NationStates Jolt Archive


Woe is me

Colodia
15-04-2005, 23:23
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
Feminist Cat Women
15-04-2005, 23:28
I've spent the last 9 months in an almost constant state of panic/concern.

The concern is worrying how to pay for hospital bills, the panic is people trying to break into my home while i'm alone, having my water and power cut of over christmas and oweing so much money now, i cant buy medicine for my mother.

Feel better?
Kafer_mistress
15-04-2005, 23:28
the only way to deal with it is to bite the bullet and go for it
Pure Metal
15-04-2005, 23:29
Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
*stares back at you*


my advice: chill out. either get drunk and call her (you'll have plenty of confidence... but this is inadvisable) or, my sage advice i've been giving all day, smoke pot!

and speaking of that... ;)
Colodia
15-04-2005, 23:31
I've spent the last 9 months in an almost constant state of panic/concern.

The concern is worrying how to pay for hospital bills, the panic is people trying to break into my home while i'm alone, having my water and power cut of over christmas and oweing so much money now, i cant buy medicine for my mother.

Feel better?
Now I want to get married to this girl so I can leech on her parent's money. At least, given her parents have money. >>
Diaga Ceilteach Impire
15-04-2005, 23:32
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.


Silence pathetic fool!!! we all know your intentions to kill her if she rejects you which she most probably will. So silence and be like us vikings and take what you want!!!
Colodia
15-04-2005, 23:34
Brings me to another question. What the eff do I say if I get the dreaded voicemail greeting?

"Yeah well I just wanted to swear my infinate love to you but I guess your not there so I'll do it some other time then!"
Kleptonis
15-04-2005, 23:34
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
Just go for it. As masochistic as it is, you'll probably feel better about getting shot down than you would worrying about it.
Frangland
15-04-2005, 23:36
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.

My advice: don't go all the way with the message of love right away, on the first call. unless she feels exactly the same way for you (and with the same force), your love-sick words might scare her.

instead, try being like, "Hey, the boys and I were going to the movies/bar/club (etc.) and were wondering if you and some friends would like to join us."

you know, let it NOT be just about the two of you until you've had time to talk to her, see her in action with other people, and let her see you in action with your friends. Women seem to make a large part of their judgments of guys by watching how they act in public. So maybe doing something together as part of a group of people would be a good way to start things off.

If she says yes to this, take your time... let her have time to herself in this setting... you don't need to hold her hand every second.

let her breathe and if she likes you, she will get the wheels rolling. and you'll be like, "boo yah!"
Diaga Ceilteach Impire
15-04-2005, 23:38
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.


Silence pathetic fool!!! we all know your intentions to kill her if she rejects you which she most probably will. So silence and be like us vikings and take what you want!!!
Frangland
15-04-2005, 23:38
and this is very important (as a follow-up to the above advice):

make sure when you call you're not like, "hey, we're doing something tomorrow..."

make sure you give her plenty of notice... a week is a good idea.

the reason being, even if she really wants to go with you, she may already have plans and such a short-notice invite will wreak havoc with her scheduling.
Gartref
15-04-2005, 23:41
I resolved to call her up a thousand times a day
And ask her if she'll marry me in some old fashioned way
But my silent fears have gripped me
Long before I reach the phone
Long before my tongue has tripped me
Must I always be alone
Frangland
15-04-2005, 23:43
Brings me to another question. What the eff do I say if I get the dreaded voicemail greeting?

"Yeah well I just wanted to swear my infinate love to you but I guess your not there so I'll do it some other time then!"

IF you get her voice mail, say this (or something like this):

(i'll use Katie for her name and Ryan for yours)

"Hey, Katie, this is Ryan. Call me back at (phone number)"

do not profess love of any sort over voice mail. do not ask her OUT over voice mail. just say "hi" and let her call you back. if she does, hey, that shows at least some interest. if she doesn't, you'll know she's not interested... and it'll save you from the humiliation of professing your love and then getting shot down.
Diaga Ceilteach Impire
15-04-2005, 23:52
Now I want to get married to this girl so I can leech on her parent's money. At least, given her parents have money. >>


AH!!! that is no viking spirit you make me sick , not only do you cower , but intend to marry this women for her parents money??? why not just take the woman as your slave and kill her parents for the money like a true viking
New Granada
16-04-2005, 00:00
AH!!! that is no viking spirit you make me sick , not only do you cower , but intend to marry this women for her parents money??? why not just take the woman as your slave and kill her parents for the money like a true viking


Colodia isnt a viking.

