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Well, it looks like my marraige is over. I see a divorce lawyer tomorrow. I spent 3 nights on the couch before she told me not to come home at all. That was 3 nights ago. I had to hit a department store and buy a couple of changes of clothes because she wouldn't even give me some of my clothes. I could go home and take what I needed, but that would just lead to drama and trauma and a 911 call. Gauranteed. I've been here before.

No, NS didn't really cause my breakup. It was one of the things I enjoy that she hated. But that's just a symptom, not the disease.

I moved my grandmother from Oakland to Arizona, that took two weeks and really set off my wife. It was the final straw. A once-in-a-lifetime act of helping an 82 year old with Alzheimers was too much for my wife to accept without demanding that she get an equal "vacation". Thats what she called what I did, a "vacation". Cleaning out a house that had been occupied 39 years, filling a 20 yard dumpster and hauling all her treasures 800 miles away and setting them up again, trying to duplicate her old home as close as possible to ease the transition, and doing it all before she arrived, wasn't a "vacation" I'd like to repeat.

That was just the final straw, our relationship has survived this far only because I've backed down from anything and everything that we disagree on. As long as I keep my balls in a jar on the shelf and don't try to have any control over my life, we get along fine. I just can't live like that anymore.

I lost 7 puppets in the two weeks I was gone, some of them I was really fond of. I put the rest on vacation mode when I got back. This, my main nation goes on vacation mode as soon as I finish this post. I won't have time for NS for a while, probably months. I will be back, but not anytime soon.

I've been on NS for a year and a half and have over 1000 posts, virtually all in general and all on serious topics, I stay out of the social threads. I don't recognize many of the names I see posting in general anymore, I doubt I'll be missed. Still I wanted to say goodbye before ducking out for awhile.

I'm gonna close with a little tribute to the puppets I lost, some I'll let fade away, some I may bring back. The first three on the list I've had since before the server change, the last four were created in protest after October of last year. That was the only time I was ever on the wrong side of the mods and they deleted my nation "The Apothetic Indifference of Bad Reaction" for "spamming" the general forum with multiple threads, on different topics, arguing against the re-election of George Bush. So drum roll please and a moment of silence for....

The Gruppo Compacto of Peloton (a theme nation based on the European Pro Cycling tour)
The Isolated Sanctuary of Solitary Hermits
The Ominous Silence of the Mime (one of my favorites, I never posted text with it, only links, pictures and emoticons)
The Tasteful Republic of French Vanilla (sort of France light)
The Unavoidable Legacy of Persecuted Minorities
The Full Body Orgasm of Tantric Verses
and of course
The Bait and Hook of Trolling Motors

Later all.

Ah, so NOW I know who came up with Trolling Motors! Bwahahaha! :D

Seriously, you will be missed. Sorry about your wife having evil thoughts.:(

Good luck

You where Trolling Motors? Wow-I had no idea.

That mime nation is pretty clever, I wish I had thought of that.

You joined when I did, and you live in the same *$%&(*$#& that I grew up around. Sorry about all of that man-that sucks.

That sucks, sorry to hear that.

-snip-

Damn. Best of luck, man.

My condolences, best of luck.

Ouch. Well.. good luck to wherever your going.

Trolling Motors eh! Hmm

In any event, I'm sorry to hear about your wife - tough break. :(

But any guy who would take the time to move his 82 year old grandmother must be one helluva nice guy - you shouldnt have any problems finding a woman who can appreciate that. Best of luck in all that you take on during these tumtulous times -

giving you my best,

Lascivious

Sorry to hear about your break-up, Lost Planet. Even when you see it coming it isn't an easy thing to get through. Good luck with whatever you're planning to do. Hope to see you back when the dust settles.

Wishing you health, happiness and prosperity.

the fact that you had a mime puppet nation that never typed is by far and away the coolest thing i have ever heard in my life. i laughed for 5 whole minutes when i read that. by virtue of that post- you will most def. be missed.

