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self- explanatory.

you know me- i dont really care. but a close friend had a bad one this weekend, and i am trying to show him that things could be worse. post away- i will put his story up in a bit.

My best friend committed suicide in grade 10, and my boyfriend dumped me because I was getting too 'needy' after. (five days after, to be exact)

*mimes stabbing motions*
Edit: I've recently found out he's been divorced twice, and is paying major child support in both cases. :D

"Worst Way You Have Ever Been Dumped/or Dumped Another?"

I was getting kinda serious about someone many years ago when she just suddenly stopped talking to me, hanging up on me when I called, etc. I never did find out why. Kinda stunned me.

My best friend committed suicide in grade 10, and my boyfriend dumped me because I was getting too 'needy' after. (five days after, to be exact)

*mimes stabbing motions*
Edit: I've recently found out he's been divorced twice, and is paying major child support in both cases. :D
Wow. I mean, jackass wow.

I was gonna say turning up at the girl's house and saying 'you doing anything?' only for this guy to turn up at the door. But wow.

self- explanatory.

you know me- i dont really care. but a close friend had a bad one this weekend, and i am trying to show him that things could be worse. post away- i will put his story up in a bit.
My first marriage:

Married for eight years - no indication that anything was wrong.

Then she came home one day and was angry - wanted to know why I wasn't suspicious of her enough to notice that she was meeting men on the Internet - had slept with over a hundred men in the past three years.

Well, call me a trusting soul...

After noticing she was getting a little distant, I planned on a little special something to show her that no matter what happens in life, that I love her and would always do my best for her and myself. I imported a kimono from japan along with some zori sandels and hairpins, and on valentines day I had this whole thing planned out for her, the whole show her she means the world to me type of thing. .. on Valentines day, after all our promises to each other and everything I prepared for her.. She tells me its done, she likes someone else. Some stupid online relationship no less some idiot she never even met. Man that hurt. Thinking back on all that does me no good so I'll leave it at that... Oh well...

My best friend got dumped by his girlfriend because she said she needed to regain her faith in god.

It was funny because she was a kind of die hard atheist.

But it could have been worse...

My first marriage:

Married for eight years - no indication that anything was wrong.

Then she came home one day and was angry - wanted to know why I wasn't suspicious of her enough to notice that she was meeting men on the Internet - had slept with over a hundred men in the past three years.

Well, call me a trusting soul...
Holy friggin' Hannah! Talk about not in the know...When did she even have time for all that shagging? I think if I was screwing like a rabbit and my husband didn't notice it wasn't with him, I'd be a bit upset too...but then again, perhaps a break up FIRST might be in order?

Cripes I hope she didn't give you any 'gifts' along the way...

Holy friggin' Hannah! Talk about not in the know...When did she even have time for all that shagging? I think if I was screwing like a rabbit and my husband didn't notice it wasn't with him, I'd be a bit upset too...but then again, perhaps a break up FIRST might be in order?

Cripes I hope she didn't give you any 'gifts' along the way...

Plenty of time. Our child was in day care. I was paying for her to go to American University, and to travel overseas with some of her classes.

But, she wanted to know why I didn't get mad after she told me, and I said it wasn't worth talking about - there's the door.

My first marriage:

Married for eight years - no indication that anything was wrong.

Then she came home one day and was angry - wanted to know why I wasn't suspicious of her enough to notice that she was meeting men on the Internet - had slept with over a hundred men in the past three years.

Well, call me a trusting soul...

Damn man. I don't beleive in hitting women, but holy shit she deserves to get hit by a wrecking ball. If my girl ever did ANYTHING like that to me I'd go into The Punisher/Man On Fire mode.

I know a guy who did it the manly way: by text message. :rolleyes: Still he caught his next gf cheating on him so he got more than paid back poor thing.

Er technically never been dumped...but technically other than present, never actually had a bf. Had a week online jokey-fling: "I heard longdistance relationships have a 1 in 500 chance of working. Want to stop while we're ahead?" Guess he was fed up that he wasn't getting any ;)

Damn man. I don't beleive in hitting women, but holy shit she deserves to get hit by a wrecking ball. If my girl ever did ANYTHING like that to me I'd go into The Punisher/Man On Fire mode.

Let's see...
80,000 dollars in credit card debt she ran up...
World travels - I never added all that up...
Lucky I didn't catch anything...

But...

What would the point be in hitting her? What would I possibly get back? It wasn't even worth getting mad about. I got custody of the child, kept the house, and she got the clothes on her back.

And I moved on...

No sense in being stupid just because someone else was stupid.

Let's see...
80,000 dollars in credit card debt she ran up...
World travels - I never added all that up...
Lucky I didn't catch anything...

But...

What would the point be in hitting her? What would I possibly get back? It wasn't even worth getting mad about. I got custody of the child, kept the house, and she got the clothes on her back.

And I moved on...

No sense in being stupid just because someone else was stupid.

