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If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.

I guess it depends if you like your job. If its some mindless and borring drudgery you don't enjoy, and it isn't nessesary, there are many more interesting and meaningful ways to spend your time.

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?
I think it would be nice to give her that option.

if that was the case, I'd go back to school and get a better job.

well, it doesn't answer your question, but when i wed the woman i plan to, she will be making significantly more money than me. Cop salaries, at least in chicago, are very small. Advertising designers, however, start at almost 3 digits. so to add what i think to be an interestng facet to your question, how do you guys feel about making less, or being supported by, your ladies? women types, same question, inverted or not, however you prefer.

as it turns out

no

my husband travels 1/3 to 1/2 the year on business and we didnt live near family so i felt it was better to stay home while my son was young so there would be someone there for whatever soemone needed to be there for

now we live in a small town, my son is in college, and i dont see the point of getting some dead end job just to make money we dont need or to make "friends" at work.

Take the opportunity to choose a career you always wanted but never could afford to do..ie. writing.

If we had children probably for a time, otherwise not really. I need the social contact I get through work.

I'd probably take the opportunity to study and possibly get through some college.

well, it doesn't answer your question, but when i wed the woman i plan to, she will be making significantly more money than me. Cop salaries, at least in chicago, are very small. Advertising designers, however, start at almost 3 digits. so to add what i think to be an interestng facet to your question, how do you guys feel about making less, or being supported by, your ladies? women types, same question, inverted or not, however you prefer.


I wouldn't mind, but I'd still work if I found a job I liked

well, it doesn't answer your question, but when i wed the woman i plan to, she will be making significantly more money than me. Cop salaries, at least in chicago, are very small. Advertising designers, however, start at almost 3 digits. so to add what i think to be an interestng facet to your question, how do you guys feel about making less, or being supported by, your ladies? women types, same question, inverted or not, however you prefer.
if a man is in a job he loves, that is important to him and especially to society (like police officers) then his salary isnt the point. a woman making 3x as much should still be proud to be married to such a man

if hes just a lazy assed bum who cant be bothered to do better, then it might be different.

I'd just travel and go to school. I'd love to just take classes that interested me. I'd really like to start an animal rescue organization, or with enough money, start some low income housing for the mentally ill. I'd probably drive the hubby nuts finding creative ways to spend his money, but anybody I married would be someone who had the same passions I do.

I think it would depend on what your goals are. I mean, if you are married to someone who could afford to support both of you, and your spouse want to travel together, than no, I don't think it would be necessary for you to work.

Likewise, if you currently work in a job that you hate and would like to return to school, start your own business, or train for a different career, you should be able to do so if your spouse can support you.

I am a childless stay-at-home mom. Yes, that sounds stupid, but housewife isn't accurate, since I can't really keep up with the housekeeping, due to my illnesses and disability. That's also why I had to quit working.

My husband is able to support us, although we are far from rich. If it weren't for the medical costs we have, which insurance doesn't pay for, we would be comfortable, but as it is... we barely do okay.

Even though I was going through medical school at the time when I got engaged, I didn't plan on finishing. Originally when we first got engaged my ex-fiance gave me the option of not working and I decided to take it, but wanted to wait until the semester was over with. In the end we didn't get married and I was glad I had decided to stay in school. If I was given the option, no I wouldn't work, but I wouldn't really be a "housewife" either seeing as how I don't want children I would probably end up volunteering or giving my time to things/activities within my community. :)

Well, I don't care how much my husband made I'd still work. A job isn't just about contributing income to the household; it's about your self worth. And housewives will tell you that they don't feel useless either, they chose that as their career and it makes them happy. Personally, I'm not "housewife" material; I don't have the strength to pull that off.

Also, a man could marry an insanely rich wife and choose not to work... so this really wasn't just a question for the girls.

It would depend on the job. I work part-time right now and i love the job. I am a freelance writer for my weekly paper. All i have ever wanted to do is write, so if i could do that for a living, i definitely would, no matter how much money any future spouse i may have made. If my only choice was a menial, dead-end job that i knew i would be unhappy in, than no, i wouldn't work. The best thing for me if i had a spouse to support me would be that i could try and get a writing career off the ground without having the immediate worry about having to make money off it. I could work towards that no matter how long it took.

As for the other question, if i made more money than my spouse, it wouldn't bother me at all. I wouldn't feel superior or something. Money doesn't dictate how worthwhile or valuable a job is. As long as they were happy and were doing a job they loved, that meant something to them, that's good enough for me.

I'm the bread-winner, if you want to call my sad hourly wage that. If my wife were making more money than me, and we could afford it, and she wasn't pissed about it, I'd spend all my time at home. Got , my 'puter, Xbox... that's all I'd need. Oh, yeah, errr....extra time with the kids, and all that.

Well, I don't care how much he makes... I still want to work. I want to open my own orphanage home in my mid-40s, and do some service work for my community... Yes, that is what I only planned to do when I get older, whether I get the 'rich' husband, or not. I mean, I plan to go to college and all, but I don't really think I would become something that I major in. I don't know.

I'm the bread-winner, if you want to call my sad hourly wage that. If my wife were making more money than me, and we could afford it, and she wasn't pissed about it, I'd spend all my time at home. Got , my 'puter, Xbox... that's all I'd need. Oh, yeah, errr....extra time with the kids, and all that.
Hahaha... cute and lazy! :P

i would still work because, I would go stir crazy in a house all day by myself, even though I like having the option of simply being a house wife, if the hus. makes enough money, id definately retire early, or vice-versa, if i did, he could retire early.

I'd probably take to professional 3D artwork. Maybe work in a library. Things I like to do. I'd probably travel a bit as well...Far East, South America, Australia.... Not sure where I'd live though. America does have things like cheap strawberries, but the ME has its attractions too.