---
I should have been a pair of ragged claws
Scuttling across the floors of silent seas.
. . . . .
And the afternoon, the evening, sleeps so peacefully!
Smoothed by long fingers,
Asleep … tired … or it malingers,
Stretched on the floor, here beside you and me.
Should I, after tea and cakes and ices,
Have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?
But though I have wept and fasted, wept and prayed,
Though I have seen my head [grown slightly bald] brought in upon a platter,
I am no prophet—and here’s no great matter;
I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker,
And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,
And in short, I was afraid.
Iztatepopotla
16-04-2005, 00:33
I agree with Frangland. If this is the first time you call her (or even the 27th) don't profess your undying love to her. She's gonna think you're a wacko and that you're going to start stalking her and molesting her over the phone.

Just try to have a short, funny conversation, let her get used to you.

Then you kill her :)
Colodia
16-04-2005, 00:35
Err, I talk with her bi-daily. We're not strangers to each other. Just that only the privacy of the phone will do.

I called her just now. Got her voicemail. Told her I had something to tell her, and to call back whenever. And now I'm feeling hot. Is anyone else feeling hot? Boy, it's hot.
Kejott
16-04-2005, 00:36
My Advice: Sometimes you've got to say "what the hell" and just do it. Just do it blindly without thinking about the consequences of your actions or if somebody is going to judge you. Just do it(insert Nike symbol here).
Ankhmet
16-04-2005, 00:39
My Advice: Sometimes you've got to say "what the hell" and just do it. Just do it blindly without thinking about the consequences of your actions or if somebody is going to judge you. Just do it(insert Nike symbol here).

I'm here on behalf of Nike international. you should be served with papers in the next 24 hours.
Kejott
16-04-2005, 00:40
I'm here on behalf of Nike international. you should be served with papers in the next 24 hours.

How are you going to mail the papers.....If I'm in an underwater observatory!?!? MUHAHAHA! You'll never catch me alive! :upyours:
Iztatepopotla
16-04-2005, 00:50
Err, I talk with her bi-daily. We're not strangers to each other. Just that only the privacy of the phone will do.

I called her just now. Got her voicemail. Told her I had something to tell her, and to call back whenever. And now I'm feeling hot. Is anyone else feeling hot? Boy, it's hot.
Oh, I see. Still, be careful, try not to go from the "owww" to the "yeeeew" phase.
Kafer_mistress
16-04-2005, 01:01
I resolved to call her up a thousand times a day
And ask her if she'll marry me in some old fashioned way
But my silent fears have gripped me
Long before I reach the phone
Long before my tongue has tripped me
Must I always be alone


quality tuneage!
Parduna
16-04-2005, 15:21
I resolved to call her up a thousand times a day
And ask her if she'll marry me in some old fashioned way
But my silent fears have gripped me
Long before I reach the phone
Long before my tongue has tripped me
Must I always be alone

This is, er,
who wrote this?
(thx for a hint)
Lashie
17-04-2005, 11:17
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.

Aww... thats so cute, from a girl perspective ring her (if you haven't already) even if she doesn't want to be anymore than friends she'll feel special cause you made the effort to tell her.

Good Luck :fluffle:
Boodicka
17-04-2005, 15:52
I think, in the grand context of life, this scenario you've disclosed paints you as a bit gutless. It is neither cute nor endearing to deny your truth, because you're the one who will ultimately live with regrets. Noone is sympathetic to the man who falls over if he refuses to tie his shoelaces.

Maybe the anxiety is a warning sign that you really don't love this girl the way you think you do. I keep in mind a question I asked a teenage girl when she was swooning about her current solvent-sniffing, car-stealing, sexually assaulting flame: "Will you love him enough to clean up his shit when his solvent abuse completely destroys his capacity to control his bowels?" Sometimes you have to destroy the mystery and romance to discover that you really love a person. My list of candidates for faeces duty is a small one, but I love them more than anything.