Good point, however like many people I can control my primal instincts up to a certain level. If that were to happen with my girlfriend, whom I love with a magnitude that no instrument can measure and trust with my life, SOMEBODY is going to have to get killed. Just Like with OJ Simpson's situation. If I buy my wife a car, and she sleeps with another guy and ALLOWS him to drive the car I bought her, that car would blow up like in the Godfather.

Said she needed some time to strighten out her life. About 3 weeks later I found out she had started picking up guys in bars for money. I guess its one way to get out of debt.

My best dumping. Found out the ex was screwing around on me w/ a buddy of mine, so I beat the sh!t out of him and then dragged him to her place and left him on her front steps.

Good point, however like many people I can control my primal instincts up to a certain level.

Hah, yes, crimes of passion, I almost lost it and stooped to that level. I hear some courts go easier on you if its a crime of passion.

I noticed I can't bring myself to post what happened in the public.

Occidio, you can PM me if you want the story.

A guy I knew in college sent some dead flowers to his girlfriend and the card read "Its over bitch."

Had them delivered and everything.

A guy I knew in college sent some dead flowers to his girlfriend and the card read "Its over bitch."

Had them delivered and everything.

Wow. That's pretty good.

On more than one occasion, I have simply tasered the bitch and ran.

On more than one occasion, I have simply tasered the bitch and ran.
:eek: dont give him any revenge ideas!!!!!

:eek: dont give him any revenge ideas!!!!!

tee hee

Nah ... tasering is more of an act of aggression. Revenge would be sleeping with her sister or best friend ... real well. I mean ... screaming, headboard breaking, legs shakingly well. Again and again and again.

Second wife. More cheating. So I drew up the separation papers and the full agreement, sold the house (which was in my name), and on the day the house was to be turned over, drove her to the Metro station that morning and said, "here, sign these."

I did add that we could either go the easy way (sign now), or the hard way (drag her and her male friends into court). She took the easy way, and barely had time when she got home to get her stuff out of the house.

And what do you know? I'm married AGAIN!

got dumped over msn :(

In high school, was told by a "friend" my gf was going out with another guy. She ended up going out with both of them. Just kinda drifted off...

tee hee

Nah ... tasering is more of an act of aggression. Revenge would be sleeping with her sister or best friend ... real well. I mean ... screaming, headboard breaking, legs shakingly well. Again and again and again.
That's some tough sleeping you do. I usually just lay still with my eyes closed. Nothing eventful

That's some tough sleeping you do. I usually just lay still with my eyes closed. Nothing eventful

Can't you tell? He's possessed!

Can't you tell? He's possessed!
Oooooooh. You know what helps against that? A good hard shag. Preferably with your ex's sister or best friend

Second wife. More cheating. So I drew up the separation papers and the full agreement, sold the house (which was in my name), and on the day the house was to be turned over, drove her to the Metro station that morning and said, "here, sign these."

I did add that we could either go the easy way (sign now), or the hard way (drag her and her male friends into court). She took the easy way, and barely had time when she got home to get her stuff out of the house.

And what do you know? I'm married AGAIN!
Well, three time's the charm!

I bet you had a prenup.... :p

so here is what happened. my friend, who i posted the thread for, has had this girlfriend for 13 months. she is 29, and brian is 24. they dont live together, but see each other most days, etc. it seemed to be the HEALTHY relationship- they have respect for each other, give each space, do nice things for one another, travel, etc.
any how. we are out on friday night. brian is with us, and she is supposed to meet us at this bar later. the guys in the booth behind us were having this dirty conversation , about this broad that they *ahem* all had had sex with the week before. so, nosy me, i am like- "you guys- gross. you all banged the same chick? porn star? whore? what?" and one of them informed me that her name was shay. not a common name. brian said nothing, just drank! a lot! , and when she showed, up, we all went outside to smoke. of course, she sat with those guys. when he went over and said _ so you do know them- she says "yeah,i do.and they are better than you will ever be , little boy" {the huge , confusing argument that ensued is not worth repeating.} totally, out of character, out of the blue. but what do you do? chicks, IMHO, are basically ungrateful whores. {myself excluded, of course}

My best friend committed suicide in grade 10, and my boyfriend dumped me because I was getting too 'needy' after. (five days after, to be exact)

*mimes stabbing motions*
Edit: I've recently found out he's been divorced twice, and is paying major child support in both cases. :D

why did your friend suicied?

chicks, IMHO, are basically ungrateful whores. {myself excluded, of course}

Ow! *gets a keyboard cut* That hurt!

