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this question started on the breast thread. i am 29 in a few days, and have found the guys in my area that are my age to be pretty sorry. since i am at the age where i could stil resonably date young guys 21-25, my age guys 27-32, older guys 33- 39, and the "whoa" guys. 40 plus, i would like to know what each age group has to offer, so i can concentrate my efforts.


there are obviously certain things that i cant stand for in guy, and certain aesthetics that i love, but for the sake of thread, i will be openminded.

and yes, i may argue back :D

Endurance. :D

By the way, you have a TG.

Endurance. :D
You should give an age group to look for that in....

Older guys: stability, but possibility of mid-life crisis; some are economically set up and have clear goals in mind, some are not.

Younger guys: some may be fun to talk to, but then again, maybe you'd prefer them to just shut up and put out...

Guys the same age: It all depends...I was always an equal opportunist...I liked 'em all (legal) ages short of 35 years my senior.

You should give an age group to look for that in....

Older guys: stability, but possibility of mid-life crisis; some are economically set up and have clear goals in mind, some are not.

Younger guys: some may be fun to talk to, but then again, maybe you'd prefer them to just shut up and put out...

Guys the same age: It all depends...I was always an equal opportunist...I liked 'em all (legal) ages short of 35 years my senior.

I'm 22.

I'm 22.
So are you claiming higher endurance at 22 than 19 or 35? Based on what empirical evidence? :D

So are you claiming higher endurance at 22 than 19 or 35? Based on what empirical evidence? :D

I'm claiming higher endurance based on what shape I'm in.

Well, as I am now 40+ I have been through them all.

Let me see now:

21-25: Enthusiasm, energy, drive, all night partying, childishness, insecurity, and inexperience. A hectic rollercoaster ride with emotional highs and lows.

26 year olds. Eliminated by decree.

27 - 32: More stability, most often some definite idea of where their life is going, more disposable income and less influence by mother. More arrogant than any other age group (except the 14-17 year olds) Some may be looking for mother substitutes.

33 - 39: Financial Security. Mid life crisis. The arrogance of the previous group collapses and uncertainty sets in. The onset of wisdom, in some cases, the last throes of teenage angst in others.

40+: Complaints about being old. Calm certainty about some things, a wllingness to admit being wrong, an ability to control without trying to.

Just some features of ourr second hand models. But pleas look around to your heart's content, and we will be happy to answer any questions you may have.

I'm 33. At my age I have noticed I have the following to offer: self confidence, clear objectives, experience, and good anecdotes.

age may make a difference in what people have to offer for some individuals but that doesnt mean you wont get heartache,abused, not provided for, supported or let down by someone just because of what age they are. I say dont think about age and go for who you like. :)

you may find a 21 year old who has seen a lot in his lifetime, is kind considerate, strong emotionally and physically, funny, responsible, smart, rich and loving.

You may find a lying cheating dumb ass 40 year old with no money, addicted to alcohol and gambling and likes to abuse women with no knowledge of anything beyond how to play poker.

I'm going to address some of the midlife crisis bit, because it's a peeve.

The crowning piece of the midlife crisis, the overriding symbol, is always the sports car (often maligned is the beloved Porsche). Here's the thing kids-Porsches and other sports cars cost money. Lots of it. I did buy a Porsche in my early twenties when, supposedly I guess, I was 'allowed' to. But it was for $900 and it was a shambled 914.

It takes time, dammit, to earn enough money to finally be able to afford that Porsche and now I'm not supposed to buy one because I'm too old? Sorry grandma, you can ride your Runabout scooter to your early grave if you want but if I worked my ass off to finally earn that Porsche I'm gonna buy it even if some tongue clucker thinks it's 'unseemly.'

I'm 33, still haven't cut my hair or shaved my beard, still drive my '67 VW Bus-hell, still in college. I'm not 'refusing to grow up,' the earth still spins beneath my feet and my body ages just like anyone elses-I don't think I get bonus time on the back end by dragging my feet now. I found my groove, is all. If you think my life is unseemly the feeling is more than likely mutual.

So, uh, I guess older in the 33 sense means you get people who know who they are and are bitter about it....

you may find a 21 year old who has seen a lot in his lifetime, is kind considerate, strong emotionally and physically, funny, responsible, smart, rich and loving.

You may find a lying cheating dumb ass 40 year old with no money, addicted to alcohol and gambling and likes to abuse women with no knowledge of anything beyond how to play poker.
okay. this i know. i am going beyond the obvious. let me explain. if i am after guys around my age, and younger, i would spend more time out bars, concerts, etc. if i am going for older, it means i have to completely change my surroundings. alos, i would like to point out at this time. i happen to look younger (so i am told) and my outward appearance is not that mainstream. so all that does factor into who and where and how, etc?

get me?

I'm going to address some of the midlife crisis bit, because it's a peeve.

