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I’ve been posting a lot more than usual these past few days, and while some threads have been particularly rewarding (the LGBTT one comes to mind), others have been less than sterling performances on my part. I’ve been thinking it over, and wondering why I’m even bothered by what any of you think about my behaviour on the forum, and I’m afraid it’s come down to the fact that in the time I’ve been here, many of you have coalesced from vague, cyber semi-entities into real people that I enjoy interacting with. This is really my first forum EVER, and I came into it with a kind of flippant attitude, but it got me hooked. The diversity of opinions, the opportunity to discuss issues and see them from all sides; even the extreme views were refreshing for me, because I am so rarely exposed to them, tending not to gravitate towards people who hold them in real life.

However, the draw back is I seem to have let a somewhat sheltered life :) . Oh, I’ve encountered blatant racism before, and cultural insensitivity often, but this is the first time I’ve heard those opinions so vehemently espoused, and expanded upon. Instead of ignoring them, I clamped my jaws around the ankle of the ones who gave voice to their opinions of race, and I couldn’t seem to let go. That led me to an episode of which I am not proud…I went into a thread with the intent to show that I could rise above it, and be reasonable, even with someone who felt I was somehow of less worth because of my race, and ended up acting like a schoolyard bully with a grudge. It never would have happened in real life, and I’m ashamed I let it happen here.

I’m writing this letter so that those of you who have interacted with me on the forum realise that I greatly value your conversation and your goodwill, and even those of you with whom I do not always agree, I am grateful to for providing me with fresh eyes from time to time. I forgot for a moment that someone I was talking to was real, and I went too far. For that, I apologise. I also apologise for acting in a hypocritical manner, since I firmly believe that reason should win out over emotional responses.

In any case, I think I’m going to take a short vacation from the forum, and hopefully when I return, I will do so refreshed, calm, and better able to handle opinions that contradict my belief system!

Would it be mean for me to question why you value reason over emotion in this thread? :D

Respect points +5

Kay.

We all have times like these (those of us who have been around for a while). It's good to see that you've acknowledged that something happened instead of whining like so many of the others do when they are caught and given a nice short vacation to the land of temporary forym ban.

I hope you do return.

I never did previously interact with you, but I have read your posts. You seem fairly reasonable, and this is a fairly reasonable thing you're doing. I do hope that this serves as an example to the less than considerate NSers on this forum.

Enjoy your time away from here and return refreshed! :D

:) you have no need to apologize. i love watching you throw a hissy fit. really, though,try to stress less. its bad for your health.

I think if you'd been here as long as I have, and had to deal with some of the more 'colorful' personalities that have graced these fora, then you'd realize any of your percieved transgressions were mild by comparisson.

Meh, we all get a bit carried away sometimes. I know I did last night. :p

And I still wub ya. ;)

frequent masturbation is key to a stress-free life. if you are referring to the incident in the camp thread, that was entirely understandable. I came very close to crossing my own personal line in the sand and flaiming. instead, i chose the path of beeming idiocy. i think it turned out rather well. :D :fluffle:

I’ve been posting a lot more than usual these past few days, and while some threads have been particularly rewarding (the LGBTT one comes to mind), others have been less than sterling performances on my part. I’ve been thinking it over, and wondering why I’m even bothered by what any of you think about my behaviour on the forum, and I’m afraid it’s come down to the fact that in the time I’ve been here, many of you have coalesced from vague, cyber semi-entities into real people that I enjoy interacting with. This is really my first forum EVER, and I came into it with a kind of flippant attitude, but it got me hooked. The diversity of opinions, the opportunity to discuss issues and see them from all sides; even the extreme views were refreshing for me, because I am so rarely exposed to them, tending not to gravitate towards people who hold them in real life.

However, the draw back is I seem to have let a somewhat sheltered life :) . Oh, I’ve encountered blatant racism before, and cultural insensitivity often, but this is the first time I’ve heard those opinions so vehemently espoused, and expanded upon. Instead of ignoring them, I clamped my jaws around the ankle of the ones who gave voice to their opinions of race, and I couldn’t seem to let go. That led me to an episode of which I am not proud…I went into a thread with the intent to show that I could rise above it, and be reasonable, even with someone who felt I was somehow of less worth because of my race, and ended up acting like a schoolyard bully with a grudge. It never would have happened in real life, and I’m ashamed I let it happen here.

I’m writing this letter so that those of you who have interacted with me on the forum realise that I greatly value your conversation and your goodwill, and even those of you with whom I do not always agree, I am grateful to for providing me with fresh eyes from time to time. I forgot for a moment that someone I was talking to was real, and I went too far. For that, I apologise. I also apologise for acting in a hypocritical manner, since I firmly believe that reason should win out over emotional responses.

In any case, I think I’m going to take a vacation from the forum for a few days, and hopefully when I return, I will do so refreshed, calm, and better able to handle opinions that contradict my belief system!
This post demonstrates true humility, and courage. WTG!!! :cool:

That's nice Sinuhue. Good for you. Of all criticisms, fair and honest self criticism is surely both the most difficult to apply, but ultimately the most rewarding.

Publically posting your self criticism, I dont know if I'd be able to front up like that...

I Hope you are not away too long....

Hats off to you man... or woman... or... whoops. Anyway, it's great.

I try to pratice this. Not very well sometimes, but I try.


29. O SON OF BEING!
Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not. This is My command unto thee, do thou observe it.

(Baha'u'llah, The Arabic Hidden Words)

I'm bumping this so that the people involved have a chance to read my apology:). No point in publicly humbling yourself if it isn't that public...

I'm bumping this so that the people involved have a chance to read my apology:). No point in publicly humbling yourself if it isn't that public...
I also did one of these awhile ago:

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=357030

It was interesting to see some of the comments. Some people think that it is weakness to apologize. I and some other gracious posters don't see it that way and I do realize that it is the other person that has a problem and not me.

*zzzzzzzzzz*

*yawn* What? Yipes! *jumps out of bed and puts on pants*

Uh, thank you for your well-thought out apology(although I have no clue of the thread to which your refer).

*zzzzzzzzzz*

*yawn* What? Yipes! *jumps out of bed and puts on pants*

Uh, thank you for your well-thought out apology(although I have no clue of the thread to which your refer).
Ningún problema amorcito…solamente quiero que reconozcas que lo siento mucho... :D

Ningún problema amorcito…solamente quiero que reconozcas que lo siento mucho... :D

¡Gracias, y ahora, de nuevo a cama!

Good Luck, Sinuhue. I wish you well. I don't know what creed you follow, or if you follow any creed, but may God be with you. :)

--The Democratic States of Cogitation