I hate two-faced people, either be 100 faced or 1.

so here is what happened. my friend, who i posted the thread for, has had this girlfriend for 13 months. she is 29, and brian is 24. they dont live together, but see each other most days, etc. it seemed to be the HEALTHY relationship- they have respect for each other, give each space, do nice things for one another, travel, etc.
any how. we are out on friday night. brian is with us, and she is supposed to meet us at this bar later. the guys in the booth behind us were having this dirty conversation , about this broad that they *ahem* all had had sex with the week before. so, nosy me, i am like- "you guys- gross. you all banged the same chick? porn star? whore? what?" and one of them informed me that her name was shay. not a common name. brian said nothing, just drank! a lot! , and when she showed, up, we all went outside to smoke. of course, she sat with those guys. when he went over and said _ so you do know them- she says "yeah,i do.and they are better than you will ever be , little boy" {the huge , confusing argument that ensued is not worth repeating.} totally, out of character, out of the blue. but what do you do? chicks, IMHO, are basically ungrateful whores. {myself excluded, of course}
What. The. Fuck.

And I've never dumped or been dumped in a nasty way. Lucky me. It's bad enough as it is.

What. The. Fuck.
exactly. imagine what it is like being there when it happens. unfuckingreal.

unfuckingreal.
:eek:

I was thinking the exact same quasi-word

via email but I had the last laugh - he was a hardcore gamer and he got banned from just about every game server in existence when a few pals found out what he had done ;)

was the only time I ever got dumped - I usually do the dumping but I try to be non bitchy about it unless they have done something really bad like being caught with my best friend in bed by me 10 days before the wedding

had fun with THAT guy I can tell you ;) :D

I did have a girl - whom I had a rather ugly parting of ways with - do the classic dick comment. She knew I'd never fall for the "I faked it" crap, but she just felt the need to do a public humiliation move.

So, anyway, a couple weeks after we split, I was sitting around a club with some friends - including a particularly lovely young black woman whom I was trying to seduce - when she walks up to the table and says:

"I just wanted to let everyone know how little your dick is. It's the smallest I've ever been with."

Of course, without missing a beat, I replied "Oh! So *that's* why the pussy was so loose!" and made some comment about a baseball bat in a trashcan.

What's with the dick thing anyway? Guys aren't as obsessed with size as ya'll seem to think we are. Sure, we make jokes, but among guys, they're just jokes. Male bonding and all that rot.

What's with the dick thing anyway? Guys aren't as obsessed with size as ya'll seem to think we are. Sure, we make jokes, but among guys, they're just jokes. Male bonding and all that rot.
SHHHH! They were thinking they had us by the balls....... sort of

The worst way I've done it (girls, prepare to abolish all good thoughts about me)

I was going out with a girl named Jessica, and really, really loved her. Enter foolish pride, a bottle of Gibsons finest, a case of beer and a new years party. Jessica had wanted me to go out with her, and my boys, obviously wanted me to go out with them - not wanting to look like a pansy in front of my friends, I tried to get Jessica to come with me (which she wouldn't, having already purchased tickets to a gala event that she wanted the two of us to attend).

So, Jessica is left to invite one of her friends out and is totally unhappy with me (as she should be). I, on the other hand, am with my friends, who gave me a hard time about being tied down etc.

So we get to the ski resort, and commence into copious amounts of drinking. Im getting drunker, and thinking more and more that it was Jessica who was at fault - since if she really wanted to be with me, she could have come along, and thus decided that I should be mad at her.

More drinking.

So the night get carried away, and I with it. Now mad at Jessica, I decide that I might as well quit pushing away the attention of other girls at the party. Hey! This is fun!

More drinking.

After a while, I go from harmless playing to really getting active with a couple of the girls. Re-enter my friends - who at this point have decided that its time for me to get rid of Jessica once and for all, and they help me out on my little quest (as best friends often do) by offering all sorts of encouragment.

More drinking.

Yes, in fact - I decide, they're right. What am I doing with a girl who won't even drop the plans shes carefully laid to come and party with me? Well, no need for her, I have these lovely girls right here! And so the night goes - me, plus my new found companions. And beleive me, it goes.

Hangover.

The morning is not as friendly as the evening was to me - and the recollection of events makes me sicker than even my hangover. At least that is, until I get the phonecall. Its the friend that replaced me to go out with Jessica - and she has news. It turns out that Jessica, in her own drunken inhibition, had taken to being mad at me as well - and in the most uncanny way, had also decided to fool around with someone else... though she had only kissed this other person (a minor event considering my dirty deeds).

Her friend was beside herself, and trying to buffer the situation, because Jessica was on her way to see me and tell me all about it and apologise - since she felt so bad and all. Well, I thought, this is the perfect opportunity to ditch her, and not even have to worry about feeling guilty or acknowledging what I had done! (the stupidity just never ends). Her friend did so because she knew Jessica really liked me, and she wanted us to be together since her previous boyfriends had been such useless trash. (If she only knew).

