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ok so i have been dating my girlfriend for a short wile. she asked me to take her on more dates. the only problem with this is that i am lacking in funds. give me some suggestions that i can use.

instead of spending all your money, go out for a walk, or stay home alone. See if she's willing to play Halo 2 with you. Or any other two player game (my fav is soul caliber). If you don't like my ideas, just call her up and ask if you can go dutch.

I like Silence and Nothing's idea which sometimes works surprisingly well. My own suggestion for a low-budget date would be to simply have a picnic at the beach. It's always pretty nice and most girls love the idea.

*EDIT* I don't know if the idea would work with you, because I'm used to living in California so close to the beaches and usually having the sun shining.

i hope you were joking about halo 2.

just go for a drive, or watch movies. chicks love pirates of the carribean and troy cuz they get to ogle johnny depp orlando bloom and brad pitt. she'll be like putty in your hands ;)

No, no, oh GOD no! Don't you even think about watching Troy!

It sucks! It suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks!!!

i hope you were joking about halo 2.

just go for a drive, or watch movies. chicks love pirates of the carribean and troy cuz they get to ogle johnny depp orlando bloom and brad pitt. she'll be like putty in your hands ;)
i agree about the halo 2

i have hung out with her and have wached movies together but i don't count those as dating.

Things I have actually done on first dates:

Gone skydiving(not cheap)

Gone clowning. I brought my current wife on our first date to a hospital and got her dressed in clown get-up and we entertained sick children. She got a chance to see how silly and sweet I am at the same time. :)

Gone naked. I took a first date to a nude beach. :)

Gone chessing. I met one of my girlfriends at a college chess club. Our first date was to a world chess championship game between Kasparov and Karpov.

Gone crazy. I took my date to one of my informal rugby games. She actually played for a while. SHe got a chance to see just how stupid things can get when I am with my buddies. I believe that was the day Ape powerbombed me into four feet of mud. SHe got it on tape. I still have the video on a tape in the house somewhere. (edit: She was a psycho. Her whole family were psychos. Her brother put me in the hospital. But we had quite an interesting relationship for about six months.)

No, no, oh GOD no! Don't you even think about watching Troy!

It sucks! It suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks!!!
troy is rated R isn't it. both of us don't watch reted R movies

I think it's R-rated. It still sucks.

i agree about the halo 2

i have hung out with her and have wached movies together but i don't count those as dating.

well in that case i dunno what you guys like to do. my gf and i went to a UIC basketball game and that was pretty sweet.

Things I forgot to mention:
we both live in dorms with no kitchen.
I don't have a car(had to sell it to go to college)
living in a landlocked state.

i am liking the picnic idea.

instead of spending all your money, go out for a walk, or stay home alone. See if she's willing to play Halo 2 with you. Or any other two player game (my fav is soul caliber). If you don't like my ideas, just call her up and ask if you can go dutch.

This is a wonderful idea, actually. If your girlfriend enjoys playing, any kind of two player game is always fun. Soul Caliber is a great one, because its fairly easy to learn, if she's never played it before. Or, at least, it was for me. But in any case, if she's not into video games, have a bad movie date. Watch the worse movies you've ever seen, and spend time mocking them. That'll show off your sense of humor, which is always a good thing. Or treat her, and pick up some kind of really sappy romance, and watch with her.

but in all honesty, NS is probably the worst place to get dating advice. i think it's pretty telling that the first response you got was 'ask her to play halo 2" :rolleyes:

troy is rated R isn't it. both of us don't watch reted R movies
What about X-rated movies? If you don't, the suggestion I was going to give is worthless.

but in all honesty, NS is probably the worst place to get dating advice. i think it's pretty telling that the first response you got was 'ask her to play halo 2" :rolleyes:

I think I've given excellent advice. :)

I think I've given excellent advice. :)

you are the notable exception. :)

i can just imagine someone walking up to your door, but seeing a sign on it that says 'Gone Naked' :p

What about X-rated movies? If you don't, the suggestion I was going to give is worthless.
sorry PG-13 is the strongest we go

you are the notable exception. :)

i can just imagine someone walking up to your door, but seeing a sign on it that says 'Gone Naked' :p
that would be funny

but in all honesty, NS is probably the worst place to get dating advice. i think it's pretty telling that the first response you got was 'ask her to play halo 2" :rolleyes:
i realize this but i needed to ask someone and i was on the computer

i hope you were joking about halo 2.

just go for a drive, or watch movies. chicks love pirates of the carribean and troy cuz they get to ogle johnny depp orlando bloom and brad pitt. she'll be like putty in your hands ;)
Hey! I'm a girl! I play halo 2 and I love it! A guy took me on a date and we played halo for three hours...

