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Ok, it's not like i'm desperate or in need of help here, but i was wondering how other people go about asking people out and thought it would make a fun discussion. Obviously, get 'em drunk isn't really an option.... we need a consenting partner. So what's the solution then?

How about this for a chat up line.... firstly i lick a girl's shirt, then say "let me get you out of those wet clothes." What d'ya say ladies? eh eh! It'd work every time!

wow, if you gave me a line like that I'd be on my hands and knees begging you for it!

A gun usually works for a good period of time. But you are unlikely to have many repeated successes.

Honestly, I have found the direct approach works best. Just ask! :)

This is how I ask someone out:

"Out?"

walk over to her, get really nervous, start talking. she'll tire of the disjointed, moronic sounds coming out of your mouth, and walk away in no time.

Texting's great if you have a lack of confidence. However I do think it's more sincere if you ask someone face to face.

walk over to her, get really nervous, start talking. she'll tire of the disjointed, moronic sounds coming out of your mouth, and walk away in no time.
I'd think it was cute that you were nervous

walk over to her, get really nervous, start talking. she'll tire of the disjointed, moronic sounds coming out of your mouth, and walk away in no time.

Even better, whilst doing this have your brother walk over to you and hand you a plastic axe :(

How do you ask someone out?
Nicely.

"Hey, wanna get a pizza and fuck?"

"What you don't like pizza?"

Combine that line with some Sex Panther, and you have got yourself a date.

A gun, duct tape, and rope always work. ;)

How do I ask them out? Well I usually start with Hi and talk to them for awhile.

Dont' be afraid to approach them and don't take it personally if they say no. I have dated some exceptionally beautiful women that my friends would tell you were way out of my league. Why? Because I asked. You would be amazed at how many beautiful girls don't get approached because guys look at them and think she has a guy because she is exceptional looking.

Never ask when you are drunk if you really like the girl.
Just be normal, speak clearly and be direct as in do You want to go out with me tonight....I heard it's a great place. Not me and my friends are going to this place tonight and emmm....well eeehhhh....do you want to come with us or?
Don't worry if she is going to say No or if what you want to ask her sounds "lame", just ask. You will never know if you don't.

if ur me...u dont ask ! cuz u suck >_< :(

Honestly, I have found the direct approach works best. Just ask! :)

You must be one hell of a brave person...

How do you ask someone out?

From behind.

Anywho...Show them who you really are, be a nice person, offer to take them out to a nice place, the works. Try to converse with them; Find a common thread, like Music or Writing or something, between the two of you. Make her like ya!

I think some of you guys are way more nervous than you should be. If you like a girl you should ask her out, if she says no it's not the end of the world, she isn't gonna go away and laugh at you with her friends, chances are she'll feel worse than you do and at least then you can move on and ask other girls out

Combine that line with some Sex Panther, and you have got yourself a date.

"It smells like a Turd with Burnt Hair on it!"

erm, i just start with hi. complimet her. and then go in for the kill.

rush up behind her, breath heavily for a minute or so whilst staring directly at her, then say "dyawannagooutwithme" and wait for the puddle to form around you feet. If she says no, threaten to top yourself, if she says yes then breathe even more heavily and collapse.

If that fails then you could try politely saying, I've seen you around here a lot, would you like to go out together some time.

personally I prefer the first method, but then again, that's just my opinion

Directly..

You don't make her think she's attractive or 'too good for you'.. Start by teasing her, even if it's a bit cocky.. while you're talking to her, think in your head that you've got other options, and this girl means shit to you (just in case she rejects you)..

Don't be too 'clingy'...

I hate it when guys worship girls. I'm sure girls hate it too.. They look for a challenge.

I also hate it when girls SMS me every five seconds and tell me exactly what's going on in their lives at that point. 'Changing my clothes now. Will meet up with girlfirends later'. 'Going to the bathroom'. 'Sleeping'..

Argh!! :mad:

Just go ahead and do it, you freak! *dump*

Directly..

You don't make her think she's attractive or 'too good for you'.. Start by teasing her, even if it's a bit cocky.. while you're talking to her, think in your head that you've got other options, and this girl means shit to you (just in case she rejects you)..

Don't be too 'clingy'...

I hate it when guys worship girls. I'm sure girls hate it too.. They look for a challenge.

I also hate it when girls SMS me every five seconds and tell me exactly what's going on in their lives at that point. 'Changing my clothes now. Will meet up with girlfirends later'. 'Going to the bathroom'. 'Sleeping'..