So she shows up at my door, crying, beside herself - but she can't bring herself to say what happened. Of course, I don't let her know that I was already told - I just let her carry on about how she wishes she had come with me and that she was sorry - never mentioning what she had done. After reassuring her that everything was ok, I walked her to the door, and like always with her, gave her a little touch on the small of her back as I led her out. So there she stood in the open doorway, awaiting her kiss on the forehead (as has become a customary goodbye for only three girls in my life, well four if you count... nevermind). And while shes waiting, looking at me with her soft little eyes - I slammed the door in her face after yelling quickly 'Say hi to Fraser for me you slut!'. (I'm pretty sure that ended things for us romantically).

I then walked to the window, and shaking a little, watched her as she cried running towards her car in the parking lot below.

I should mention, I took no satisfaction in it. In fact, only about two hours later I called her back to apologise and tell her about everything. Her friends call, that I had known, that I had done something much, much, much worse. I couldnt say enough how badly I felt about everything, from the way things had started that night until the way they ended that morning.

Luckily for me, we managed to patch things up - and became good friends (though we never got involved again, needless to say). Our relationship in this sense lasted until I moved away - and I lost touch with her. It was the first time, and the only time I'll ever cheat on anyone, or lie in a relationship. Its also the only time Ive ever broken up with someone in such a cold way - and was at least lucky that she forgave me.

I did have a girl - whom I had a rather ugly parting of ways with - do the classic dick comment. She knew I'd never fall for the "I faked it" crap, but she just felt the need to do a public humiliation move.

So, anyway, a couple weeks after we split, I was sitting around a club with some friends - including a particularly lovely young black woman whom I was trying to seduce - when she walks up to the table and says:

"I just wanted to let everyone know how little your dick is. It's the smallest I've ever been with."

Of course, without missing a beat, I replied "Oh! So *that's* why the pussy was so loose!" and made some comment about a baseball bat in a trashcan.

What's with the dick thing anyway? Guys aren't as obsessed with size as ya'll seem to think we are. Sure, we make jokes, but among guys, they're just jokes. Male bonding and all that rot.
exactly.

a chick did almost the same thing to a friend once, but he reacted way differently.
he threw his drink in her face, unzipped his pants, grabbed his penis, and started yelling "love it baby! kiss it baby! fuck the little one baby!" and chased her out the door. it was the funniest moment in my life.

a chick did almost the same thing to a friend once, but he reacted way differently. he threw his drink in her face, unzipped his pants, grabbed his penis, and started yelling "love it baby! kiss it baby! fuck the little one baby!" and chased her out the door. it was the funniest moment in my life.

ROFL! Now that's something I wish I had seen.

I've never actually been dumped.

My best friend, well we more that that..., and I broke our friendship the night before my dad's wedding which he was supposed to go to. But once again, he gave me a choice and decided to break it of.

exactly.

a chick did almost the same thing to a friend once, but he reacted way differently.
he threw his drink in her face, unzipped his pants, grabbed his penis, and started yelling "love it baby! kiss it baby! fuck the little one baby!" and chased her out the door. it was the funniest moment in my life.

Holy shit, that guy's got balls.

Holy shit, that guy's got balls.
yeah he does. he knelt on the side walk , rubbing them, and was still shouting all these cheesy slogans- "bite the big one! suck my nuts!" while she tried to wait for the light to cross the street.

Lasc you total bitch you

yeah he does. he knelt on the side walk , rubbing them, and was still shouting all these cheesy slogans- "bite the big one! suck my nuts!" while she tried to wait for the light to cross the street.

Any chance you could get him to do that as a comedy act? He'd make a fucking fortune!

Occy (<--- dig it, I know you love it! :p)

Thats the coolest story Ive ever heard! Come hang around with me, you'll get all the public nakedness you can handle. (pun intended) ;)

Lasc you total bitch you
Well, it wasnt funny or anything... it was just so damn heartless. I thought it deserved a mention. Its the only time in my life Ive ever done anything like that - it took all I had from stoping half way and telling her what I was doing.

It was pretty damn cold, I really think for that couple of hours until I called her that I put her through the most unimaginable hell possible. If you could have seen the look on her face change, from being reassured to total despondence - youd have known it was heartbreak in real time. I still feel bad about it - thankfully she was big enough to forgive me and patch things up.

Well, when my ex got tired of me, she decided to tell this lovely little story to the man three levels above my boss. So they brought me in and asked "Is this true?" and I said "Of course it's not true! I don't even know why she would say such a thing." To which they responded "Well, it's your word against hers, and you're a man, so you must be lying." The next day they (Wal-mart) forced me to sign all these papers and shit, so I could never shop at the store in my life.

But a couple weeks later I talked to the guy four levels above my boss and he gave me permission to work at any other Wal-mart in the country. (Except for that one, because they coudn't control the people there or guarantee my personal safety.)

On a plus note, all the managers who stood by and did nothing to stop the lies got fired a couple years ago because they were hiring illegal immigrants on the floor crew when I was working there.

So I'm a little vindictive.