Presuming that you DO love her by some personal, offensive yardstick like the one I demonstrated, but she doesn't like you, you have my sympathy. That said, remember that just as not everyone likes pineapple or mayonnaise or carrots, you do not have to like everyone you meet, and they do not have to like you. Making the effort to respect them and their differences are the only acts of love that you are obligated to make.
Ashmoria
17-04-2005, 16:31
DONT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER

if you want this to succeed you have to play it cool. too much too soon will just freak her out.

when she calls you back (or you call her again) say that what you wanted to tell her is that youve been thinking about it and you would like to ask her out. that youve been "friends" long enough and you think its time to give romance a chance.

then ask her to some no-pressure kind of date. DONT ASK HER TO GO SEE SIN CITY WITH YOU. try "sahara" instead. its got good parts and way stupid parts so it will give you lots to talk about afterwards.

dress well and be nice.

dont blow this by giving too much info too soon. just let her get used to the idea a little at a time.
Findecano Calaelen
17-04-2005, 16:39
tell her your plans for world domination and she is bound to fall in love with you
Gartref
17-04-2005, 16:57
This is, er,
who wrote this?
(thx for a hint)I'm sure you'll recognize the refrain:


Every little thing she does is magic
Everything she do just turns me on
Even though my life before was tragic
Now I know my love for her goes on

...I keep in mind a question I asked a teenage girl when she was swooning about her current solvent-sniffing, car-stealing, sexually assaulting flame: "Will you love him enough to clean up his shit when his solvent abuse completely destroys his capacity to control his bowels?" Sometimes you have to destroy the mystery and romance to discover that you really love a person. My list of candidates for faeces duty is a small one, but I love them more than anything.LOL Brilliant! That really puts it in perspective. I shall place "The Boodicka Shit-Test" next to Occam's Razor in my analytical toolbag. Thanks!
Boodicka
18-04-2005, 13:03
LOL Brilliant! That really puts it in perspective. I shall place "The Boodicka Shit-Test" next to Occam's Razor in my analytical toolbag. Thanks!
*bows* The Boodicka Shit Test. I am now forever linked to faecal matter! Thankyou for immortalising me in your concept of reality. :D
Suklaa
18-04-2005, 13:08
Don't do it man. Let her figure it out for herself. You get on the phone and blurt all your feelings out and she's just gonna be like:

O_O

There are so many better ways to let a girl know you like her than getting on the phone and spilling your heart out.
The Bohemeas
18-04-2005, 13:09
well my advice would be this, if she shoots you down ring me, since i cant get any i would be happy 'pick up the pieces' so to speak

(that was a joke but seriously my number is.... :D)
FairyTInkArisen
18-04-2005, 13:14
awwwwww, ickle Colodia's growing up, that's so cute! good luck
Lashie
21-04-2005, 06:06
Well... how are you 2 going Colodia... or have you not talked to her yet? ;)
Teh Cameron Clan
21-04-2005, 06:32
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.

Go for it... I know some one who I fell for and didnt say anything for 2 years and now she has a new BF and is pregnant :(
*cries*
The Plutonian Empire
21-04-2005, 06:55
Go for it... I know some one who I fell for and didnt say anything for 2 years and now she has a new BF and is pregnant :(
*cries*
That's your problem right there. Don't "fall" in love. That just sounds like a (mild?) form of infatuation to me. It's better to love someone than to fall in love with someone.

[/plutonian wisdom (:D)]
New Granada
21-04-2005, 07:25
Like the great mr mencken said;

Love is the delusion that one woman is different from the next.

Cynical but oh-so-true.


All the same, being in love is a lot of fun.
Colodia
23-04-2005, 04:31
Oh wow you guys are weird and varied in your statements. Some I went "wtf" and some I went "uhh..." and some I went "hell no!"

Guess I owe an explanation given all the replies.

She called back two days later and left a voicemail, since I was listening to iPod and couldn't hear my phone ringing. Um, although she left her number in the message. Thing is, it's the same number I dialed. :D

Next day I tried to tell her what I wanted to tell her on the phone, but I litterally couldn't get the words out. I mean seriously, my mouth was open and the air didn't want to go out. I gave up and we talked about weird strangers that call us with the wrong number.

All week, we did what other friends do. Partnered up in math, walked together to her locker and to our next class, make fun of the teacher, etc. etc.

So yeah, not much progress with her. But hell, I'm sick of the phone thing. I never know what she's doing and everytime I want to call her I find out that there's an Angels game on. She's a diehard fan of them, apparently. Like calling a chick at that time of the month. *shudders at the thought*

Like now, there's a bloody Angels game on right now! When the hell do these people NOT play baseball?
Teh Cameron Clan
23-04-2005, 05:32
That's your problem right there. Don't "fall" in love. That just sounds like a (mild?) form of infatuation to me. It's better to love someone than to fall in love with someone.

