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and not with some racialist poll, either! so tell us. and, for the heterosexually challenged- Girls, What Kind of Broad Do You Like, If You Are So Inclined To do So?

the things i do...........

what kinda guys do YOU like

Somehow, I feel this is the perfect thread for me...

...to say "How you doin'" :)

Intelligent, particularly computer geek-boys (heehee :D like my bf)

(i know this sounds shallow, sometimes hairstyles make a lot of difference to whether i find the person physically attractive or not)

what kinda guys do YOU like
here i am, attempting to gather a female response, and i feel like i am at the singles bar.

Generally, I like them dark, but I'm willing to make exceptions. My man has to be respectful towards women, and quite honestly, of the same general political persuasion as me. A relationship (because I'm not talking about one night stands here) would not last with me if the person was ultra-conservative and/or seriously religious. No stereotypical images of handsome...for me, there is not formula to good looks, although good teeth is a must. Someone I can be weird (myself) with. Willing to live in the country, because I won't compromise on that one.

Luckily, I got all that:).

Somehow, I feel this is the perfect thread for me...

...to say "How you doin'" :)
allright. how YOU doin'?

Funny , sarcastic,intelligent,witty,kind, compassionate, confident but not arrogant, honest, passionate.


EDIT: oh and a gentleman!

here i am, attempting to gather a female response, and i feel like i am at the singles bar.

you asked first :-p it's only fair if you answer too... now look over there

What do girls think about beer belly? Or abit of a tummy? Or is a solid 6 pecks a must?

What about a third nipple? Is that in your 'okay' list?

Oh.. And is a guy having a ego good or a bad thing?

What do girls think about beer belly? Or abit of a tummy? Or is a solid 6 pecks a must?

What about a third nipple? Is that in your 'okay' list?

Oh.. And is a guy having a ego good or a bad thing?


I'm much more interested with whats on the inside rather that the outside.

What do girls think about beer belly? Or abit of a tummy? Or is a solid 6 pecks a must?

What about a third nipple? Is that in your 'okay' list?
Ideally, tight abs would be great. However, we need to be a bit flexible, because face it, gravity works on us all eventually. I don't mind a bit of a tummy as long as

a) the person doesn't obsess about it (do I look fat? I'm so fat. Eww, I hate my belly)

b) the person doesn't ever plan to keep it under control (What? So what if I can't find my gentitals later?)

Oddities such as third nipples, blotchy skin, moles or whatever...not a big deal if you love the person, and if either of you really can't live with it, surgery is always an option. However, there are no 'oddities' I can think of that would prevent me from loving someone.

I'm much more interested with whats on the inside rather that the outside.

Peechland loves Stephen Hawking. Na na Na na Na na Na. :p

Anyway!! Answer the question!! :( There has to be some level of physical attraction, but honestly.. you don't want a 600 pound guy right?

i have a thing for geeks, i like guys to be fairly intelligent, funny (very important, i fell for a guy once simply for making me laugh), sweet, a gentleman, i think it's really important for a guy to have good manners, looks wise i prefer them to be short with being so short myself, and i'm not all that into big muscles and 6packs, don't get me wrong I do like it but i prefer a bit of tubbiness, i think it's cute, but looks aren't all that important (especially if they can amke me laugh) I always get asked out by jerks though :(

What do girls think about beer belly? Or abit of a tummy? Or is a solid 6 pecks a must?

What about a third nipple? Is that in your 'okay' list?

Oh.. And is a guy having a ego good or a bad thing?
the stomach thing is crap. besides, most guys thathve one, lose it a few years into the marriage. and a third nipple? where, on your head??? who cares?tattoo over it. ego, as long as its not as bigger than life, is fine. no chick wants a guy who whines about himslef constantly.

allright. how YOU doin'?
All the better for getting a reply to that ludicrous come-on line! :p

Peechland loves Stephen Hawking. Na na Na na Na na Na. :p
The guys a freakin' genius. That's pretty damn attractive in my books.

Anyway!! Answer the question!! :( There has to be some level of physical attraction, but honestly.. you don't want a 600 pound guy right?
Of course there has to be some physical attraction, but you can't qualify what 'everyone' is going to find attractive.

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

Six beers?

Guys who seem really (for lack of a better word) dumb don't do it for me. Immaturity is also a turn off. I've always liked older guys because of that (though it doesn't guarantee maturity, it's more likely). Jerks, no matter how 'good looking' are just plain ugly in my books. Homophobes, sexists, racists and bigots all fall into that category. Plus, overly aggressive types who feel the need to fight all the time. Addicts. Yuck. People with really low self-esteem...not attractive. People with too much self-esteem. Ditto.

Six beers?

Heh, tried, worked out it doesn't do me any favours :p

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)
Suck it up and just do it. Seriously. If I think about the opportunities I missed because I didn't think someone would be attracted to me...finding out later that they were, and too chicken to ask ME out...MAN!!!! A lot of my fantasizing would have become real. :(

Oh yeah. If she says no, don't cry in front of her.

Suck it up and just do it. Seriously. If I think about the opportunities I missed because I didn't think someone would be attracted to me...finding out later that they were, and too chicken to ask ME out...MAN!!!! A lot of my fantasizing would have become real. :(

I guess, but I just cant bring myself to do it!

I mean i'll see a girl in the street, or a girl at college (or high-school in the u.s, so there is no confusion), and I just cant do anything.

I mean, I'm friends with plenty of girls, but I just dont have the courage to ever ask one out.

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)


I've seen you and you are very handsome. If youre shy, day time dates seem to work out best. For some reason, the night time "dinner and a movie" scenario makes people more nervous than usual. So opt for a theme park, the zoo, a picnic. ....something like that

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)
here is bit of advice from your dear occidio, read my sig first, so you dont swallow your tongue.

BY ADMITTING YOU ARE SHY, IT MUST NOT BE THAT BAD OF A PROBLEM!!! IF YOU WERE SHY TO A FAULT,YOU WOULD HAVE NO IDEA OF THE CONDITION. BESIDES, MANY GIRLS LIKE SHY GUYS. AND INSECURE HOW YOU LOOK? ARE YOU JOKING? UNLESS YOU HAVE THE FACE OF A ANIMAL, SEWN ONTO A HUMAN BODY, YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE. READ THE THREAD. LOOKS ARE NOT NUMBER ONE IN MOST QUALITY GIRLS' BOOKS. AND MAKE A DUMB JOKE. CHICKS LIKE THAT. JUST ASK A GIRL TO HANG OUT, GO FOR COFFEE, ETC. FIND OUT WHAT SHE IS INTERESTED IN, AND PREPARE A LIST OF QUESTIONS SO YOU CAN KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING. AND GET OVER ALL OF THIS CRAP. IF YOU DONT, NEXT THING YOU KNOW, YOU WILL 478, DRINKING A 12 PACK OF BEER A DAY, AND TELLING YOUR HUSKY NAMED SMOKY THAT YOU WISHED YOU HAD DONE MORE IN LIFE.