The lesson here, for all you boys and girls, is never EVER date someone you work at the same job with. Especially if you are male. She WILL fuck you, however she can, and you'll never even get a decent explanation of what (if anything) you did wrong.

My first marriage:

Married for eight years - no indication that anything was wrong.

Then she came home one day and was angry - wanted to know why I wasn't suspicious of her enough to notice that she was meeting men on the Internet - had slept with over a hundred men in the past three years.

Well, call me a trusting soul...
What, she was angry that you didn't notice her infidelity?

What, she was angry that you didn't notice her infidelity?
Yes, she was. Then she was angry that after I was told, that I still didn't get angry.

I think she wanted to somehow cast me as the bad guy - just walking out on me wasn't good enough for her - she wanted to be able to say something bad about me.

I wasn't angry enough to get up off the couch. Just angry enough to tell her to leave.

Well ive never actually been with anyone so i have nothing to tell.
/sigh

My first marriage:

Married for eight years - no indication that anything was wrong.

Then she came home one day and was angry - wanted to know why I wasn't suspicious of her enough to notice that she was meeting men on the Internet - had slept with over a hundred men in the past three years.

Well, call me a trusting soul...


This is honestly one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. (And it is no reflection on you WL.)

It just makes me sad. :(

This is honestly one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. (And it is no reflection on you WL.)

It just makes me sad. :(

Don't be sad for me. And don't be sad for the little girl she abandoned.

We've both found the woman (for me, the wife, for her, the mother) we needed.

Don't be sad for me. And don't be sad for the little girl she abandoned.

We've both found the woman (for me, the wife, for her, the mother) we needed.

Well I am glad it worked out well. (Probably for the best indeed). But it still makes me sad that things like this happen.

(despite my mean conservatism, I am actually quite a softie).

But as you say, it all worked out well. So that cheers me up.

It was the first year I could vote in a presidential election (I know this sounds like an odd place to start, but I promise it *is* relevant) - Bush v. Gore. I waited a little late to order my absentee ballot, so it actually didn't arrive until the day before voting. If I wanted to actually go to the polling place, it was 5 hours away. My boyfriend (who was planning on personally going) was only about 3 hours away, so I figured I could fill out the ballot and give it to him to take with him.

I drove all 3 hours there, thinking that I could spend the night and drive back up early in the morning for work. I arrived between 10 and 11 pm and started filling out the ballot. After I finished it (anyone want to guess who I voted for for pres?), he started with "We need to talk" and finished by telling me he thought we should break it off because he wanted to date another girl. ((Big note: I had actually lost my virginity to this guy a little over a month previous)). He spent nearly 2 hours trying to make me break up with him - I guess so he wouldn't be the "bad guy".

I was crushed, but certainly couldn't stay there at that point. Around midnight, I climbed into my car and started the 3 hour drive back. I cried the whole way (with lots of truckers honking and flashing their lights at me for reasons I will never know).

About 1 3/4 hours into the drive, 30 miles outside of any major area where I could stop, I remembered that I had been almost out of gas when I made it to his house and looked at my gauge. It was already passing the red and I was convinced that I wasn't going to make it and would have to end up calling him to come help me out or something. Luckily, I made it to a gas station (barely).

A couple of weeks later, I got the letter telling me that my ballot didn't count. Apparently, he had been told that he couldn't turn it in for me and that it had to come by mail. He dropped it in the mail, but it (obviously) arrived too late.

((Big note: I had actually lost my virginity to this guy a little over a month previous))

Is it me, or is the "first" guy always an asshole?

I've never had a bad realtionship. So I can't relate.

I was married to my ex for eleven years, it just didn't work out for reasons I don't want to discuss. We are still really good friends.

Is it me, or is the "first" guy always an asshole?

*Shrug* I find it incredibly hard to hold a grudge for too long. He and I were friends before we ever dated, and about 8 months after all this (I pretty much didn't talk to him during that time), we ended up friends again. We were never close friends after that, but I would still help him out if he needed it. He has since apologized for the whole thing (apparently the new girl pulled a fast one over on him).

Having read this thread, I have come to the conclusion that everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Does that seem a fair way to sum up?

I once got an e-mail on my birthday from my girlfriend saying she wouldn't be coming to my celebration because she was going out with a guy she met while visiting a friend at college. And I once got videotape evidence of a girlfriend cheating on me. Neither were really getting "dumped", but the effect was the same, I'd say.

The worst way? Over AIM. "So, I got a date with this girl. IRL, I mean."

He was off at college in Tennasee, I live in Cali, it was an online relationship, but we were (or at least I was) madly deeply in love, and we were making plans for the future the last time we'd talked previously

The worst way? Over AIM. "So, I got a date with this girl. IRL, I mean."

He was off at college in Tennasee, I live in Cali, it was an online relationship, but we were (or at least I was) madly deeply in love, and we were making plans for the future the last time we'd talked previously

Aren't e-dumps the worst? So cold, so impersonal. Dear John, welcome to the 21st century.

