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This was inspired by the thread on who cheats more. You may share if you wish, or add any relevant commentarry.

Poll coming..... Or not. The internet here went down in the middle of posting the poll, so it is lost in the void. :(

while dating one person i made out with another. i know some people don't think it "counts" as cheating unless you have sex, but it counted in my book...for me, cheating is doing anything with another person that i wouldn't want my partner to find out about. i actually feel physically sick whenever i think about having cheated, because it was so dishonorable and wrong. i would never consider doing it again.

It would probably be easier to ask who hasn't.

In any case, no sensible person is going to detail adultery over the internet.

I admit it - I used a cheat in my game :D

It would probably be easier to ask who hasn't.

In any case, no sensible person is going to detail adultery over the internet.
hehe, well, i've never claimed to be sensible...

I don't cheat. It goes against my nature. I've been cheated on though. Nobody's ever done it to me more than once. I also never forgive. That's against my nature too.

while dating one person i made out with another. i know some people don't think it "counts" as cheating unless you have sex, but it counted in my book...for me, cheating is doing anything with another person that i wouldn't want my partner to find out about. i actually feel physically sick whenever i think about having cheated, because it was so dishonorable and wrong. i would never consider doing it again.

While engaged to my husband I did the same thing. It almost broke us up. :( Never ever would I even consider doing that again. It is okay to see beauty and admire it but not act upon it when you are committed to another person.(for instance, Spaam is a hottie--see his pic on the NS Studs posting)

while dating one person i made out with another. i know some people don't think it "counts" as cheating unless you have sex, but it counted in my book...for me, cheating is doing anything with another person that i wouldn't want my partner to find out about. i actually feel physically sick whenever i think about having cheated, because it was so dishonorable and wrong. i would never consider doing it again.
I agree with your definition, and by that definition, have cheated a number of times during a rather turbulent period in my marriage. However, he went and cheated more seriously twice, so I don't feel too horrible about it...though there was a scary moment when I thought one guy was going to pursue me...definately turned me off further infidelities! I hate that bottom of the stomach sick feeling of knowing you are doing something wrong, could get caught and screw up your whole relationship. not for me.

While engaged to my husband I did the same thing. It almost broke us up. :( Never ever would I even consider doing that again. It is okay to see beauty and admire it, but not act upon it when you are committed to another person.
i suppose the one good thing that came out of my mistake was that now i know i actually don't WANT to cheat. it wasn't even fun at the time, because i felt so guilty and wrong, so there was absolutely no upside to cheating for me.

Tests: I rembember all the times I've ever cheated (6 and counting) by checking on an answer to a question (either it was in the back of the test book or on another person's test), but not all the times I've cheated by working longer than I'm supposed to (I'm too lazy to get extended time)

Relationships: Never, I abhor it.

Videogames: Who doesn't? It's half the fun!

I had a bf of 3 years who was cheating on me with one of my 'best" friends....right in my own house. He had gotten hurt at work and had to stay home for a month and I was the only one working.....(overtime, doubletime) and while I was at work, she would come over and have a shag on MY bed. So, two friends found out about it, told meabout it, so I called the girl up and told her I knew everything cause "he" had confessed, and that I just wanted to hear it from her. She fessed up, then I went home and told him the same thing....that she had admitted everything and then he fessed up. I tossed his crap out the door and never looked back. Btw....we all worked together...even the two friends who told me what was going on. The friend who was cheating with my bf quit the next week.

Shit happens....

whenever im in a relationship and i think the girl is a bitch, i cheat




i dont really feel bad about it, i get a sadistic pleasure out of letting my girlfriend know what i did and going "haha bitch! Shes better then you!"

Does it count when you have permission?

Does it count when you have permission?
not according to my definition...cheating is doing something with another person that you wouldn't want your mate to know about. if your mate says it's okay to go fool around then that's not cheating; you're just playing by some unconventional rules.

On a test? No
On a girl? No

I would say if you do something of a sexual nature with someone and you don't want to tell your boy/girlfriend because you're afraid that they will consider it cheating, then it's cheating. Personally, I've never had a problem with boy/girlfriends of mine making out with other people, so long as the clothes remain on, because I don't think just kissing is that big of a deal, I can understand pure physical desire, and I am confident enough to know that he/she is still going to be with me.

