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What would you do if you ind out that your son is gay?

Godforbidit
08-03-2005, 21:04
I would send him to the army
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 21:09
...and that would accomplish? :confused:
Ubiqtorate
08-03-2005, 21:09
Are you suggesting that there is anyhting wrong with being gay? Be careful how you do that here. Any intervention by religion or morality into selfish hedonism is strictly condemned in the forums.
Sorry, I have a cynical side.
That said, it's his choice. My own beliefs have nothing to do with it, regardelss of whther I agree or disagree.
Scouserlande
08-03-2005, 21:10
...and that would accomplish? :confused:
Give him lots of male friends to play with
Haken Rider
08-03-2005, 21:10
Meh.
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 21:12
Are you suggesting that there is anyhting wrong with being gay? Be careful how you do that here. Any intervention by religion or morality into selfish hedonism is strictly condemned in the forums.
Sorry, I have a cynical side.
That said, it's his choice. My own beliefs have nothing to do with it, regardelss of whther I agree or disagree.
Mainly because that "intervention" invites the scorn and contempt it deserves. :D
Manawskistan
08-03-2005, 21:12
I would send him to the army
If he were smart, he'd tell his CO and he'd be right back at your house.

Good Strategy.

I guess I would shrug, and demand that my daughter(s) or other sons carry on my name ;)
Drunk commies
08-03-2005, 21:14
I'd support my hypothetical gay son like before, and probably feel a little uncomfortable. Some Tequila and beer will help with the latter.
Whispering Legs
08-03-2005, 21:15
I would send him to the army
One of my sons is gay.

So?
Scouserlande
08-03-2005, 21:16
One of my sons is gay.

So?

Dont you know, facisism is in this season
Incenjucarania
08-03-2005, 21:16
I would be frightened.

Because it would mean someone snuck in in the middle of the night and sucked my sperm out.

:eek: :(
Lacadaemon II
08-03-2005, 21:17
Didn't we have this thread already?

I am sure we did, becuase I remember starting a "what would you do if one of your children turned out to be french" thread and Myrth completely - as usual - failing to see the humor in it?
Ubiqtorate
08-03-2005, 21:17
Mainly because that "intervention" invites the scorn and contempt it deserves. :D

And now you understand why the United States recieves so much scorn and contempt over Iraq. :D
CelebrityFrogs
08-03-2005, 21:17
if I ound out my son was gay, I wouldn't mind. as long as they were over 16 or whatever the age limit is!!!
UpwardThrust
08-03-2005, 21:20
I would send him to the army
That would do what?

I would suport him like any child I someday may have
Bolol
08-03-2005, 21:21
I'm uncertain, not being a parent.

Well, I'm guessing that I'd be surprised, like any parent would, maybe a little bit uncomfortable for a while. But, I'd most certainly accept it in the end. I mean...who am I to judge whom he loves?
Potaria
08-03-2005, 21:21
I don't see what the big deal is.

I wouldn't do anything.
MuhOre
08-03-2005, 21:21
Send him to a psychiatrist, blah blah... i think theres already 2 different threads like this, going on.
Godforbidit
08-03-2005, 21:22
Give him lots of male friends to play with
exactly (see, I'm a good father)
Prosophia
08-03-2005, 21:23
Well, I think it'd be pretty stellar to have a son (or daughter) who is gay - don't all parents want their children to be happy?

Unless by "gay" you mean "homosexual," in which case I guess I'd worry... about what kind of treatment he'd have from people who are intolerant of non-heterosexuals, or whether he'd live a happy life if he felt like he should conceal who his partners are. But other than that, I wouldn't think it would affect my hypothetical relationship with this hypothetical son.
Frangland
08-03-2005, 21:23
yes, one of my fraternity brothers got all drunk and decided that since none of the females at the party would kiss him, that he would kiss me. Rarely have I been so revolted but, hey, he's my bro. lol
HadesRulesMuch
08-03-2005, 21:25
Hmm. Assuming he still lived at home, I'd make him wear a dress every day to school until he graduated. That's how my Dad prevented me from getting my ears pierced while I was at home you see. I didn't want to wear that dress. Oh, and every Christmas I'd get him matching fluffy pink thongs. And on his birthday I'd put signs up in the yard that said "Hey! My queer son just turned <insert age>!" Then, I'd send him to military school, while still wearing that dress. Assuming he hadn't changed his mind already. Since I know quite a few people who were "gay" for about 3 or 4 years, and then went straight, I'm aware it can happen. Strange, apparently even though they have no choice, it goes away!