The crowning piece of the midlife crisis, the overriding symbol, is always the sports car (often maligned is the beloved Porsche). Here's the thing kids-Porsches and other sports cars cost money. Lots of it. I did buy a Porsche in my early twenties when, supposedly I guess, I was 'allowed' to. But it was for $900 and it was a shambled 914.

It takes time, dammit, to earn enough money to finally be able to afford that Porsche and now I'm not supposed to buy one because I'm too old? Sorry grandma, you can ride your Runabout scooter to your early grave if you want but if I worked my ass off to finally earn that Porsche I'm gonna buy it even if some tongue clucker thinks it's 'unseemly.'

I'm 33, still haven't cut my hair or shaved my beard, still drive my '67 VW Bus-hell, still in college. I'm not 'refusing to grow up,' the earth still spins beneath my feet and my body ages just like anyone elses-I don't think I get bonus time on the back end by dragging my feet now. I found my groove, is all. If you think my life is unseemly the feeling is more than likely mutual.

So, uh, I guess older in the 33 sense means you get people who know who they are and are bitter about it....
so far, i like this age group. :D

I'm 22.
endurance, and a one trackmind :fluffle:

I'm 33. At my age I have noticed I have the following to offer: self confidence, clear objectives, experience, and good anecdotes.
i have definitley noticed this about the lower thirties. most of them i know, that would pass the test are married though. and for good reason

endurance, and a one trackmind :fluffle:

Do you check your telegrams?

i have definitley noticed this about the lower thirties. most of them i know, that would pass the test are married though. and for good reason
Yep. Most early-30s women I know are married too or we tend to become reclusive and thus harder to find.

Do you check your telegrams?
do you check yours?

do you check yours?

Faster than you know. You have TG.

guys 21-25, my age guys 27-32, older guys 33- 39, and the "whoa" guys. 40
What about the poor 26 year old guys?

Anyway, it's like this:

If you want us for the money, and sex twice a week, go 40s
If you want us for serious partners and great sex, go 30s
If you want to have tons of OK sex with someone's roommates listening, go for mid-late 20s
If you want to have 3 minute sex 20 times a day and end up paying for everything, go for a college guy.

You may find a lying cheating dumb ass 40 year old with no money, addicted to alcohol and gambling and likes to abuse women with no knowledge of anything beyond how to play poker.

hey. don't talk about my father that way!

i think men 27-39 are better in general because they can offer a more fulfilling relationship and there's a gretater possibility of it becoming a long term relationship if that's what you want.

with 21-26 year olds you run a 60% risk of them needing their mommy to wipe their ass still but the other 40% can have a lot to offer. however long term relationships with this group aren't likely.

this question started on the breast thread. i am 29 in a few days, and have found the guys in my area that are my age to be pretty sorry. since i am at the age where i could stil resonably date young guys 21-25, my age guys 27-32, older guys 33- 39, and the "whoa" guys. 40 plus, i would like to know what each age group has to offer, so i can concentrate my efforts.


there are obviously certain things that i cant stand for in guy, and certain aesthetics that i love, but for the sake of thread, i will be openminded.

Nothing, you must first decide what you have to offer a man, then find someone who is compatable with what you have to offer.

If you go about it the way you are... then your just selling yourself to the highest bidder, but then what can be bought can also be thrown away.

Think about it..

okay. this i know. i am going beyond the obvious. let me explain. if i am after guys around my age, and younger, i would spend more time out bars, concerts, etc. if i am going for older, it means i have to completely change my surroundings. alos, i would like to point out at this time. i happen to look younger (so i am told) and my outward appearance is not that mainstream. so all that does factor into who and where and how, etc?

get me?


I get you; You are looking for people in certain age groups according to what they have to offer. I am saying that you should not worry about age (as that is not a determination of what they have to offer) and go do the thngs you like to do in the places you like to go and you will find someone with the qualities you desire regardless of their age. Comprende? :)

hey. don't talk about my father that way!

i think men 27-39 are better in general because they can offer a more fulfilling relationship and there's a gretater possibility of it becoming a long term relationship if that's what you want.

with 21-26 year olds you run a 60% risk of them needing their mommy to wipe their ass still but the other 40% can have a lot to offer. however long term relationships with this group aren't likely.

