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I need some honest to god help...

Do any of you feel like your alone in the world? Now im not talking about some slicing your wrist or suicidal crap.... I mean like being alone. I for one do, if you were an american teenager between 14-18 and you like politics, maybe you've thought about this too...

For those of you that havent noticed, teenagers these days are just crap. Honestly I think this is the worst generation next to the hippies. Most of us are eather influenced by violent doorag wielding "thugs", or suicidal maniacs such as Iron Maiden. Its eather Metal, Or Hip Hop(Which in America preety much everybody listens to), and of course theres the rare ones that listen to 80's music or some other type of music. Also most teenagers get caught up so much in their personal lives that they become stressed out, im sorry but im just the type of person that dosent care weather your best friend is cheating on his girlfriend-boyfriend, its his problem and not mines to panic about.....

Not to forget the fact that nows there something to "prove".... Alot of school violence is caused by people that feel like they need to prove something and show that their the best, or the "Hardest" , for some reason they feel that everybody should know that their drug dealers or some part of a gang. I would understand this if I lived in a ghetto, but I live in Miami Florida, theres no real ghetto's down here, not much danger of getting stabbed in the back eather. All of this of course brings peer pressure, which just shows how weak the person truly is. I dont need to smoke or drink to feel good, I actualy hate the taste of alcohol. Also the peer pressure of sex, these days if you dont have sex by the age of 16, it means your a pussy and cant get a girl.

But probably the biggest issue of all is the bashing of the weak.... Most kids these days are picked on, and parents should notice this. Your kid might tell you that everything's perfectly fine, but if hese dressed in a plaid shirt with normal jeans and looks weak, I can bet you hese being picked on. Also teachers tell you that you should tell them if your being picked on, that is probably the worst thing possible to do. If you tell a teacher, it just shows that you need to depend on somebody to protect yourself, meaning that EVERYBODY will pick on you sooner or later withought fear of getting hit. Also you parents out there should know that even though you teach your kid self protection, he probably wont use it against somebody "popular" or bigger than them.

Now the reason why I feel as an outcast is because..... I listen to 80's music, I love politics, dont fall asleep during history, wear normal jeans and plaid shirts, I dont drink or smoke, I hate doorags and cant stand hip hop, im still a virgin, Im not desperate on fiding a girlfriend or having sex( I just cant stand girls these days), oh yeah and I still watch cartoons....

PS. If you noticed it the description of me sounds like a perfect nerd... which preety much describes what I am lol. But yeah tell me if its ok to feel that way at my age

You're in highschool, what the hell do you expect?

Everyone feels like they don't belong. Everyone thinks they are the only ones who feel that way. Everyone thinks that this is what real life is like. Your aren't, and its not. Teenage years may suck, but they won't last forever.

Hey, as long as you do what you like and don't hurt anyone in the process, it's all good. :)

Interesting that you think teenagers today are worse than hippies, I wonder which country you live in. My parents and grandparents have both observed that teenagers today are much more conservative than they were as children, which I thought was strange because I thought we were much more liberal. They tell me that the majority are much more conservative than in their days, but the rouge elements are much more noticable and in your face.

I need some honest to god help...

Do any of you feel like your alone in the world? Now im not talking about some slicing your wrist or suicidal crap.... I mean like being alone. I for one do, if you were an american teenager between 14-18 and you like politics, maybe you've thought about this too...

For those of you that havent noticed, teenagers these days are just crap. Honestly I think this is the worst generation next to the hippies. Most of us are eather influenced by violent doorag wielding "thugs", or suicidal maniacs such as Iron Maiden. Its eather Metal, Or Hip Hop(Which in America preety much everybody listens to), and of course theres the rare ones that listen to 80's music or some other type of music. Also most teenagers get caught up so much in their personal lives that they become stressed out, im sorry but im just the type of person that dosent care weather your best friend is cheating on his girlfriend-boyfriend, its his problem and not mines to panic about.....

