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i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......

i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......

I'd tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

I dunno who said you had no feelings or why, but I promise you that you do. You're human and all humans have emotions. It's an unavoidable part of our evolution.

I'd tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.

I dunno who said you had no feelings or why, but I promise you that you do. You're human and all humans have emotions. It's an unavoidable part of our evolution.
kill away. just make it long and slow. and involve....well...i would tell you, but id have to f.....y...just forget it.

i have many nagative emotions. and funny ones. but i am being told i cannot get attached or feel bad about things.

Well, I know this sounds really crazy, but I get sad when I can't go to church on Sundays. I start crying and I cry for hours.

Well, I know this sounds really crazy, but I get sad when I can't go to church on Sundays. I start crying and I cry for hours.
wow.i have no idea what to say to this one.

When I have a good dream and I wake up only to return to my crappy life :( I had a great dream last night, I still cant get over it.

Well, I recently had my girlfriend accuse me of not loving her. That really hurt me, we have been going out for over 2 years, and it was quite out of the blue.

wow.i have no idea what to say to this one.

LOL :p just back slowly away from the screen like i did.

i hate people who are dishonest in relationships.

Well, I recently had my girlfriend accuse me of not loving her. That really hurt me, we have been going out for over 2 years, and it was quite out of the blue.

How often do you tell her you love her? I heard once that men show their love by doing things for their SO, while women prefer to tell their men that they love them.

How often do you tell her you love her? I heard once that men show their love by doing things for their SO, while women prefer to tell their men that they love them.
Well, I was more of a women in this relationship then. Didint believe me, ah well, shit happens...

Rocks, rocks hurt a lot.

kill away. just make it long and slow. and involve....well...i would tell you, but id have to f.....y...just forget it.

:D Then I shall tell you ... but not in public ... meet me near the river at the bench under the dogwood tree.

i have many nagative emotions. and funny ones. but i am being told i cannot get attached or feel bad about things.

Everybody has negative emotions. I believe you can get attached to things and, if you give me a few moments, I can probably prove it. As for not being able to feel bad about things, also not true! Perhaps the person telling you this is making a piss-poor attempt at social engineering an emotive reponse out of you. Or, if it's a guy who isn't family, is just trying to get laid.

i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......
Oh you know, the usual:
small children laughing
sunshine
rainbows
flowers
meadows
cute wittle kittens
cuddly fuzzy lambs
clowns (ok maybe no sarcasm in this one for some)

So...whenever you see anything of these things, avoid/destroy them at all costs to avoid feeling bad.

illogical people confuse and annoy me. The people who's best answer is "just cuz"

wow.i have no idea what to say to this one.

Well I do.
You poor, sad, bastard. HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As to the actual subject, I usually get hurt when people point out the motivations behind my tactics and make me seem like just another critical jackass no closer to the truth. Then I get depressed.
If you're into poking holes in other's arguments this might apply to you too.
Actually, since you posted this thread you seem to have found something that hurts you anyway.

If you want to test whether you can get depressed try going to www.despair.com

I hate love.

No seriously, I do.

Yes, I can't get laid.

Well I do.
You poor, sad, bastard. HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



For the record, I'm a perfectly legitimate female. My parents are married.

What upsets me...

It upsets me when people i love leave me, even when its my own fualt it still hurts.

It takes a lot of crap to hurt me, normally. Except, of course, when women are involved. Then, like all other men, I become infantile in my emoting. Basically, i get a tad upset (jsut a littel, but sharply) when she doesn't call when seh says she will. Just things like that. I dunno. It doesn't hurt much.
What really upsets me is the 300 miles that lie between us. My arms are 2 and a half feet long. Hers are a little shorter. That doesn't quite cut it. I can deal with it during the day, but it gets really hard after i get off the phone with her at night. I start missing things that are actually kind of unpleasant, like the bruises i get on my shoulders where seh sometimes chews on me for no particular reason (when confronted, she smiles in that way she knows me to be powerless against, and says in the voice she knows i can't resist" but i like it!" Then i sigh, and present the other shoulder) or the mouthful of hair i always get when we sleep together (not the fun sleep together, there's nothing uncomfortable about that, except that one time she did the thing with her hips, and i couldn't turn my head to the left for almost a week.) That was a run-on sentence, and I don't care.

For the record, I'm a perfectly legitimate female. My parents are married.

The record thanks you.

Honestly, the one thing that upsets me is slackers. You know, people who don't want to work hard. I'll give you an example:

I'm a guy performing in a musical for my school (no jokes, please). And the other guys who are in this show don't seem to care at all about doing a good job. They would rather just chat with the girls or do stupid things for attention. They couldn't care less about actually doing what they signed up for, or actually working hard to put on a good production. They complain when rehearsals run over time, and blame the director when they make mistakes. Some of the girls are just as bad, btw. But to me, they just can't work hard, even if it is for something unimportant compared to school.