I was talking about my father actually - although he is prolly older than 40.

endurance, and a one trackmind :fluffle:
yup. that's 19 for ya. Hey, sex is fun, if you do it right, and there ain't nothin wrong with showing a young dog new tricks. who knows, you might end up likin the horny little bastard more than you'd expect. As far as i can tell, we young'ns are a fairly interesting bunch, and few and far between are the young guys who aren't into older women. :fluffle:

yup. that's 19 for ya. Hey, sex is fun, if you do it right, and there ain't nothin wrong with showing a young dog new tricks. who knows, you might end up likin the horny little bastard more than you'd expect. As far as i can tell, we young'ns are a fairly interesting bunch, and few and far between are the young guys who aren't into older women. :fluffle:
i find nothing wrong with this post at all. and nick , you know my deal with younger guy sex. :fluffle:

however, i am definitley talking about relationships here.

i find nothing wrong with this post at all. and nick , you know my deal with younger guy sex. :fluffle:

however, i am definitley talking about relationships here.
oh. right. yeah, most of us wouldn't be to good about that. It's just, sharon is 300 miles away, so my one track mind is forced ever deeper into the gutter.

endurance, and a one trackmind :fluffle:
lolz0r

You don't get many SOLICITED opportunities to dispense life advice - so how can I pass this up.

Go do the things you truly enjoy doing, look around and see who else is:

a) Doing them
b) Enjoying themselves
c) Single
d) Attractive to you

The closer they are to your age, the less grief you will deal with - but the right person may be worth some grief.

Older men will be grief because you will have to WORK (one way or another) to maintain their respect - younger men will be grief because you will have to constantly lie to yourself to respect them.

Hmmm I'm on a roll!!!!

Spend more time choosing than you think neccesary, the consequences of a bad choice won't be apparent to you for another decade.

Worry more about conversation than sex - someday you will be 60 - would you rather spent a few decades with someone who was great in bed some time in your past but can't talk to you or a decade with someone you like that needs help in bed?

Take good care of your knees, watch your diet, get lots of calcium, drink plenty of water, study a martial art.

OK I'll stop before we get to the merits of a high fiber diet...

Ask not what men have to offer you, rather ask yourself what you have to offer men.

Anyway, just go to a restaurant with them and make sure you have a female server. How they treat her will be a pretty good indication of how they will treat you.

You don't get many SOLICITED opportunities to dispense life advice - so how can I pass this up.

>>>>snip<<<<<...on the general forum, you get that chance every day. ;)
good stuff though.thank you.

OK I'll stop before we get to the merits of a high fiber diet...

*chuckle* Well ... as my grandpappy always said ... a clean colon is a happy colon.

Ask not what men have to offer you, rather ask yourself what you have to offer men.

Anyway, just go to a restaurant with them and make sure you have a female server. How they treat her will be a pretty good indication of how they will treat you.
offer men? oh you just had to start me on that looking inwards deal. well, i have different things to offer different guys. but me as a whole? thats going to take one brave guy.

as for the treatment thing, i love that idea. however, just let him try to treat me bad. if he does, he better like being tortured. or cut in half . or embalmed alive.

*chuckle* Well ... as my grandpappy always said ... a clean colon is a happy colon.
*kicks any colon talk OUT of her thread*

bump tag whatever. there are way more guys that should be answering this. you would think it would be an easy one.

"What Do Guys of Different Age Groups Have to Offer Me?"

Whoa! You're kidding, right?? ;)

bump tag whatever. there are way more guys that should be answering this. you would think it would be an easy one.

I think my latest post was a good one :P

In my experience:

Younger guys tend to be fun for awhile, but when you take a step back and look at the relationship you tend to go "What?!?! What am I doing?!?!?!". Younger guys =/= good relationships. (And thats just me....just my experiences)

When it comes to guys your same age, you kind of know what to expect. Most of the time they're dealing with a lot of the same stuff you are, so you can relate and understand better.

Now older men, yummm. I like dating older men because they tend to be more interesting (seeing as they have experienced more) and also in my experiences with older men, they seem to listen (or at least know how to pretend to listen) to you more and take your feelings into consideration.

So I prefer older men, but I'm sure there are younger guys/guys my age that I'm compatible with as well.

I think you need an older guy Occidio, :)

In my experience:

Younger guys tend to be fun for awhile, but when you take a step back and look at the relationship you tend to go "What?!?! What am I doing?!?!?!". Younger guys =/= good relationships. (And thats just me....just my experiences)

When it comes to guys your same age, you kind of know what to expect. Most of the time they're dealing with a lot of the same stuff you are, so you can relate and understand better.

Now older men, yummm. I like dating older men because they tend to be more interesting (seeing as they have experienced more) and also in my experiences with older men, they seem to listen (or at least know how to pretend to listen) to you more and take your feelings into consideration.

So I prefer older men, but I'm sure there are younger guys/guys my age that I'm compatible with as well.

I think you need an older guy Occidio, :)

yeah Plus they die quicker so you get a big life insurance check. :D

yeah Plus they die quicker so you get a big life insurance check. :D

Hmmmm, thats not what I was going for, haha. :p

I can offer you a small bit of protection, randomness, Insanity, Dependibility, Muffins, and a very large, very hard...Wooden Beating Stick.