I've seen you and you are very handsome. If youre shy, day time dates seem to work out best. For some reason, the night time "dinner and a movie" scenario makes people more nervous than usual. So opt for a theme park, the zoo, a picnic. ....something like that

Thanks, I appreciate that :)

Yeah, you're probably right, but the problem is mustering up the courage to ask a girl in the first place ..

One last thing. I'm just not attracted to guys who aren't attracted to me. Being attracted to me does not guarantee reciprocity, but total lack of interest is like a cold shower. Moving on.

OR a guy who is attracted to you...but also obviously to many other women, and not particularly interested in who he goes home with? Also like a cold shower.

I guess, but I just cant bring myself to do it!

I mean i'll see a girl in the street, or a girl at college (or high-school in the u.s, so there is no confusion), and I just cant do anything.

I mean, I'm friends with plenty of girls, but I just dont have the courage to ever ask one out.
YOU CANT BRING YOURSLF TO DO IT??? GO ON THE NET LOOK AT PICS OF SCANTILY CLAD GIRLS. IN FACT, LOOK AT PICTURES OF WOMENS GENITALS. DONT YOU WANT SOME OF THAT??? OF COURSE YOU DO. SO TALK TO THE BROADS, OR IT WILL REMAIN A WEB PAGE, AND A MASTURBATION FANTASY FOREVER.

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)
guys like you really bug me! you're just the kind of a guy i would want to go out with but your all shy and stuff and get way too nervous about asking girls out so they have to put up with the arrogant jerks that think they're god's gift to women! and you look great!

I guess, but I just cant bring myself to do it!

I mean i'll see a girl in the street, or a girl at college (or high-school in the u.s, so there is no confusion), and I just cant do anything.

I mean, I'm friends with plenty of girls, but I just dont have the courage to ever ask one out.
Don't ask them out. Just say "hey, I'm going to the movies on Friday. Wanna' come?"

See? You already have something to do, it's not like it depends on her whether you do something or not, you just want to know if she'd want to go.

And if she says no don't take it personally, maybe she really can't.

here is bit of advice from your dear occidio, read my sig first, so you dont swallow your tongue.

BY ADMITTING YOU ARE SHY, IT MUST NOT BE THAT BAD OF A PROBLEM!!! IF YOU WERE SHY TO A FAULT,YOU WOULD HAVE NO IDEA OF THE CONDITION. BESIDES, MANY GIRLS LIKE SHY GUYS. AND INSECURE HOW YOU LOOK? ARE YOU JOKING? UNLESS YOU HAVE THE FACE OF A ANIMAL, SEWN ONTO A HUMAN BODY, YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE. READ THE THREAD. LOOKS ARE NOT NUMBER ONE IN MOST QUALITY GIRLS' BOOKS. AND MAKE A DUMB JOKE. CHICKS LIKE THAT. JUST ASK A GIRL TO HANG OUT, GO FOR COFFEE, ETC. FIND OUT WHAT SHE IS INTERESTED IN, AND PREPARE A LIST OF QUESTIONS SO YOU CAN KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING. AND GET OVER ALL OF THIS CRAP. IF YOU DONT, NEXT THING YOU KNOW, YOU WILL 478, DRINKING A 12 PACK OF BEER A DAY, AND TELLING YOUR HUSKY NAMED SMOKY THAT YOU WISHED YOU HAD DONE MORE IN LIFE.

Wow .. you really get the message across in a rather unique way Occidio, but you're right, carpe diem.

Intelligent, particularly computer geek-boys (heehee :D like my bf)Exactly the same here :)

Wow .. you really get the message across in a rather unique way Occidio, but you're right, carpe diem.
hey, its a gift. i have another piece of advice for you on the previous page. read that too.


who wants an "ask Occidio" thread? :D

Exactly the same here :)
Where are you when I truly need you, all you girls who partake in the geek! :mad: :(

guys like you really bug me! you're just the kind of a guy i would want to go out with but your all shy and stuff and get way too nervous about asking girls out so they have to put up with the arrogant jerks that think they're god's gift to women! and you look great!

Thanks Tink :)

Ok, I'll try tomorrow maybe.

Thanks all for the help [/hijack]

hey, its a gift. i have another piece of advice for you on the previous page. read that too.


who wants an "ask Occidio" thread? :D

Hahaha, that one is funnier than the last.

It is indeed a gift :D

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)

being a somewhat shy guy around girls myself... just relax the worst that can happen is she is a fem nazi lesbian who will kick you in the nuts *nods* from my experiance many girls like guys who are a bit shy but only if they can overcome it enough to say something, if you make her laugh its much easier!
ask mine, it works

Don't ask them out. Just say "hey, I'm going to the movies on Friday. Wanna' come?"

See? You already have something to do, it's not like it depends on her whether you do something or not, you just want to know if she'd want to go.

And if she says no don't take it personally, maybe she really can't.

Alright got it :)

I'll give it a try.

guys like you really bug me! you're just the kind of a guy i would want to go out with but your all shy and stuff and get way too nervous about asking girls out so they have to put up with the arrogant jerks that think they're god's gift to women! and you look great!

hey Tink, *mutters shyly* so errrmmmm uhh.... *looks away* wanna dance?

Thanks Tink :)

Ok, I'll try tomorrow maybe.

Thanks all for the help [/hijack]
np, and good luck and let me know how it goes

being a somewhat shy guy around girls myself... just relax the worst that can happen is she is a fem nazi lesbian who will kick you in the nuts *nods* from my experiance many girls like guys who are a bit shy but only if they can overcome it enough to say something, if you make her laugh its much easier!
ask mine, it works that kick in the nuts is as close as a lot of guys will get to getting laid if they keep up that "i cant ask girls out" stuff. the best guys, as any respectable woman will tell you, are the ones with thier mouths closed, walkking riiight past you on the street. they are also the lonliest.

hey Tink, *mutters shyly* so errrmmmm uhh.... *looks away* wanna dance?
advice hijacks are fine. but not role playing prom.

np, and good luck and let me know how it goes

Sure!

hey Tink, *mutters shyly* so errrmmmm uhh.... *looks away* wanna dance?
well i have no idea who you are but sure http://webpages.charter.net/connectingzone/happy/55.gif

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)

I'm a shy guy too, and my advice (for what it's worth) is, keep thinking about it. Over and over. At the end, you'll be so worked up and annoyed at yourself for not asking, that something will click, and suddenly you'll be determined to do it. And once you get there, believe me, you won't back down - but you have to do it soon after that. Fix yourself a precise day (one on which the circumstances may be helpful); that'll help.