I guess this post makes me a fascist now? Hmm. I guess I oughta go kill some Jews. I mean, if I'm grouped in with Hitler already, then I suppose it makes no difference. Of course, if it goes like that, then the person who just called me and those who think like me fascists is actually a draft-dodging hippie drug addict, and I suppose his opinion isn't that reliable...

/me winks at Scouserlande
Haxorzz
08-03-2005, 21:26
I'd make use of his impecable fashion sence to coordinate my wardrobe. :)
Jester III
08-03-2005, 21:26
He would be in a lot of trouble if he turns into a racist or otherwise despicable being, but gay is ok.
Godforbidit
08-03-2005, 21:27
I would send him to the army
Forget it. I'll just send him to a shrink
Bolol
08-03-2005, 21:28
Hmm. Assuming he still lived at home, I'd make him wear a dress every day to school until he graduated. That's how my Dad prevented me from getting my ears pierced while I was at home you see. I didn't want to wear that dress. Oh, and every Christmas I'd get him matching fluffy pink thongs. And on his birthday I'd put signs up in the yard that said "Hey! My queer son just turned <insert age>!" Then, I'd send him to military school, while still wearing that dress. Assuming he hadn't changed his mind already. Since I know quite a few people who were "gay" for about 3 or 4 years, and then went straight, I'm aware it can happen. Strange, apparently even though they have no choice, it goes away!

O_o

You ever heard of something called "childhood trauma"?
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 21:34
O_o

You ever heard of something called "childhood trauma"?

Or bisexuality? LOL... what a loon.
Tograna
08-03-2005, 21:39
Hmm. Assuming he still lived at home, I'd make him wear a dress every day to school until he graduated. That's how my Dad prevented me from getting my ears pierced while I was at home you see. I didn't want to wear that dress. Oh, and every Christmas I'd get him matching fluffy pink thongs. And on his birthday I'd put signs up in the yard that said "Hey! My queer son just turned <insert age>!" Then, I'd send him to military school, while still wearing that dress. Assuming he hadn't changed his mind already. Since I know quite a few people who were "gay" for about 3 or 4 years, and then went straight, I'm aware it can happen. Strange, apparently even though they have no choice, it goes away!


I guess this post makes me a fascist now? Hmm. I guess I oughta go kill some Jews. I mean, if I'm grouped in with Hitler already, then I suppose it makes no difference. Of course, if it goes like that, then the person who just called me and those who think like me fascists is actually a draft-dodging hippie drug addict, and I suppose his opinion isn't that reliable...

/me winks at Scouserlande


facist, no. Just a bit of a wanker really
HadesRulesMuch
08-03-2005, 21:44
As far as the wanker bit is concerned, I am a masturbator, so I guess I am a wanker. As far as the childhood trauma goes, I didn't seem to suffer any ill effects. Of course, that may be hard to believe for people who thinking giving your child a spanking should be a capital crime. I live on my own, make good money, and am happy. I don't think that counts as trauma. And, I'm not bisexual. Not sure where that came from... Does wanting to get your left ear pierced when you are 16 make you bi? In that case, I suppose having a mohawk at the age of 9 really DID make me a fascist. Damn, you guys got me! I cant stand against your intellect!
Hitlerreich
08-03-2005, 21:45
I wouldn't allow it, simple.
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 21:47
As far as the wanker bit is concerned, I am a masturbator, so I guess I am a wanker. As far as the childhood trauma goes, I didn't seem to suffer any ill effects. Of course, that may be hard to believe for people who thinking giving your child a spanking should be a capital crime. I live on my own, make good money, and am happy. I don't think that counts as trauma. And, I'm not bisexual. Not sure where that came from... Does wanting to get your left ear pierced when you are 16 make you bi? In that case, I suppose having a mohawk at the age of 9 really DID make me a fascist. Damn, you guys got me! I cant stand against your intellect!

I didn't say you were but, and I've been around for quite a while, I'd really like to meet one of these people who magically went from exclsuive homosexual orientation to exclusive heterosexuality. *laughs*
HadesRulesMuch
08-03-2005, 21:52
I didn't say you were but, and I've been around for quite a while, I'd really like to meet one of these people who magically went from exclsuive homosexual orientation to exclusive heterosexuality. *laughs*
OK then. One of them is my uncle.

You really ought to be more careful who you mock when your ignorance serves no purpose but to show your tremendous bias and ignorance.
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 21:54
OK then. One of them is my uncle.

You really ought to be more careful who you mock when your ignorance serves no purpose but to show your tremendous bias and ignorance.