....they can offer a more fulfilling relationship and there's a gretater possibility of it becoming a long term relationship.Well what I usually offer to the Girls is a lot of Fulfulling :fluffle: relationship...with zero possibility of Long term...

im into short term...short term no strings attached :D

Like I said...that is what I usually offer...But OccidioMultus, I cant offer you that for now.

Age is just a number: look at the person it is hung upon.

Age is just a number: look at the person it is hung upon.
Hah! hung. :D

Well, one traditional way of looking at the age of those you should be hooking up with is:

(m/2) - 7 = w

where m = man's age and w = woman's age.

Then, take your age, divide by ten (rounding UP) and use that for the +/- range. So you should be looking at guys around 41-47 for a serious relationship.

Sounds kind of hinky, but it works.

Now, here's the catch: how many men in their early to mid fourties share your interests? How many of their interests might appeal to you? For example, I'm 39. I like history, exploring old buildings, castles, battlefields, riding horses, the ballet, driving, reading, cooking, shooting, computers, games, pool and most music (except rap.) I don't do the club scene except about once a month when my better half gets frisky and wants to go out and about. ;)

My girl is in her early twenties and is right at the bottom end of my dating range according to the formula. We share the same interests except that she likes to go clubbing and doesn't like the ballet. So we both indulge each other in those areas a few times a year. I don't worry that she'll go home with some other guy when out clubbing, and she doesn't worry I'll latch on to one of the other twenty something hotties there.

More than anything, it is our shared interests that make our relationship strong and not age. Funny thing is, her circle of friends are from 22-28. The youngest guy they date (or are married to) is 35. An older man seems to add stability to the relationship.

But shop wisely. There are 39 year olds living in mommy's basement and working as a janitor at Taco Bell... :p

Well, one traditional way of looking at the age of those you should be hooking up with is:

(m/2) - 7 = w

where m = man's age and w = woman's age.

Then, take your age, divide by ten (rounding UP) and use that for the +/- range. So you should be looking at guys around 41-47 for a serious relationship.



Wha? Am I trying your formula wrong?

(m/2)-7=w where m=34

(34/2)-7=10 A 34 year old guy should be dating a 10 year old girl? I know you don't believe that, so please tell me where I'm going wrong.

Thanks.

Wha? Am I trying your formula wrong?

(m/2)-7=w where m=34

(34/2)-7=10 A 34 year old guy should be dating a 10 year old girl? I know you don't believe that, so please tell me where I'm going wrong.

Thanks.

I believe it's supposed to be + 7, not - 7.

bump tag whatever. there are way more guys that should be answering this. you would think it would be an easy one.
I already did. Maybe it should be a poll.

Well, one traditional way of looking at the age of those you should be hooking up with is:

(m/2) - 7 = w

where m = man's age and w = woman's age.


This is great! In this way every two years I can say to my current girlfriend: "Sorry, dear, but you don't fit the equation any more, got to find me someone one year younger than you."

I believe it's supposed to be + 7, not - 7.

That would make much more sense.

bump tag whatever. there are way more guys that should be answering this. you would think it would be an easy one.

No offense to the good guys of NS, but I suspect that most of the rest of them are too busy thinking about what women can offer them to think about what they can offer to a woman.

Look at the popularity of the BOOBS thread...

That would make much more sense.

Yeah, that's how I've always understood it. I'm 22. Divided by two, that's 11, plus seven, that's 18. That means the youngest girl I should date is an 18 year old.

No offense to the good guys of NS, but I suspect that most of the rest of them are too busy thinking about what women can offer them to think about what they can offer to a woman.



Or some of us are happily married and so don't feel they have much to offer at this point to women of any age category.... besides the two very specific ladies in my life who I would gladly do anything for.


And frankly most guys much over 40 who haven't settled down yet are probably not likely to - so I'm not sure what they offer besides the finances to help you two enjoy the finer things in life while you have your fling and (hopefully) the maturity to treat you better than younger men might. But even that is a generalization. Some people never learn how to treat others with respect.....

besides the two very specific ladies in my life who I would gladly do anything for.


Does Steph know about these ladies?

So are you claiming higher endurance at 22 than 19 or 35? Based on what empirical evidence? :D


Well guys 40 + who are in GOOD health do have endurance in their favor! In fact if even guys that are NOT in good health can do amazeingly well from that view point. Guys in their 30s are working too hard to be good in that department. Older guys are very appreciative and might be less driven to have kids too.
On the Disadvantage side, older guys may want to be in absolute control of everything. That can be most tiresome in the boudoir! and elsewhere for that matter (HINT HINT the line between decisive and control freek is THIN!)
as it is in the rest of life.

Young guys do have looks going for them lets face it it's a rare older guy that looks REALLY REALLY good.

Does Steph know about these ladies?

Oh yes, she is very aware of the other lady in my life. After all - she gave birth to her....