*shrugs* Anyway, that's enabled me to get over my shyness once or twice...

YOU CANT BRING YOURSLF TO DO IT??? GO ON THE NET LOOK AT PICS OF SCANTILY CLAD GIRLS. IN FACT, LOOK AT PICTURES OF WOMENS GENITALS. DONT YOU WANT SOME OF THAT??? OF COURSE YOU DO. SO TALK TO THE BROADS, OR IT WILL REMAIN A WEB PAGE, AND A MASTURBATION FANTASY FOREVER.


Looks at Occ's pic on the NS Player Pic Thread ........ :D

this is easy...
da perfect guy:
sum1 who can like me 4 who i am
has to be honest
has to be kind
and funny :-)

Where are you when I truly need you, all you girls who partake in the geek! :mad: :(Aww! :fluffle: Don't worry, there are loads of us about who love geeks, I promise!

well i have no idea who you are but sure http://webpages.charter.net/connectingzone/happy/55.gif
cute cartooon tink. but take that ridiculous bow off your head. :)

Looks at Occ's pic on the NS Player Pic Thread ........ :D
good god. i hope you 2 are of age...........

good god. i hope you 2 are of age...........

*Runs away*

*Runs away*
well,its okay. at almost thirty i guess i should consider becoming a leacherous pervert. now is better than ever.

good god. i hope you 2 are of age...........

lol couldnt help mahself...
I'm plenty old enough *nods* :fluffle:

cute cartooon tink. but take that ridiculous bow off your head. :)
you're right, i need my hat

what kinda guys do YOU like
Why did you pick every option?

well,its okay. at almost thirty i guess i should consider becoming a leacherous pervert. now is better than ever.

Good call.

Why did you pick every option?
one of those random impulses to choose everything on the list regardless of whether or not i like boys

deadly! I fit all three of the most popular choices. ;)

well,its okay. at almost thirty i guess i should consider becoming a leacherous pervert. now is better than ever.
I've been thinking about that myself. I'm an almost 34 y.o. single male who works right across from a big University. Hehehe (lascivious grin)

I'm a sucka for the sensitive artist type, but also the bad boy rocker. :fluffle:

I'm a sucka for the sensitive artist type, but also the bad boy rocker. :fluffle:

:fluffle:

i like tacos :p dont matter to me what happens

my preferences in no particular order

take an interest in politics and have similar views to me but some we can bicker about
good sense of humour
tallER than me - be it by an inch or a mile! (obviously a mile would be slightly impracticle)
like reading and talking about books
not be too fussed about having lots of money
sociable
like their food and appreciate good cooking

too much to ask? lmflo

(edit - lmflo=laughing my frontal lobe off... forgot i made that one up and others don't know it :D )

my preferences in no particular order

take an interest in politics and have similar views to me but some we can bicker about
good sense of humour
tallER than me - be it by an inch or a mile! (obviously a mile would be slightly impracticle)
like reading and talking about books
not be too fussed about having lots of money
sociable
like their food and appreciate good cooking

too much to ask? lmflo

(edit - lmflo=laughing my frontal lobe off... forgot i made that one up and others don't know it :D )
Not really too much to ask IMO.

my preferences in no particular order

take an interest in politics and have similar views to me but some we can bicker about
good sense of humour
tallER than me - be it by an inch or a mile! (obviously a mile would be slightly impracticle)
like reading and talking about books
not be too fussed about having lots of money
sociable
like their food and appreciate good cooking

too much to ask? lmflo

(edit - lmflo=laughing my frontal lobe off... forgot i made that one up and others don't know it :D )
depending on your height, that's me! :fluffle:

My man has to be respectful towards women, and quite honestly, of the same general political persuasion as me.
I find this weird. I recently saw the film Melinda and Melinda. It's set in New York. In it, there's this guy who is meeting this woman who, he has previously heard, is a devout conservative Republican. She's actually quite sexual and just before they leave the club to go to the guy's apartment for sex, he says "I hope you don't mind, but I'm a liberal." It doesn't matter what happens after this (incidentally she doesn't care, claiming to be a "radical" in the bedroom), but I found it strange that people couldn't separate their politics from the obviously much more important matter of getting sex/love.

I find this weird. I recently saw the film Melinda and Melinda. It's set in New York. In it, there's this guy who is meeting this woman who, he has previously heard, is a devout conservative Republican. She's actually quite sexual and just before they leave the club to go to the guy's apartment for sex, he says "I hope you don't mind, but I'm a liberal." It doesn't matter what happens after this (incidentally she doesn't care, claiming to be a "radical" in the bedroom), but I found it strange that people couldn't separate their politics from the obviously much more important matter of getting sex/love.
Well, we all have our hang ups. I would never see anyone long term who wasn't at least open to my political/religious beliefs, unless I thought they might become more open-minded the longer I was with them. I need someone open-minded. I'm crazy and opinionated and kinky and all kindsa things. ;)

I find this weird. I recently saw the film Melinda and Melinda. It's set in New York. In it, there's this guy who is meeting this woman who, he has previously heard, is a devout conservative Republican. She's actually quite sexual and just before they leave the club to go to the guy's apartment for sex, he says "I hope you don't mind, but I'm a liberal." It doesn't matter what happens after this (incidentally she doesn't care, claiming to be a "radical" in the bedroom), but I found it strange that people couldn't separate their politics from the obviously much more important matter of getting sex/love.
In my case it's because politics colour so much of what I do, and if my partner did not agree with me, even if they 'let it go' it could eventually become a real problem. For example. I have strong views on gender roles...I'm against forcing them on children, and if my husband was very pro-gender role and wanted his girls to behave like girls and his boys like boys, we'd have problems. I'm very feminist. I wouldn't take any sexist shit. I could not live with someone who was racist, or sexist or religiously extreme (all of which to me are also political viewpoints). Sure, we could shag like crazy, but lasting relationship? No.

Not to say we have to believe exactly the same things. There are things my husband believes that I let pass, and visa versa, but overall, our general philosophy of life, the universe and everthing, is fairly similar. It helps, since we're going in the same direction in life.

