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Well, my bf and I have been going through a rough patch lately.
I've also been going through a really shitty couple weeks at school lately and I wrote my last midterm on Thursday and deceided I could relax a little.

I had been planning on going home until my mom informed me that my dad coudln't give me a ride home and I don't have enough clean clothes to make it through a weekend without doing laundry, so I'm not about to haul a huge laundry bag on the bus.

Plus when I got home I was just feeling shitty and like I wanted to be left alone. My boyfriend wanted me to come down to his house, but with the fighting, I didn't want to get stuck there if things didn't work out, nor would I get any work done (and I need to get some work done over the weekend) adn really, I just wasn't feeling up to dealing with anything, let alone relationship troubles.

So instead I stayed here, I went for a walk and then I went to a friend's to play some poker.

I get home and he's upset at me for going out (he went out too), but I really needed some time to relax... like, this is the first time I've hung out with any of my friends in so damn long I can't even remember. I seriously haven't had a social life for the past month, really, outside of my family and my boyfriend. He also accused me of wanting to see someone else..

And I realize that perhaps I should have been nicer earlier in the day, but he wasn't being particularly nice to me and I was in a shitty mood.

Do you think I made the right decision in staying here and getting to relax a bit, or do you think I should have gone to his house?

He has no reason to be such a tool.

He should have been a touch more understanding. Though, you might have also played a role in irritating him. Explain to him why you wanted to hang with friends instead and remind him that your feelings haven't changed etc...

He's acting like a jerk. So what if you wanna be alone for once?

Well, we haven't seen each other for a couple weeks. I am going home next week for Easter holidays though, so it's a whole difference of 6 days.

Explain to him how you wanting to be alone for a while is not a poor reflection on him. I.E. I'd rather be alone than with you.

I tried telling him that. I told him that I just have had too many things going on recently that I haven't had time to think really.

I mean, he is part of the reason I haven't had time to think or anything. It's pretty much been do school work, fight with boyfriend, sleep and occasionally work for a while.

Tell him that since oyu were so tired and stressed out that you figured that you probably wouldn't be good company that day.. which is probably true, yes?

Yes, it is true. Especially since we would have been sorting through our relationship problems at a time when I just need to relax.

If playing poker with friends is wrong, I don't ever want to be right.

It's a little ridiculous for him to get mad at you for hanging out with your friends. It would be one thing if you were going out on a bunch of dates, but playing cards with friends is hardly something to get upset over. He sounds like he's afraid of losing you, so he's getting paranoid and inventing things in his head. Give him some time to clear up.

Oh, and I'll dedicate my 11,111th post to the hope that you and he work everything out and live a long and happy life together. :)

Oh, my god. Not enough clean clothes to make it through the weekend without doing laundry?? You'd better hit the malls and use the credit card, girl.

My advice? Don't worry about it too much. Guys are pretty similar alltogether, and odds are he's just going to forget it happened after a few words tomorrow. In the mean time, relax and have some time to yourself.

You needed a little relax time. Given how you describe the current state of affairs, hanging with your bf was not going to do it. Also given his reaction, I wonder why you don't just dump him.