ROTFL! Oh and say hello to your ego-dystonic 'gay' uncle.
Jester III
08-03-2005, 22:09
I wouldn't allow it, simple.
I guess thats the best way to deal with it. Just dont allow it. And being the good drone that you raised, he will not feel for other males anymore, right?
HadesRulesMuch
08-03-2005, 22:16
ROTFL! Oh and say hello to your ego-dystonic 'gay' uncle.
How, precisely, do you know my uncle's beliefs go against homosexuality? Or did you not know what ego-dystonic was? Did you just try and find a cool term? You really don't know anything about me or my family, so I suppose you can laugh if you like. it simply proves that you are too much of a bigot to accept that someone else might know something you don't, out of personal experience. Feel free. Go read an article in www.homosexualworld.com that tells you all homosexuals are actually following a special brain wave pattern that makes them gay. Feel free. Obviously you don't care about anything but your own opinion.
Nadkor
08-03-2005, 22:25
in the unlikely event of me having children, i wouldnt care...hes still my child
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 22:29
How, precisely, do you know my uncle's beliefs go against homosexuality? Or did you not know what ego-dystonic was? Did you just try and find a cool term? You really don't know anything about me or my family, so I suppose you can laugh if you like. it simply proves that you are too much of a bigot to accept that someone else might know something you don't, out of personal experience. Feel free. Go read an article in www.homosexualworld.com that tells you all homosexuals are actually following a special brain wave pattern that makes them gay. Feel free. Obviously you don't care about anything but your own opinion.

If your uncle was truly exclusively homsexual (level 6) chances are he still is, or never was (level 6) in the first place. Ego-dystonia (ego-id conflict) is a conflict between one's sense of self and their more primal behaviors. It can arise for a number of reasons, not simply because of "beliefs." As for your link, it would be a bombshell on the psychology scene being that you seem to claim it 'knows' the cause of sexual orientation but given that it's a dead link and would seem to be not in accordance with mainstream theory I'll leave it unread as the bunk it likely is.
ElleDiamonique
08-03-2005, 22:37
I like what you said, UpwardThrust, and I agree with you. If I had a son that told me he was gay, or a daughter revealed that she was a lesbian - I would support them like any other child I may have. It's not worth losing a child, in the event that I would not agree with their sexual persuasion.
Ankher
08-03-2005, 22:44
Nothing in particular.
Although it will be a while until my son - age 4 - will be thinking about such things.
New Fuglies
08-03-2005, 22:46
Nothing in particular.
Although it will be a while until my son - age 4 - will be thinking about such things.

Don't be so sure.
Ashmoria
08-03-2005, 22:52
if my son told me he was gay

id stop trying to set him up with cute girls
Whispering Legs
08-03-2005, 22:56
Hmm. I'm a Republican, and one of my sons is gay. Is that supposed to be a big deal?
Cyrian space
09-03-2005, 00:08
only that your party is often thought to be homophobic, and many members of it think that you should either disown your child or send them to get "Therapy" which causes suicide more often than a change in sexuality. So us liberals tend to want you to either defend your party against your son, or renounce at least a part of it.

Your son is gay, do you believe he should be able to get married?
Questions like that make being a republican with a gay son a bit of a big deal.
Zouloukistan
09-03-2005, 00:16
Well, if your child is gay... what does it change? He's still your son!
Curona
09-03-2005, 00:20
It wouldn't mean a thing. Hes still my son, sexual orientation wouldn't mean a thing. I'd still love him and treat him as I did before. It wouldn't be an issue.
Cyrian space
09-03-2005, 00:20
Also, I made the original thread this is based on sometime last week.
Naval Snipers
09-03-2005, 00:37
i would get over it and accept it. i dont have a problem with homosexuals or anyone else, except Nazis, racists, etc.
Loki1
09-03-2005, 00:50
Hmm. Assuming he still lived at home, I'd make him wear a dress every day to school until he graduated. That's how my Dad prevented me from getting my ears pierced while I was at home you see. I didn't want to wear that dress. Oh, and every Christmas I'd get him matching fluffy pink thongs. And on his birthday I'd put signs up in the yard that said "Hey! My queer son just turned <insert age>!" Then, I'd send him to military school, while still wearing that dress. Assuming he hadn't changed his mind already. Since I know quite a few people who were "gay" for about 3 or 4 years, and then went straight, I'm aware it can happen. Strange, apparently even though they have no choice, it goes away!


