know what to do when I'm older? Because that sounds pretty stupid to me........

What are you saying exactly? That I should go out with someone who I don't even like in that way, have a bunch of meaningless, childish "relationships" just so I know what to do when I'm older? Because that sounds pretty stupid to me........
How old is 8th grade? That would influence my reply slightly differently. Possibly.

What are you saying exactly? That I should go out with someone who I don't even like in that way, have a bunch of meaningless, childish "relationships" just so I know what to do when I'm older? Because that sounds pretty stupid to me........
wtf?
When did I say this?

No I simply said the exact same thing you did: that segregated schools force children to not understand how to interact around other people.

oy, clearly people didnt read what i wrote.

How old is 8th grade? That would influence my reply slightly differently. Possibly.

I'm 13, but most of my peers are 14 or are going to turn 14 this summer.

wtf?
When did I say this?

No I simply said the exact same thing you did: that segregated schools force children to not understand how to interact around other people.

oy, clearly people didnt read what i wrote.

You're confusing me! First your talking about not understanding sarcasm and now you're talking about segregated schools......I honestly don't know what you are talking about.

I'm 13, but most of my peers are 14 or are going to turn 14 this summer.
Oh god, this could get interesting...and by that I mean embarassing.

Do you actually get attracted to anyone yet?

You're confusing me! First your talking about not understanding sarcasm and now you're talking about segregated schools......I honestly don't know what you are talking about.


oy...clearly you didnt read what I wrote

Yeah tahts the problem with segregated schools. They dont know how toa ct around eachother, they havent fucked up and said stupid things. Guys that go to all boy schools and leave after highschool usually stay bachelors for a long time. Then they end up getting milked for money by some sleasy 20 year ld model.

first page about 1/3 of the way down.

(observes the madness, notes there is always a method to the madness)

Oh god, this could get interesting...and by that I mean embarassing.

Do you actually get attracted to anyone yet?

Sometimes, but not really. I've had a couple minor crushes, but they both kind of went away. I'm more focused on school than on guys, I just really don't care.

oy...clearly you didnt read what I wrote



first page about 1/3 of the way down.

I saw your post, the problem is, I don't know WHY you were talking about segregated schools...

I'd say you are, if not too YOUNG atleast not more than old enough to start dating. Im sure that everybody around try to act as "adult" as possible by flirting and dating, but actually your attitude seems to be the most grown-up of those. If you were 30, I'd say you have a problem but 13? youre doing exactly the right thing by waiting untill you find someone worth starting a relationship with or jsut feel like dating someone. No rush, really.

I saw your post, the problem is, I don't know WHY you were talking about segregated schools...
Um, did you read the person I quoted's statement then?

At least you have the chance to date at school. I went to an all boys school, so the only real dating within the confines of the premises would have seriously raised some eyebrows...

Seriously, get all the awkward stuff out of the way when you are young (not like your virginity or anything), just go out with people, have a laugh, learn about...stuff.

all boys school = segregated school

I'd say you are, if not too YOUNG atleast not more than old enough to start dating. Im sure that everybody around try to act as "adult" as possible by flirting and dating, but actually your attitude seems to be the most grown-up of those. If you were 30, I'd say you have a problem but 13? youre doing exactly the right thing by waiting untill you find someone worth starting a relationship with or jsut feel like dating someone. No rush, really.

Yeah, but I'm running out of good friends who feel the same way and aren't trying to fix me up with someone. I would have a boyfriend by now if I was the kind of person that caves in to peer pressure.

Sometimes, but not really. I've had a couple minor crushes, but they both kind of went away. I'm more focused on school than on guys, I just really don't care.
Well then go with the minor crushes. At least it's something to work on. Seriously, just go in for kissing and such and if the guy gets a bit...overzealous, tell him no. If it continues like that, mace the sick bastard.

Oh, that's the other advice. Carry a deterrent. ;)

Well then go with the minor crushes. At least it's something to work on. Seriously, just go in for kissing and such and if the guy gets a bit...overzealous, tell him no. If it continues like that, mace the sick bastard.