:D

Or some of us are happily married and so don't feel they have much to offer at this point to women of any age category.... besides the two very specific ladies in my life who I would gladly do anything for.


Zep dear, I already count you as one of the nice guys of the forum. :)

I just thought that some of the married guys might answer Occido's question theoretically, that's all.

I am 42... my first wife was 28 and I was 30 when we married, my current (second) wife is 30 and I am 42 (we have been together 4 years)....

after a certain point the age difference isn't much of an issue anymore.

I just thought that some of the married guys might answer Occido's question theoretically, that's all.

I did. :) Though not theoretically.

Okay, okay...I mean, some more married guys might have responded.

Hi. I'm a guy who did not respond to the boobs thread, and make of that what you will.

honestly, though, i don't know how to answer this question. I'm 24, and i've only dated girls a few years older or younger than me. upper twenties, but no thirties.

I could tell you how i approach a relationship, but i am not the norm. according to this thread, 24 year olds should be sex crazed one night standers, i've never had a one night stand and no one who knows me would describe me as sex crazed.

Actually, a friend of mine complains about her boyfriend's lack of sex drive. he's twenty. i don't think that they're the rule, but i do believe that you could find someone in any age bracket.

so, what have i to offer? well, i don't have a lot of money, right now (i started college late, and lived in Brazil for a few years) My post college plans are a mix between idealistic high life and pragmatic, researched security.

i love new things. if there's an ethnic restaurant that i've never had before, it's definitely a date. I like to dance, but am not very good at it (although i have a strong lead)

i'm dating a girl right now, and of all the things that i love to do with her, the very best is to read with her. I have volumes of short stories that we read together from time to time (from Grimm, to HP lovecraft) It's something that we both love, and it doesn't keep us from talking to each other like a film does (and i love films- especially silent era german films)

Oh, and i always open the door for her. it took a little while before she got used to it-and she might even tease me about it now, but i can tell how it makes her feel.

Yeah, so that's what i have to offer. I cannot speak for my age bracket, but there are people like me out there. I might guess, though, that i'll be married well before i'm forty. If that is the norm, then i'd say that people like me aren't always available when they are older.

But then again, i could be getting all of this wrong.

oh, and i've heard that equation before

M/2+7=W

That age is minimum, however. So, if you're 22, your date should be at least 18, if you're 60 your date should at least be 37. Age difference is less of an issue as age increases... but

well my grandfather scolded my 19 year old sister for dating a 24 year old while he (76) dates a lady of fifty something. yeah...

I don't suppose you've considered a -woman- your age? I wager they'd be going through the same issues.

That aside, age really isn't the best thing to judge with. Good people are good people for their entire lives, generally. I'd focus more, perhaps, on finding one that will live to a similar time as you are, so, perhaps, one slightly younger.

Mental age is a better thing to look for. Alas, you'll usually have a harder time finding people of that nature in most singles bars.

Age is only a number there are 25 year olds that are mature and responsible and there are 45 yr olds that are immature.

Keep an open mind and find someone who understands communication first and foremost. It is the secret to a great relationship. :)

Sorry, i did not intend to defend the age formula, just to state it as i've heard it.

what i think you want is to have someone you can relate to on many levels. you have to be able to do things together (other than sex) that you both enjoy. You've heard the lines in the movies "after ten years together, we just don't have anything to talk about anymore." You want to keep from commiting that error.

Maybe you could look in someplace other than the singles bars? I think it's already been said, but just do what you like to do, and not because there's anyone there to date. then look around yourself and say "hi" to an attractive someone who isn't expecting it.

I doubt I'D have anything to offer you! :D

Hang on a second!!! I just realized something

how long term are you thinking? Because age in short terms makes a huge difference, but that 25 year old that you're dating will one day be fifty. If you just want a fling with him, that's all well and good, he only matters when he's 25.

If you married him, then you'll deal with him changing age brackets time and again. you'll have to deal with his changes. Is what you loved about him at twenty five is still true about him when he's sixty five?

If we could answer that question, we would solve the problem.

Okay, okay...I mean, some more married guys might have responded.



OK... what do I have to offer other women.....


babysitting work? lol.


But seriously, generalizing based on age isn't neccessarily a good idea. One would hope that as people get older they get more mature, however that isn't always the case. How am I different now than when I was younger? I have a better income. I'm more interested in quality than quantity. I'm a better lover. I am more self aware and self assured. I have a better grasp of who I am and what I want from life. I am more respectful, less volatile, and much more accepting of the foibles of others as I have come to terms with my own shortcomings over the years.

The downsides? With age and position comes some responsibilities I need to live up to that might impact spontenaity sometimes. When I was 25 blowing all my spare cash to whisk a date off to Miami for a long weekend was nothing - even if it cost me whatever crap job I was working. Now as a business owner and familly man that requires more planning and I need to worry about maintaining cash reserves for peace of mind. And it means that I don't much care to spend three nights a week heading out to bars to mingle anymore. Not that I don't still like to go out, but I don't feel like I've missed anything if I spend a Saturday niight at home. So there may be issues with social life expectations as compared to what younger people often want to do.

