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I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?

Cold hard cash.

I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?
Phone calls and email come to mind. If it means that much to you make in your schedule to accomodate hers.

Pray.
Get her email address,
Don't get your hopes up.

But I'm just bitter from when a similar thing happened to me :(

Invite her out for a drink (if you're of age) or to play pool or something.

Find out when she's free and then go and have fun.

I too need to tdevelop more friendships that involve social interaction outside of school, but I don't have time for that now as school is being shitty.

Phone calls and email come to mind. If it means that much to you make in your schedule to accomodate hers.
Oh, I can. It's just that I don't want to seem overbearing or anything...people don't typically mind if someone just calls you?

Oh, I can. It's just that I don't want to seem overbearing or anything...people don't typically mind if someone just calls you?
Dude, that's what the phone's for. If she's too busy to talk she'll tell you. I haven't met a girl yet who didn't appreciate a phone call.

She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?

So what is she busy doing? Get yourself involved in doing the same things if possible. If not the same thing, then in the same place. Be there to be encountered, to bump into etc.

Cold hard cash.
Keru, I don't think he meant that kind of 'augment to their relationship'...
Or did he?

:D

So what is she busy doing? Get yourself involved in doing the same things if possible. If not the same thing, then in the same place. Be there to be encountered, to bump into etc.
A significant portion is work. Kind of hard there. But I may look into that.

I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?
Dumb question - are you the same sex or different? In either case does this involve romantic interest?

If no romance then simply say "We so have to keep in touch this summer? Can I call you? It'd be great to get together and terrorize the (mall, movies, ballpark, crack house, etc)

If romance - take her to sushi and feed her lots of oysters. LOTS. Then go hot-tubbin.

Ever tried:

"we ought to go [insert whatever activity you like here] sometime"

I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?
ditto for me dude, but replace school with year at uni (won't be sharing modules next year) and 'she's too busy' with 'has a boyfriend' :headbang:

Ever tried:

"we ought to go [insert whatever activity you like here] sometime"
Yes. In fact, she said that we should. But her schedual and memory kind of made that never happen...

Yes. In fact, she said that we should. But her schedual and memory kind of made that never happen...


You need to take the initiative as soon as possible.

Rather than wait for her to include you in her activities, include her in yours perhaps. Also make sure you have a way of contacting her (Email or Phone or something).

I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?

Email... phone... u could introduce her to NS

Or you could arrange something so that say a group of your and her friends go some place together... or just you and her and your friends...

if u don't want it to be any more than friends or atleast not yet then make that clear to her cos girls get confused easy bout that stuff

E-mail
Phone
Friendster
MSN/Yahoo Messenger.. etc

I have tons of friends who are now overseas and I'm still stuck here because I don't have the money currently to travel and study overseas as of yet.

But i still keep in touch with most of them via internet.

The Internet's great. You should try it someday.

Friendster
What is that?

What is that?

www.friendster.com

It's one of those websites.. where you get an account and log on. And you get to see your friend.. Your friends friends.. your friends friends friends. If they all have an account.

Like my account.. I am connected to 300k people. Though I have only 100+ actual friends.

Good programme for finding old long time lost friends.

'Special' brownies.














Well, that'd work on me, anyway.....

Dude, that's what the phone's for. If she's too busy to talk she'll tell you. I haven't met a girl yet who didn't appreciate a phone call.
*raises hand*
I don't really like the phone much...



Really fun things to do:
bowling, laser quest, ice-cream parlours and crazy-golf. Do things in groups, so if she drops out last minute you can tell her about it and she'll see all the fun she missed - she might make a better effort next time.

I've been wondering how it is that I can bring myself and another person closer together. I really enjoy being around her, and she has to be one of the most interesting people I've ever known or ever will know. However, our camaraderie does not extend outside of school, and she will be leaving my school soon. I am starting to get worried, since a severence of our relationship would probably leave me unhappy, to say the least, and I only have several more months to do this. She has shown interest in including me in her extracurricular time, but she is a pretty busy person, and it just hasn't happened.

Does anyone know any ways I could solve this?

E-Mail
Phone Number
MSN Messenger
Skype

Other...
Coffee House
Rent a Video
Go to the Movies
Take a Drive One Day
Study Together
Clubs in School
Bars/Clubs on a Weekend
Private Home Party With a Few Friends and Her
Common Hobby's
Text Messeges - As a last resort!
Stand-Up Comedy Show
Watch the TV Togeter on a Weekend
Meet at the Library
Go to a Dance Together-And Dance With Her Man


Just slip it into one of your conversations at the school one day.

Hope this helps, good luck! :)

Skype
What's that, as well?

Go to a Dance Together-And Dance With Her Man
What if I have no clue of how to dance whatsoever?

Thanks for the advice though. Basically just reaffirming what I already know I need to do. However, the biggest problem outside of her working 5 days a week 'til midnight is that we don't live very close to each other, and I have no car.

Eh, I just have to kind of take more of a stand in getting with her outside of school. Though I don't want it to seem like I'm hitting on her or stalking her or any of that. Sure, I wouldn't be adverse to a romantic relationship with her, but she has a perfectly fine boyfriend right now. Now all that's left is to do it!