I would definately work. There is no way I'm ever going to become reliant on my husband

I would go crazy if not for a job, I think. Or at least something to do. In my current life, I would never force the burden of supporting me on my fiancee. Besides, if I didn't work, when would I get to surprise her?

That said, if it doesn't work out between us, and I do end up with someone who is well-off and lets me stay home and play Gamecube all day, who the fuck am I to disagree with that? I wouldn't do that to my current fiancee, but if I were with someone I didn't much give a damn about, I would let her support me.

No i wouldnt force my Lady to work.
She could do anything she wants(Just as long as she didnt act like Emperor Claudius' wife. ;) )
I want kids but not an army of them.

When I first got married I tried being a housewife for a while but got very bored very quickly. Maybe I'm lazier now, or not so easily bored. I can think of a lot of things I'd enjoy doing with my time if I could afford it.

If i ever had the luxury again of being a man of Leisure(Tried it its fun. ;) )
i would do the best i can do at it.

If only for a Cash Cow. :(

Live the Life live off the wife. :D :eek:

Damn a wife...i need to get a girlfriend first, and get to home base.
But if i had a wife, i'd definently give her the option to work or not, but personally i really do believe she should work, because i dont like the whole idea behind a housewife, i just feel a human can do more than that in their life. Now with children i would want the best for the kids, so if there was the option to i would stay home instead of her and take care of the kids.
But first i need to go to college, graduate with a major in Political science and a minor in spanish.

I'd work. I didn't work 7 years to get a degree for nothing! :p Besides, I'm looking forward to working so much. And it's not just about me, it's about making a difference too. Since we'd be wealthy I could donate my services as a doctor and do loads of voluntary work.

Unless they were like Oprah rich and I could do everything I ever wanted to do but didn't have the money for I would work.

if a man is in a job he loves, that is important to him and especially to society (like police officers) then his salary isnt the point. a woman making 3x as much should still be proud to be married to such a man

if hes just a lazy assed bum who cant be bothered to do better, then it might be different.


Works the other way around as well.

Yes, I think I would still go to work even if my husband was filthy stinkin' rich. I mean, I'm not going through all this damn school work just so I can be a housewife. Bump that. I'm definitely gettin' a job.

3rd base is oral sex right?

If your so rich, and you really really trust your wife, get her to invest for you. :) Get her to go shopping for houses.

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.

Yep me too... i would get sooo bored

I'd probably go back to Uni and take a bunch of extra courses. Mmmeducation-y. Although I also wouldn't mind raising some kids... ehhh, maybe I'll just get a few more cats. Compromises are fun!

Well we're not filthy rich, but we do choose to have myself stay home with the children at least until they are all school age.

I can say one thing though.......it is the toughest job I ever had to be a stay-at-home mom. Honest! Wow just to keep yourself sane. But the payoff in the end will be and is amazing!

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.

i don't care. my wife can work if she wants, and stay home if she wants.

Depends on what I could do for my partner in crime

3rd base is oral sex right?
yes, by ost accounts, first base is kissing/french kissing, 2nd is heavy pettingto extremely heavy petting, and 3rd is oral.

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We don't have any kids, but I support my partner, and he is using this advantage to start his own business. I'm absolutely fine about supporting him to do this, and would be happy to have him stay at home if/when we have kids. I'd see it differently if he were just sitting on his arse all day whilst I work like a demon though!

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.

My wife is a free adult able to make those decisions for herself. It is definitely easier to make ends meet with her working, but I wouldn't demand it of her, nor will I ever demand that she quit, no matter what kind of resources we have.

I'd probably take it as a chance to be able to raise children without hassles of work and money. I'd also take it as a chance to do writing, voluntary work, low-paid work that I would really like to do such as counselling. I'd still be doing something-I couldn't do nothing.

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.
i would never remotely consider being financially dependent on anybody, including a husband or wife. i must admit that i have little respect for anybody, male or female, who is willing to do so.

I would definatly keep my job. It is god awfully boring to do nothing all day. Ask any stay at home parent if you do not belive me. I would also hate the idea of being 100% financially dependent on anyone. When I was a kid I had to depend on my parents for everything (like most kids) and there are a lot of freedoms you give up because of that.

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

If I didn't have my PhD I would get my PhD and then work. I don't want children, so I would spend a lot of my time working and helping out my community with social issues.

I told my man that if I get a job making a bunch of money he did not have to work if he did not want to. He also said that he doesn't want kids and appriciates the fact that I want to get a PhD and have a career.

If you got married to a guy/girl (whatever your orientation) who was stupidly rich and had or made enough money for you both to live comfortably (even luxuriously) would you still work?

I guess this can be applied to men as well... If you made enough money to support you and your significant other (perhaps a family as well) would you want or expect your significant other to contribute anything financially to the household?

I know I would still work. I'd feel useless as a housewife.
I'd work. I'd go crazy if I didn't. However, I've found that the jobs I would really love doing usually don't pay, so I'd feel free to go ahead and volunteer if I didn't need the money. That would be absolutely fantastic!

My answer is absolutely I'd work. I really love what I do and I would not give it up no matter how much my significant other makes. Also, I'd be far too uncomfortable being dependant on someone else to pay my way. I'm a very independent person and I enjoy having my own money. My ideal arrangement is to keep my seperate account with a joint account for my SO and I that we pay the bills and so forth from.

That's what my parents do actually, and they're both very happy with the arrangement.
:)

I think given the option i wouldn't work. Well, i say that, i'd most likely dedicate more time to my hobbies, and my (future) spouse, since he'd be working all the time, he'd deserve pampering right? I know if i were the one making enough money so my partner didn't work i'd like to think they'd do the same, unless of course they wanted to work. Which wouldn't bother me too much.