Other than that.... hell - just be with who makes you happy.

this question started on the breast thread. i am 29 in a few days, and have found the guys in my area that are my age to be pretty sorry. since i am at the age where i could stil resonably date young guys 21-25, my age guys 27-32, older guys 33- 39, and the "whoa" guys. 40 plus, i would like to know what each age group has to offer, so i can concentrate my efforts.


there are obviously certain things that i cant stand for in guy, and certain aesthetics that i love, but for the sake of thread, i will be openminded.

I'm 18 and I can do pretty much whatever you want.

I'm 18 and I can do pretty much whatever you want.
we've covered this. she's talkin about relationships, not just meaningless sex. though i'm sure that would be nice.

we've covered this. she's talkin about relationships, not just meaningless sex. though i'm sure that would be nice.

Oh, damnit.

uhh...I have a part time job?

Oh, damnit.

uhh...I have a part time job?
yeah. nice try tho. good hussle.

Well what I usually offer to the Girls is a lot of Fulfulling :fluffle: relationship...with zero possibility of Long term...

im into short term...short term no strings attached :D

Like I said...that is what I usually offer...But OccidioMultus, I cant offer you that for now.
it wasnt like, a personal invitation. but thanks for being honest.

Hang on a second!!! I just realized something

how long term are you thinking? Because age in short terms makes a huge difference, but that 25 year old that you're dating will one day be fifty. If you just want a fling with him, that's all well and good, he only matters when he's 25.

If you married him, then you'll deal with him changing age brackets time and again. you'll have to deal with his changes. Is what you loved about him at twenty five is still true about him when he's sixty five?

If we could answer that question, we would solve the problem.

i have no problem finding flings.... i am just starting to think about how the rest of life should be going.

i have no problem finding flings.... i am just starting to think about how the rest of life should be going.

Wait, you're just starting to think about that? You mean I can put it off another 7 years?

*whew*

I don't suppose you've considered a -woman- your age? I wager they'd be going through the same issues.

>>>>snip<<<<.
for my age, i have no issues, except for the relationship ones. i went to school, got a degree, have a job i love love love, and bought a house. i have a great family, friends etc. i am just starting to worry i may end up single- because i am not looking NOT to be. does that make sense? plus, i thought it would be a good thread for all the NS girls to read.

I don't suppose you've considered a -woman- your age? I wager they'd be going through the same issues.

>>>>snip<<<<.
and wait. you said woman. i hope that was a typo. because i am the female here.

Wait, you're just starting to think about that? You mean I can put it off another 7 years?

*whew*
how do you spell relief? o-c-c-i-d-i-o-

yeah. nice try tho. good hussle.
hey nick. yeah, he tried. but the hustle lacked confidence. ;)

hey nick. yeah, he tried. but the hustle lacked confidence. ;)
if your attack plan falls apart upon the realization that it's not just meaningless sex, then you need to rethink your strategy, and, for that matter, life goals. :D

Wait, you're just starting to think about that? You mean I can put it off another 7 years?

*whew*

I'm planning on putting it off another 40 years.

Do what most of you bitches do these days - get an old man as a "sugar daddy", then ho out to the younger guys for dick action.

I tell ya, pimpin aint easy.

Fumble in the inzone. ;)
Drop the ball spill the pill
Swing bowling on a sticky wicket.
Drop catch
Out of the bull pen smacked deep?

Good times.

Not a lot really! ;)

I'm planning on putting it off another 40 years.
dont be bitter. you have a lot to offer. you are just a perfectionist, most likely. "she has lint on her sweater" ": "her name starts with an "A". etc etc

dont be bitter. you have a lot to offer. you are just a perfectionist, most likely. "she has lint on her sweater" ": "her name starts with an "A". etc etc

I'm not talking about women. I am talking about the whole starting life thing. You know settling down, doing all of those things that most people do when they grow up.

I just don't want to grow up in general.

I'm not talking about women. I am talking about the whole starting life thing. You know settling down, doing all of those things that most people do when they grow up.

I just don't want to grow up in general.

I'm with you there. I just dropped $250 on Legos, for crying out loud. I look at everything that I'm supposed to do: find a career, settle down, get married, have kids, buy a house; and I get sleepy just thinking about it.

I'm not talking about women. I am talking about the whole starting life thing. You know settling down, doing all of those things that most people do when they grow up.

I just don't want to grow up in general.
show me a man with no fears of the future, fears of failure, of lonliness, and i'll show you a liar. maturity requires a certain amount of maturity to accept, and at some point, it's a self-motivated process. how old are you anyway?

