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Ladies I need your opinion!

Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:24
I've decided that I'm going to do something very random for my girlfriend. I can't decide wether to take her to this new poetry club and perform a poem about her live on stage, or take her to a jewelry store and buy the biggest most shiney freakin thing I can afford.

Women of Nationstates, I would like to know what you would prefer and also why you would prefer it. Thanks in advance for the help.
Helioterra
21-03-2005, 10:31
Poetry. Doing something is always better than buying something.
Bitchkitten
21-03-2005, 10:33
I'd go for the first one. Shiny stuff as an expression of love is overrated. I always told my ex I'd rather have a kitten.
Bodies Without Organs
21-03-2005, 10:33
I've decided that I'm going to do something very random for my girlfriend.

What is it with this strange new use of the word 'random' here? Can someone with their finger more firmly on the pulse of the younger generation explain it to me.
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:36
You see, she's not the demanding type. She hardly EVER asks for anything and I don't think she has as much as she deserves. I agree that actions of love speak more loudly than purchasing an item, however there is no doubt in my mind she deserves the item. Now, I could do both but she'd probably get a bit uneasy with me giving her so much. She's the really caring type of person that would give her shoes to a homeless person who needs them.
Bitchkitten
21-03-2005, 10:38
Cool. I like your girlfriend too. I hope you do well together.
Kellarly
21-03-2005, 10:39
I can't decide wether to take her to this new poetry club and perform a poem about her live on stage.

Just out of curiosity...what poem would you do?
Greedy Pig
21-03-2005, 10:40
] She's the really caring type of person that would give her shoes to a homeless person who needs them.

She could use a pair of shoes.
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:40
Just out of curiosity...what poem would you do?

Well, I wrote one for her. I would let you read it if you are interested.
Helioterra
21-03-2005, 10:41
You see, she's not the demanding type. She hardly EVER asks for anything and I don't think she has as much as she deserves. I agree that actions of love speak more loudly than purchasing an item, however there is no doubt in my mind she deserves the item. Now, I could do both but she'd probably get a bit uneasy with me giving her so much. She's the really caring type of person that would give her shoes to a homeless person who needs them.
I know an expensive jewelry would make me feel uneasy. Especially as I don't value useless items. If you want to spend your money on her could you buy something she really wants but would never buy herself?
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:42
I know an expensive jewelry would make me feel uneasy. Especially as I don't value useless items. If you want to spend your money on her could you buy something she really wants but would never buy herself?

She never really talks about anything she wants. Unless it's food or Bubble Tea lol.
Kellarly
21-03-2005, 10:43
Well, I wrote one for her. I would let you read it if you are interested.

Go ahead and post it...I did something like that once...but not at a club, just for her. I have to confess, it wasn't totally original...i nicked lines from lots of different places, but its better to sound eloquent than write a really bad poem...well in my case anyways! :D
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:44
Go ahead and post it...I did something like that once...but not at a club, just for her. I have to confess, it wasn't totally original...i nicked lines from lots of different places, but its better to sound eloquent than write a really bad poem...well in my case anyways! :D

Alrighty let me type this mug up. :D
Witchety
21-03-2005, 10:45
My now Husband wrote two poems for me when we were first together, and when I first read them I cried, it was such a touching moment to think he had spent his time and efforts to write something that was just for me. And it's always a good thing to be able to express your feelings to your girlfriend. I still have them tucked away safely, and if ever I feel down I can read these and know that at least someone loves me for who I am, and it still gives me a warm glowing feeling inside, and makes me remember why we fell in love in the first place.

I'd say go for the poetry, and buy her something little that she will appriciate far more than just the biggest and most expensive thing that you can afford. :)
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:52
Say, baby... can I be Your slave? I've got to admit girl you're the shit girl and I'm digging you like a grave. If the love I feel for you is an everlasting tradgety I would never repent, to sacrifice my soul is nothing I would prevent. Talk that talk, honey. Walk that walk, money. High on legs that'll spite Jehovah. Shit. Who I am is not important, but who you are is all I know of. And right now I'm the blues in yourleft thigh trying to become the funk in your right. Who am I? I'll be whoever you say? But right now I'm the sight-raped hunter... blindly pursuing you as my prey. And I just want to give you injections... of sublime erections... and get you to dance to my rhythm... make you dream archetypes... of black angels in flight... upon wings of distorted, contorted... metaphoric jizm. When I dream at night and gaze into your heavenly eyes with forever time, there's no doubt in my mind that you and I are the ultimate devine. Caress my kisses with your thoughts as I lay down a rythm for our bodies to dance in the sublime moonlight of our destiny.
Who am I? I'm yours eternally, and what we give each other is better than what any currency can buy.
Kejott
21-03-2005, 10:56
I hope that's at least an entertaining poem.
Preebles
21-03-2005, 10:59
Poetry. Doing something is always better than buying something.
I agree. I'm sick of hearing people saying "I bought my bf/gf something from Tiffany's/Burberry/Gucci." Thought is definitely better.
Bastetania
21-03-2005, 11:03
Don't take this the wrong way, but give her that poem in private.
You should do something for her, my boyfriend always makes the mistake of buying things for me and it just feels like he's buying me. Which is a bit sad really.
I always say love is in the details- in the tiny things that we can do for each other. It's the suprise 'I love you' note they find under their pillow, a hug for just being there.
Hope you do something lovely together. :)
Kejott
21-03-2005, 11:05
Don't take this the wrong way, but give her that poem in private.
You should do something for her, my boyfriend always makes the mistake of buying things for me and it just feels like he's buying me. Which is a bit sad really.
I always say love is in the details- in the tiny things that we can do for each other. It's the suprise 'I love you' note they find under their pillow, a hug for just being there.
Hope you do something lovely together. :)