Not to forget the fact that nows there something to "prove".... Alot of school violence is caused by people that feel like they need to prove something and show that their the best, or the "Hardest" , for some reason they feel that everybody should know that their drug dealers or some part of a gang. I would understand this if I lived in a ghetto, but I live in Miami Florida, theres no real ghetto's down here, not much danger of getting stabbed in the back eather. All of this of course brings peer pressure, which just shows how weak the person truly is. I dont need to smoke or drink to feel good, I actualy hate the taste of alcohol. Also the peer pressure of sex, these days if you dont have sex by the age of 16, it means your a pussy and cant get a girl.

But probably the biggest issue of all is the bashing of the weak.... Most kids these days are picked on, and parents should notice this. Your kid might tell you that everything's perfectly fine, but if hese dressed in a plaid shirt with normal jeans and looks weak, I can bet you hese being picked on. Also teachers tell you that you should tell them if your being picked on, that is probably the worst thing possible to do. If you tell a teacher, it just shows that you need to depend on somebody to protect yourself, meaning that EVERYBODY will pick on you sooner or later withought fear of getting hit. Also you parents out there should know that even though you teach your kid self protection, he probably wont use it against somebody "popular" or bigger than them.

Now the reason why I feel as an outcast is because..... I listen to 80's music, I love politics, dont fall asleep during history, wear normal jeans and plaid shirts, I dont drink or smoke, I hate doorags and cant stand hip hop, im still a virgin, Im not desperate on fiding a girlfriend or having sex( I just cant stand girls these days), oh yeah and I still watch cartoons....

PS. If you noticed it the description of me sounds like a perfect nerd... which preety much describes what I am lol. But yeah tell me if its ok to feel that way at my age
You sound like a fine young man to me. I was a "nerd" in middle and high school too, and I didn't like it either. I know this is hard to do, but just try to be patient. This will all seem like a rather bad nightmare in a comaratively short time. You'll soon be coming into your own and things will look a lot, LOT different.

The very best thing you can do is concentrate on becoming the best you you can be. And I'm very serious about that. As some of those around you mature and get over the strangeness of thier obesession with "in-group/out-group," they will begin to notice that you didn't play that game and will start to seek you out.

Interesting that you think teenagers today are worse than hippies, I wonder which country you live in. My parents and grandparents have both observed that teenagers today are much more conservative than they were as children, which I thought was strange because I thought we were much more liberal. They tell me that the majority are much more conservative than in their days, but the rouge elements are much more noticable and in your face.

Sorry if I wrote that wrong, I mean that their second to the hippies. The only thing about the hippies is that they were doing it in the open. Drugs these days is like an underground system since all that police and stuff. And I guess you can call this generation concervative cause they realy dont care much about changing anything, just their social lives

Also, everyone always thinks the current generation is the worst ever. They thought the baby boomers would bring ruin to the country, or that generation X would wreak havoc in the country. It just seems that way.

You sound like a fine young man to me. I was a "nerd" in middle and high school too, and I didn't like it either. I know this is hard to do, but just try to be patient. This will all seem like a rather bad nightmare in a comaratively short time. You'll soon be coming into your own and things will look a lot, LOT different.

The very best thing you can do is concentrate on becoming the best you you can be. And I'm very serious about that. As some of those around you mature and get over the strangeness of thier obesession with "in-group/out-group," they will begin to notice that you didn't play that game and will start to seek you out.

Well I dont have much problems with it, the truth is that I have a really strong sense of self, I preety much hate my generation. But its preety hard to ignore it, I have friends that have gone to counseling because their constanly picked on, they feel like their inferior to everybody else because they cant reach their standards.

Sorry if I wrote that wrong, I mean that their second to the hippies. The only thing about the hippies is that they were doing it in the open. Drugs these days is like an underground system since all that police and stuff. And I guess you can call this generation concervative cause they realy dont care much about changing anything, just their social lives

Not your fault, probably mine for not concentrating hard enough (multitasking, damn assignments).

Well I dont have much problems with it, the truth is that I have a really strong sense of self, I preety much hate my generation. But its preety hard to ignore it, I have friends that have gone to counseling because their constanly picked on, they feel like their inferior to everybody else because they cant reach their standards.