-Someone who makes me laugh, who I can have a good time with and who I feel relaxed around.
-Someone who is supportive and can put up with me being depressive.
-Someone who shares at least a few interests.
-Someone who's fairly intelligent and mature with a decent taste in music (preferable but not essential).
-Someone who I'm attracted to be it their personality, intelligence or looks that attracts me.
-Someone with a slight mystery to them; a hidden side (not a requirement but it always intrigues me).
-Someone open-minded. Preferably someone with similar basic views (ie generally liberal).
-Someone who I can trust and who will trust me.
-Someone who cares about me and treats me well.
-Someone who isn't possessive and will let me be my own person.
-Someone who loves me for me.

Occido, you missed the thing that is most important to me: intelligence.

Yes, I value warmth, a good sense of humour, strength of character, and other things like that, but intelligence is numero uno in my book.

Not that I rank men by their IQs or anything, but if I can't have a decent discussion with them, it's 'forget about it' time.

So, in the best order I can:

intelligence, warmth, sense of humour, strength of character, at least some similar interests...um...physical strength and physical attractiveness are somewhere in the middle. I prefer guys who are stronger than me physically, but at the same time, I have grown accustomed to being the person who opens the pickle jars at home, so it's not that big a deal. A person's financial situation and the personal possessions or the way they dress mean very little to me.

Meh, should've been asked "What kind of girls/boys do you like?"

Advice please ..

What can I do?

I'm way to shy to ask a girl out, let alone maintain eye contact, and i'm rather insecure about how I look ..

Can anyone suggest anything?

(sorry, it's a bit off-topic I guess)
Hey how old are you? I'm guessing around 14-16, don't worry there's no need to rush things. Here's a quick guide:

1. talking: be funny. I know you've heard this before, so I'll elaborate. by "funny" I mean irreverent and offensive. don't be afraid to say something because you think they might be "offended". they won't be. also don't be afraid to make some initial spontaneous physical contact.

2. casually ask her out if you are getting along well. as Peechland said, a daytime engagement might suit you better if you feel nervous.

3. if you've asked her out and she said yes you will naturally be exhanging numbers. if you have not asked her out yet, ask her for her number anyway.


here is bit of advice from your dear occidio, read my sig first, so you dont swallow your tongue.

BY ADMITTING YOU ARE SHY, IT MUST NOT BE THAT BAD OF A PROBLEM!!! .........IF YOU DONT, NEXT THING YOU KNOW, YOU WILL 478, DRINKING A 12 PACK OF BEER A DAY, AND TELLING YOUR HUSKY NAMED SMOKY THAT YOU WISHED YOU HAD DONE MORE IN LIFE.
that kick in the nuts is as close as a lot of guys will get to getting laid if they keep up that.
YOU CANT BRING YOURSLF TO DO IT??? GO ON THE NET LOOK AT PICS OF SCANTILY CLAD GIRLS. IN FACT, LOOK AT PICTURES OF WOMENS GENITALS. DONT YOU WANT SOME OF THAT??? OF COURSE YOU DO. SO TALK TO THE BROADS, OR IT WILL REMAIN A WEB PAGE, AND A MASTURBATION FANTASY FOREVER.
:D
Occidio, I have decided that you are the best poster here!

guys like you really bug me! you're just the kind of a guy i would want to go out with but your all shy and stuff and get way too nervous about asking girls out so they have to put up with the arrogant jerks that think they're god's gift to women! and you look great!
Tink, did it ever occur to you to ask those good lookin' shy guys out yourself? You know, if they're too nervous, you've got to do it. And I doubt they would say no, because
a) they're male
b) you seem to be attractive

The only problem that a few more closed-minded among them might have is that you might appear to be "slutty" (totally wrong, but a confused minority of guys think like this). So don't come on too strong.

Looks at Occ's pic on the NS Player Pic Thread ........ :D
lol! w3rd!

deadly! I fit all three of the most popular choices. ;)
Yeah, same here! :D

Tink, did it ever occur to you to ask those good lookin' shy guys out yourself? You know, if they're too nervous, you've got to do it. And I doubt they would say no, because
a) they're male
b) you seem to be attractive

The only problem that a few more closed-minded among them might have is that you might appear to be "slutty" (totally wrong, but a confused minority of guys think like this). So don't come on too strong.


because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

and in RL I'm actually not very slutty, I'm not confident enough to be

my preferences in no particular order
take an interest in politics and have similar views to me but some we can bicker about


Well, I definitely take an interest in politics, I enjoy debating political matters, and I have strongly defined beliefs of my own. But I don't know what your views are.


good sense of humour


I've been told I have, though I don't really see myself as funny. ;)


tallER than me - be it by an inch or a mile! (obviously a mile would be slightly impracticle)


I'm 1m86, so the odds are I'm taller than you.


like reading and talking about books


Yes.


not be too fussed about having lots of money


*nods*


sociable


Ah, well, that's where it no longer works... I'm not sociable at all. I would be if I could, but I'm just not. Its partly because I'm shy, and partly because I often just feel more comfortable when I'm alone, for some reason...


like their food and appreciate good cooking


Doesn't really work here either... I tend to cook simple (but healthy) meals for myself. Also, I'm a vegetarian, which automatically excludes a lot of things.


too much to ask? lmflo


See above. ;)

Good things in a guy...
Honesty
Common Sense
Good sense of humor
Trustworthy
Helpful
Loving

All of those things I believe would make a woman feel special and loved.
Nothing like having a guy who loves himself more than he loves you.

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

and in RL I'm actually not very slutty, I'm not confident enough to be

TInk, if I ever met you... I would probably be too shy and lacking in confidence to ask you out. But I would just enjoy meeting you. I just think you're great. ;)

TInk, if I ever met you... I would probably be too shy and lacking in confidence to ask you out. But I would just enjoy meeting you. I just think you're great. ;)
:) thanks, I'd enjoy meeting you too!

im a fan of reverse gender roles

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

and in RL I'm actually not very slutty, I'm not confident enough to be

non slutty girls are much prefered Tink

My significant other claims that I make her moan every night, and laugh every morning.

So...good in bed, and funny as hell are the traits that turn her crank.

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

and in RL I'm actually not very slutty, I'm not confident enough to be
due to the extremely honest nature of this post,i now really like you.


so quit being slutty on the net. ;)

My significant other claims that I make her moan every night, and laugh every morning.

So...good in bed, and funny as hell are the traits that turn her crank.