This isn't the first poem I've written for her, I have given her at least 40-50 of them. I just want to get the feeling that I am not afraid or even bothered to announce my love for her loudly and proudly in a public place. I think she might get a kick out of it too.
Preebles
21-03-2005, 11:07
This isn't the first poem I've written for her, I have given her at least 40-50 of them. I just want to get the feeling that I am not afraid or even bothered to announce my love for her loudly and proudly in a public place. I think she might get a kick out of it too.
I thought the poem was cool, it would work really well as spoken word too! Good job. And it would be fun to make it a bit theatrical maybe?
Mythotic Kelkia
21-03-2005, 11:07
What is it with this strange new use of the word 'random' here? Can someone with their finger more firmly on the pulse of the younger generation explain it to me.


It's used to mean something approximating: surreal, unexpected, odd, surprising, incongruous.
Kejott
21-03-2005, 11:07
I thought the poem was cool, it would work really well as spoken word too! Good job. And it would be fun to make it a bit theatrical maybe?

Why thank you. I'm going for the beatnick approach with maybe a sax and bongo backup lol. That might work to set the mood.
Bastetania
21-03-2005, 11:11
This isn't the first poem I've written for her, I have given her at least 40-50 of them. I just want to get the feeling that I am not afraid or even bothered to announce my love for her loudly and proudly in a public place. I think she might get a kick out of it too.

Then go for it! It's really great that you want to do that for her. :D I would be incredibly moved if someone wanted to tell the world they loved me like that. :)
Kejott
21-03-2005, 11:18
Then go for it! It's really great that you want to do that for her. :D I would be incredibly moved if someone wanted to tell the world they loved me like that. :)

I hope you do find somebody like that! Chances are you will! :D
E Blackadder
21-03-2005, 12:53
I've decided that I'm going to do something very random for my girlfriend. I can't decide wether to take her to this new poetry club and perform a poem about her live on stage, or take her to a jewelry store and buy the biggest most shiney freakin thing I can afford.

Women of Nationstates, I would like to know what you would prefer and also why you would prefer it. Thanks in advance for the help.

ok i am a bloke but my mate [ns]flashheart's girl is in belgium and when she gets back he is going to do something really random for her to...his plan is for me to take the two of them up in a cessna (i am getting my license) for them to have lunch up their.
how is that?
Unistate
21-03-2005, 13:42
Don't take this the wrong way, but give her that poem in private.
You should do something for her, my boyfriend always makes the mistake of buying things for me and it just feels like he's buying me. Which is a bit sad really.
I always say love is in the details- in the tiny things that we can do for each other. It's the suprise 'I love you' note they find under their pillow, a hug for just being there.
Hope you do something lovely together. :)

Us guys often (Ok, I personally) feel inadequte with what we do. It's rare that I subscribe to the media ideas of anything, but in the instance of love, I do. I don't know what else to do. I've written a few songs and poems for my sweetheart, and I know they're far more important than anything I could have ever bought for her, but I can't write very many poems or songs. Mostly they suck. And I don't feel like I'm doing right by her if I don't. Of course, the fact that she feels like you on the matter doesn't help a lot :p

I'd say go with the poems while you can. They are indeed more important and powerful than any rock you could get, so use the gift you have!
Chahles
21-03-2005, 14:33
Am I the only miserably insensitive girl here who would hate getting a "I wuv you pookiewookiesnookums" poem? Well, that and/or jewelery.
I suck at being a girl. Give me a hug, tell me you love me, and be there for me. No more needed.
Bellesalona
21-03-2005, 14:55
Uhhhh..........the poem? My opinion, giver her the poem in private. Just my opinion, the poem is a bit too personal for public. Why not get her something shiny and the poem. YOu don't have to go all out with how much you spend either. Good Luck!
Ice Earth
21-03-2005, 15:27
My advice is to go with your heart, You know her better then anyone else so you know whats best. If your confused do what everyone else does

WHAT WOULD I LIKE TO GET?

If you follow your heart (as corny as it sounds) you cant really go wrong
Great Scotia
21-03-2005, 15:42
It would work if it was a good poem. And you don't go pointing her out to everyone with a huge spotlight or something.

But you, presumably, know her better than anyone here.

I'm with Bastetania (cool name btw) on the little detail things. I've got some really cool presents off of the bf before, but the thing I appreciate is that he thought about it, that he remembered my once saying I'd love a pair of Frog Wellies and then tracking some down. Sorry, just had to slip that in. I have frog wellies, yay!