Learn how to make good food.

Learn how to make things out of valrhona chocolate.

Learn how to make creme brulee.

Find beautiful places wherever you live. Take her there.

Don't take her to the movies. You want a place where she won't be scared to talk to you. The "movies" can also be an innuendo. Take her someone where you can be alone. Where do you live?

Does anyone else notice that the title of the thread is "what to do for a first date" but he changed his question to "my girlfriend wants to go on more dates."


Also, who doesnt watch "rated R movies?" little kids? This whole thing is a bit suspect.

Does anyone else notice that the title of the thread is "what to do for a first date" but he changed his question to "my girlfriend wants to go on more dates."


Also, who doesnt watch "rated R movies?" little kids? This whole thing is a bit suspect.

hmmmm...

Learn how to make good food.

Learn how to make things out of valrhona chocolate.

Learn how to make creme brulee.

Find beautiful places wherever you live. Take her there.
i know how to cook but i don't have access a kitchen to do so in
i know of a few places around here that i could take her but not many.

Where do you live, Phyritia and how old are you?

Does anyone else notice that the title of the thread is "what to do for a first date" but he changed his question to "my girlfriend wants to go on more dates."


Also, who doesnt watch "rated R movies?" little kids? This whole thing is a bit suspect.
we don't watch R movies for our own personal and religous beliefs

we don't watch R movies for our own personal and religous beliefs


That's pretty suspicious...

Where do you live, Phyritia and how old are you?
im 18 and live in Utah

ahhhhhhhhhh, he's mormon. that's why. it's all so clear now

ahhhhhhhhhh, he's mormon. that's why. it's all so clear now
indeed

Hmm... if it was warmer you could take her on a picnic. Instead of cooking, why not make her chocolate covered strawberries. :)

indeed

don't get me wrong, it's not that i don't respect your religion. i have mormon friends. but that just makes sense, that's all.

don't get me wrong, it's not that i don't respect your religion. i have mormon friends. but that just makes sense, that's all.
as long as it make scense

Who cares don't take her to the movies!!! My first date was at the movies!!! No girl wants to go to the movies. You could find out what her favorite movie is and watch it together. I think it would be sweet if a guy watched my favorite movie.

Who cares don't take her to the movies!!! My first date was at the movies!!! No girl wants to go to the movies. You could find out what her favorite movie is and watch it together. I think it would be sweet if a guy watched my favorite movie.
i have enough common scense not to take her to the movies(past experiances) so that is out.

we don't watch R movies for our own personal and religous beliefs

Do either of these things offer you something interesting to visit ? Sharing common interest thingies where you can communicate is often the best date in my experience.

Do either of these things offer you something interesting to visit ? Sharing common interest thingies where you can communicate is often the best date in my experience.
we talk and communicate all the time. thats not the problem. where to go and what to do (becides talking) are my questions.

Since you don't have a kitchen, do you live in a dorm?

you live in utah...do you ski/snowboard? although i suppose that could get expensive.

we don't watch R movies for our own personal and religous beliefs


This, I am told, explains a lot.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/morma/

In any case, if you have kooky religious beliefs then you should ask advice from other religious people, this forum is generally quite secular.

Since you don't have a kitchen, do you live in a dorm?
yes i do. actually we both live in the same dorm complex

you live in utah...do you ski/snowboard? although i suppose that could get expensive.
i ski but the last 3 or 4 days have been really worm

don't get me wrong, it's not that i don't respect your religion. i have mormon friends. but that just makes sense, that's all.


I have mormon friends, I dont respect their religion.

I dont respect people's religious belief in general though, its a given.

I'm not apologetic.

This, I am told, explains a lot.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/morma/

In any case, if you have kooky religious beliefs then you should ask advice from other religious people, this forum is generally quite secular.
i don't critisize anyone elses religous beliefs and this is not the place to do so. also i appricate everyones oppinion regardless of religion

Things I forgot to mention:
we both live in dorms with no kitchen.
I don't have a car(had to sell it to go to college)
living in a landlocked state.

i am liking the picnic idea.