Why is she moaning? Is the smell that bad? ;)

Occido, you missed the thing that is most important to me: intelligence.

i did, and its my number one thing, also. however, i think if a person possess any of the better qualities on the list, they would be of some intelligence, right? i have met few actually dumb people in life, and the ones on the net are usually just preteens, flaming. then again, to some people, intelligence means 'doctorate" type of intelligence, so it is kind of objective.

My significant other claims that I make her moan every night, and laugh every morning.

So...good in bed, and funny as hell are the traits that turn her crank.
A girlfriend of mine used to say the same thing about me: my snoring didn't let her sleep and she would laugh at how I looked in the morning.

My wife had a short list:

1. You're not boring.
2. You've grown up a bit, and are no longer a risk taker.
3. You're honest.
4. You're never abusive in any way.

Why is she moaning? Is the smell that bad? ;)

It ain't the smell...it's the skill!

Meh, should've been asked "What kind of girls/boys do you like?" you lesbians always ruin EVERYTHING!!!!!!



:p


anyhow, it was more of a thread so guys know what the hell to do with themselves. but you can post away. if you wanted to me to change post one, you sshould have asked nicer,instead of just complaining. that never got anyone anywhere with me. but i will change it anyhow, because it is charity time in the halls of occidio.

you lesbians always ruin EVERYTHING!!!!!!



:p


anyhow, it was more of a thread so guys know what the hell to do with themselves. but you can post away. if you wanted to me to change post one, you sshould have asked nicer,instead of just complaining. that never got anyone anywhere with me. but i will change it anyhow, because it is charity time in the halls of occidio.
what, you drunk?

what, you drunk?
no. but the beer withdrawals are getting to me. i should go inhale some chemicals-

lol

what i look for in a man is a vagina tho, seriously. oh. you weren't asking me. you sexist.

due to the extremely honest nature of this post,i now really like you.


so quit being slutty on the net. ;)
you just brightened my day, seriously, I have a huge smile on my face now, thank you, that means a lot :)


:fluffle: :fluffle:

you just brightened my day, seriously, I have a huge smile on my face now, thank you, that means a lot :)


:fluffle: :fluffle:
i do what i can do. :)

so this is post 150 ....

so this is post 150 ....
just so you know, any milestones that you reach in posts you're supposed to dedicate to me

just so you know, any milestones that you reach in posts you're supposed to dedicate to me
Hmm... I owe you a few. Hope you don't mind.

just so you know, any milestones that you reach in posts you're supposed to dedicate to me

I'm dedicating my 151st post to you Tink

"In loving memory of TInk"

Hmm... I owe you a few. Hope you don't mind.
if you dedicate your 1500th to me i'll forgive you

Wow, a lot of transgendered here on NS.

just so you know, any milestones that you reach in posts you're supposed to dedicate to me
tink, check the sig. every post i make is dedicated to you.

I'm dedicating my 151st post to you Tink
that'll do

tink, check the sig. every post i make is dedicated to you.
yeah, and i love you for it :fluffle: i think everyone should put something like that in their sig though

if you dedicate your 1500th to me i'll forgive you
When you see me reaching 1,499 remind me.

woohoo TInk wont kill me now!

hurm... to me it's all in the personality. Need to be fun to be around, but I'm not a mad socialite, so partying tendancies would be wasted on me. Politically knowledgeable, but not necessarily active, and definitely, definitely intelligent... but that doesn't matter if they're just good to be with...

oh yeah... breasts and a vagina are usually a bonus also unless the guy is stupidly attractive (i.e The Emperor Fenix... go lookit the pic! Too bad he's gay though... damn his eyes.)

Warm, kind, caring, outgoing, class clown.

I always liked thinking about this kind of stuff and I decided a while ago I like guys who were the outgoing, funny, and egomaniacal but have that soft side that every woman looks for.

Childish but true..

Warm, kind, caring, outgoing, class clown.

I always liked thinking about this kind of stuff and I decided a while ago I like guys who were the outgoing, funny, and egomaniacal but have that soft side that every woman looks for.

Childish but true..

>>>AND ALL OF US LOVE YOU!

When you see me reaching 1,499 remind me.
will do

woohoo TInk wont kill me now!
hehe! thanks

Just reading some of the answers here, and I have an observation.

By the time a man really figures out what women want in a man, they'll be married.

hehe! thanks

np... i likes living :fluffle:

will do
Thanks.

i did, and its my number one thing, also. however, i think if a person possess any of the better qualities on the list, they would be of some intelligence, right? i have met few actually dumb people in life, and the ones on the net are usually just preteens, flaming. then again, to some people, intelligence means 'doctorate" type of intelligence, so it is kind of objective.

Maybe it was the hick community I grew up in, but many of the young men I met were either relatively unintelligent or deliberately down-played their intelligence. Only one guy I went through grade school with - ONE - showed any real signs of smarts. Except for him, all of the smart kids were girls. And unsurprisingly, he's the only one with any kind of life now, despite his choosing not to go to post-secondary. He's a farmer now with a wonderful wife and kids and has made choices in life that were good for him and his family. The rest of the men? Ugh. In and out of jail, many druggies and alcoholics, some have disappeared, others can't hold a job, others have kids (with multiple women) that neither parent chose to raise, so they're being raised by grandparents.

Going back there is like walking into the worst kind of soap opera. It's so hard to believe what great kids most of those guys used to be.

Maybe it was the hick community I grew up in, but many of the young men I met were either relatively unintelligent or deliberately down-played their intelligence. Only one guy I went through grade school with - ONE - showed any real signs of smarts. Except for him, all of the smart kids were girls. And unsurprisingly, he's the only one with any kind of life now, despite his choosing not to go to post-secondary. He's a farmer now with a wonderful wife and kids and has made choices in life that were good for him and his family. The rest of the men? Ugh. In and out of jail, many druggies and alcoholics, some have disappeared, others can't hold a job, others have kids (with multiple women) that neither parent chose to raise, so they're being raised by grandparents.

Going back there is like walking into the worst kind of soap opera. It's so hard to believe what great kids most of those guys used to be.

We must be neighbors

We must be neighbors

No, you're living in the United States.

... My boyfriend. ^_^ like me, a nerd with a weird sense of humour and intelligent.

We must be neighbours.

I think there are crappy hick communities of that kind all over the western world. In my case it was a northern small town, but I imagine that similar attitudes exist even in some urban centers.

For example, I'm no expert, but I've recently read of black students being actively encouraged by their peers to hide their smarts, so as not to appear too 'white'.

