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What are your views? Mine are plain - getting dumped sucks!

I got dumped by my g/f less than a week ago, and she's already shacked up with my now ex best friend. How low can you get, really? Does anyone know the answer. Yeah, being single has its perks, but when someone you love leaves you for someone else without a proper explanation, it bites!

Anyway, personal opnions ppl, and any personal expierences

What are your views? Mine are plain - getting dumped sucks!

I got dumped by my g/f less than a week ago, and she's already shacked up with my now ex best friend. How low can you get, really? Does anyone know the answer. Yeah, being single has its perks, but when someone you love leaves you for someone else without a proper explanation, it bites!

Anyway, personal opnions ppl, and any personal expierences

All I can say is that you are not alone in your experience, and though it doth suck muchly right now, you WILL love again if you so choose.

I'm assuming you are fairly young (16-22)...if I'm wrong, correct me. You will heal, you will love again, and your ex will become nothing but a faded memory as time passes.

Love comes to those who want it, and give it freely.

bottom end of your age range. And I hope you're right

What are your views? Mine are plain - getting dumped sucks!

I got dumped by my g/f less than a week ago, and she's already shacked up with my now ex best friend. How low can you get, really? Does anyone know the answer. Yeah, being single has its perks, but when someone you love leaves you for someone else without a proper explanation, it bites!

Anyway, personal opnions ppl, and any personal expierences
ex best friend, thats nasty! u know wat u shud do, get wit 1 of her friends. that'll show her

Yeah... but unfortunatley I'm not that cruel

Yeah... but unfortunatley I'm not that cruel
but she was cruel to u in the first place. remember, 2 wrongs perfectly make a right.

Yeah... but unfortunatley I'm not that cruel

Or "fortunately".
Were you to do something that assinine, "Getting with" someone for no reason other than to "get even", you'll soon be faced again with either DUMPING the girl you just got with (which is exactly what you got upset about for in the first place), or having her leave you for someone who really loves HER, and not just the idea of revenge.

You've done the intelligent thing in not choosing THAT way. (revenge via best friend)

but she was cruel to u in the first place. remember, 2 wrongs perfectly make a right.
Twisted logic. I like it, but I don't like any of her friends. I know who I do like, and she's with another of my friends. I'm not going to do that to sumone

Dammit, she must be slapped... and your ex friend too.

Or "fortunately".
Were you to do something that assinine, "Getting with" someone for no reason other than to "get even", you'll soon be faced again with either DUMPING the girl you just got with (which is exactly what you got upset about for in the first place), or having her leave you for someone who really loves HER, and not just the idea of revenge.

You've done the intelligent thing in not choosing THAT way. (revenge via best friend)

Good point

Dammit, she must be slapped... and your ex friend too.
Slap her if you want, and he should be shot *cocking of weapon*

situation sucks, but dont let it get you down.
She will dump your friend soon and he will feel even worse because she used him.
There is plenty more tail walking around out there.
The best revenge is living good. Smile and be glad you've lost the two teacherous traitors.

Twisted logic. I like it, but I don't like any of her friends. I know who I do like, and she's with another of my friends. I'm not going to do that to sumone
i dnt blame u, i wudnt do that 2 my friends either. u cud either pull her aside and ask how she cud do this to u or just act like u dnt care and play it cool. anyways, single life can b lots of fun, well i wudnt know coz iv had a gf for 4 years but still im sure its fun

I've been dumped many times, in fact a whole lot more times than me doing the dumping and it SUCKS!

situation sucks, but dont let it get you down.
She will dump your friend soon and he will feel even worse because she used him.
There is plenty more tail walking around out there.
The best revenge is living good. Smile and be glad you've lost the two teacherous traitors.

Girls have tails? Now I am confused

Slap her if you want, and he should be shot *cocking of weapon*

To be quite honest, it's best if you stop wasting precious time and mental energy on someone who's as low as it would seem your ex (and her best-friend for that matter) is.