Aren't e-dumps the worst? So cold, so impersonal. Dear John, welcome to the 21st century.

What really gets me is, we're still good friends, and he doesn't see what else he could have done. "I wanted you to know before I go." is the only explination he ever gave.

No "let's talk about us", no "This isn't working out", no "I am a cinderblock and you are a stopsign...."

What would he do if I hadn't signed on that day?

<paraphrase>
Oh, I'm sorry. We've been dating for eleven months and I've told you how much I love you and how special you are in my life and how much I need you. However, I lied and I never broke up with my last boyfriend. He has finally come back after completing his international schooling. I'm going back with him. I still love you, though. Maybe we can get back toegether some day.
</paraphrase>

Having read this thread, I have come to the conclusion that everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Does that seem a fair way to sum up?
almost.

pretty bad ones on my few short years, but could've been much, much worse.

i was with this lady who i'd been with for about a year and a half, and everything had been going very nicely. all those stupid emotions and whatnot, and i thought nothing would go wrong. this was when i was still drinking alot, so one night in a drunken stupor, i decided to go out and have some fun. i dont remember any of the night, but when i woke up she told me i was with other women and she wanted to leave me. of course i couldnt believe what i had done, and i didnt question it, just apoligized and told her goodbye, all that fun stuff. few weeks later, a (male) friend of mine told me i went to his house and fell asleep. thats it. i asked her about it and just hung up on me. which sucked.

but the worst one i was part of was my doing. again, this was still when i was drinking. i was once again, drunk beyond description and decided to take my girlfriend out. i was driving, because i was...well, dumb. and she was pretty much letting me do whatever i wanted to. of course i wrecked her car and she was annoyed, not yet pissed. of course, she called the police and was gonna say she was driving. while waiting, i decided i didnt want to be with her anymore and took off while she wasnt looking, and never called her again, or answer her calls.

all in all, i used to be a major twat. i am now, however, on good terms with the second chick, and i talk to her pretty often.

What really gets me is, we're still good friends, and he doesn't see what else he could have done. "I wanted you to know before I go." is the only explination he ever gave.

No "let's talk about us", no "This isn't working out", no "I am a cinderblock and you are a stopsign...."

What would he do if I hadn't signed on that day?

I think the problem is that online relationships are nice until they're no longer convienent. It's nice to say all those wonderful things and pretend like you're together, but when the real thing presents itself, the online thing suddenly loses its luster. In my experience, that is.

I think the problem is that online relationships are nice until they're no longer convienent. It's nice to say all those wonderful things and pretend like you're together, but when the real thing presents itself, the online thing suddenly loses its luster. In my experience, that is.
*ahem* that, i feel is true. for some people. however, i think online friends ( and more) should be held in the same regards that a "RL" friend that moved/went to study, etc- some distance away. you can still converse, via snail mail, the PC, the phone. they are still a person you felt was important at some time, to spend time with. why should that ever change. people who cannot be honest, truthful , courageous and loyal to their online friends are weak, and not worthy in real life as well. my OPINION of course.

Having read this thread, I have come to the conclusion that everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Does that seem a fair way to sum up?

Yes, reading is hard.

My boyfriend tells a good story...

A guy was sick in bed, and his girlfriend brought him a videotape and a batch of brownies to comfort him. She left, and he popped in the tape and started munching the brownies. On the tape he saw his girlfriend giving head... to another guy.

He watches the tape, eating the brownies.Eventually the guy on the tape cums, and the girl spits it into a bowl of brownie batter, turns to the camera, and says, "You just been dumped."

I spent the night with a friend in high school one time, and we rented movies, ordered pizza and painted each others nails ........ all that fun girly stuff. She had been going out with this guy for about 4 months and all was well...she thought. Welll, the fun came to a screeching halt when the phone rang. It was her boyfriend's MOTHER. His mom told my friend that he wanted to break up and he didnt know how, so he asked his mom to call and break it off for him. At first she was kind of sad, but then we started laughing at how lame he was for getting his mom to call and break up with her. How sad...... :rolleyes:

I spent the night with a friend in high school one time, and we rented movies, ordered pizza and painted each others nails ........ all that fun girly stuff. She had been going out with this guy for about 4 months and all was well...she thought. Welll, the fun came to a screeching halt when the phone rang. It was her boyfriend's MOTHER. His mom told my friend that he wanted to break up and he didnt know how, so he asked his mom to call and break it off for him. At first she was kind of sad, but then we started laughing at how lame he was for getting his mom to call and break up with her. How sad...... :rolleyes:

Wow, that is perhaps the lamest guy in the world....

-snip-

Pffff! You should've gone to his house and egged the hell out of it. TP'ing the tree would've been good, too. Oh, and the classic, flaming dog shit-in-a-bag on the doorstep.

Man, that guy must have been a sorry excuse for a person... Getting his mom to call your friend to break up with her... Pffff!!!