I never understood how the wife gets the house.. if the wife has a problem.. and wants the divorse.. the man shouldn't be kicked out.. the wife should leave.. and I know if i ever got married and my wife tried to pull that shit id bust the door down and go right to my bed... no way she would get me out of my own house short of killing me.. and then id go to heaven knowning she was gonna spend enternity in (the eternal flames of DAMNATION BWHAhAHahaH) :D

It might seem like a tough break there lost planet, but for the kinda guy you obviously are, and the kind of person she obviously is, you're better off without her.

The divorce will go through, and it'll be hard, but once it is over, you'll be free to find a woman who'll love you ,and just as importantly, respect you for the man you are.

Good luck man, I wish you nothing but good luck and the best.

Damn. Best of luck, man.

yeah best of luck i cant say i no wat u mean caus im 12 but man i feel sorry 4 ya :(
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Well, it looks like my marraige is over. I see a divorce lawyer tomorrow. I spent 3 nights on the couch before she told me not to come home at all. That was 3 nights ago. I had to hit a department store and buy a couple of changes of clothes because she wouldn't even give me some of my clothes. I could go home and take what I needed, but that would just lead to drama and trauma and a 911 call. Gauranteed. I've been here before.

No, NS didn't really cause my breakup. It was one of the things I enjoy that she hated. But that's just a symptom, not the disease.

I moved my grandmother from Oakland to Arizona, that took two weeks and really set off my wife. It was the final straw. A once-in-a-lifetime act of helping an 82 year old with Alzheimers was too much for my wife to accept without demanding that she get an equal "vacation". Thats what she called what I did, a "vacation". Cleaning out a house that had been occupied 39 years, filling a 20 yard dumpster and hauling all her treasures 800 miles away and setting them up again, trying to duplicate her old home as close as possible to ease the transition, and doing it all before she arrived, wasn't a "vacation" I'd like to repeat.

That was just the final straw, our relationship has survived this far only because I've backed down from anything and everything that we disagree on. As long as I keep my balls in a jar on the shelf and don't try to have any control over my life, we get along fine. I just can't live like that anymore.

I lost 7 puppets in the two weeks I was gone, some of them I was really fond of. I put the rest on vacation mode when I got back. This, my main nation goes on vacation mode as soon as I finish this post. I won't have time for NS for a while, probably months. I will be back, but not anytime soon.

I've been on NS for a year and a half and have over 1000 posts, virtually all in general and all on serious topics, I stay out of the social threads. I don't recognize many of the names I see posting in general anymore, I doubt I'll be missed. Still I wanted to say goodbye before ducking out for awhile.

I'm gonna close with a little tribute to the puppets I lost, some I'll let fade away, some I may bring back. The first three on the list I've had since before the server change, the last four were created in protest after October of last year. That was the only time I was ever on the wrong side of the mods and they deleted my nation "The Apothetic Indifference of Bad Reaction" for "spamming" the general forum with multiple threads, on different topics, arguing against the re-election of George Bush. So drum roll please and a moment of silence for....

The Gruppo Compacto of Peloton (a theme nation based on the European Pro Cycling tour)
The Isolated Sanctuary of Solitary Hermits
The Ominous Silence of the Mime (one of my favorites, I never posted text with it, only links, pictures and emoticons)
The Tasteful Republic of French Vanilla (sort of France light)
The Unavoidable Legacy of Persecuted Minorities
The Full Body Orgasm of Tantric Verses
and of course
The Bait and Hook of Trolling Motors

Later all.
1. What happened in october that you were created the last 4 in protest?

2. Nice title ;) very catchy :D

It might seem like a tough break there lost planet, but for the kinda guy you obviously are, and the kind of person she obviously is, you're better off without her.

The divorce will go through, and it'll be hard, but once it is over, you'll be free to find a woman who'll love you ,and just as importantly, respect you for the man you are.

Good luck man, I wish you nothing but good luck and the best

I agree completely with this and I too wish you the best.

No NS freed you of Marriage man!
Your Marriage is holding you back!
EDIT:The Full Body Orgasm of Tantric Verses -Rules!