Sorry for a bit of a rant, but it's people like them who upset me.

I get sad when people who don't deserve to die do. Other than that, I'm about as Thick-Skinned as they come.

I'm not the one to ask OC, I'm pretty much the same way. Although recently that has started to change, I actually started caring for someone. It is hard to change my ways, but I'm managing. So I guess i need just as much help as you do.

What hurts? Anemia...yeesh...

What hurts on the inside? Glorified ignorance and embraced hate.

i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......
i upset myself. :( that kinda causes me to seem to have no feelings. :(
its a loose-loose situation...

I hate it when people seem to think certain things are character deficits that I feel like is mostly out of someone's control. Like poverty, mental illness or being abused. Really bugs me. On a very personal level as well as generally.

I find ennerving people who cannot understand the idea you are expressing. I am a very social person, I know, for example, how to interpret another person's body language in order to understand him/her ideas, and express my own. There are many ways of understanding a person ofcourse. However, today, especially young people has somewhat severed this connection with his fellow neighbour, everyone thinks then that the other cannot understand him/her. This kinf of ' alienation ' is common today. These people do not know how to communicate really, because a number of factors irrelevant to this post. Tis like a virus taking on younger generations. I find this ennerving, disencouraging, sad, upsetting, alarming issue.

I find ennerving people who cannot understand the idea you are expressing. I am a very social person, I know, for example, how to interpret another person's body language in order to understand him/her ideas, and express my own. There are many ways of understanding a person ofcourse. However, today, especially young people has somewhat severed this connection with his fellow neighbour, everyone thinks then that the other cannot understand him/her. This kinf of ' alienation ' is common today. These people do not know how to communicate really, because a number of factors irrelevant to this post. Tis like a virus taking on younger generations. I find this ennerving, disencouraging, sad, upsetting, alarming issue.
interesting ideas. care to make a thread about it? :)

What hurts? Anemia...yeesh....
Anemia isn't painful :confused:

Oh yes it is, I've dealt with it.

An internal bleed in my upper GI tract. By blood hematicrit level dropped from 41 (optimal) to 14 (damn near dead).

Every muscle and bone in your body is in pain. You can't move. A migrain headache. Dizzyness, vomiting...

Not painful? Try it sometime...

Being ignored or being lied to. Which is worse I don't know. Both hurt though.

I kind of see my self as sort of emotionless. However, I do hide that in back of a shroud of pretending to care. But it is quite convincing.
I guess my only true emotions for me is love and happiness, you can't make me sad for more than a couple minutes and mad for a couple seconds.
That isn't to say that I'm eternally happy, theres also frustration and boredom.

It's funny, sometimes I feel as though I'm quite emotionless... so I think I can understand where Occidio and Ramissle are coming from.

Other times... I know I'm passionate... and capable of pretty extreme emotions.

I intensely fear abandonment, so I tend to put up tons of defenses.

i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......
Sounds like affective flattening to me. I suffered the exact same thing. If you think it has reached a problematic level, I suggest you visit a psychiatrist and mention your concern.

And, to answer you question, what really makes me upset is when people are close-minded and refuse to be convinced, and, even more, destruction of Nature. I am in partial denial, I must admit, to just how much damage we have done to our biosphere. I just can't take the full brunt of the reality...

i get upset when people don't bump.

The only thing to ever hurt me was when Wilford Brimly beat the hell out of me cause I told him his Quaker Oats sucked it big time.

Being ignored or being lied to. Which is worse I don't know. Both hurt though.I'm with you on the whole being ignored thing.

But see, now you're not being ignored! :D

The only thing to ever hurt me was when Wilford Brimly beat the hell out of me cause I told him his Quaker Oats sucked it big time.

wilford got you too? i still have scars.... but boy do i hate quaker oats. *shudders* ;)

Children who don't laugh upset me.

Groin kicks aren't very pleasant either.

Funny, I've been feeling like that for ages. I couldn't even get myself to cry the other weekend..nor when I graduated. In fact I think the last time was my grandmother's funeral 3yrs ago.
It really sucks as it means you just feel low...but by heck was I feeling last night?!! I nearly got to tears....all because of the idea of someone using a razor in the wrong place, someone I don't even really know. I came out with this, about 1 spaced out hour later (he didn't do it \o/)
[02:02] <Knight_of_Ni> Is that it....I care too much? I spread my affection to everyone...people I haven't even spoken to...and care how they suffer? And never say 'I'm going to make you more special,' because I don't know how....
Can't tell if I'm right 3hrs sleep is getting to me...

i get upset when people don't bump.
_bumps_

Sounds like affective flattening to me. I suffered the exact same thing. If you think it has reached a problematic level, I suggest you visit a psychiatrist and mention your concern.