The picnic does sound like a good idea...

Here are some other things I thought of, just off the top of my head:

Get out some markers and other art supplies and make cards or coupon books for each other. The coupons could have things like "one backrub"; "one kiss"; "one hug", or think of little things you could do for each other that don't cost anything, like running an errand or whatever.

How about a scavenger hunt? Make up a list of totally random things you might find on campus, or ask someone else to do a list for you. As you go down the list, designate spots to reward yourselves. Like, when you find item #9,you will share a soda; when you have found half the items on your list you will kiss each other - that sort of thing. You don't have to actually obtain the item - it can be things like finding a certain type of car, or a license plate with the letter "X" in it.

I have mormon friends, I dont respect their religion.

I dont respect people's religious belief in general though, its a given.

I'm not apologetic.

are you serious? did you even follow our conversation before this post? or did you just see what i had written and decide to post this bullshit?

you arrogant son of a bitch. you don't know me. don't tell me how i feel about others.

This, I am told, explains a lot.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/morma/

In any case, if you have kooky religious beliefs then you should ask advice from other religious people, this forum is generally quite secular.

you tell me i don't respect others but you post this link? your hypocrisy is incredible.

Here's my suggestion:

Find out what her favorite food is and have a restaurant make for ready-to-go. You could have candles or whatever you want. You could also make a scavenger hunt and at the end of it you could have gift/letter for her.

you tell me i don't respect others but you post this link? your hypocrisy is incredible.


Can you read english, ass?

"I have mormon friends, I dont respect their religion.

I dont respect people's religious belief in general though, its a given.

I'm not apologetic."

Are you aware what the first person singular pronoun signifies?

Go Hiking, i did that with my gf, it rocked. Plus if you pack an awesome lunch you guys can sit and chill for hours.

Can you read english, ass?

"I have mormon friends, I dont respect their religion.

I dont respect people's religious belief in general though, its a given.

I'm not apologetic."

Are you aware what the first person singular pronoun signifies?

posting it after quoting me put it into the context of you mocking me. i am sorry if i offended you during your efforts to offend others.

The picnic does sound like a good idea...

Here are some other things I thought of, just off the top of my head:

Get out some markers and other art supplies and make cards or coupon books for each other. The coupons could have things like "one backrub"; "one kiss"; "one hug", or think of little things you could do for each other that don't cost anything, like running an errand or whatever.

How about a scavenger hunt? Make up a list of totally random things you might find on campus, or ask someone else to do a list for you. As you go down the list, designate spots to reward yourselves. Like, when you find item #9,you will share a soda; when you have found half the items on your list you will kiss each other - that sort of thing. You don't have to actually obtain the item - it can be things like finding a certain type of car, or a license plate with the letter "X" in it.
now we are getting somewhere i like these kind of ideas keep them comming

The other thing I was going to suggest was to get some books on interesting things to see in your city - landmarks or whatever and take a walking tour.

If you have an art gallery, see if they have days you can get in for free. You can discuss the art as you tour, or both jot down notes about the works and compare them later. Sometimes it's interesting when two people see the same piece of art, but don't talk about it until later. You can get to know a lot about a person by how they interpret art.

And the best suggestion is just to ask her what she would like to do...

It depends on the girl really, i've met girls whose ideal first dates would be something along the lines of a few hours on Halo 2 (and be almost as good as me if not better, not that i'm as good as most online players), soe heavy metal music, then going out into town late a night, get drunk on rum, mug some townies / chavs and finish off with some sex in public.

Of course, these girls are seldom my close friends, and i personally don't intend to date them. The girls i date are somewhere between the other extreme and the halfway point, tho closer to halfway.

I like a girl with a mean streak! :D

now we are getting somewhere i like these kind of ideas keep them comming
Smash her over the head with a rock, and drag her into a closet and leave her there. You know, troll romance. [/discworld nonsense]

salutus and new grandma give it a rest i understand where you both are comming from but you to bickering ig getting annoying

posting it after quoting me put it into the context of you mocking me. i am sorry if i offended you during your efforts to offend others.

The intent wasnt to mock you, rather to explain that I dont agree with the idea that religious beliefs deserve any more respect than less established superstitions.

salutus and new grandma give it a rest i understand where you both are comming from but you to bickering ig getting annoying

Are you an exchange student?

salutus and new grandma give it a rest i understand where you both are comming from but you to bickering ig getting annoying
sorry

The intent wasnt to mock you, rather to explain that I dont agree with the idea that religious beliefs deserve any more respect than less established superstitions.
oh.