Argh!! :mad:

Just go ahead and do it, you freak! *dump*
girls do that to you?! that's kinda sad

girls do that to you?! that's kinda sad

Well of course it is.. Pathetic whiners. Still, girl is better than no girl.

It's quite unfortunate that you're engaged and all.. :(

*stares at Pure Metal*

Well of course it is.. Pathetic whiners. Still, girl is better than no girl.

It's quite unfortunate that you're engaged and all.. :(

*stares at Pure Metal*
lol

The way I ask a girl out is first I start hanging out with her acting like I want to be freinds but still flirting with her and gradually increasing the amount that I flirt. Eventually I go to her freinds for help to find out if she has any interst in me. If so then I start flirting w/ her alot more and get one of her freinds to "let it slip out" that they were talking to me and that they found out that I like her. The entire time that I am flirting with her more and more I am constintaly talking to her freinds seeing what she says about me. Eventually I get up the guts to ask her out. I would never ask her out in public or in front of any body for that matter. You have to get her alone and find just the right moment to ask her. O and dont start freaking out if she regects you the first time. Ive found that if you try even harder to get her to like you and if you talk to her freinds to see why she didnt want to go out w/ u then usually u can get her to go out w/ u sooner or later.

"It smells like a Turd with Burnt Hair on it!"

"It smells like Bigfoots dick!"

"It smells like Bigfoots dick!"

"This is worse than the time the Racoon got in the Copier."

(Or something like that.)

Don't be too 'clingy'...

I hate it when guys worship girls. I'm sure girls hate it too.. They look for a challenge.

Yeah... I bet some girls like being worshipped (I have some friends who do) but personally, I like the challenge. ;)

One of two ways:

1] Nice shoes ... wanna fuck?

2] Hey ... let's go out!

Either way usually works.

I kid you not, a guy once walked up to me and asked me "asl?" in real life. I said "say what?"

him: ''You know.....asl?"

me: "well heck you know my "s" and "l".......wtf?"

i dont recommend that method.

I kid you not, a guy once walked up to me and asked me "asl?" in real life. I said "say what?"


Okie ... that's just ... ummm ... you should have maced him (the spikey ball on a stick, not the chemical) and called the cops.

I used to work at a bakery in a shopping centre, and this guy from the sushi store used to bring me sushi as a sign of affection. Apparently when I wasn't working he used to walk past the store checking all the time. lol.

Don't.
I find female friends to be much more appealing than some needy girlfriend. But this is probably just me being odd again.

Don't.
I find female friends to be much more appealing than some needy girlfriend. But this is probably just me being odd again.

Well, if you can be 'everywhere,' surely you can find the perfect girl?

Pretense is my motto.

If a girl thinks you're only there to ask her out, she'll make the ensuing conversation about going out with you. Since that usually puts you at a disadvantage, a degree of pretense is required.

I find a concrete reason to talk to her first. It's fun to exercise creativity, and I've ended up having really interesting conversations as a result.

When I find out some interesting commonality I bring it up and try to make a talking point out of it. There are a million things to talk about, and if she's interested then it'll turn into a two-way conversation in no time. I'm not a talkative person at all, but anybody can be if they try. It also can help to show what you believe to be your most flattering character traits (humor, humility, insight, etc). From there I think of a reason to hang out and an innocent conversation becomes a date of sorts.


Only twice have I just gone up to someone and told them they were the most beautiful woman I'd ever laid eyes upon. It boggles the hell our of me to this day, but both times that ended up being a really effective way to start things off.

It's hard to be gentile without coming accross as sleazy, but IMHO it's also a lot more fun that way.

It's hard to be gentile without coming accross as sleazy
LOL! Best.typo.EVER!!! :D

I think some of you guys are way more nervous than you should be. If you like a girl you should ask her out, if she says no it's not the end of the world, she isn't gonna go away and laugh at you with her friends, chances are she'll feel worse than you do and at least then you can move on and ask other girls out

Yes it is. I would die on the spot. I mean as in my lifeless caracass would drop to the earth from whence it came. I've never had a a date 'cause I've never known how to ask. there's been many times I was talking with a girl and the words were on the tip of my tongue, but I just couldn't sumon the strength to roll them off.

LOL! Best.typo.EVER!!! :D

ROFL! Yes ... that is a good one. :)

I think some of you guys are way more nervous than you should be.

Meh ... girls have never made me nervous.

You must be one hell of a brave person...

Thank you! :)

Whenever I wanted to ask someone out, I just did. No big deal to me. It's better to know one way or the other than to sit there for weeks on end worrying about the other person saying "no" and wasting time and energy on something that will be over and done with in a matter of minutes (if not seconds).