I do as well. However, you seem to have a particularly bad problem, which is unfortunate. One of the easiest things to do is take the most advanced classes you can, since they will sort of sift the chaff (of which there is plenty) from the wheat, and so things will go easier.

I do as well. However, you seem to have a particularly bad problem, which is unfortunate. One of the easiest things to do is take the most advanced classes you can, since they will sort of sift the chaff (of which there is plenty) from the wheat, and so things will go easier.

Well my friend goes to counceling for being picked on.... Another friend of mines had to leave the school.. And as for myself, In middle school somebody threw a pen at my head and it poped, other than that its just stupid jokes

maybe you feel alone or rejected because you reject others so easily?

in one of your first sentences you say the entire generation is 'crap' and then blame it on two of the most popular and influencial types of music - music which other teenagers happen to like. now, you don't have to like it yourself, or even pretend to like it, just don't label others as 'crap' for not liking the things, or thinking the way you do


i agree, there are aspects of our generation (i'm 19... and i'm sure this isn't the first generation to have problems like these) that i don't particularly care for - the over-competitiveness you mentioned, especially.
then again, 'teen culture', certainly certain aspects, seems far more pronounced in the US than here...


but not just that, you're not alone. believe me :)



ps: the hippies rocked. never insult the hippies! :mad:

no this generation is not the worst ever. its one of the best ever. it just seems bad because of so much media attention on the negative.

after 9/11 there was so much bad said about the military age people. then they stepped up to the plate and showed that when needed, they are there to do the job and they do it as well as any generation before them

its the same with teens who are your age now. you just havent had a chance to prove yourselves yet. when its your turn, i have no doubt that you will do as good a job.

it just sucks to be a virtual adult with no control over your own life. that will change soon and then you will be much happier with your life.

Well my friend goes to counceling for being picked on.... Another friend of mines had to leave the school.. And as for myself, In middle school somebody threw a pen at my head and it poped, other than that its just stupid jokes

That is terrible! I myself never had any problems, likely due to the school itself than my own behavior (I never really cared about the mindless teenage crap and debated with my friends on politics. Plus I liked math) and the classes I took.

Well I dont have much problems with it, the truth is that I have a really strong sense of self, I preety much hate my generation. But its preety hard to ignore it, I have friends that have gone to counseling because their constanly picked on, they feel like their inferior to everybody else because they cant reach their standards.
That's sad. Actually, they're probably more mature than those who pick on them. I hope the counselors tell them that.

Wanna hear a story from my teen years? :D

And I guess you can call this generation concervative cause they realy dont care much about changing anything, just their social lives

I grew up in somewhat similar circumstances to yourself. I may be a touch older than you, but I felt inside what you talk about now. I can tell you that you may not be alone in the world, but perhaps our "kind" is rare wherever one lives ;)

I live and grew up in the Pacific Northwest, just about the furthest possible point away from you in the contiguous US. Still, I found people "like" me almost impossible to find, and those who shared more than a few induvidual qualities with myself all too rare. It rarely depressed me, but I wasn't fond of the situation either.

The most important thing I found is to focus on bettering yourself, for yourself. Then reach out any way you can to find new people. I went to online friend finders, went to high school activities, went to college and just hung around. Coffee shops, pottery barns, YMCAs, anywhere where a diverse group of people can be found. Be open and talk to as many people as possible, if teens aren't your thing then talk to adults.

I went to a local community college and just spent hours between classes talking to single moms, retired workers, burnd out microsoft employees, etc. Gain persepective, learn about other ways of life, expand your horizons to avoid concentrating on the limitations of your present condition.

Its never easy. Its not always rewarding. But I urge you to keep at it, find yourself, find what you like, and stick with it. Then go "hunting", FIND others who share your interests, LOOK hard, and when you least expected you'll meet a kindred spirit and your whole month will brighten.