Are you an exchange student?
no i was born and raised it the USA.
that doesn't mean i can't be annoyed by petty arugements that will not go any where.

no i was born and raised it the USA.
that doesn't mean i can't be annoyed by petty arugements that will not go any where.

i think he was talking about your spelling

no i was born and raised it the USA.
that doesn't mean i can't be annoyed by petty arugements that will not go any where.


Why did they let you into a university with such a fleeting grasp of english?

i think he was talking about your spelling
oh... never one of my strong sutes but oh well

oh... never one of my strong sutes but oh well
s'all good

Why did they let you into a university with such a fleeting grasp of english?
you tell me.
they seem to let anyone into college in this day and age. the only thing i can say is that i have the respect of my peers, mormon or not

Could someone explain to me when the hell this thread went from someone asking for dating ideas to having people insult his spelling? I miss the connection between these two. Anyways, another date idea that can always be fun would just to go to something stupid that you both like. For my ex and I, it was Ikea. Basically, we spent hours making fun of weird furniture. Sounds strange I know, but it's a lot of fun, and more original than most dates.

Here's my suggestion:

Find out what her favorite food is and have a restaurant make for ready-to-go. You could have candles or whatever you want. You could also make a scavenger hunt and at the end of it you could have gift/letter for her.

You could use things you like about her and turn them into the clues. What about her do you like personality wise and physically?

Could someone explain to me when the hell this thread went from someone asking for dating ideas to having people insult his spelling? I miss the connection between these two. Anyways, another date idea that can always be fun would just to go to something stupid that you both like. For my ex and I, it was Ikea. Basically, we spent hours making fun of weird furniture. Sounds strange I know, but it's a lot of fun, and more original than most dates.
people where trying to find out a little more about me so they could help a little more and it went from age and area to religion,to respect, to spelling

Here's my suggestion:

Find out what her favorite food is and have a restaurant make for ready-to-go. You could have candles or whatever you want. You could also make a scavenger hunt and at the end of it you could have gift/letter for her.

You could use things you like about her and turn them into the clues. What about her do you like personality wise and physically?
this is a good suggestion i will keep it in mind

Here's my suggestion:

Find out what her favorite food is and have a restaurant make for ready-to-go. You could have candles or whatever you want. You could also make a scavenger hunt and at the end of it you could have gift/letter for her.

You could use things you like about her and turn them into the clues. What about her do you like personality wise and physically?


Or learn to make the food yourself.

All the dorms i've been in have communal kitchens.

If you live by the sea, then you should take her out and walk by the sea maybe look at the sea, the perfect time to do this is when nighfall has come when you can see the stars, if the sea is a little stormy that is a pluss if the wind is blowing... ¨

Becouse if there is a feeling, like only you and me and nature, well then you have her in you control sort of speak..

I did it with a girl, worked great, so this is from expirience good luck dude hope she is hot

Originally posted by New Granada
Or learn to make the food yourself.

All the dorms i've been in have communal kitchens.

He said he doesn't have one. It also can be cheaper to order certain foods than it is to make it yourself.

If you live by the sea, then you should take her out and walk by the sea maybe look at the sea, the perfect time to do this is when nighfall has come when you can see the stars, if the sea is a little stormy that is a pluss if the wind is blowing... ¨

Becouse if there is a feeling, like only you and me and nature, well then you have her in you control sort of speak..

I did it with a girl, worked great, so this is from expirience good luck dude hope she is hot
i would live to but... the closest ocean is about a 9 to 10 hour drive away as far as know

Or learn to make the food yourself.

All the dorms i've been in have communal kitchens.
i will keep that in mind...
i am planning to move to a different dorm or appartment so i can do that when the time comes.

Could someone explain to me when the hell this thread went from someone asking for dating ideas to having people insult his spelling? I miss the connection between these two. Anyways, another date idea that can always be fun would just to go to something stupid that you both like. For my ex and I, it was Ikea. Basically, we spent hours making fun of weird furniture. Sounds strange I know, but it's a lot of fun, and more original than most dates.
That does explain how this went from barely a 2 page thread to 5 pages in the 15 minutes I was working on my C++ program

What about doing the same but on top of a mountein you can still have the same you me and nature feeling I was refering to that worked

What about doing the same but on top of a mountein you can still have the same you me and nature feeling I was refering to that worked
i am fairly close to Zion National park...that could work.