A gun, duct tape, and rope always work. ;)

How do I ask them out? Well I usually start with Hi and talk to them for awhile.

Dont' be afraid to approach them and don't take it personally if they say no. I have dated some exceptionally beautiful women that my friends would tell you were way out of my league. Why? Because I asked. You would be amazed at how many beautiful girls don't get approached because guys look at them and think she has a guy because she is exceptional looking.


As an old dog I totally agree with this. This is ageless advice. Have done this myself. Married a hotty because of this type of approach

I don't ask people out. Mainly because I don't like any of the 'traditional' type dates (dinner or lunch? nope, can't eat around people I know. Go out for coffee? Same problem. See a movie? What's the point, can't talk anyway).

I just stay single. Crushes are more fun than relationships anyway. If I was in an official relationship, I'd probably end up being less affectionate than I am in a non-official relationship.

Go me and my random non-standardness. Or not.

Since I started using the line "Are you sure your husband is not here?" my life has been much easier -- less stressful.

A gun usually works for a good period of time. But you are unlikely to have many repeated successes.

Gun?! You barbarian!

Everyone knows you use a sharpened potato.

www.becomeaplayer.com

I find it much easier to ask out a girl that you do not know already. Then again my idea of a great date is VIP passes to a auto race...no joke...just hours ago I sucessfully asked out a girl to the Grand Prix of Miami.

As a girl I would like to comment. I have never asked anyone out, although I think if you ask some people they might disagree, i don't i ever have, but anyways. I think the best way is to be friends first, you know get to know the person first. Then whatever happens... happens. If you're really chicken, do what someone I know did, get a friend to ask the person out for you. Apparently it works... I doubt it would work on me because I'm a hopeless romantic... but that's besides the point. My current boyfriend and I got together over MSN (ya ya, very impersonal) but it was actually quite nice. It was basically a story and it was "Faelyn-Ebony" and "Torgar" and they spent a night under the stars together and then in real life we went to a movie and then I asked him if we were a couple, and well, we are.

Just get to know the person first as friends, and it's amazing what will happen from there.

Ask politely. I think it is easier to say what not to do.

Do not ask " Are you busy _________ night?" This puts a woman on the spot She may think of it as a catch 22. If I say no then it will look like I have no life if I say yes then he may go away. So don't do it!!

Just ask would you like to go to and get lunch or coffee sometime or a soda whatever trips your trigger.

Just be honest and if you are nervous good.

Want to know a sure fire way to never ever go out with her??


Do not ever ask and you are guarenteed to be staying at home unless she asked you.

So ask and don't let the no's bother you. They are not personal esp. if it is stranger or someone that does not know you well.

Ok, it's not like i'm desperate or in need of help here, but i was wondering how other people go about asking people out and thought it would make a fun discussion. Obviously, get 'em drunk isn't really an option.... we need a consenting partner. So what's the solution then?

How about this for a chat up line.... firstly i lick a girl's shirt, then say "let me get you out of those wet clothes." What d'ya say ladies? eh eh! It'd work every time!

I won a pick up line contest at a club by using that on a valentine's day a couple years back. It works on men too. But, how do I ask someone out? I just state we should do this, or we should do that. Usually something fun and interesting where it doesn't state any sort of obligation but to have a good time. No complexity there.

1.) You're asking an internet forum. You're doomed.

2.) If you want to go the NS Forums route, you should probably try this "Do you hate the US as much as I do? You do? Awesome, let's go get a room and talk about socialism!"

3.) Just going up and asking her is an A-1 ultimate way to show one of the really big things that girls look for in a guy. Confidence. If you have the cajones to take a risk on getting slapped* or rejected, you come across as a much more brave individual than you may have sold yourself off to be. Your chances with said girl may increase quite favourably.

* You'll most likely get slapped if you try to lick a stranger's shirt and then petition her to remove it. I would try a more formal approach.

Like this
Please do me the Honour of taking my hand in Holy Matrimony

You have no idea how every moment i am without you drains away at my very essence. :(

Seems to work. :p

"Hey, what are your plans this weekend?"

*wait for response*

"Wanna hang out sometime?" *OR* "You could come hang out with me and my friends Saturday if you don't have anything going on."

*get giddy with happiness or feel shunned*

It really isn't as hard as it seems. Just be casual about it.

Yes it is. I would die on the spot. I mean as in my lifeless caracass would drop to the earth from whence it came. I've never had a a date 'cause I've never known how to ask. there's been many times I was talking with a girl and the words were on the tip of my tongue, but I just couldn't sumon the strength to roll them off.
have you tried asking over msn/aim/etc or text?

