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We can admit it, right? :p Which of these shallow reasons would cause you to choose NOT have a long-term relation with someone who you would otherwise be compatible with?

(Poll is anonymous)

I'd go with the other "they're too fat"

Fat or skinny never bothered me much. Ugly does. I can't date an ugly woman. Plain is ok, even mildly unattractive, but not outright ugly.

other: bad manners/impolite

im old and im married so there ya go

i wouldnt take up a long term relationship with someone who had an extremely debillitating illness or who was close to death

i wouldnt take up a long term relationship with a man with no sex drive

i wouldnt take up a long term relationship with a man who couldnt support himself and who was utterly no good with money

i wouldnt take up with an unaccomplished man. i need a man i can respect

i wouldnt take up with a man who didnt adore me and treat me well

i wouldnt take up with a man i didnt love no matter how compatible we were

i wouldnt take up with a woman no matter how attractive.

Other: not respectful of me and others, or not worthy of my respect

Other: I don't do long-term relationships.

too tall: I probably could put up with it for a while but I'm only 5'3", constantly having to wear heels or get out the yellow pages so i could kiss him without breaking my neck would really bug me

I have a problem with noses. I don't like very many examples of noses. I can't explain it.


Oh, a non-physical ridiculous reason for not dating someone long-term: One or more of my cats HATE 'em, or they HATE cats. It's just not gonna work.

too tall: I probably could put up with it for a while but I'm only 5'3", constantly having to wear heels or get out the yellow pages so i could kiss him without breaking my neck would really bug me


thats why you make them come down to you.....im 5'5,my ex was 6'5. No neck probs ....not from kissing anyway.

Other: They ain't smart enough for me :rolleyes:

"They might have an STD"

too tall: I probably could put up with it for a while but I'm only 5'3", constantly having to wear heels or get out the yellow pages so i could kiss him without breaking my neck would really bug me

My ladyfriend is your height (A little shorter maybe) and I'm 6'3". It's a little awkward sometimes, but it's not a big deal.

None of those reasons are good enough for me. Unless they're ugly in the sense of 'People commit suicide' ugly. *shrugs* Far more important things to me like respect and trust are involved.

Wows. Guess I'm not shallow, huh? At least not in this.

As long as she cooks me dinner, defends me from big burly men, and is lovable and fun to be with. She can be as fat as Oprah for all I care.

Options selected:

They're too tall
They're too "ugly"

I wouldn't if the person is an asshole. Period.

You forgot to put "Too damn stupid" in the poll!

I've had a bunch of girls interested in me. Mostly fatties. I swear to god, I will stay a virgin my whole life instead of giving it up to a fatty, im sorry to say.

I voted "Too Ugly" and "Other".

I find that if somebody is just that ugly, it couldn't possibly work out. Oh, and if they have a crappy personality. That's my "other".

Out of what you listed I would not be with a facially ugly person. A plain person is fine, but if I find you ugly I can't be with you.

"Their breasts/"male parts" aren't big enough" ~ I actually prefere girls to be on the smaller side...
"Their breasts/"male parts" are too big" ~ ...But I won't not date somebody just because they are big...as long as they aren't bigger than say d cups.
"They're too short"/"They're too tall" ~ Height isn't a problem, though I prefere short girls.
"They're better-looking than me" ~ I'd never have a problem with that.
"They're not rich enough" ~ I'm not one to talk.
"They're too rich" ~ Only a problem if they thought I wasn't rich enough.
"They're "x" race, and I couldn't possibly date someone of that race. " ~ I usually do not find the facial features of black people attractive, so I don't think I'll find one of them that I'd go out with...though you never know. Other than that I'm ok with any race.

All I'd require is some political/moral sanity and reasonable respect (i.e., no "liberated" women). These would be the only definitive "deal-breakers."

Cooking ability would be great, but that's nothing a person can't learn, even if they're useless in the kitchen to begin with. Preferrably she'd share some of my hobbies. I wouldn't do the inter-racial thing, but that's an aesthetic preferrence, not a superiority thing. Not too picky, I don't think. :)

too tall: I probably could put up with it for a while but I'm only 5'3", constantly having to wear heels or get out the yellow pages so i could kiss him without breaking my neck would really bug me

Ah, damn... How tall is "too tall"? :( I'm 1m86; I've had girlfriends who were over twenty centimetres shorter than me (more often than not, in fact), and it's never really been a problem... (I have no idea what 5'3" is in centimetres, though...)

Anyway, to answer the thread's question, I don't like to generalise, since I can get attracted to a girl who's very different in many ways from any girl I've been attracted to before, but... I'd have to say the only problem in that list would be "too ugly". I can go out with a plain-looking girl if she's got a great personality and I feel really comfortable around her though, no problem. I prefer a plain girl with a lovely personality than a physically attractive girl with whom I have little in common.

Dumb people irritate me. It's just the way I am. I couldn't date a dumb person because I can't respect them. I'd run over them like a train. :(

Respect. Respect for one another plays a long way. We all are imperfect, but if there's a level of respect, then a relationsihip would work out.

As long as she cooks me dinner, defends me from big burly men, and is lovable and fun to be with. She can be as fat as Oprah for all I care.

Ahaha! :D *high fives*

But really, I guess I go for personality, intelligence, and self-respect, even moreso than respect for others.

And can you "I don't date/do ugly people" people explain "ugliness" for me? Is it having a defect, or just plain "unattractive"?