What about doing the same but on top of a mountein you can still have the same you me and nature feeling I was refering to that worked
a) you have to climb said mountain, so you both have to enjoy that.

b) depending on height of mountain, it can get real cold up there.

c) cold and windy. So windy i almost fell of the mountain last time i tried that one. Fun, but not impressive on a date.

I wonder what boinking would be like up high on a mountain where the air is thinner. I dont know that i've ever pondered that before~

a) you have to climb said mountain, so you both have to enjoy that.

b) depending on height of mountain, it can get real cold up there.

c) cold and windy. So windy i almost fell of the mountain last time i tried that one. Fun, but not impressive on a date.
cold and windy i could use to my avantage to get closer to her and to stay safe and warm

these have been some great ideas keep them comming

That does explain how this went from barely a 2 page thread to 5 pages in the 15 minutes I was working on my C++ program
Time flies when you're having fun.

or trying to get date ideas

or trying to get date ideas

You have gotten enough now, just pick one off them :P

But it would be easyer to give you advice if you described the town cuty you live??

Do you play an instrument, you could do that for her.....

Also, you have to base all actions on what your strenghts and weakneses are, this is not for dating but in general, if your upper body is not execly something that has been shaped by sports avoid beeing without a t-shirt, if you can play an instrument to that and so on, if you have upper ody shaped by sports then find any excuse to take off shirt and so on... If you have money shower her with gifts... So make a plan based on that.. For instance me at the moment, i have the +off body i work out a lot, and i can play the piano, but i am short of founds right now[working on education hope to have money soon] so soom them up, and what about her, does she like being outdoors, if you both do music then you can to that to hang out, but hey I hae got no idea here, I just write this since i am at home now, relexing from school, taking a day off from life cind off.. Hopefully my advice will get you and your girl doing this :fluffle:

I want to take a girl I know out for sushi. She keeps postponing it, but I prefer clinging to my last morcels of hope instead of giving up and wallowing in my misery. Yeah that's the spirit...


...which reminds me:


Originally posted by:A guy I know, on another board:

I took a girl to a cockfight once. It didn't go down well.
Someone replied:


You lost?

You have gotten enough now, just pick one off them :P

But it would be easyer to give you advice if you described the town cuty you live??

Do you play an instrument, you could do that for her.....

Also, you have to base all actions on what your strenghts and weakneses are, this is not for dating but in general, if your upper body is not execly something that has been shaped by sports avoid beeing without a t-shirt, if you can play an instrument to that and so on, if you have upper ody shaped by sports then find any excuse to take off shirt and so on... If you have money shower her with gifts... So make a plan based on that.. For instance me at the moment, i have the +off body i work out a lot, and i can play the piano, but i am short of founds right now[working on education hope to have money soon] so soom them up, and what about her, does she like being outdoors, if you both do music then you can to that to hang out, but hey I hae got no idea here, I just write this since i am at home now, relexing from school, taking a day off from life cind off.. Hopefully my advice will get you and your girl doing this :fluffle:
doing this :fluffle: isn't a problem we do that a lot. i too am in the lack of funds because of education department. we are in a little college town sorrounded by many natural wonders but im not sure if she likes that kind of stuff.

I don't think you should go mountain climbing. It would be too cold. You wouldn't be adequate for :fluffle: anyway.

I don't think you should go mountain climbing. It would be too cold. You wouldn't be adequate for :fluffle: anyway.
it depends... i could use the cold as an excuse to stay close to her so we can :fluffle:

But, hon, you still won't be "adequate".

I think you should go with the scavenger hunt. What could you say or give her as the treasures that she will like?

true enough. i am leaning more towards the picnic idea because i can think of a few places that are good spots for this.
and because of funds it is a little more posible

I think that would be great! Have you been art pad? You could send her movie of things you want to say to her. Then she'll definitely be psyched for the picnic.

i like using the element of surprise more than telling people of my plans. it fits my personality better.

Smash her over the head with a rock, and drag her into a closet and leave her there. You know, troll romance. [/discworld nonsense]
unless she wants to play Halo2

unless she wants to play Halo2
for the last time no, no halo 2