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Having seen those close to me on this site and even myself suffering the pain of loneliness lately, I have come up with my list of tips to help those like me cope with this problem before it destroys their sanity. Most of this knowledge was learned by a GCSE I took in psychiatry (I didn't get graded though-the course got cancelled. :mad: )

TIN's loneliness tips:

1. Deep thought. When I am majorly down, I retreat into myself, thinking deeply of unrelated topics that I find amusing. Steer clear of Topics such as death, pain and dying alone, or you will suffer a panic attack like I have on many occasions. With this technique mastered, Deep thought is an easy way to take your mind off troubles. Avoid doing it in public however, as it will be impossible to get your attention.

2. Music. Listen to your fave music. Don't matter wether it is uplifting or depressing music. Focusing on your fave music will also take your mind of your worries. If it is still hard, try doing what I do-Sing along with your music. The Phantom of the Opera is a wonderful thing to sing along with. I suggest you aquire it. :D

3. Escape from reality. Join us on NS and discuss a TOTALLY random topic. Go wild. Release your pain through humor. Why do you think I'm so random? I do it all the time. It certainly makes me feel better. Or if not NS, surf some interesting Viral channels. Those animations are very good for humor.

4. Channel your pain into rage and attack a punching bag or pillow. Get that frustration out of you by beating the hell out of it! Releasing your animal brain into a frenzy will make you feel much better. Do this one only once a week max however, or you may cause yourself high blood preassure, leading to headaches.

5. Think of how many people are worse off than you. When you are feeling so down, remember there are those out there that don't have the luxuries you do, the things you have, or even the food you eat. No matter how lonely you feel, you are still a hell of a lot better off that most over countries. It makes you realise how selfish you really are. In some cases this can have the opposite effect, and make the person feel worse. Only try this one if you are feeling up to it.

6. Write your pain down on Paper. Channel your hate and loathing of this world into a pen and passionately write just how you feel. (I have a ring binder full) This one works much better than you think. It often releases me from my stress, and adding a drawing or two can help as well.

I hope these first tips were helpful. I may add more at some point, and you are welcome to add your own. But try some. You'll be amazed at the effects.

-TIN the randomz0r. Professor of Loneliness. :D

Lies it booze or crying yourself to sleep(not that i did it but i did it last night(didnt really it was the night before(just making it up)))!

I always take a bath. I close my eyes and the running water sooths me. I guess I'm very meditat-able. :)

I do 1, 2, 3, and 6 religiously. I spend an hour in the bathroom because I can think in there without interruption, I listen to music for hours on end, I post here constantly (my post count, damnit!), and I'm currently writing a song about... Something.

There is one Very useful Tip for feeling better, but i'm not sure if the mods would be happy about me posting it here.

Ok, so five is out of the question, as it'll just make me feel worse.
As for six, I tend to not do it, as writing stuff down inevitably leads to losing it, and I have no wish for any random person to pick it up and read my problems.
I used to punch pillows, but realised it doesn't actually do much except make my temper worse.
As for three, I don't have much imagination for stuff like that, and I don't find virals all that funny:(
However one and two definitely work for that. Also, instead of punching pillows, find something more interesting to beat the crap out of, such as a tennis ball.

I use Humour on NS well attempted Humour
If im in a good mood i make fun of others if im in a bad one i make fun of myself!
Making fun of=Putdown.

I listen to sad songs. It helps me to feel levels of lonliness/sadness/etc and so I can better understand myself as well as others. I hope. Right now I've been listening to my immortal over and over again. I probably shouldn't be since it's too personal with things that are happening at the moment. :)

Ok, so five is out of the question, as it'll just make me feel worse.
As for six, I tend to not do it, as writing stuff down inevitably leads to losing it, and I have no wish for any random person to pick it up and read my problems.
I used to punch pillows, but realised it doesn't actually do much except make my temper worse.
As for three, I don't have much imagination for stuff like that, and I don't find virals all that funny:(
However one and two definitely work for that. Also, instead of punching pillows, find something more interesting to beat the crap out of, such as a tennis ball.

As I said, the required therapy can differ from person to person. And I might just try attacking a tennis ball... :D

There is one Very useful Tip for feeling better, but i'm not sure if the mods would be happy about me posting it here.

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Porn?

I just spoke to a certain somebody and that cheered me up when i was feeling down yesterday

Use a tennis racket, its a lot of fun.
Also, I find RPing can be good. You can RP something about your life. (like you suggested in #6, except if anyone asks, you can tell them its just fiction;))

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Porn?

No... I was thinking more of left hand typing. :D

It's true. Masturbation can make you feel much more relieved. I hope this isn't too shocking, but it is a fact I learned whilst on my course.

No... I was thinking more of left hand typing. :D

It's true. Masturbation can make you feel much more relieved. I hope this isn't too shocking, but it is a fact I learned whilst on my course.
What are you going to college for Tin?

EDIT: Using a tennis ball can be similar to using... :eek:

No... I was thinking more of left hand typing. :D

It's true. Masturbation can make you feel much more relieved. I hope this isn't too shocking, but it is a fact I learned whilst on my course.

:p Well, one leads to a desire for the other, right?

I could of course take this opportunity to make everyone jealous with an advantage of being left handed, but I probably should save this thread from going down that sort of path. :p

I do mostly 1-5. But It's usually for frustration or slight depressed rather than loneliness. I'm probably very rarely feel lonely though.

But I find usually.. It helps alot especially if you think about things.. by dividing it into 'what you can do about' and 'what you can't'. Somethings you have totally no control over.. best not bother harbour too much emotion into it.

:p Well, one leads to a desire for the other, right?