Oh, that's the other advice. Carry a deterrent. ;)

Er...that's okay....I'd rather not....

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

Don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with being different. Forget what other people think.

Er...that's okay....I'd rather not....
You might as well learn now.

Oh, you mean the mace thing. Carry that anyway.

Don't worry about it. Nothing wrong with being different. Forget what other people think.

I don't. I'm just sick of all of it. Other kids in my school can date if they want, but I wish they would leave me alone about it.

Sometimes, but not really. I've had a couple minor crushes, but they both kind of went away. I'm more focused on school than on guys, I just really don't care.

There's your problem. You shouldn't be focussing on school, you should be focussing on learning. School is useful for learning social skills, and little else. But you should definitely interact with the opposite sex as much as possible (not in that way ;) ), including dating; I never did and it's built up this big ball of paranoia, mostly because I have no idea what to do. It's almost always better to regret doing something than to regret not doing it.

I don't. I'm just sick of all of it. Other kids in my school can date if they want, but I wish they would leave me alone about it.

Have you asked them to leave you alone about it?

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

You're not the only one. Whenever I go to a relative's house, the question always goes:

*words spelled to show how gross it sounds, due to the East Texas shit accents*

"Hay, are theeum bowahs court'n yayut?"

It really grosses me out whenever these dickheads ask that question. It's as if they only thing they think about is getting married to have kids --- Of course, they're all fundamentalist nuts. It goes hand-in-hand with the accents.

Have you asked them to leave you alone about it?

My close friends don't bug me about it anymore, but some people I don't even know very well will say something all of the sudden about it. Probably about 25 different people have said something about it over the course of the school year, but most people only make a comment once, so there's no reason to tell them to leave me alone.

You're not the only one. Whenever I go to a relative's house, the question always goes:

*words spelled to show how gross it sounds, due to the East Texas shit accents*

"Hay, are theeum bowahs court'n yayut?"

It really grosses me out whenever these dickheads ask that question. It's as if they only thing they think about is getting married to have kids --- Of course, they're all fundamentalist nuts. It goes hand-in-hand with the accents.

So far it's only been people from school, thank god. I think my family is GLAD I have no interest in dating yet.

My compulsory education finished thursday and I only dated once but shes been stalking me ever since

My close friends don't bug me about it anymore, but some people I don't even know very well will say something all of the sudden about it. Probably about 25 different people have said something about it over the course of the school year, but most people only make a comment once, so there's no reason to tell them to leave me alone.

If it's just the occasional remark, I guess you'll just have to put up with it. As long it's not the same people bothering you, there's not much you can do.

So far it's only been people from school, thank god. I think my family is GLAD I have no interest in dating yet.

Heh, nice. My asswipe relatives think that kids should start dating at age seven...

Hey TIOR, your sig's quote is most appropriate to this thread.

If it's just the occasional remark, I guess you'll just have to put up with it. As long it's not the same people bothering you, there's not much you can do.

I'll be fine. We only have a week and a half of school left.

Heh, nice. My asswipe relatives think that kids should start dating at age seven...

That reminds me of a joke I heard by Jeff Foxworthy.........

bump

<complaints about peer pressure>You shouldn't worry about it. I'm older than you are and I still haven't dated anyone. Well, not unless you count classical music concerts... ;)

Don't feel pressured. You'll be able to date when you want to. In the meantime, like me, concern yourself with other things - for me, that includes running the universe, predicting Armaggedon, and creating countless posts on NS.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

If you're going to be different, people will comment. That's just how the world works.