No, you're living in the United States.
i must say, leggy, now that i've seen you in some of the more social threads, you're a much more interesting chap than i had quite reckoned for. on a side note, i was just e-strollin about the pic thread, and came across dakhistan. i actually said "sweet sassy molassy" and meant it. that's not a phrase i use. i mean damn.

I like the super-confident, manly, asshole types. Basically, your typical alpha male. Hehe.

I have a huge aversion for whiny, weak guys who are clingy and can't stand up for themselves. Oh, and I usually only date Republicans. :P

I like the super-confident, manly, asshole types. Basically, your typical alpha male. Hehe.

I have a huge aversion for whiny, weak guys who are clingy and can't stand up for themselves. Oh, and I usually only date Republicans. :P
yeah, because there is no guy that falls between those two types, right?

"quiet and shy" <--- thats me ^____^ bring on the ladies :P

yeah, because there is no guy that falls between those two types, right?

....noooooo, don't be silly. hey, I've got first hand experience of that gender. Go betweens don't exist.

Of course, I'd be the ideal catch for any girl, but now I'm sure girls of only a certain persuasion will want me. Nharr-har. I'm actually just being inconsiderate when you think about it. And INTENSELY egotistical. But hey, that can.... be.... fun....too.....right?

"quiet and shy" <--- thats me ^____^ bring on the ladies :P

I'm afraid it doesn't work that way.

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out
Why?

Oh, and I usually only date Republicans. :P
Why let the redundant ideologies of a few dusty old bureaucrats dictate who you can potentially love (or have sex with)?

Why?
because

I picked
warm etc
outgoing, confident BUT NOT even slightly egomaniacal. never again.
political, outspoken, doesn't have to share views (same basic values, not views)
artistic, creative



In my own words my dream guy has to be kind (to everyone), pretty smart, interested about what happens around the globe, artistic and not-too-serious.

I'm a sucka for the sensitive artist type, but also the bad boy rocker. :fluffle:
oh gosh, those bad boy rockers. I think I'll never grow out of that type but at least I've finally learned not to be in a relationship with them.

Lets see....

warm, kind , caring:
hmmmm..... Nope. not me.

outgoing, confident, slightly egomaniacal:
hmmmm..... definitely not me.

quiet and shy:
.... not me.

class clown:
total opposite

very political, outspoken, shares views:
..... nope. looking at the wrong guy

must be a lot like you:
nope

partier:
again, not me

artistic, creative:
SO not me....

whatever you are, then you pick the opposite:
nope. not me either

other traits- describe:
no traits.

Yep. I'm definitely NOT the kind of guy that any girl would want! :D

i think everyone who thinks "its" just what inside that counts (no physical attraction whatsoever necessary) should read this:

http://intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

I was surprised not to find "intelligent" on the list.

Confidence is important to me, but not egotism.
A person who is adventurous would also be lovely. I'm very adventurous.
Independence also turns me on. I don't like partners who are too emotionally dependent.

Ge-Ren

I always go for the same type of guy-tall, intelligent, opinionated, confident and generally an asshole and a player...I don't know what it is?
I rarely like the guys who actually do like me and most of them apart from a few stalkers are very nice guys??

I'm a sucker for unpretentious intellectualism and daggy 70s sideburns.

But I HATE cruelty and gutlessness.

Ooh, sideburns. Two thumbs up :D

Quite many around here seem to have an intelligent computer geek as a boyfriend. I'm one of those too. And he has long sideburns.

What about a third nipple?

The more nipples the better!

No party girls?

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

and in RL I'm actually not very slutty, I'm not confident enough to be
~asks you out~

Oh wait, we're already engaged ;)

And I hope you'd be slutty with me in private ;)

and not with some racialist poll, either! so tell us. and, for the heterosexually challenged- Girls, What Kind of Broad Do You Like, If You Are So Inclined To do So?

the things i do...........
qualities i look for in a woman: musical talent, patience, willingness to ride rollercoasters with me.

qualities i look for in a man: well-formed buttocks, good personal hygiene, musical talent.

qualities i look for in a woman: musical talent, patience, willingness to ride rollercoasters with me.

qualities i look for in a man: well-formed buttocks, good personal hygiene, musical talent.

would a musically talented, patient, rollercoaster riding man not do it for you?

would a musically talented, patient, rollercoaster riding man not do it for you?
without the butt and the good hygiene, what would be the point?

without the butt and the good hygiene, what would be the point?

what about an unhygienic bloat-butted woman?

Probably an arty type, very open mind and some who can catch an eye from across the room.

what about an unhygienic bloat-butted woman?
i've yet to encounter a woman within 10 years of my age who liked rollercoasters yet had poor hygiene. don't ask me to explain why that is, because i can't, but it seems to be a pretty consistent thing. as for the butt...well, there are other parts of a woman i prefer to look at, so it's not really that big an issue :).

until men can grow boobies as nice as women's, they are just going to have to keep their butts in good shape.

How can I tell wether I'm the kind of man a girl is looking for?

i've yet to encounter a woman within 10 years of my age who liked rollercoasters yet had poor hygiene. don't ask me to explain why that is, because i can't, but it seems to be a pretty consistent thing. as for the butt...well, there are other parts of a woman i prefer to look at, so it's not really that big an issue :).

until men can grow boobies as nice as women's, they are just going to have to keep their butts in good shape.

well my shapely butt days are well and truly over. but then if i was female i expect my tits would be about level with my bellybutton so what the hey.

How can I tell wether I'm the kind of man a girl is looking for?

get to know the girl in a way that allows her to also get to know you. then, if she wants to get to know you, and wants you to get to know her, when you have learned enough about her to work out whether she's looking for a guy like you, she will also have learned enough about you to work out whether she's looking for a guy like you. then just ask her.

i've yet to encounter a woman within 10 years of my age who liked rollercoasters yet had poor hygiene.

what about women outside the age range? (just out of curiosity)

get to know the girl in a way that allows her to also get to know you. then, when you have learned enough about her to work out whether she's looking for a guy like you, she will also have learned enough about you to work out whether she's looking for a guy like you. then just ask her.
I see. But I doubt that'd work 'cause they run away as soon as they see how ugly i am :D j/k

I see. But I doubt that'd work 'cause they run away as soon as they see how ugly i am :D j/k

in which case you know instantly that they aren't looking for a guy as ugly as you.

How can I tell wether I'm the kind of man a girl is looking for?