I could of course take this opportunity to make everyone jealous with an advantage of being left handed, but I probably should save this thread from going down that sort of path. :p

Well whatever. It's serious advice. :D

From what I understand, achieving orgasm released chemicals into the brain that soothe any mental anguish or pain. :D

Me, I find it hard to express my emotions, specifically sadness. I'm such a friggin ice ball!

Right now, there is one girl on NS that I really like, but it seems that she'd rather be with someone else than with me, and it's causing my depression to sink to new lows, low enough that I should be weeping, but for some reason, I just can't seem to weep, and I need to weep. I haven't done so in over a year or something. Any advice?

Me, I find it hard to express my emotions, specifically sadness. I'm such a friggin ice ball!

Right now, there is one girl on NS that I really like, but it seems that she'd rather be with someone else than with me, and it's causing my depression to sink to new lows, low enough that I should be weeping, but for some reason, I just can't seem to weep, and I need to weep. I haven't done so in over a year or something. Any advice?

Don't let such a thing get you down. 9 out of 10 Internet relationships never get off the ground anyway. I suggest that you follow some of my tips. It will take your mind off of some of the problems you have.

I've had similar problems in the past, but I saw how silly I can be and calmed down. Currently i'm pursuing a relationship with a co-worker, but I can't seem to find her. :D

Me, I find it hard to express my emotions, specifically sadness. I'm such a friggin ice ball!

Right now, there is one girl on NS that I really like, but it seems that she'd rather be with someone else than with me, and it's causing my depression to sink to new lows, low enough that I should be weeping, but for some reason, I just can't seem to weep, and I need to weep. I haven't done so in over a year or something. Any advice?

Stalk her home today.... and kill her dog :D Thats what my friend did. He was crazy. Don't do what he did. He's crazy. I wish I never knew him. But I did, and all I can say that he was crazy.

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Ok realistically.. There's either the battle to win her over, or you can just forget about her.

:p Well, one leads to a desire for the other, right?

I could of course take this opportunity to make everyone jealous with an advantage of being left handed, but I probably should save this thread from going down that sort of path. :p

Choice, I'm left handed too. We're clearly superior thanks to our aforementioned advantages. :D

Me, I find it hard to express my emotions, specifically sadness. I'm such a friggin ice ball!

Right now, there is one girl on NS that I really like, but it seems that she'd rather be with someone else than with me, and it's causing my depression to sink to new lows, low enough that I should be weeping, but for some reason, I just can't seem to weep, and I need to weep. I haven't done so in over a year or something. Any advice?who's the lucky lady?

Stalk her home today.... and kill her dog :D Thats what my friend did. He was crazy. Don't do what he did. He's crazy. I wish I never knew him. But I did, and all I can say that he was crazy.

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Ok realistically.. There's either the battle to win her over, or you can just forget about her.
Battle?

Oh, god. I hate battles... :(

Oh well. I can always go by my national motto, "If you can't beat 'em, nuke 'em." :D

who's the lucky lady?
Bitchkitten's the girl I've got the hots for.

Bitchkitten's the girl I've got the hots for.
Thanks, now if you'll excuse me, I'm just off to send that post link to Bitchkitten in a TG.:p (I really will!)

Stalk her home today.... and kill her dog :D Thats what my friend did. He was crazy. Don't do what he did. He's crazy. I wish I never knew him. But I did, and all I can say that he was crazy.

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Ok realistically.. There's either the battle to win her over, or you can just forget about her.

Don't kill Colin! Oops! I didn't say that. :eek:

Thanks, now if you'll excuse me, I'm just off to send that post link to Bitchkitten in a TG.:p (I really will!)
You can go ahead, but I checked her nation earlier, she hasn't been on it in 3 days, and probably won't see the tg until maybe 3 more days or until you place a post somewhere under her post saying that you've sent a TG.

:p

Hehe. BK's on right now. :)

I'm going to be so BORED during easter! What the hell am I going to do?

Hehe. BK's on right now. :)
TPE, I believe the phrase you are looking for is "pwned":p

Hehe. BK's on right now. :)
Yeah, she is, but her NATION hasn't been active in 3 days ;)

Just link her to this pic ;)

http://spaam.cheekysod.com/evidence.jpg

Just link her to this pic ;)

http://spaam.cheekysod.com/evidence.jpg
:eek:
Wow, and I thought I was evil!

TPE, I believe the phrase you are looking for is "pwned":p
Nope. Check her nation on NS. :p it's been 3 days since she last checked her TG's :p

@spaam
NOW you've pwned me! :D

Nope. Check her nation on NS. :p it's been 3 days since she last checked her TG's :p

@spaam
NOW you've pwned me! :D
You don't survive 2 years on NS without being able to pwn ppl when necessary ;)

You don't survive 2 years on NS without being able to pwn ppl when necessary ;)

Well, you'll never pwn me. Neither will anyone else for that matter. Be aware that I have a katana. ;)

Well, you'll never pwn me. Neither will anyone else for that matter. Be aware that I have a katana. ;)
And just how powerful IS your katana?

*Pulls out a chronobomb*
This baby can blast half the north american continent to kingom come! :p

You don't survive 2 years on NS without being able to pwn ppl when necessary ;)
However, evil needs an assistant, and thats where I come in.

*goes to start thread with Spaams link*

Well, you'll never pwn me. Neither will anyone else for that matter. Be aware that I have a katana. ;)
Heh... how sure of themselves these young ones are ;)

:p Well, one leads to a desire for the other, right?

I could of course take this opportunity to make everyone jealous with an advantage of being left handed, but I probably should save this thread from going down that sort of path. :p
Left Handers rule!!!