Hope it helps.

no this generation is not the worst ever. its one of the best ever. it just seems bad because of so much media attention on the negative.

after 9/11 there was so much bad said about the military age people. then they stepped up to the plate and showed that when needed, they are there to do the job and they do it as well as any generation before them

its the same with teens who are your age now. you just havent had a chance to prove yourselves yet. when its your turn, i have no doubt that you will do as good a job.

it just sucks to be a virtual adult with no control over your own life. that will change soon and then you will be much happier with your life.

People will grow up sooner or later, its part of life I guess... But in my eyes it takes most of them a serious long time to grow up. Most people that know me will tell you that im too mature for my age, its not that I want to feel older or anything, its just the way I am... Also its not that im a virtual adult, well I dont try to be at least. Thing is that most of the things I like are actually adult things that most teenagers wount do.

after 9/11 there was so much bad said about the military age people. then they stepped up to the plate and showed that when needed, they are there to do the job and they do it as well as any generation before them.
Aren't they awesome! I use to have lots of doubts about what sort of people we were raising. After seeing what these young people can really do and how they are as people, I have lots more confidence for our collective future.

I grew up in somewhat similar circumstances to yourself. I may be a touch older than you, but I felt inside what you talk about now. I can tell you that you may not be alone in the world, but perhaps our "kind" is rare wherever one lives ;)

I live and grew up in the Pacific Northwest, just about the furthest possible point away from you in the contiguous US. Still, I found people "like" me almost impossible to find, and those who shared more than a few induvidual qualities with myself all too rare. It rarely depressed me, but I wasn't fond of the situation either.

The most important thing I found is to focus on bettering yourself, for yourself. Then reach out any way you can to find new people. I went to online friend finders, went to high school activities, went to college and just hung around. Coffee shops, pottery barns, YMCAs, anywhere where a diverse group of people can be found. Be open and talk to as many people as possible, if teens aren't your thing then talk to adults.

I went to a local community college and just spent hours between classes talking to single moms, retired workers, burnd out microsoft employees, etc. Gain persepective, learn about other ways of life, expand your horizons to avoid concentrating on the limitations of your present condition.

Its never easy. Its not always rewarding. But I urge you to keep at it, find yourself, find what you like, and stick with it. Then go "hunting", FIND others who share your interests, LOOK hard, and when you least expected you'll meet a kindred spirit and your whole month will brighten.

Hope it helps.
Good advice, Niccolo! You're one of the people on here I would most like to meet. :)

You're at that stage where you're still finding yourself- trying to learn who you are. "Nerd"-maybe now, but in a few years you'll have a head start on all the punks that are focusing on their image and victimizing others. You'll probably go to college and find a job you actually like. They on the other hand, may find that when high school is over and their suddenly in the real world, that they are now lost.
I was never a nerd, but never the football star either. I had 85 kids in my graduating class. I set my own pace,didnt pick on anyone and wouldnt tolerate anyone picking on me or my friends. I dont care how big a bully was or if he had two friends-I would pound them into submission with anything I could get my hands on-staplers & bunson burner ring stands got me in the office with the police and my father called to the school. You only have to defend yourself once or twice and these scum bags will look for a new victim. In tenth grade, I started wearing a shirt and tie to school-pretty soon, many of the other guys were doing the same. If I cracked a joke, you would think I was the funniest man in the world. Maybe I had an aura of self confidence. Thats what might set you apart. High school is a couple of years- do your best, make the most of it and feel good about yourself. The rest will likely fall into place.

I actually had an interesting story. There was this girl that kept on bothering me calling me gay( I dont mean to offend anybody, I actually respect gay people after their put through all that media attention), she kept on bothering me and stuff like that. Her friend caught me in a really bad mood, please im not a violent person at all but after a whole school year of being picked on, it drives a person to insanity. I ended up hitting the kid and going to the counselor. Today the girl comes and asks me for advice..... I mean, getting respect through violence...