[/plutonian wisdom (:D)]


mild? i was like obsessed upuntil a few months ago >.<
any more and I woulda earned myself stalker status (not the creepy kind that hides in the bushes to kill you tho)
BackwoodsSquatches
23-04-2005, 07:00
Oh wow you guys are weird and varied in your statements. Some I went "wtf" and some I went "uhh..." and some I went "hell no!"

Guess I owe an explanation given all the replies.

She called back two days later and left a voicemail, since I was listening to iPod and couldn't hear my phone ringing. Um, although she left her number in the message. Thing is, it's the same number I dialed. :D

Next day I tried to tell her what I wanted to tell her on the phone, but I litterally couldn't get the words out. I mean seriously, my mouth was open and the air didn't want to go out. I gave up and we talked about weird strangers that call us with the wrong number.

All week, we did what other friends do. Partnered up in math, walked together to her locker and to our next class, make fun of the teacher, etc. etc.

So yeah, not much progress with her. But hell, I'm sick of the phone thing. I never know what she's doing and everytime I want to call her I find out that there's an Angels game on. She's a diehard fan of them, apparently. Like calling a chick at that time of the month. *shudders at the thought*

Like now, there's a bloody Angels game on right now! When the hell do these people NOT play baseball?

Dude.

Just ask her.

Girls always like a guy who knows what he wants, and if she digs you, and you ask her out (be a gentleman), she will say yes.
Chances aere shes probably waiting for you to ask her.

CHICKS DIG CONFIDENCE.

You have nothing to lose but your virginity.
Super-power
23-04-2005, 12:47
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ;)). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
Feh, I'm chased around by ditzes at my school - consider yourself lucky
Findecano Calaelen
23-04-2005, 13:12
You have nothing to lose but your virginity.
:D:D:D
Colodia
24-04-2005, 07:57
awwwwww, ickle Colodia's growing up, that's so cute! good luck
This earned both the "uhh..." and "wtf" response from me. :)
Kouga Town
24-04-2005, 08:25
Originally Posted by Colodia
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
_________________________________________________________________

I say, just take things slow, i mean how long have you known this girl?
do u think she likes you in a special way also?
my advice is to take things slowly and...........
it sucks to do these kind of things over the phone!
FairyTInkArisen
24-04-2005, 08:44
This earned both the "uhh..." and "wtf" response from me. :)
:confused: why?
Colodia
24-04-2005, 09:51
Originally Posted by Colodia
Bloody hell. I want to call up this one girl today, within an hour or so, and tell her how I feel about her (That I like her, not want to kill her for all you negative-people out there ). Well you know that feeling you get in your chest right before you do it? I'm getting it right now and it's impossible to deal with it.

Just wanted to tell the random and invisible NationStates world.
_________________________________________________________________

I say, just take things slow, i mean how long have you known this girl?
do u think she likes you in a special way also?
my advice is to take things slowly and...........
it sucks to do these kind of things over the phone!
How's three months sound?
Lashie
24-04-2005, 10:22
Oh wow you guys are weird and varied in your statements. Some I went "wtf" and some I went "uhh..." and some I went "hell no!"

Guess I owe an explanation given all the replies.

She called back two days later and left a voicemail, since I was listening to iPod and couldn't hear my phone ringing. Um, although she left her number in the message. Thing is, it's the same number I dialed. :D

Next day I tried to tell her what I wanted to tell her on the phone, but I litterally couldn't get the words out. I mean seriously, my mouth was open and the air didn't want to go out. I gave up and we talked about weird strangers that call us with the wrong number.

All week, we did what other friends do. Partnered up in math, walked together to her locker and to our next class, make fun of the teacher, etc. etc.

So yeah, not much progress with her. But hell, I'm sick of the phone thing. I never know what she's doing and everytime I want to call her I find out that there's an Angels game on. She's a diehard fan of them, apparently. Like calling a chick at that time of the month. *shudders at the thought*

Like now, there's a bloody Angels game on right now! When the hell do these people NOT play baseball?


... just tell her, seriously you have nothing to lose... even if it doesn't work out you can still be friends... im serious about that even if she doesn't want to be more than friends, she won't want to lose your friendship :) good luck