Yeah...he was one sad bastard. He's in debt collection now...I wonder if he gets his mom to call people when they are past due on their bills.

Yeah...he was one sad bastard. He's in debt collection now...I wonder if he gets his mom to call people when they are past due on their bills.

That would make one hell of a comedy show. Or movie.

Well This doesn't really count but this girl said she was going out with me, despite that I repetedly told her I didn't feel that way about her. When she started saying that she had had sex with me, was about the time I screamed at her I hated her and never wanted to speak to her again, right in front of all of her friends to. And if she called me afer that the conversation went "I hate you *click*" and after moving I dont' think I have to worry about her finding me again.

and another girl was hooked up with me without my knowledge, kind of my friends messing around. I had no clue until two weeks later she called me and said it was over. I was really confused.

The four times I've been dumped:

#1: Over yahoo msger "We need to break up"
#2: Over the phone "(some long winded thing she wrote down beforehand about how it started really fast and she didn't.. something or other, I can't actually remember heh.)
#3: In person "We need to break up but we can still be friends blahblahblach" fuck off. I responded with silence. Made her feel rather uncomfortable.
#4: Over the phone: Basically I'm a dickhead according to her.



Nothing major really.

*ahem* that, i feel is true. for some people. however, i think online friends ( and more) should be held in the same regards that a "RL" friend that moved/went to study, etc- some distance away. you can still converse, via snail mail, the PC, the phone. they are still a person you felt was important at some time, to spend time with. why should that ever change. people who cannot be honest, truthful , courageous and loyal to their online friends are weak, and not worthy in real life as well. my OPINION of course.
interesting. well, i suppose then that i should tell you that i am a 12 year girl from hokkaido japan. oops! sorry for the misunderstanding. my english isn't so great.

So...me and my ex had been going out for about 8 months.

Over Thanksgiving weekend she came with me and my parents to my Aunt's house. She met the whole family, got along with everybody great, things were as good as they had ever been, or so I thought.

The day after we got back, she called me up...said something along the lines of "leave me alone", and when I asked for reasons, she could give none.

Now this wouldn't be anywhere near so bad, if not for the fact that we lived across the freaking street from one another, in different dorms. Why she couldn't just tell me face to face, I'll never know.

To top it off, two days later, one of her friends from online came down to visit...for a week. They are now married and have a daughter.

Lot's of people get dumped in an on-line relationship for a real one. I got the treat of experiencing the opposite. :rolleyes:

My boyfriend tells a good story...

A guy was sick in bed, and his girlfriend brought him a videotape and a batch of brownies to comfort him. She left, and he popped in the tape and started munching the brownies. On the tape he saw his girlfriend giving head... to another guy.

He watches the tape, eating the brownies.Eventually the guy on the tape cums, and the girl spits it into a bowl of brownie batter, turns to the camera, and says, "You just been dumped."
Urban legend. I heard the same story about a guy overseas in the military. And another about a guy sitting down with his friends to watch the video of his wife and turning it on to find her "air tight" with a couple of her new closest friends. I hope that never really happened. Who could really be that cold hearted. *falls on floor laughing*

I've dumped a guy without giving him any reason. Just "this is it, it was nice to know ya, see ya." I was horrible (and 15). We talked about it years later and we are friends now.

I've been dumbed by a note on my boyfriend's door. That made me laugh. (I went there to dumb him, but he had escaped from his flat before I got there)

A bit more mature methods after those. My friend got dumbed by a textmessage and the guy was 26!

I still don't understand my ex-boyfriend, but personally I think that his an asshole..
We were together for about a month when suddenly I couldn't reach him any longer, neither via mail nor phone, and I didn't know where he lived. So I thought that he had broken off without telling me ( I'm not very self-confident, so I always expect the worst) So I send him a mail, asking him why he didn't answer me and then went on explaining that it were better to break up because obviously (at least to me) he was making fun of me. During the next 8 month he tried to get me back, and I (noticing that I still loved him) agreed to have another try. A month later I called him to ask him if he would come over today. He sounded strange and wasn't very talkative. Ten minutes after the call I found out why he had behaved so strange: he'd sent me an SMS reading: Sorry, I don't love you, I thought that I'd learn to love you, but now I can see that this isn't the case. (I think that he was either having his revenge or angry because I didn't want to sleep with him)
But now, nearly two years later, he still keeps writing to me, telling me what a mistake he made and that I was better than his present girlfriend, and so on.. :headbang:

self- explanatory.

you know me- i dont really care. but a close friend had a bad one this weekend, and i am trying to show him that things could be worse. post away- i will put his story up in a bit.

I broke up with a girlfriend after her brother put me in the hospital and I reported him to the police.

I broke up with a girlfriend after her brother put me in the hospital and I reported him to the police.
after? did her brother get you because you were in the process of?

I broke up with a girlfriend after her brother put me in the hospital and I reported him to the police.