I was a nerd in middle school. Then I said, Fuck this! I'm fucking amazing and everyone should know it! So, come high school, I stopped cutting my hair, got contacts and wore boots that looked like, BUT WERE NOT, Uggs. Frequent announcement of my amazingness forced everyone to believe that I am amazing and there's nothing any of them can do about it. My hair did sort of grow out, though. All poofy-like. I MAINTAIN IT, YOU BASTARDS! I don't want to look like a dirty hippie.

I, like you, don't really care about when I'm next getting laid, am interested in politics, still wear plaid in the form of boxer shorts, hate all forms of contemporary music, and do not smoke pot or drink alcohol. I am respected and worshipped by my peers and was elected to be Future Leader of the Free World in some talent show or something, but the administration rigged the ballots. Those fascist pigs. Look at me, I'm the Principal! I wield ultimate executive power! Blargagagargaargrag!

There was more than enough evidence to support this, including the fact that the category in question had one less nominee than any other... Now I've started ranting about something, haven't I?

Anyway, three tips for you:

1. Reject all forms of conformity. If anyone imitates you, force them to change their hairstyle. I was confused with a senior named Sam Abbot. He cut his hair in recognition of my amazingility. And he had a job interview.

2. Never be intimidated by anyone. You find some guy who looks threatening? Smack him over the back of the head and insult his mother. Laugh and then point out some interesting magazine articles you think he might like. Works for me.

3. Do something no one else in your school can do. I made a really shitty flash animation in one day for an AP Euro project, which instantly boosted me to the status of Demideity.


Of course, I manage to appear to have a super-inflated ego and yet be pseudohumble at the same time. This is a key factor in being amazing. You probably can't pull it off. Try anyway, though. Tell me what happens. I haven't eaten in two days.

I actually had an interesting story. There was this girl that kept on bothering me calling me gay( I dont mean to offend anybody, I actually respect gay people after their put through all that media attention), she kept on bothering me and stuff like that. Her friend caught me in a really bad mood, please im not a violent person at all but after a whole school year of being picked on, it drives a person to insanity. I ended up hitting the kid and going to the counselor. Today the girl comes and asks me for advice..... I mean, getting respect through violence...

Speaking of gaining respect through violence, my brother was excrutiatingly bothersome until I whacked one of his "tough" friends over the back of the head with a wooden rubber band gun. All his friends really like me now for some reason.

Good advice, Niccolo! You're one of the people on here I would most like to meet. :)

I think I would enjoy meeting you as well, you've certainly impressed me with a number of your posts. I was positive I'd see you on this thread, you seem very skilled with the "living life" department of questions. Experience has its benifits I suppose ;)

Tell ya what, I've got a friend who lives about 400 miles away from NC, I'll let you know when I'm in town and we'll find someplace to meet halfway. ;)

Otherwise, let me know when you're in town near Seattle. I know a couple of great places to catch a bite to eat.

Oh my gosh. That is the most noble thing I have heard anyone say in a long time! Congratulations on not feeling that you have to immediately lose your virginity, having an interest in politics, and listening to the music that you like (though I will "admit" I am a pretty big heavy metal fan AND I am very happily dating someone that I love very much, so I guess I kind of "strike out" there). I think that you are absolutely right, too many teens these days just suck (not all by any means, but far too many of the privileged and pampered ones at least). While I have a year and 3 months before I leave teenage-dom, I've already come to realize what a waste of space most teenagers let themselves become. So many of them happily mooch off of their parents even when opportunities to do otherwise present themselves, act like they don't care about their futures, and drink/do drugs, etc. What is most prevalent is a proclivity for wasting time or "misplacing it" at the very least by playing video games, watching too much TV, or simply sitting around and doing nothing. My past bad experiences during my journey through teenager-dom have put me through an early "mid-life crisis" of sorts and have caused me to reflect on what my life means to me and where I am going. I have resolved to use my time wisely, enrich myself by not letting my mind go to waste, and trying my best to just be a good person to everyone. Be true to yourself, enjoy life, and most importantly make the world a better place! Don't let anyone get you down, man!

