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Hello everyone, i'l like advice please.

I have been with by Boyfriend for 2 and a half years and i do love him so much every so often i can't help but think that... i'm setting down too early, im 22 and only been with him and 1 other bloke. I mean every so ofter i would like the chance to well play the field.... have a but of fun (if you know what i mean) have some more experience before i spend the rest of my life with this man, which is what i want to do. so i want your advice. Can you meet Mr/ Miss Right too early? :confused:
If you want to know just ask.

Thank you.
:)

dude, if there is noone better that you know of what reason do you have not to fully throw yourself into a relationship?
there is nothing more beautiful imho than 2 loving people in a monogamous relationship.
And if you do find someone more appropriate later on then you havent actually wasted anything by being commited to ur bf

It's simple: open relationship.

Agree with one night stands with other people.

But you have to have a confident relationship for this.

dude, if there is noone better that you know of what reason do you have not to fully throw yourself into a relationship?
there is nothing more beautiful imho than 2 loving people in a monogamous relationship.
And if you do find someone more appropriate later on then you havent actually wasted anything by being commited to ur bf

and the strange thing is I know you are right and it is silly when i have some so special...... it is just a fear and i know it sound corny but the fear rearly does fade away from me when im near him.

i hope so.

Meeting the right one too soon? Really, in the end, it depends on the circumstances...

Aesop dealt with this, didn't he?

Here's the thing-there isn't a magic number, fifth guy you date is the one, third guy to give you roses on the second date is the one, etc. Sometimes you roll seven on the first toss and win.

Here's your counter scenario-he was it and you ditched it out to find out if there was something better. Ride it out. There's no rush to do anything really.

I think it's possible to meet them too late. I met the greatest in the world for me after she was engaged. And I like her husband (they are long since married with kids). That sucks ass. Well, not really-I still get to know her and haven't had to grow up. Muhaha. Back to my PS2 game at 4am cause I got no kids...

Yes... you can...

And I don't know how you deal with it properly...

Yes... you can...

And I don't know how you deal with it properly...

Suicide, perhaps?

Hello everyone, i'l like advice please.

I have been with by Boyfriend for 2 and a half years and i do love him so much every so often i can't help but think that... i'm setting down too early, im 22 and only been with him and 1 other bloke. I mean every so ofter i would like the chance to well play the field.... have a but of fun (if you know what i mean) have some more experience before i spend the rest of my life with this man, which is what i want to do. so i want your advice. Can you meet Mr/ Miss Right too early? :confused:
If you want to know just ask.

Thank you.
:)
Well I'm 20, and I've met the guy I'm going to spent the rest of my life with, so I guess that tells you where I stand on the issue. :p If tit's right it's right; I mean, you can't ask them to wait...

But of course you have to be sure, or at least as sure as you can be.

*is useless for advice*

Nothing wrong with that IMO. Maybe it's Asian culture for ppl to marry earlier and stuff.. Anywayz..

Firstly I don't believe in having a Mr/Mrs Right. There's alot of other great guys in the world. I recommend you explore abit more before you settle down. But eventually you'll have to choose.

But make sure you build your relationship strongly, especially when it comes to marraige, strongly on the grounds of respect. That he respects you alot, and you the same to him though each others weaknesses.

It seems like you know the person well enough to marry. But to answer you question, yes it is definately a possiblility, and the divorse rates seem to support it.

People should be ABSOLUTELY sure before they make a commitment like marriage. But if you''ve known this person for over two years, I think you may be ready.

My advice is
1) Ignore harken's advice.
2) Either tell yourself that spending the rest of your life with "the one" is worth missing out on a few years of playing the field and sleeping with a guys who won't end up caring much about you; or
3) Tell yourself that sleeping with a few guys who won't end up caring much about you is worth giving up a life with "the one."

Of course I wouldn't be surprised if it turns out within the next year "Mr. Right" isn't so Mr. Right anymore.