If you're going to be different, people will comment. That's just how the world works.With me, people comment if I'm the same.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I have always been uncomfortable with the thought of casual dating, especially with the thought of going up to some girl I don't know with the intention of going out with her, as such, I lack confidence around women and immediately seem to be automatically designated as the guy friend they have absolutely no interest in dating whatsoever. There have been only two exceptions. The first was when I was 12, there was a girl two years younger than me who always went to the roller rink that I went to on Friday nights that my younger brother (also two years younger) knew, who had a friend who went with her and my brother and I and the two of them had a little rivalry going where we'd basically mock, tease, chase, and generally have fun with each other in seemingly not very nice ways, but somehow, over time, me and this girl went from a fun little rivalry to becoming a couple, though we only ever saw each other at the roller rink once a week, and when summer came and I had to go down to Florida to visit my father, I gave her a goodbye kiss on the cheek and we never talked to each other again. It wasn't very serious, but it was quite meaningful and instilled in me the thought that I shouldn't have to go out and search for a relationship, that when I met the right person, we wouldn't have to actively try to force ourselves together, but that it would develop naturally without either of us really trying, like what happened with her.

10 years later, I'm still single, but there was one girl on a message board I started posting on 3 years ago that I've known and respected for most of that time who, after I posted my picture on it last November, started flirting with me, though I didn't really think anything of it till she started again on Christmas Eve and we finally started talking over an IM program, and within two weeks, we were seriously discussing spending our lives together, and only felt more and more strongly for each other over the next 3 months until she turned 18 and I booked a flight out to MA to visit her. The moment we met in person, she automatically designated me as a close friend she could never be interested in dating (this from a girl who that very morning, before I left for the airport, was seriously considering marrying me and having my children and had been for the past few months, we were even joking about who'd be able to rip the clothes off the other first over that weekend). I hope beyond hope that I can pay her a surprise visit in July and convince her to actually give me a chance because I truly want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with her, but without the eagerness she once had to be with me, I just feel deflated and meek and uncertain what to do. The whole thing was an extremely devestating experience that left me quite suicidal for two months until I came up with the idea to put some love songs together onto a burned CD and pay her this surprise visit to have her listen to it while we talked and maybe even danced together (it's got both upbeat songs like the Doors' "You Make Me Real" and "Touch Me" and slow songs such as the Beatles' "The Long and Winding Road" and Janis Joplin's "I Need a Man (to Love Me)"), but whether or not we can work it out (coincidently another Beatles song I put on the album), is still very uncertain and if it doesn't, I just don't know what I'm going to do with my life because I've known for years before I even met her that the only thing I've truly cared to have in life is a family to take care of, and besides that kiss on the cheek at the age of 12, I've yet to even kiss a girl, let alone anything beyond that at the age of 22, 23 by the time I see the girl in MA again.

I'm not sure what relevance any of this has to you or what I'm trying to tell you, all I'm saying is that I have known on some level that I've wanted a serious, life-long relationship with someone since before the age of 10, yet even now I'm unable to go out and meet women in order to try to accomplish that goal, and it has made my life absolutely miserable.

bah, fuck those relationships, no-one is mature enough to take them seriously and then both end up looknig like retards. i say fuck the conformists.

until i have the experience to tell when i really (i wouldnt say love but...) someone, then i will pursue a relationship. but as long as i can get intellectualy stimulation, and sex, i dont caer if it comes from different people right now

Meh. Dating at school is over-rated. Theres far too much pressure on people to do it. I like to remain single and free, have a laugh...

(This is of course always been my view, and has nothing to do with the fact that girls seem to avoid me like the plague...)

Don't worry about it. You're one of the sensible ones. 13 is really too young for anything serious anyway. Guys are jerks at that age (I should know, my brother's 12 and he's jerk of the century!) anyway. I was different, but then I've never really been like that. I've always related better to adults.

Don't let the taunts get to you. Everybody does it to everyone, you get used to it (I should know, with my eyesight problems and a number of other issues, I copped a lot of flak).

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

Right know I would rather be happy to not care about girls.
But I do, especially about one. :(

You should not be in any hurry to get involved in serious relationships. The fact that you are secure enough in yourself to not be pressured says a lot for you. You realize you do not need a boyfriend to be a person. Try not to forget that in high school :)

Dating is overrated, and it is unlikely any dating relationship formed in middle school will last. You will be changing a lot over the next several years, as will anyone you meet.