Hey dudeman, all you need to do is chillax. I'm 17 in a big high school, I wear normal jeans, I watch cartoons from time to time, history is my favortie class and I'm actually thinking of majoring or minoring in it before graduate school, I love 80's music, I'm not fond of the hip-hop culture either, I don't have a girl friend, and I like politics. I live in a surburban town that is anything but "ghetto", although everybody thinks it is. The only difference is that I don't really feel the same way you do, because I don't worry about other people and I don't care what they think. I'm guessing you're the nervous type and that is your main problem. You need to loosen up and get yourself involved. Also it sounds like the people at your school just suck and that's all there is to them. You sound like a pretty chill dude and all you have to do is let people see that. If all else fails just knife somebody in class and then nobody will fuck with you.

I think I would enjoy meeting you as well, you've certainly impressed me with a number of your posts. I was positive I'd see you on this thread, you seem very skilled with the "living life" department of questions. Experience has its benifits I suppose ;)

Tell ya what, I've got a friend who lives about 400 miles away from NC, I'll let you know when I'm in town and we'll find someplace to meet halfway. ;)

Otherwise, let me know when you're in town near Seattle. I know a couple of great places to catch a bite to eat.
Sounds good to me. Yer on! :D

I'll send you a TG with my email and telephone number, k?

Oh my gosh. That is the most noble thing I have heard anyone say in a long time! Congratulations on not feeling that you have to immediately lose your virginity, having an interest in politics, and listening to the music that you like (though I will "admit" I am a pretty big heavy metal fan AND I am very happily dating someone that I love very much, so I guess I kind of "strike out" there). I think that you are absolutely right, too many teens these days just suck (not all by any means, but far too many of the privileged and pampered ones at least). While I have a year and 3 months before I leave teenage-dom, I've already come to realize what a waste of space most teenagers let themselves become. So many of them happily mooch off of their parents even when opportunities to do otherwise present themselves, act like they don't care about their futures, and drink/do drugs, etc. What is most prevalent is a proclivity for wasting time or "misplacing it" at the very least by playing video games, watching too much TV, or simply sitting around and doing nothing. My past bad experiences during my journey through teenager-dom have put me through an early "mid-life crisis" of sorts and have caused me to reflect on what my life means to me and where I am going. I have resolved to use my time wisely, enrich myself by not letting my mind go to waste, and trying my best to just be a good person to everyone. Be true to yourself, enjoy life, and most importantly make the world a better place! Don't let anyone get you down, man!
Great advice! Who are you? I don't think I've seen you here on General much.

Hell yeah. I like 80's music, too. Then again, I'm in my 3rd year of college...nobody really cares what music you listen to when you're in college. I know what you mean about high school, though. People I hung out with were into metal, and admittedly, some of it was pretty good. You can't go wrong with a good guitar solo.

I guess people thought of me as the "intelligent psycho" type. I never really associated myself with any of the "popular folks", and I knew a lot more about the real world than anybody else. All the other students seemed to be interested in pop culture and other shit like that, and I was busy thinking of foreign policy. Huh, now that I think about it, that does sound a bit psychotic. x.x Oh well.

Ok ... what if you were like me in High School and was both a nerd and a social maniac (like those who listen to Iron Maiden) at the same time?

Oh ... I know ....

You grow up to be a talented musician who is respected by his peers, an accomplished teacher, an award winning composer, married to a lovely woman, and have 4 beautiful and intelligent children.

Rock on, Rakenshi ... you're gonna be just fine.

I was a nerd in middle school. Then I said, Fuck this! I'm fucking amazing and everyone should know it! So, come high school, I stopped cutting my hair, got contacts and wore boots that looked like, BUT WERE NOT, Uggs. Frequent announcement of my amazingness forced everyone to believe that I am amazing and there's nothing any of them can do about it. My hair did sort of grow out, though. All poofy-like. I MAINTAIN IT, YOU BASTARDS! I don't want to look like a dirty hippie.

I, like you, don't really care about when I'm next getting laid, am interested in politics, still wear plaid in the form of boxer shorts, hate all forms of contemporary music, and do not smoke pot or drink alcohol. I am respected and worshipped by my peers and was elected to be Future Leader of the Free World in some talent show or something, but the administration rigged the ballots. Those fascist pigs. Look at me, I'm the Principal! I wield ultimate executive power! Blargagagargaargrag!