Focus on being yourself (which I'm pretty sure doesn't involve too much getting-even), and when the right person comes along, give it another shot.

That's not stuff you want to hear at a time like this, but I think it's relevant nonetheless.

A little bit of comedy should heal you too. Hmmm. I wish somewhere along someone made a comedy pill or.. uh, comedy medicine. It would be called:

'Comecine'

Its side effects are hysteria and possible anal leakage.

To be quite honest, it's best if you stop wasting precious time and mental energy on someone who's as low as it would seem your ex (and her best-friend for that matter) is.

Focus on being yourself (which I'm pretty sure doesn't involve too much getting-even), and when the right person comes along, give it another shot.

That's not stuff you want to hear at a time like this, but I think it's relevant nonetheless.
I'll be alrite. I've had plently of help form all my NS and RL friends.

A little bit of comedy should heal you too. Hmmm. I wish somewhere along someone made a comedy pill or.. uh, comedy medicine. It would be called:

'Comecine'

Its side effects are hysteria and possible anal leakage.
anal leakage :( why didnt u tell me that b4 i took the damn pill
GONNA SPEW!!! :eek:

I'll be alrite. I've had plently of help form all my NS and RL friends.

MY GOD. You have real-life friends?
... you are not like us. You must be cast forth from among the online-pure ones.

anal leakage :( why didnt u tell me that b4 i took the damn pill
GONNA SPEW!!! :eek:
NO! NOT ALL OVER MY NICE CLEAN THREAD! (until Tink arrives tht is, lol)

I'll be alrite. I've had plently of help form all my NS and RL friends.
thats good 2 hear man, ull need all the cheering up u can get!!!

anal leakage :( why didnt u tell me that b4 i took the damn pill
GONNA SPEW!!! :eek:

Yea, but dammit... you can laugh again.

MY GOD. You have real-life friends?
... you are not like us. You must be cast forth from among the online-pure ones.

More NS than RL I'll admit. I'm not a complete hermit you know :)

thats good 2 hear man, ull need all the cheering up u can get!!!

It's called British made comedy!

NO! NOT ALL OVER MY NICE CLEAN THREAD! (until Tink arrives tht is, lol)
*takes out cleaning cloth and scrubs thread clean*
sorry guys, damn pill! :headbang:

It's called British made comedy!
bit of the office, blackadder or bottom shud cheer u up!

*takes out cleaning cloth and scrubs thread clean*
sorry guys, damn pill! :headbang:
Yeah, no more pill popping

bit of the office, blackadder or bottom shud cheer u up!
Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, Dads Army... I could keep going. Or Ricky Gervais 'Politics'

*takes out cleaning cloth and scrubs thread clean*
sorry guys, damn pill! :headbang:

Do not worry. After you experience hysteria, a sense of euphoria will replace it. By then you will be asleep.
Oh, uh, I may recommend putting on diapers before doing so.

Blackadder, Fawlty Towers, Dads Army... I could keep going. Or Ricky Gervais 'Politics'
father ted, thats always great, god knows how many times ive watched that dvd

Do not worry. After you experience hysteria, a sense of euphoria will replace it. By then you will be asleep.
Oh, uh, I may recommend putting on diapers before doing so.
iv shat myself clean already thanx to ur dman pill.......grrrrrr :mad:

iv shat myself clean already thanx to ur dman pill.......grrrrrr :mad:

*mass produces the drug and sells throughout the nation*


Excuse me?

What tells me some of you are drifting off topic?

OK, new plan: When you post, tell ur story. Then you will receive numerous sorries and fluffles and whatever from ppl

bottom end of your age range. And I hope you're right

L'il brother...I'm 43, and I've lived through this a number of times. Trust me.

What are your views? Mine are plain - getting dumped sucks!

I got dumped by my g/f less than a week ago, and she's already shacked up with my now ex best friend. How low can you get, really? Does anyone know the answer. Yeah, being single has its perks, but when someone you love leaves you for someone else without a proper explanation, it bites!