You'll know, when your love comes along. You'll know, there and then.

what about women outside the age range? (just out of curiosity)
dunno, i don't really tend to look at them...most women out of my age range are either a) extreme jail bait (and we're talking 13 years old, here), or b) are riding the rollercoaster with their kids.

in which case you know instantly that they aren't looking for a guy as ugly as you.
*nods*

In addition to the kind and caring description which I've already checked in the poll:

Intelligent; has loads of common sense as well as book learning; good with money; good with kids; independent; strong (emotionally as well as physically); spiritual (but not religious); personable; manly without being "macho"; not the least bit egotistical or jealous or insecure.

i think everyone who thinks "its" just what inside that counts (no physical attraction whatsoever necessary) should read this:

http://intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html
Don't post that mind poison. It's total bullshit, unprofessional, and written by someone who thinks all women are evil bitches.

Don't post that mind poison. It's total bullshit, unprofessional, and written by someone who thinks all women are evil bitches.

Only a few women are evil bitches, just as only a few men are assholes.

It's somewhat comforting that 'warm, kind, caring" and "artistic, creative" are the top two responses, as that's me to a tee. Now if I can work on those nerves...

It's somewhat comforting that 'warm, kind, caring" and "artistic, creative" are the top two responses, as that's me to a tee. Now if I can work on those nerves...

The trick is to be "warm, kind, caring" without being "possessive and smothering". And to be "artistic and creative" without being "an insufferable pissant".

The trick is to be "warm, kind, caring" without being "possessive and smothering". And to be "artistic and creative" without being "an insufferable pissant".

How did you do that? Coz I can't seem to do that no matter how hard I try.
honost query not trying to be a smart ass

How did you do that? Coz I can't seem to do that no matter how hard I try.
honost query not trying to be a smart ass

I'm 44, and I've only recently got it down, at least to the satisfaction of one woman. I'm sure I'd still piss off the majority of women in one way or another.

Patience, my friend.

The trick is to be "warm, kind, caring" without being "possessive and smothering". And to be "artistic and creative" without being "an insufferable pissant".

:p

guys like you really bug me! you're just the kind of a guy i would want to go out with but your all shy and stuff and get way too nervous about asking girls out so they have to put up with the arrogant jerks that think they're god's gift to women! and you look great!
chicks should so be 'allowed' to ask dudes out!

My wife says that I'm the only person she feels she can talk to without that person passing judgment on her. Something else to work on.

chicks should so be 'allowed' to ask dudes out!
agreed!

Only a few women are evil bitches, just as only a few men are assholes.
yes, that's why I was criticising that website.

The trick is to be "warm, kind, caring" without being "possessive and smothering". And to be "artistic and creative" without being "an insufferable pissant".
lol, "pissant"
http://www.ajunglestore.com/images/ant_stationary.jpg

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out
If that's your attitude then the only thing I can say to you with regard to your male problems is "tough shit!"

because i'm a traditional kinda girl, i think the guy should ask the girl out

but, by your logic that's just crazy! tradition? bah.
spare a thought for all the shy dudes out there who simply don't have the courage to ask chicks out...

but, by your logic that's just crazy! tradition? bah.
spare a thought for all the shy dudes out there who simply don't have the courage to ask chicks out...
I suspect that her unwillingness to ask a guy out is out of shyness, nothing to do with tradition. If she wants to be traditional she should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

Perfect Guy (for me):

Physically
-Tall
-Dark hair
-Green eyes

Other Stuff
-Can carry on a good conversation
-Likes to cook
-Enjoys being active
-Is content to not go out every night
-Intelligent
-Is confident with himself
-Can be warm and caring towards myself and others
-Willing to try new things/Open minded
-Is charming
-Has a good sense of his own personal style
-Charismatic
-Is creative and somewhat artistic
-Knows how to have fun
-Doesn't have to be around 24/7 (around enough that I don't have to ask for time with him, but away enough that I don't have to ask for space)
-Spontaneous
-Willing to travel
-Likes things neat and orderly (since I'm obsessive about how clean and orderly things are)
-Adapts to different situations easily

I suspect that her unwillingness to ask a guy out is out of shyness, nothing to do with tradition. If she wants to be traditional she should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.
yeah, i am shy, but if i like a guy, i flirt with him so he knows i'm interested then they don't flirt back so i figure they're not interested and i'm not gonna ask out a guy if he shows no signs of being interested in me

yeah, i am shy, but if i like a guy, i flirt with him so he knows i'm interested then they don't flirt back so i figure they're not interested and i'm not gonna ask out a guy if he shows no signs of being interested in me
Wow this is an interesting change from "I would not ask a guy out".

Wow this is an interesting change from "I would not ask a guy out".
huh?

Wow this is an interesting change from "I would not ask a guy out".

No, it's not. She's being perfectly consistent. She lets a guy know she's interested, so he'll ask her if he's interested too. What are you trying to do here, Swimmingpool?

yeah, i am shy, but if i like a guy, i flirt with him so he knows i'm interested then they don't flirt back so i figure they're not interested and i'm not gonna ask out a guy if he shows no signs of being interested in me

I think if you're as clear with your feelings in RL as you are on this forum then you should have no problem getting even shy guys to ask you out. Guys are afraid of rejection. If you make it clear to them they won't be rejected and they're into you, they'll ask.

Women are indescisive. Forget them, I've found a better lover in my GameCube: Resident Evil.

Women are indescisive. Forget them, I've found a better lover in my GameCube: Resident Evil.
:D thats so unfair... girls just cant compete...they are never as sexy as a gamecube

:D thats so unfair... girls just cant compete...they are never as sexy as a gamecube
games can't cook

games can't cookdoes it matter?

:D

games can't cook
Neither can I! (very well, that is) :p

does it matter?

:D
yes

games can't cook

So if a woman can't cook then?

Wow this is an interesting change from "I would not ask a guy out".
Well, it's not the same. And it's not like Tink is the only one who does it. Most do it, it's just that guys tend to be too dense to notice sometimes.

So if a woman can't cook then?
*shrugs* i guess they'll have to put up with losing their men to videogames, as a woman who can cook i don't need to worry

in my book..what matter most in no particular order:

interactive fun
joy
happy-happy
passion
drama
kinki
naked
action
sometimes a good scare

maybe you can cook good...but can you compete withe all of that?

in my book..what matter most in no particular order:

interactive fun
joy
happy-happy
passion
drama
kinki
naked
action
sometimes a good scare

maybe you can cook good...but can you compete withe all of that?
easy

*shrugs* i guess they'll have to put up with losing their men to videogames, as a woman who can cook i don't need to worry

I just think it's funny that the best reason you could come up with for having a woman is she can cook and games can't. How about a game can't love you, make love to you, rub your back, bring you soup when you're sick?