On the other hand, you should spend time with members of the opposite sex. Group activities are great. Flirt a bit and have fun, you will appreciate the experience later. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with, but enjoy yourself.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

Most people attending school are 'kids'.

Not determined by their age, or by their location... but, by the way they act.

Thus, they approach their lives from a juvenile perspective... a focus on 'personal life' stuff, and a state of insulated safety from a whole world of issues.

Others 'grow up' in a different fashion... and find themselves thinking about more significant issues at a young age.

I shouldn't worry. Romance will arrive when it arrives... in the meantime, relish having an active mind, and bigger concerns than 'who is going out with who'...

Yeah, I don't really plan on dating anytime soon. I guess never understood why everyone felt the need to "grow up" and made it such a huge issue, before.

Hey, I'm 19 and never dated (unless you count my boyfriend in yr 1... true love that was, we were engaged and everything :p). Never even been kissed (on the lips that is... having got to 17 or so without being kissed I figured I might as well make sure the first one was with someone I actually care about).

My main problem is that I have lots of male friends but they look on me as "one of the guys". Seriously, they actually forget I'm female and talk in my presence as if no girls were present.

Plus I've just been put on some new hormones and am us unstable as heck, so it's really not a good time to be thinking about starting dating. (I now have scientific evidence that female hormones make you bitchy! :p)

Yeah, I don't really plan on dating anytime soon. I guess never understood why everyone felt the need to "grow up" and made it such a huge issue, before.

I guess it all depends on your perspective.

Some people think that 'growing up' is making-out, or other 'adult' activities... while others see 'growing up' as becoming more mature.

My advice is take your time, do what you want WHEN you are ready to (not before), and enjoy yourself... don't let others decide what is 'acceptable', and when, for you.

That way, you'll stay in control of your own life, at your own pace. You'll have plenty of time to think deep thoughts... and you are much less likely to turn up as the class 'pregnant cheerleader'.

I guess it all depends on your perspective.

Some people think that 'growing up' is making-out, or other 'adult' activities... while others see 'growing up' as becoming more mature.

My advice is take your time, do what you want WHEN you are ready to (not before), and enjoy yourself... don't let others decide what is 'acceptable', and when, for you.

That way, you'll stay in control of your own life, at your own pace. You'll have plenty of time to think deep thoughts... and you are much less likely to turn up as the class 'pregnant cheerleader'.

Yeah, I'll try to keep that in mind.

What are you saying exactly? That I should go out with someone who I don't even like in that way, have a bunch of meaningless, childish "relationships" just so I know what to do when I'm older? Because that sounds pretty stupid to me........

Stick to your guns, Suicidal Librarians. Don't let anyone -- your schoolmates or the people here -- make you feel as if you have to do anything.

You're right in that dating just to date is stupid. Dating someone you care about -- that's something completely different. But putting yourself in a situation where someone else can feel possessive over you -- as young teens do -- when you don't care much at all about them is only going to be a hassle.

Please yourself. At least then, you know you'll be happy.

Another thing you should know: these same people who ask you about your personal life will be the first to spread rumors/tell all on you/talk about you during the relationship and after it ends.

I did not have a girlfriend until I was 19.

I have, however, fallen in love with said very same girl, and we have been together for 2 and a half years.

I'm not saying that everyone should wait until they are that old, but it certainly didn't cause me any trouble.

Take your time, things will turn out good.

kids at school make dating seem so important. More times than I can count, classmates have asked me if I've ever had a boyfriend, and are absolutely shocked when I say I haven't. Is it so wrong to be focused on something other than boys? It annoys me that people put such pressure on you to "go out", especially since I'm only in the 8th grade. Does anyone else feel/felt this way? Or am I just weird for not caring about that kind of thing?

your not the only one most boys in my school are idiets anyway and are not worth bothering with. :)