Parents of NS
Keruvalia
22-03-2005, 06:04
Okie ...
This is directed to only the parents of NS. If you're just a kid, well, don't even worry about this question.
Every single one of us lives in a land of plenty. I can assume that because if you're reading this message, you're living in a place where the internet is available to you and, therefore, food is not your primary worry.
Anyway, is depriving a child of a meal an adequate punishment.
For example, if you tell your kid that if he/she doesn't do what you've told them to do, you'll make them go to bed without dinner. Is depriving that child of a single meal a true punishment? Is it "cruel and unusual"?
Discuss!
Niccolo Medici
22-03-2005, 06:21
Okie ...
This is directed to only the parents of NS. If you're just a kid, well, don't even worry about this question.
Every single one of us lives in a land of plenty. I can assume that because if you're reading this message, you're living in a place where the internet is available to you and, therefore, food is not your primary worry.
Anyway, is depriving a child of a meal an adequate punishment.
For example, if you tell your kid that if he/she doesn't do what you've told them to do, you'll make them go to bed without dinner. Is depriving that child of a single meal a true punishment? Is it "cruel and unusual"?
Discuss!
While not particularly unusual nor cruel, it simply isn't a good idea. Kids need food to grow; while not getting one meal won't hurt them much it sets a bad precedent for them. Eating habits should be healthy and regular, not subject to restraint as a "punishment."
I've also seen some indications that its not altogether healthy to reward kids with candy or other less-than healthy treats because it skews their perception of what is "good" to eat.
Anyway, do what you think is best for your kids. I find that children can be discplined a number of different ways, depending on the personality of the kid.
Marrakech II
22-03-2005, 07:05
Food is not the punishment I choose for them. Although my parents did that trick to me and my brothers, sister. Didn't work.
What I do and rarely at that. Is take away a high value item from them. What I mean is the xbox. No computer. Watching TV. Even a couple of times restriction to the house. It actually is highly effective. Although my kids know I don't put up with much crap. So I don't get alot of it. Normally mom takes the brunt of the bad behavior. Sometimes I have to straighten it out. But overall just taking away there favorite item. Yes I do believe in spanking for the worst offenders. Although can't remember last time I had to do that. Been awhile...
My thoughts are - no it is absolutely the wrong thing to do. Not that missing a meal will truely harm a basically healthy child. Like Nicolo said:
Eating habits should be healthy and regular, not subject to restraint as a "punishment."
Taking 'high value' items away - what Marrakech II said - it's much more effective
just my .02
Food is not the punishment I choose for them. Although my parents did that trick to me and my brothers, sister. Didn't work.
What I do and rarely at that. Is take away a high value item from them Couldn't agree more. If that doesn't work, you can pile on the most disagreeable chores you can think of . . . cleaning the bathroom might be a start.