I'm with you there. I just dropped $250 on Legos, for crying out loud. I look at everything that I'm supposed to do: find a career, settle down, get married, have kids, buy a house; and I get sleepy just thinking about it.

I just get freaked out by it. I'm having a good time right now, I know what I'm doing.

show me a man with no fears of the future, fears of failure, of lonliness, and i'll show you a liar. maturity requires a certain amount of maturity to accept, and at some point, it's a self-motivated process. how old are you anyway?

22 years of age. I have very strong fears of the future. I know what I want to do, and settle down, start a career, and look for a woman to start a family with do not rank anywhere near the top.

sdaeriji and vittos-
i am still pretty kid like. i bought the house for a write off on my taxes, and because my ex boyfriend was a responsible person. i still do many things that even i cannot believe, including buying way too many halloween decorations, drinking with my friends all night, being the four star general in a very long practical joke war, spending too much money on clothes and shoes, not balancing a checkbook, taking off on trips with no notice, getting into fights with my bosses, buyingsoldier toys at KB toys and lighting them on fire, looking up violent pictures on the internet all night, playing mario on super nintendo and having it lead to fist fights, i could go on, but that is enough.

i think that disqualifies me for an older guy, right there.

sdaeriji and vittos-
i am still pretty kid like. i bought the house for a write off on my taxes, and because my ex boyfriend was a responsible person. i still do many things that even i cannot believe, including buying way too many halloween decorations, drinking with my friends all night, being the four star general in a very long practical joke war, spending too much money on clothes and shoes, not balancing a checkbook, taking off on trips with no notice, getting into fights with my bosses, buyingsoldier toys at KB toys and lighting them on fire, looking up violent pictures on the internet all night, playing mario on super nintendo and having it lead to fist fights, i could go on, but that is enough.

i think that disqualifies me for an older guy, right there.

Yeah, you don't sound like you'd get along with an older guy very much. You seem to be very much a kid at heart.

i am thinking about starting a town, for all of us. with tons of toy stores. that serve alcohol.

22 years of age. I have very strong fears of the future. I know what I want to do, and settle down, start a career, and look for a woman to start a family with do not rank anywhere near the top.
what's wrong with doing what you want to do? i mean, for god's sake, you're 22. few and far between are the people who're ready to start a family at 22. a large number of marriages don't make it past the 5 year mark, and it seems like societal pressures to settle down might have something to do with young folk such as ourselves to jump the gun and try to force our maturation upon ourselves.

Yeah, you don't sound like you'd get along with an older guy very much. You seem to be very much a kid at heart.
i dated an older guy for a bit. he really liked me, but i think i was more of an amusing curiosity to him though.

i am thinking about starting a town, for all of us. with tons of toy stores. that serve alcohol.

I think I want to take a bartending class and work as a bartender.

i am thinking about starting a town, for all of us. with tons of toy stores. that serve alcohol.
need a sheriff? to get drunk and start fires with you?

what's wrong with doing what you want to do? i mean, for god's sake, you're 22. few and far between are the people who're ready to start a family at 22. a large number of marriages don't make it past the 5 year mark, and it seems like societal pressures to settle down might have something to do with young folk such as ourselves to jump the gun and try to force our maturation upon ourselves.
true. i agree with this. but some many do well starting out early, because as you age, you get more selfish, and set in your ways.

need a sheriff? to get drunk and start fires with you?
pssshhhht. yeah.

true. i agree with this. but some many do well starting out early, because as you age, you get more selfish, and set in your ways.
not me. i'm gonna stay exactly the same. forever. :D
edit: and i'm never gonna die. and at some point i'm gonna figure flight out.
oh, and occ, check your tgs.

I think I want to take a bartending class and work as a bartender.
serve the drinks in lego glasses, and you are hired.

serve the drinks in lego glasses, and you are hired.

You mean those itty bitty Lego glasses that the little Lego people can hold in their hands?

You mean those itty bitty Lego glasses that the little Lego people can hold in their hands?
make them big. real big.

what's wrong with doing what you want to do? i mean, for god's sake, you're 22. few and far between are the people who're ready to start a family at 22. a large number of marriages don't make it past the 5 year mark, and it seems like societal pressures to settle down might have something to do with young folk such as ourselves to jump the gun and try to force our maturation upon ourselves.

Don't worry, I will probably stick to my guns. But the world can be pretty hard on people who don't settle down with society.


And I am going to be town drunk.

Don't worry, I will probably stick to my guns. But the world can be pretty hard on people who don't settle down with society.


And I am going to be town drunk.
well at least you've got ambition. no one can ever take that away from you. except maybe me. with this stick.

make them big. real big.

Everything I do is big.

Hey, check your TGs.

well at least you've got ambition. no one can ever take that away from you. except maybe me. with this stick.

I guarantee I could be the biggest, bloodiest pulp on any particular sidewalk in America.