You should have thrown a pie at him.

Having read this thread, I have come to the conclusion that everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Does that seem a fair way to sum up?

Hmm...I don't know.

I have only ever really had one girlfriend (there's a girl I knew in college that I've been out with a few times since she graduated, despite the two and a half hour drive involved, but as far as I know neither of us have any notions of it being a more serious relationship than casual dating. Anyhow, back to the story). We went out in high school. I never did figure out what the deal was with her. If she was not the only girl who liked me enough to go out with me, she was the only one blunt enough that I ever noticed it. (I still recall telling my mother I thought this girl might want to go out with me because I couldn't think of any other reason she would have told me she was free Thursday night. You gotta understand, I'm a geek and not much of a looker...I have more or less universally assumed nobody is interested. Except that one girl I finally got up the nerve to ask. Kept at it, too. I gave up when her fourth reason for turning me down was being busy with some other guy. Anyhow, once again, back to the story.)

This girl was fun to hang around with, yes...although very talkative, and moreso when she was nervous, and she tended to get nervous because I didn't talk much, because I clam up when I get nervous, and it made me nervous when she talked a lot about things that I didn't understand. Like...social interaction, and things. Well, one way or another she had this tendency to come back to the subject of soul mates over and over again. I gradually got the impression that she had more invested in the relationship than I did, and that she was pushing for more. So I broke up with her, despite how much I enjoyed the relationship (I know it probably doesn't sound like it from my description, but it was fun), because I was afraid that even if I tried to keep it a casual relationship, she would become increasingly more attached to me and eventually I'd wind up breaking her heart. She seems to have taken it well...I haven't seen her in quite a while, but from what I've heard about the times she's run into my parents, I think she still wants me to ask her out again.

I guess what I'm getting at is, not everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Some of us are just so inept we do it without trying.

My High School Sweetheart was a bitch. We've only dated for six month, and we've always had troubles. We fought over everything, and usually it was her blaming me for stupid shit. (Wow a woman blaming a guy, what else is new). Anyways it was prom time, and I shelled out $200. $100 for the dress, $40 for her shoes and the remaining $60 I used with my Tux. Well about a WEEK before the prom, she calls up and tells me that she can't go, because she didn't want to fall back in love with me. She kept the dress, never reimbursed me, etc. Now, lets back track alittle, because, this actually began alot sooner. A month or so before Prom. I was in California away on surgery. I was suspose to be away for 2 weeks. Well what happens, during those two weeks, she had fun with a guy she met at a "Blimpie". (For those who don't know, Blimipe is a store thats like Subway, its a Subway sandwich store). Apparently, she sampled his subway sandwich while I was gone. How do I know, well, lets just say I thank her for this. Because she had a cousin that goes to the same school that we did. She wrote two notes, one for me, and one for her cousin. Forgetting to mark them, she got them mixed up. I got the cousin note that read "God I hope (my name) never finds out that I had sex with the cute cashiers from Blimpie." Now, after this, and confronting her, why did the prom thing happen. I honestly have no clue, its been three years since this happened, and I'm still dumbfounded by it. I guess I was stupid.

But, I don't give a rats ass anymore, I am with another girl, and she is amazing, and she is my kind of girl.

I hear some courts go easier on you if its a crime of passion.

manslaughter?

one girl broke up with me in a letter and told me she wanted to go out with my friend who came with me to drop her off somewhere. then she wanted me to come back and pick her up after her appointment. :mad:

after? did her brother get you because you were in the process of?

No. Though, to be honest, we probably wouldn't have ben together much longer anyway. SHe was as psychotic as her brother. I once went to the movies with some friends and when I returned to my dorm room three hours later, there were thirteen new messages from her. THIRTEEN! :eek:

You should have thrown a pie at him.

Hard to do with a dislocated shoulder. :(

I guess what I'm getting at is, not everyone is out to hurt everyone else. Some of us are just so inept we do it without trying.
Oh hell yeah. Absolutely correct. Some people are assholes, most of the rest of us are just muddling through...

No. Though, to be honest, we probably wouldn't have ben together much longer anyway. SHe was as psychotic as her brother. I once went to the movies with some friends and when I returned to my dorm room three hours later, there were thirteen new messages from her. THIRTEEN! :eek:
let me replay the past for you, stir up those memories.....
"hey, Lg are you there? pick up iuf you are" beeeeeeeeep
"oh, hey Lg just seeing if you got back yet. i guess not" beeeeeeeeeeeeep
"hi. ummm. i just wanted to say that i f i am not here when you call back, i will be home soon" beeeeeeeep
" hey. i guess you arent home. ilove you" bbbeeeeeeeppppppppp
" wow. hey. its been a while since you left, call me as soon as you get back."beeeeeeeeepppppp

" i was just thinking about you , and thought i would say hi! so , hi!! i love you"beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep


shall i continue, or are you bleeding from your eyeballs?