From what you've said, it doesn't sound like your wife deserves a husband. If the divorce goes through (and I hope it doesn't), you will hopefully be able to find someone else to love just as much, someone who will love you unconditionally.

Best of luck,

- Stephen.

1. What happened in october that you were created the last 4 in protest?

2. Nice title ;) very catchy :D

I was expecting to see "And all I got was this lousy settlement!"

Lost Planet-
There is an end in sight. Too many people break up for such silly reasons…the biggest problem is lack of communication. (Not patronizing you, sorry). I guess you probably aren’t too keen on jumping straight into another relationship, but that’s probably a good thing. The best thing to do is keep cool; no sense in having your stress levels skyrocket. A divorce is a big change; anchor yourself in something stable, and that’ll get you through this. Best of luck to you and hang in there.

Well, it looks like my marraige is over. I see a divorce lawyer tomorrow. I spent 3 nights on the couch before she told me not to come home at all. That was 3 nights ago. I had to hit a department store and buy a couple of changes of clothes because she wouldn't even give me some of my clothes. I could go home and take what I needed, but that would just lead to drama and trauma and a 911 call. Gauranteed. I've been here before.

No, NS didn't really cause my breakup. It was one of the things I enjoy that she hated. But that's just a symptom, not the disease.

I moved my grandmother from Oakland to Arizona, that took two weeks and really set off my wife. It was the final straw. A once-in-a-lifetime act of helping an 82 year old with Alzheimers was too much for my wife to accept without demanding that she get an equal "vacation". Thats what she called what I did, a "vacation". Cleaning out a house that had been occupied 39 years, filling a 20 yard dumpster and hauling all her treasures 800 miles away and setting them up again, trying to duplicate her old home as close as possible to ease the transition, and doing it all before she arrived, wasn't a "vacation" I'd like to repeat.

That was just the final straw, our relationship has survived this far only because I've backed down from anything and everything that we disagree on. As long as I keep my balls in a jar on the shelf and don't try to have any control over my life, we get along fine. I just can't live like that anymore.

I lost 7 puppets in the two weeks I was gone, some of them I was really fond of. I put the rest on vacation mode when I got back. This, my main nation goes on vacation mode as soon as I finish this post. I won't have time for NS for a while, probably months. I will be back, but not anytime soon.

I've been on NS for a year and a half and have over 1000 posts, virtually all in general and all on serious topics, I stay out of the social threads. I don't recognize many of the names I see posting in general anymore, I doubt I'll be missed. Still I wanted to say goodbye before ducking out for awhile.

I'm gonna close with a little tribute to the puppets I lost, some I'll let fade away, some I may bring back. The first three on the list I've had since before the server change, the last four were created in protest after October of last year. That was the only time I was ever on the wrong side of the mods and they deleted my nation "The Apothetic Indifference of Bad Reaction" for "spamming" the general forum with multiple threads, on different topics, arguing against the re-election of George Bush. So drum roll please and a moment of silence for....

The Gruppo Compacto of Peloton (a theme nation based on the European Pro Cycling tour)
The Isolated Sanctuary of Solitary Hermits
The Ominous Silence of the Mime (one of my favorites, I never posted text with it, only links, pictures and emoticons)
The Tasteful Republic of French Vanilla (sort of France light)
The Unavoidable Legacy of Persecuted Minorities
The Full Body Orgasm of Tantric Verses
and of course
The Bait and Hook of Trolling Motors

Later all.
aw that really, really sucks :(

you will be missed (and yeah, i do recognise you :) )


i wish you well over the coming months


*salutes puppets*

Wow. That sucks.
Best of luck, and I hope everything turns out alright for you.

EDIT:
I just checked out your "The Mime" posts. That was bloody brilliant.

No NS freed you of Marriage man!
Your Marriage is holding you back!
In all seriousness, I have to concur with "Harlesburg". To any man: If a woman doesn't respect you, then she's not worth being married to.

"Think about it for a moment."

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

In all seriousness, I have to concur with "Harlesburg". To any man: If a woman doesn't respect you, then she's not worth being married to.

"Think about it for a moment."