I guarantee I could be the biggest, bloodiest pulp on any particular sidewalk in America.
i wouldn't go that far. there are some fat fuckin people in this country, who would make for some huge mounds of bruised and battered flesh. The bokken works wonders, it really does.

bump.i am looking for opinions here. although the pimp thing was funny, nick.

bump.i am looking for opinions here. although the pimp thing was funny, nick.
i try.
hey, if you go for the quiet types, kinda shy nerds, then young guys should suffice. we're jsut so damn grateful. fast learners too. and yes, that was my guttered mind talkin. :D

i try.
hey, if you go for the quiet types, kinda shy nerds, then young guys should suffice. we're jsut so damn grateful. fast learners too. and yes, that was my guttered mind talkin. :D
*cocks an ear*



:eek:

*raises an eyebrow*
confused?

*raises an eyebrow*
confused?
if you did not get it, i am not explaining

if you did not get it, i am not explaining
bah. i'm assuming it has something to do with my innate, 19-year-old horniness, and i'm willing to leave it at that. i think i need caffeine.

bah. i'm assuming it has something to do with my innate, 19-year-old horniness, and i'm willing to leave it at that. i think i need caffeine.
yep. caffeine. and a hooker.

yep. caffeine. and a hooker.
wait. i need a hooker now? crap. sharon's comin down in about 13 hours. she's gonna be pissed.

Go for a young one OM, they're easier to train. :D

wait. i need a hooker now? crap. sharon's comin down in about 13 hours. she's gonna be pissed.
i guess not then. i didnt know she would be there this weekend.

Go for a young one OM, they're easier to train. :D
yeah, but the older ones actually know what they are doing.

Go for a young one OM, they're easier to train. :D
that's what i was sayin! we're easy goin, and we love the hell out of our lessons.

yeah, but the older ones actually know what they are doing.
that's a slanderous generalization and i will not stand for it. *sits* ok. that's better.

hah. horrible pun.

But the older ones know what they want. With the young ones you can teach them the way you want, and make them think it's what they want. When their older, you need more than sex to manipulate them. The young ones are so gullible. Damn, blew my cover. I should have TGed that part. :D

But the older ones know what they want. With the young ones you can teach them the way you want, and make them think it's what they want. When their older, you need more than sex to manipulate them. The young ones are so gullible. Damn, blew my cover. I should have TGed that part. :D
gullible is not the same as stupid, as blind. don't think we don't see your little game, don't presume we do not play along. sometimes we liek to be told what to do. of course, sometimes we like to shut you up with little figure 8s with our hips till you can't breath, let alone vocalize. :D

gullible is not the same as stupid, as blind. don't think we don't see your little game, don't presume we do not play along. sometimes we liek to be told what to do. of course, sometimes we like to shut you up with little figure 8s with our hips till you can't breath, let alone vocalize. :D

Is that supposed to be a threat? I'd like to- oh, nevermind. We can't say that here. :D Besides, believe me, I can always vocalize.

Is that supposed to be a threat? I'd like to- oh, nevermind. We can't say that here. :D Besides, believe me, I can always vocalize.
yup. a big phallic threat. grr.

It's hard to say. There are very mature twenty-somethings who have worked hard to get to where they are and are very mature because of a hard life, and there are very immature thirty-somethings who have always had a one track mind. It always depends on the individual. For example, I'm 24, but ever since I was nineteen a lot of people mistook me for late twenties early thirties because of a "mature personality", so you just really never know.

But the older ones know what they want.

heh ... don't mistake confidence for knowledge. ;) You should know by now that men, by the time they're 30-35, have learned how to fake it well enough.

i am still pretty kid like. [...] i could go on, but that is enough.

i think that disqualifies me for an older guy, right there.

Not all mid-thirty guys are boring, you know? :rolleyes: Besides, here is an argument just for you: Men that collect tats tend to be more colourfull/have more pieces than college boys. ;)
Besides we can take jokes better, have more selfconfidence, still some looks and treat the women in our life like a partner and not a trophy.

this question started on the breast thread. i am 29 in a few days, and have found the guys in my area that are my age to be pretty sorry. since i am at the age where i could stil resonably date young guys 21-25, my age guys 27-32, older guys 33- 39, and the "whoa" guys. 40 plus, i would like to know what each age group has to offer, so i can concentrate my efforts.


there are obviously certain things that i cant stand for in guy, and certain aesthetics that i love, but for the sake of thread, i will be openminded.

I'm 44, and just married a woman who is 33.

She says I am more mature. Well-spoken. Courteous. Neat and clean. Well dressed. Financially stable. Attentive to her needs. My life's priorities are arranged around her - not my car or my snowboard. And better in bed than she could ever have possibly imagined.

Not saying all older men are worth it - but I don't have a lot of the bad habits that younger men have.