In Soviet Russia, person asks out you.
...
Damn, still not funny.

have you tried asking over msn/aim/etc or text?
No, because then I come across as wimpy as I actually am. :D I'll suck it up and do it one of these days. I've never quite fallen head-over-heels for a girl, and I think that when I do, this will be a very small obstacle indeed.

I think some of you guys are way more nervous than you should be. If you like a girl you should ask her out, if she says no it's not the end of the world, she isn't gonna go away and laugh at you with her friends, chances are she'll feel worse than you do and at least then you can move on and ask other girls out
Thats a lie and you know it. :(

No, because then I come across as wimpy as I actually am. :D I'll suck it up and do it one of these days. I've never quite fallen head-over-heels for a girl, and I think that when I do, this will be a very small obstacle indeed.
Solidarity Brother. :D

Whoa, for a minute there, I misread the title as "How do you eat someone out?"

:eek: ;)

Whoa, for a minute there, I misread the title as "How do you eat someone out?"

:eek: ;)


Errrrr...trails off. :D

No, because then I come across as wimpy as I actually am. :D I'll suck it up and do it one of these days. I've never quite fallen head-over-heels for a girl, and I think that when I do, this will be a very small obstacle indeed.
lol, i think it's less wimpy to ask them out over msn than not to ask them out at all :rolleyes:

Thats a lie and you know it. :(
no it isn't

I don't anymore. I'm not a big fan of rejection.

I don't anymore. I'm not a big fan of rejection.
you should come to England! most girls go weak at the knees for an Aussie accent over here!

I smile and lick my eyebrows.

no it isn't
Yes they do they so Laugh. :(

I smile and lick my eyebrows.
That's funny, usually when I smile and lick your eyebrows it doesn't work.
:confused:

Yes they do they so Laugh. :(
Kiwi girls are mean! English girls don't do that, at least none of the ones I know do

That's funny, usually when I smile and lick your eyebrows it doesn't work.
:confused:


:p

Hmm.. I only ask girls out as part of a conversation. If I e.g just spend two hours talking to her and then need to go saying "Continue this soon" ? is surprisingly easy. Especially if you already know her a bit (because she works or goes to school with you, you sit in the same bus every day etc.). Quite often it even is the girl who asks me - and no, I'm not Brad Pitt.

The hardest thing IMO is not the asking out, it is daring to talk and getting to know them. And actually have something to talk about of course.

Hell, if a guy's slow asking me out, I'll just ask him out. And I have little problem saying "No thank you" if I'm not interested. I'd never make fun of a guy for asking me out. Just because he's not to my tastes doesn't mean he's not fine for someone else.

you should come to England! most girls go weak at the knees for an Aussie accent over here!

Haha, except I'm a girl myself and I'd prefer a guy ;)

Haha, except I'm a girl myself and I'd prefer a guy ;)
Are you sure?
Yes?
Damn. I guess that plan doesn't work out too well then.

:D

you should come to England! most girls go weak at the knees for an Aussie accent over here!

What about guys over where you are Tink? Do they like Aussie accents too?

*ponders*

Haha, except I'm a girl myself and I'd prefer a guy ;)
lol, sorry, i think most guys would go weak at the knees for the accent too

What about guys over where you are Tink? Do they like Aussie accents too?

*ponders*
most do, yes

most do, yes

Want to place bets on whether or not I've managed to pick an exception to that to have a crush on?

:p

mmmm... Aussie accent, yep the lads would definiately be onto a winner here!!

Very simple, see a girl u like, catch her eye twice, third time smile. Then send the barman (etc) over wid a note that runs summat along the lines of
' Hey, Sorry to intrude on your evening, but i couldnt help noticing you and I would really like to get to know you. If you're interested I'm sat/stood over (place). My name is (name). If your not then I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening. In either case please allow me the pleasure of buying the prettiest girl in the room a drink.' (Note, dont send her a drink of your choice)
Try and catch her eye again to see a reaction, if its postive start with a compliment and let her do most of the talking, though imput enough so she knows ure interested. :cool:

Want to place bets on whether or not I've managed to pick an exception to that to have a crush on?

:p
lol, well if you come to England you'll still have me!

No, because then I come across as wimpy as I actually am. :D I'll suck it up and do it one of these days. I've never quite fallen head-over-heels for a girl, and I think that when I do, this will be a very small obstacle indeed.
So your saying you have standard which you want to live up to but you havnt had the confidence to live up to them? So instead of breaking them you do nothing? look at it this way you are depriving some woman of a really great guy, you should do them a favour and ask them out. More importantly you are depriving yourself of finding a really great woman.