I would say if you do something of a sexual nature with someone and you don't want to tell your boy/girlfriend because you're afraid that they will consider it cheating, then it's cheating. Personally, I've never had a problem with boy/girlfriends of mine making out with other people, so long as the clothes remain on, because I don't think just kissing is that big of a deal, I can understand pure physical desire, and I am confident enough to know that he/she is still going to be with me.
he is so awesome.

i should not answer this question , though.

On a test: Today and a few other times. (Horribly ironic that the first time I cheat in a while all these threads pop up. Damn conscience.)

On a person: Never. Loyalty is something I value and I expect the same respect.

My ex-boyfriend made out with a friend of mine, told me about it, I forgave him, then went and did it again with the same girl and hid it from me until rumors were spread months later. And then he had the nerve to dump me because I didn't trust him anymore. I wonder why...

Tests: Never

Games: Save and reload in civ 2 before entering huts, or when exploring with galleys and no lighthouse. (Are these really cheating?)

Relationships: The rules in my relationships have always been that anything is allowed, you just have to tell. So cheating would only be not telling. No. Never cheated in this sense. I have had affairs, but my partner at the time was always told about them. The strange thing is that neither my wife nor I have ever had an affair in this relationship, although we both had had affairs in previous ones.

I thought you'd heard about this (http://www.aweekofkindness.com/blog/archives/the_laura_k_krishna_saga/000023.html).

Warning- long, and only the stuff at the top is consistenly amusing throughout the week.

I was through with this one guy but hadn't made it official.

He was an ass though, in retrospect. We dated in our last year of highschool and then moved away from each other, he never bothered to get a phone, I had to call someone who lived downstairs from him who would go get him so we could talk. He accused me of cheating on him on a couple occasions while we were going out based on what his best friend, an ex who still wanted him, said (apparantly over the course of 10 days, I was spotted by the same girl with 20 separate guys...) he accused me of not calling him over the winter break, claimed that he called my house repeatedly, but no one was ever home (certainly not the case, I have caller id and an answering machine as well as call waiting) and the straw that broke the camel's back was: he called me when I got back to school and we talked a while after he accused me of all that and lied to me and then he said that he'd call the next day. He didn't.

A week later, I fooled around with another guy, and a couple days after that I dumped his ass and had a toast with my roommate who was home at the time to my newfound freedom. :)

That's the closest I've come to cheating.

Games: Save and reload in civ 2 before entering huts, or when exploring with galleys and no lighthouse. (Are these really cheating?)

Meh, the computer cheats enough in that game. I'd say that's levelling the playing field.

I was through with this one guy but hadn't made it official.

He was an ass though, in retrospect. We dated in our last year of highschool and then moved away from each other, he never bothered to get a phone, I had to call someone who lived downstairs from him who would go get him so we could talk. He accused me of cheating on him on a couple occasions while we were going out based on what his best friend, an ex who still wanted him, said (apparantly over the course of 10 days, I was spotted by the same girl with 20 separate guys...) he accused me of not calling him over the winter break, claimed that he called my house repeatedly, but no one was ever home (certainly not the case, I have caller id and an answering machine as well as call waiting) and the straw that broke the camel's back was: he called me when I got back to school and we talked a while after he accused me of all that and lied to me and then he said that he'd call the next day. He didn't.

A week later, I fooled around with another guy, and a couple days after that I dumped his ass and had a toast with my roommate who was home at the time to my newfound freedom. :)

That's the closest I've come to cheating.

That hardly counts. Considering how little he trusted you and how unwilling he was to put any effort into the relationship, he's lucky you didn't cheat on him repeatedly.

That hardly counts. Considering how little he trusted you and how unwilling he was to put any effort into the relationship, he's lucky you didn't cheat on him repeatedly.
Yeah. I tried to visit him twice and both times he managed to get pink eye.

It really was the lack of contact over the holidays and then the broken promise to call afterwards that did it. I didn't actually talk to him in between until I called him to break up with him.