DISCLAIMER: No, I don't expect women to do all of these things without receiving the same or similar treatment.

I just think it's funny that the best reason you could come up with for having a woman is she can cook and games can't. How about a game can't love you, make love to you, rub your back, bring you soup when you're sick?

DISCLAIMER: No, I don't expect women to do all of these things without receiving the same or similar treatment.
lol, i was only joking

warm, kind , caring
Duh. Most everyone chose this, it was about 80% when I voted. And I'm one of those girls who actually holds to it, too, instead of putting it down on paper then going off with the next asshole.

outgoing, confident, slightly egomaniacal
In moderation, these are a plus. However they're not necessities to me, and taken to the extreme are just annoying - so I didn't select it.

quiet and shy
A lot of the guys I like are like this, but it's not essential.

class clown
Omigod. I LOVE the class clowns. Humor is one of the greatest things in life, in my opinion, and I want to share it with my significant other.

very political, outspoken, shares views
This gains major brownie points. Even though I'll go out with guys who aren't, I selected it because political involvement is one of my major principles and it means a lot for my SO to share that.

must be a lot like you
I hate to say it, but yes. They do. A lot of these traits that I'm commenting on are reflecting myself. And if you're a conservative Republican Mormon, I don't care how lovable and hot you are... it just ain't gonna work for me. I have to be able to relate.

partier
Not really. I suppose class clowns can tend toward this, but in and of itself I'm indifferent to it.

artistic, creative
Haven't had much experience with this type, though theoretically I guess that would be positive.

whatever you are, then you pick the opposite
No. "Opposites attract" only works for electromagnetic charges and (in 90% of cases) what's between the legs.

easy
Is that an addition to his list? ;)

What are you trying to do here, Swimmingpool?
Call her out on her (IMO, wrong) assertion that it's always the man's job to ask the girl out.

Well, it's not the same. And it's not like Tink is the only one who does it. Most do it, it's just that guys tend to be too dense to notice sometimes.
I know this. If the men in Tink's life are too dense, all the more reason for her to ask that special dude out, right?

lol, i was only joking

I know. Doesn't mean you won't get called on it. I'm also pretty sure you don't really think it's a man's job to ask a woman out.

I know. Doesn't mean you won't get called on it. I'm also pretty sure you don't really think it's a man's job to ask a woman out.
honestly, i really do

honestly, i really do

Huh, I think that's unfortunate. You probably miss a lot of really great opportunities by taking that approach. Being rejected sucks but not as much as regretting never having gotten to know a particular someone special. I happen to think the only "jobs" restricted to one sex or the other are those restricted by biology, e.g. birth or writing your name in a snow drift.

strong, affectionate, independant, intelligent, passionate about his interests, fun, caring, not bigoted in any way, tolerant, respectful, financially independant.

but hey I'm describing the man of my dreams, lucky me though i've found him and turns out he quite likes me too......

Is it just me... Or this is what most of the girls say these days? I've found out after awhile that most of you say something but mean the other

Oh and im not bashing or anything its just kinda the truth....

Is it just me... Or this is what most of the girls say these days? I've found out after awhile that most of you say something but mean the other

Oh and im not bashing or anything its just kinda the truth....
Maddox agrees (http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.com/c.cgi?u=girls)

The most attractive trate in a man is someone confident but not arrogant (the biggest turn off!)

Basically just someone happy with themselves and their abilities.

I'm also pretty sure you don't really think it's a man's job to ask a woman out.
I think I agree with Tinky...also it is not a job...its a privilege :)

I know this. If the men in Tink's life are too dense, all the more reason for her to ask that special dude out, right?
What would she want with a dude who's to dense to notice her flirting?

I think I agree with Tinky...also it is not a job...its a privilege :)
Well, let's not get carried away either. You see a girl you like, you ask her out. Maybe she says yes, maybe no. A girl sees a guy she likes, she flirts with him. Maybe he asks her out, maybe no (and if he does maybe she says yes, maybe no, just to see what he does).

No privileges, just how people do things.

...No privileges,.when I say "its not a Job"....what I mean is: Flirting its not a burden, a hassle, a pain...

Some guys here...talk about flirting like if it was a terrifying thing they must do...

I enjoy flirting...its fun, its like a game...

when I say "its not a Job"....what I mean is: Flirting its not a burden, a hassle, a pain...


Actually, I wasn't observing on the "job" part.

Sure, it's fun and all, but a privilege? It's not like something only the chosen few can indulge in.


We the men...we are like sluts...do you want all the girls to be sluts?
No, we are not like sluts, we are sluts. Well, most of us anyway. Some are in a coma. :)

when I say "its not a Job"....what I mean is: Flirting its not a burden, a hassle, a pain...

Some guys here...talk about flirting like if it was a terrifying thing they must do...

I enjoy flirting...its fun, its like a game...

Here's where I fail, I don't know how to flirt. I'm aware of the definintion, but I'm ignorant of the tactics and purpose.

A reason why girls pass me? Or is it because I have hairy legs. :p

Here's where I fail, I don't know how to flirt. I'm aware of the definintion, but I'm ignorant of the tactics and purpose.

A reason why girls pass me? Or is it because I have hairy legs. :p
ditto. having never actually flirted (knowingly) i'm ignorant and inexperienced - hence i don't know how to flirt. frankly, i'd feel pretty stupid if i tried.

it doesn't help that if a girl is flirting with me (yes, it has happened a couple of times) i'm either too ignorant to realise, too drunk to realise (:D), am thinking she wants something from me, or am thinking that she's taking the piss. i may well have missed opportunities as a result (i know i missed one...)

when you feel like it is impossible for others to love you, or be at least interested in you, it kinda puts a big downer on the whole flirting issue.

I think I agree with Tinky...also it is not a job...its a privilege :)

When a woman waits for a man to ask her out she gets to pick from the best of the men who do it. When a woman asks out a man she gets to pick the best of the men she meets. This is why women should not consider the man's duty, privelege or whatever else you want to call it.

EDIT: Ditto for men.

I'm a big flirt... but it takes a LOT of practice.

However, I don't tend to ask women out... they sorta just make sure that we are dating :p

I like guys who are just plain nice. My preference usually leads me to Canadians...and I've been seeing one particular Canadian for almost two years now. Total sweetheart, he is. I don't see geeky on the list either...pity. Then again, people don't need to really know since I'm not parting from my honey anytime soon. XP

-Asylum Nova

depending on your height, that's me! :fluffle:
about 5"9 lol