I guess this post makes me a fascist now? Hmm. I guess I oughta go kill some Jews. I mean, if I'm grouped in with Hitler already, then I suppose it makes no difference. Of course, if it goes like that, then the person who just called me and those who think like me fascists is actually a draft-dodging hippie drug addict, and I suppose his opinion isn't that reliable...

/me winks at Scouserlande
yep and the childhood trauma would make him write a book about his experiences and basicly tell people how utterly evil you were to him,which in turn people would scorn you and treat as an evil person...ahh gotta love karma...
me i would accept that it is his choice and support his decision..
The Emperor Fenix
09-03-2005, 00:54
I would wonder why in hell i'd had children in the first place. I'm obviously un fit to be a parent.

But id also hope id found out early so i could be all accepting and such early on rather than them think i dissaproved.

PS. I want to be able to vote in the poll but theres no option for me :'(
Keruvalia
09-03-2005, 01:35
I would send him to the army

So you're saying here that:

1] Being homosexual is wrong and that service to his country would be a punishment. (Two things wrong with that)

or

2] Being homosexual is okie dokie and that service to his country would make him a better person. (Two things right with that)
Preebles
09-03-2005, 03:42
I'd be like, AGAIN? Hun, you just came out in a thread last week... Then I'd pat him on the head and assure him it's STILL ok.
Anthil
09-03-2005, 11:19
(I wouldn't mind his eyes being blue either)

He'd need quite a bit of support, homophobia still being widespread. Although quite a number of posts here may be signs of a hopeful turn. I have the impression homosexuality is very gradually being accepted (again) -especially in Europe, where even politicians have taken the step of coming out.
About time, too.
Glinde Nessroe
09-03-2005, 11:21
Please refer to the 20 others times I've answered this.
Squirrel Nuts
09-03-2005, 11:27
I surely wouldn't mind. I'd support them and love them and if they wanted I would get involved in gay rights stuff. I just don't understand why homosexuality is such a big deal. It's a waste of energy to bitch about it.
Davo_301
09-03-2005, 12:17
It wouldn't mean a thing. Hes still my son, sexual orientation wouldn't mean a thing. I'd still love him and treat him as I did before. It wouldn't be an issue.

Sorry i missread this i thought it it said he wouls still make love to him!!! :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

anyway... i'd say it "well done son, good of you to folow in your fathers footsteaps,
go out there and get a good one"

Or

"Need any tips?"
Peffiko
09-03-2005, 12:43
My half-brother is 14 years younger than me. When I still lived with him a few years ago, he was always very curious about me putting on nail varnish and would come and request "colour fingers." Sometimes he would ask for lipstick too. I just thought this was very cute, but, no, his dad was very angry about me turning his (4 years old at the time) son gay...

If I had a child I would obviously be a bit scared for them, because i know what queer bashing is like. But I'm sure I'd be worried for my child getting into a sexual relationship at any age with any gender, because I'd be old and cynical and waiting for them to get their heart broken...
Bogstonia
09-03-2005, 12:52
The conversation would go something like this....


My Son : "Dad, I am gay"

Me : "Ok but that doesn't get you out of mowing the lawn, now get moving lazy!"



...and that would be that.
Neo-Anarchists
09-03-2005, 12:53
I think the question we all really need to ask ourselves is, what will our sons do if they find out we are gay?
Silver-Wings
09-03-2005, 13:10
If my son told me he was gay, I really couldn't care less about his sexual orientation. What I would be concerned about is how some ignorant anti-homesexuality bastards would act towards my son.

If any one tried to harm my son, it would result in a lot of pain for the offending party.
Pervanim
09-03-2005, 13:32
Really, what's wrong with gay people anyway? As long as they're happy in their relationship, other people really don't have any right to judge them because of their sexuality.
Lynold Richter
09-03-2005, 13:42
if it were my choice there would be no gay people :D !!!


but there here and there queer :P

and thats there choice
Whispering Legs
09-03-2005, 14:26
So you're saying here that:

1] Being homosexual is wrong and that service to his country would be a punishment. (Two things wrong with that)

or

2] Being homosexual is okie dokie and that service to his country would make him a better person. (Two things right with that)

I have two sons - one gay and one hetero. Both plan to join the service (not that I'm forcing them). I have known many gay people in the Army, and I could care less if they are gay. To most people in service, the only thing that matters is that you do your job - in fact, most commanders don't care if you're gay.

If you can do your job, you're staying, unless some neo-Calvinist gets a bug in his shorts.
Independent Homesteads
09-03-2005, 15:00
i'd say "really? pass the salt..."