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

There definitely has to be mutual respect in any relationship, but even more so in a marriage.

I am sorry for your misfortune, but it's her loss.

congratulations on your prison release :D

I never understood how the wife gets the house.. if the wife has a problem.. and wants the divorse.. the man shouldn't be kicked out.. the wife should leave.. and I know if i ever got married and my wife tried to pull that shit id bust the door down and go right to my bed... no way she would get me out of my own house short of killing me.. and then id go to heaven knowning she was gonna spend enternity in (the eternal flames of DAMNATION BWHAhAHahaH) :D
Yeah, I wouldn't recommend it. I think you'd be a little better off calling the cops and having them force the door open. Chances are, she'll end up in the slammer. Double BWHAhAHahaH!!! :D

Look at it this way, you're no longer gonna have to put up with that bitch anymore. This isn't to sound cold-hearted, but a way to put this into actual perspective and that is neither you or her were happy together, therefore this should be for the best.

Damn, that really sucks. I've only seen a few of your posts but NS will be a sadder place without you. :(

Come back soon now y'hear?

That's awful, I sure hope things get better soon :(

Hope to see you around in the near future.

good luck!

take comfort in the fact your wife will end up a grizzled old bitch, alone, smoking cigs and drinking too much coffee, dressing like a teenager when she is 45,and trying to look 10 years younger so she can get a man in the bar to talk to her.
dont foorget the implants she will most likely buy, and the fact she will adapt this mantra "i still have it!!!"

you are so better off, now.

I'm not a lawyer, but I have been divorced (TWICE) before.

1) You are entitled to 50% in most states. You can sell the house, and take 1/2 of the equity, you can sell her diamonds and take half, in fct you can pretty much do anything you want as long as you take no more than the percentage you are entitled to.

2) Kids ? This can screw up the 50% thing - unless of course you fight like crazy to get them. Of course by 'crazy' I mean extremeley dirty.

3) Hire a dammed good lawyer. It will be worth it in the long run.

4) Lose the 'nice guy' approach. You are 100% entitled to live in the home your shared. Move back in, with police help if you need it, and pretty much force her to move out. Bring back hookers every night, leave the kitchen in a mess, never clean the toilet etc ;) fdo whatever it takes.

Whatever you go, do NOT give in without a hell of a fight.

I know I said I was gone for a while but it's an unusually slow night at the hospital, the only place I still have internet access, and I already checked my e-mail. So while I wait for my pager to go off I checked in here. Thanks to all for your replies.
Those who recommend me going home even though I'm not wanted there don't really know me or my wife. The conflict would be exactly what she wants. Our youngest child is 11, the few weeks absence until the courts can hash out an agreement are far less emotional upheaval than the knock-down drag-out she's hoping and waiting for. That sort of thing is what she's about, not me. I'm slowly starting to recapture some of what I've given up because of my marraige.
Today I did something I could never do with my wife present. I was eating in a Denny's (although I'm lucky in that I can sleep in my late mothers house while my siblings and I fix it up to sell, there's no furniture or cooking impliments), sitting at the counter, watching the staff. The waitress's and waiters we're all young, preppy looking. The cooks were all hispanic and probably averaged well over 40. The place was jumping, The cooks were hustling and sweating the entire time I was there. When I finished eating I paid my bill which was just under 7 bucks and left a 3 dollar tip for my server. I then asked to speak to the manager. When he came forward I assured him that the food and service was fine and I had left a well deserved tip for my server.
But then I pealed off 5 dollar bills from what I had and handed it to the manager. I told him that was for the guys in the back and asked him to please make sure thay get it. He assure me he would take it straight back to them and I turned and left.
My wife would have blown a gasket, but I felt a lot better walking out of there. I now don't have to hide the fact that I pick up hitchhikers late at night or buy meals for those that are hungry or take direct action to address the social inequities I see. I can return to being me and not fear having to explain such actions.
Although it's sad to see my marraige end, I can't help but feel reborn.

Sounds like if you can re launch your life again you'll be a lot better off. Best of luck mate.