Anyway, personal opnions ppl, and any personal expierences

Generally speaking, it does suck to get dumped - although I must say that my own experience in the relationship arena varies. I almost always found it difficult to dump someone else and preferred that they did the dumping first - that is, once it became obvious someone had to do it. In those cases, getting dumped was the best thing that could have happened under the circumstances. The only time I ever found it relatively easy to do the dumping myself was when neither of us really had anything invested in the relationship, and it was clear that the relationship was over and the other person wasn't going to take the lead in that - no matter how much I tried to bring things to a head.

But now that I've been in a solid marriage for over 20 years, looking back on it I'd say that dating in general really sucked and I'd never want to have to go back to that agony again. If anything ever happened to my husband or to our marriage, I think that would pretty much be the end of it for me (as far as romance and dating and all that sort of nonsense is concerned, I mean). I wouldn't want to even consider such a prospect at this stage of my life, especially since all the rules have changed so dramatically since I was young. But maybe that's just me...

What tells me some of you are drifting off topic?

OK, new plan: When you post, tell ur story. Then you will receive numerous sorries and fluffles and whatever from ppl
we were just trying to cheer u up

L'il brother...I'm 43, and I've lived through this a number of times. Trust me.

Gdgd, glad to have the voice of expierence at my back

I've only been dumped once...and I got dumped in the worst way-- IN BED, after a night of dinner, movies and video games. I was clueless. We were together for 6 months and it was, as far as I was concerned, the best relationship I ever had. The ***hole says, "This is something I have to do for myself. Don't be surprised if in 6 months you have a crying puppy at your door, begging you to take him back."

It took me a year to get over that. He never told me why he was breaking up with me...I moved back to my home province a few weeks later, and I get an email from him "Miss you. Wish you were here." Yeah. I sent him an email that didn't even come close to expressing how upset I was, and I haven't spoken to him again.

That was 4 years ago. Just over a year after we broke up, I met the most amazing person. He and I have been together ever since. And, although I spent the first 6 months paranoid that we would break up, I also insisted on extreme open/honest communication. It's paid off-- I have a partner who treats me like gold and we aren't afraid to tell each other anything. :)

I've heard through the grapevine about my ex that shortly after we broke up he got a woman pregnant. He and the woman hate each other now, and he ended up having to sell his precious sports car in order to pay child support. The moral of the story: Karma karma karma.

we were just trying to cheer u up

And ur doing a gd job. Some ppl don't like thread hijacking, and sometimes they report it. I wouldn't but someone else mite

I've only been dumped once...and I got dumped in the worst way-- IN BED, after a night of dinner, movies and video games. I was clueless. We were together for 6 months and it was, as far as I was concerned, the best relationship I ever had. The ***hole says, "This is something I have to do for myself. Don't be surprised if in 6 months you have a crying puppy at your door, begging you to take him back."

It took me a year to get over that. He never told me why he was breaking up with me...I moved back to my home province a few weeks later, and I get an email from him "Miss you. Wish you were here." Yeah. I sent him an email that didn't even come close to expressing how upset I was, and I haven't spoken to him again.

That was 4 years ago. Just over a year after we broke up, I met the most amazing person. He and I have been together ever since. And, although I spent the first 6 months paranoid that we would break up, I also insisted on extreme open/honest communication. It's paid off-- I have a partner who treats me like gold and we aren't afraid to tell each other anything. :)

I've heard through the grapevine about my ex that shortly after we broke up he got a woman pregnant. He and the woman hate each other now, and he ended up having to sell his precious sports car in order to pay child support. The moral of the story: Karma karma karma.
awwww, thats nice :)

I've only been dumped once...and I got dumped in the worst way-- IN BED, after a night of dinner, movies and video games. I was clueless. We were together for 6 months and it was, as far as I was concerned, the best relationship I ever had. The ***hole says, "This is something I have to do for myself. Don't be surprised if in 6 months you have a crying puppy at your door, begging you to take him back."



Wow, that is bad. In bed? At least mine was on my doorstep