There was more than enough evidence to support this, including the fact that the category in question had one less nominee than any other... Now I've started ranting about something, haven't I?

Anyway, three tips for you:

1. Reject all forms of conformity. If anyone imitates you, force them to change their hairstyle. I was confused with a senior named Sam Abbot. He cut his hair in recognition of my amazingility. And he had a job interview.

2. Never be intimidated by anyone. You find some guy who looks threatening? Smack him over the back of the head and insult his mother. Laugh and then point out some interesting magazine articles you think he might like. Works for me.

3. Do something no one else in your school can do. I made a really shitty flash animation in one day for an AP Euro project, which instantly boosted me to the status of Demideity.


Of course, I manage to appear to have a super-inflated ego and yet be pseudohumble at the same time. This is a key factor in being amazing. You probably can't pull it off. Try anyway, though. Tell me what happens. I haven't eaten in two days.I would not recomend following this person's example. Rahter than somehow attempting to morphe yourself into some unknown and cocky monster, you should develope and express your own personality and interests. You sound like an interesting and good person. Don't change yourself.
like Niccolo said, simply get out to different places, diversify the people you come in contact with, and you WILL meet friends. Highschool can be a shithole, butit's only a few years of your life. Tough it out.

Hey thank you all for your help. Its good to know im not the only out there. Im nearly done with high school, this is my junior year which ends in like a month. Meaning senior year is left off. I think people in their Senior years are more mature than their other years, for some reason i've had trouble with people from all classes exept seniors. I need to work on my license and getting a car. Me and my friends are thinking about going to Japan for a month when were done with high school, and I plan on traveling countries like England, Russia, Ireland, and even Australia. Eather way its one more year, I think I can handle that lol. But thank you all for your help

Yeah, I was planning on travelling, too. Just make sure that you remember to save your money! I kinda forgot that part and I've been stuck here for the past three years. Damn.

Great advice! Who are you? I don't think I've seen you here on General much.

Thanks! My name is Aleks, and yeah, I don't post very often. In fact, I tend to avoid the forums, since a lot of the topics people start just seem to be things that would cause me to go off on tangents, which I have limited time for, lol. Most all of my time is spent doing my college homework, working, and when I'm lucky, I play bass, study things of personal interest, or hanging out with my boyfriend or other friends whenever I can. Well, what else would you like to know? If you wanna check out my nation, it is "Aleks-vania" (really creative, I know). Get back to me whenever you can! Send me a telegram if you'd like! : D

Aleks

Hey thank you all for your help. Its good to know im not the only out there. Im nearly done with high school, this is my junior year which ends in like a month. Meaning senior year is left off. I think people in their Senior years are more mature than their other years, for some reason i've had trouble with people from all classes exept seniors. I need to work on my license and getting a car. Me and my friends are thinking about going to Japan for a month when were done with high school, and I plan on traveling countries like England, Russia, Ireland, and even Australia. Eather way its one more year, I think I can handle that lol. But thank you all for your help


Traveling broadens your horizons. One of my friends had a tough time through high school. After we graduated, he traveled the world. He als went to college. He is an accomplished architect in NYC now-his own firm.

Thanks! My name is Aleks, and yeah, I don't post very often. In fact, I tend to avoid the forums, since a lot of the topics people start just seem to be things that would cause me to go off on tangents, which I have limited time for, lol. Most all of my time is spent doing my college homework, working, and when I'm lucky, I play bass, study things of personal interest, or hanging out with my boyfriend or other friends whenever I can. Well, what else would you like to know? If you wanna check out my nation, it is "Aleks-vania" (really creative, I know). Get back to me whenever you can! Send me a telegram if you'd like! : D

Aleks
Thanks. I was just curious, since you gave such good advice and I hadn't seen you around. Nice nation, but a bit too authoritarian for my tastes. ;)

