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Is a good tight fit really what women want?
Should the woman be really tight?
Should the man be extra large, or should he just be snug?
And for you gay men out there, does size matter to you?

I can't say as of yet, but I voted "no", because many guys seem to lack my "girth". Yeah.

I'm gonna go ahead and say no on this one, because size doesn't necessarily dictate how good they are in bed...

Is a good tight fit really what women want?
Should the woman be really tight?
Should the man be extra large, or should he just be snug?
And for you gay men out there, does size matter to you?
What most women seem to want, or at least those with whom I am ( or have been ) familiar, is kindness, gentleness, a loving touch, genuine concern about their desires and feelings, someone who can listen without feeling compelled to always offer some sort of solution, and passion that tells them they are very desirable.

Most women seem to like "a sufficiency" of size so that they at least know you're there! Length seems to only be important in the final few moments. :D

I voted yes.
Only because size matters in that everything fits together in a way that pleases both parties.

Bigger is not alwasy better.

Size isn't a major consideration for me. If a guy looks good enough, I won't worry about size.

If a guy is a great fit as far as personality is concerned and is at least above average in the looks department, size is pretty unimportant to me.

I think the real question is...

whats more important, the size of the lightsaber, or your jedi skills?

I think the real question is...

whats more important, the size of the lightsaber, or your jedi skills?
"Jedi skills," without doubt. :D

I don't actually have any experience, but my opinion is it's what you can do with what you have that matters

Of course not, because then we guys have to go out and buy HUMMERs because of our lack of size.

Then if it's mostly skill (and personality, etc), then is it possible to be "too small"?

In my (admittedly slightly limited) experience, it's what he does with it that counts. Could he still be too small? I doubt it, personally, but even if that were true, there's plenty of other things that could be done to please his partner ;)

It is possible to be too small or too big. In between these extremes ability is much much more important. Be perceptive guys. Recognise what she wants before she knows it herself (or he if you are gay)

I think the real question is...

whats more important, the size of the lightsaber, or your jedi skills?

Do not use the force!... :D

So far I've found that it's good to have a good fit, but as in the remarks by others, it's also a matter of skill and the ability to just keep going.

IMHO, 90 percent of the perception of the "goodness" of a sexual experience is mental - mental imagery, love, etc.

But you have to fit the perceived expectations, I've noticed.

I've noticed an interesting effect from Prozac, BTW.

Yoda said "Size Matters Not" so there.

Yoda said "Size Matters Not" so there.

Yes but who among us have been unfortunate enough to have sex with Yoda?

IMHO, 90 percent of the perception of the "goodness" of a sexual experience is mental - mental imagery, love, etc.Definitely, as far as I'm concerned.

I've noticed an interesting effect from Prozac, BTW.In what way? One of the side effects is supposed to be a decrease in libido, but frankly, it only increased mine :p

I just asked a co-worker who is rather "open-minded" about such talk.

She said

"Well, I had a boyfriend whom would we could call "Horse" and I can tell you it is an advantage if he knows how to use it."

Well, I've discovered several things:

1) Size matters to some women - it is annoying to others, and some don't care. A few definitely love it.
2) If I'm taking Prozac, I lose my ability to have an orgasm - until I decide I want one.
3) Some women like being talked to (others don't) during.

Yes, it has to fit, and it has to last, and he has to know what he's doing. But making that mental - emotional thing ride on top of it all - that seems to be the fuel for the fire.

The answer is "YES" size does matter, and the only ones that deny this are either short-changed in the trouser-snake department, or dating someone who is afflicted thusly.

Size sure as hell does matter... particularly when youre in prison!! Ow!! :p

For one thing, the vagina changes its shape to conform to the penis of a man if she has sex with him a lot...
For another thing, only the lower third of the vagina has any nerve endings, so a huge cock is rather useless in a sense.
For another thing, foreplay and positioning are more important than just thrusting.

As for women being tight, unless you've been popping out kids, you should be. And if you have, then kegels would take care of any looseness... Plus increase the strength of orgasms and prevent incontoinence later in life.

The answer is "YES" size does matter, and the only ones that deny this are either short-changed in the trouser-snake department, or dating someone who is afflicted thusly.
No, my boyfriend is a good 8-9 inches and I still say that size doesn't matter.

Size sure as hell does matter... particularly when youre in prison!! Ow!! :p

Hey, could you get me that bar of soap...

Hey, could you get me that bar of soap...
*Bends over to pick up soap...*

HEY!!! WHAT THE @#$*!!!!!!! HOLY &#$% BATMAN!!!!!! OW OW OW OW OW OW!!!!!! :eek:

Size... i like it, but it doesnt make or break the deal y'all :D.

Then if it's mostly skill (and personality, etc), then is it possible to be "too small"?
If you're talking like two inches at which point well, I can't see how the mechanics of the act would work, really...

If you're talking like two inches at which point well, I can't see how the mechanics of the act would work, really...
Yep, theres too small, and too large. I have to say i wouldnt want one above a certain size, and am more than happy with waht ive got :D.

I always thought I was too big, but that was until I met the right kind of chicks. As a hedonistic male, I never really cared about the wants or needs of others. As long as I blow my stack, so to speak, I was and am happy.

So a guy walks into his doctor's office, aight, and he drops his shorts. The guy's got a wang like an olive. The doctor, in spite of his training, cracks up. Says the patient:

"Wassamatter, ain't you never seen a hard-on before?"

Yes but who among us have been unfortunate enough to have sex with Yoda?

Yoda may not look much, but he'd have awesome Jedi skills to make up for it... :p

Of course not, because then we guys have to go out and buy HUMMERs because of our lack of size.
that's a terrible pun.
size doesn't amtter per se (though it does do wonders for ones self confidence to be reasonably above average) the thing you have to kind of worry about though, with size, is the possiblitly of hitting the cervix. i don't know about the rest of you women folk, but that doesn't get a good reaction from my gf. and her pained reaction gets a sudden stop and a very worried look from me. but i digress. if you know what you're doing, or at least can use the tongue effectively, size won't ever have to be a concern.

Yes, size does matter.

For example, it is difficult to properly perform fellatio if the penis is too long or too big around. That being said, penises that are too small are unsatisfying.

However, there is a whole lot of range in between.