BTW ... "tangents" are part of the fun! :D

Thanks. I was just curious, since you gave such good advice and I hadn't seen you around. Nice nation, but a bit too authoritarian for my tastes. ;)

BTW ... "tangents" are part of the fun! :D

haha Yeah, I have no idea how my nation became so authoritarian, really. In real life, I'm actually very pro-democracy and lean more toward less government than anything else, which really confuses me as to how I ended up with a damn socialist society. I also used to have better political freedoms (and honestly, while I don't like extreme political groups, I don't recall ever passing a bill to outlaw them, as I view it as a matter of freedom of speech, but c'est la vie), so I am trying to work on those to make them better. But yes, I completely agree with you, authoritarianism sucks and my nation will continue to do the same as long as it is like that. Anyway, thanks again for your compliments! And actually, I think tangents are cool too, just as long as they don't get in the way of my psych homework : P

Aleks

Wow. Just wow. You're going through almost the same mental dilemna as I am, even though I am considered popular amongst the mob that is school (for what it's worth) and am well-liked by just about everyone, so I can't help you with that.

But the drugs and alcohol part, we're exactly the same. I have several friends that I really like, respect, and would want to hang out with except for the fact that they drink, smoke, chew, and everything else bad. Over the last couple of years, I've watched them go from not ever doing it to doing it once every couple of months, to doing it every weekend, to coming to school stoned every day. The drug problem in my school is so bad that the administration has taken the doors off all the bathrooms. If I could estimate, I'd say nearly 60% of the school has at least tried some sort of illegal substance. Me personally, I cannot stand drugs. My parents are doctors and I've seen full well what that stuff does to you. I can't stand alchohol either. What the problem seems to be among these people is that in their eyes, unless you drink/smoke until you collapse, you aren't cool. Me, I consider myself cool because I don't do what everyone else does.

My problem with these people is how they can face their loved ones when they discover their son/daughter's problems. I can't imagine how dissapointed my parents would be, or how my young brother would look at me. I want to know what wrong with these kids somewhere along the line that would make them do these things. 5 years previously, they were home by 8. Now they're off all-night getting inebriated. What is especially aggravating is that these kids are conservative Catholics at a catholic school doing these things, while I,the godless evil left-wing pinko stoner commie hippie, do nothing of the sort.

Don't worry about the sex thing either. I've noticed that the people who 'Do it' are often superficial to the extreme. Take this guy I know, he's maybe 5'6 at the tallest. He's the world's biggest nerd. He steals video games and pretends to be a commando. 'You're gonna get slaughtered' is his catchphrase. He has an ugly girlfriend and talks non-stop about his sexual escapades with her. Am I a worse person than him just because he's had more sex than I had, despite the fact that he steals, drinks, smokes, and drives recklessly? I think not.

If you're worried about the 'nerd' thing, just realize that unless you go to star trek conventions and join book clubs, you aren't one. Everyone has their own style and you should play to it. Personally, I'm regarded as the intelligent funnyman with a nack for being a smart-ass. Apparently I was even funny enough to qualify as a team captain of my school's Improv troupe. Besides, plaid is mega sweet.

My solution is to just deal with these people and never really come into contact with them. Eventually they'll fall of the radar. In 5 years when they're all together at the local community college and I'm at some famous university because I wasn't stoned for the entire course of the year, I'll feel that it was worth it. I love politics as well (although I'm more of a Punk/Rage Against the Machine fan) and I laugh at the thought that if I'm lucky someday I'll be making their laws for them.

Good luck man, and I just wanted to let you know that sticking to your ideals is definitely more of a reward in the end.

Jesh, you sound like I did 9 years back. Bst advice I can give ya, hang in there and be yourself. And just wait. In college life gets to be a whole lot better. You'll find peole there who love politics and also don't give a damn about the latest 'in' thing. Best of all, no one else cares in college if you're a nerd or not.

I can also tell you this, you'll change more than you know in college. You might be done physically growing, but you're personality changes more between 18 and 22 than just about any other time. And it's all worth it. So, no, you're not alone.