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listen, as a kid, i saw many psychiatrists. not only do they not help,they have way too many problems of their own. if i saw one now, i most likely get medication, which is what i dont want. tried it- didnt work.
i would like to clear the air here, and reinforce the fact that i am not depressed. whatsoever. just situations that i am involved with now,and over time, have not produced any emotion. one involves a bf of 2 years, and another involves getting bored with another bf because, well.....i dont know. i dont feel any sadness at family deaths, even my cousin who was 25 and was murdered, or at my friends mom shooting herself.

but , i appreciate your posts on the thread. they are giving me a window of comparision, so to speak.

Things that upset me...

-Lies.
-Hypocrites.
-People who believe something zealotously, and have no information or logical reasonings to back it up with. Not just religion, but anything that's believed with a fervor that's lacking the power of their brain.
-Malicious, intentional betrayal of trust for a selfish personal gain.
-Really stupid things on TV - Like when Bart failed his history test and started bawling. I cried too... I don't know that that's 'upsetting' to me really, but whenever some char on a show really breaks down I can't help but join in.
-Close minded people. Not just in reference to the big subjects, but all of them. example: I have an ex who refuses to try new recipes because he doesn't like one of the many ingrediants.

There ya go :)

I am the same. I am accused of being brutally honest. My response is simple "You moan about people being deceitful and about them being truthful so how can I win!"

I am the same. I am accused of being brutally honest. My response is simple "You moan about people being deceitful and about them being truthful so how can I win!"
i am brutal beyind brutal when it comes to honesty. but , people still think i should have normal [read:female] emotions.

eh, i tend to get myself down more then anyone else, i always seem to find a way to. when anyone does something that should upset me, i usually just end up making them feel bad, but dwelling on it in private. stupid - yes, i know. oh well.

Lying, complete selfishness, hypocrisy and ignorance piss me off. Also, being told what to do without good reason for doing it. For example, if someone says, 'you shouldn't do x', but x doesn't affect them, I get annoyed. If it does affect them, then I tend to see that as fair enough, unless it's a major part of my life that I would have difficulty functioning without.

so what upsets you?
Too many things to mention, intolerance, stubborness, egoism and recklessness just being the tip of the iceberg

hurts your feelings?
If someone slanders my honour

saddens you?
Breaking up, losing a loved one, seeing people i care about being hurt

i have been accused, most recently, a good five minutes ago, of having no feelings. they may be right. i am trying to get in touch with what i should apparently be feeling as a person.
so what upsets you? hurts your feelings? saddens you? i know the obvious worldly things like child abuse and hunger and that crap. i mean on a personal level......

I could think of lotsa things but i'll just give you 2 @ the moment
1. I heard a friend talking bout me behind my back... she doesn't know how loud a voice she has and it wasn't very nice... that really stings..

2. When a guy i'm friends with and would never want to hurt likes me... cause i really don't want to hurt him but i know i have to... that makes me cry... :(

People who do not think before they act sadden me.

I feel hurt if I get left out, without any good reasons

People who do not think before they act sadden me.

I feel hurt if I get left out, without any good reasons
*leaves LP in* :)

*thinks before she does it*

*leaves LP in* :)

*thinks before she does it*
:fluffle:

That could sound sooooo dirty. :eek:

:fluffle:

That could sound sooooo dirty. :eek:

i know. :D

i know. :D
I know you know.....

sorry.... I'll stop here.

Death in my family or close friends upsets me (obviously)

Losing, especially if its because of bad luck.

Losing, especially if its because of bad luck.
someone gambles.
i could beat you in armwrestling. but it wouldnt be bad luck.

Mean people upset me. I can't understand why anyone wants to upset (on purpose) someone else. :(

I've met people who say horrible things to complete strangers and excuse themselves that they are just so honest. That has nothing to do with honesty.

Mean people upset me. I can't understand why anyone wants to upset (on purpose) someone else. :(

I've met people who say horrible things to complete strangers and excuse themselves that they are just so honest. That has nothing to do with honesty.
i agree. brute force honesty requires some tact, and social grace. everyone should have manners.

someone gambles.
i could beat you in armwrestling. but it wouldnt be bad luck.

I don't gamble, I invest.

The cards tend to give people the wrong idea.

Nobody beats me at armwrestling, I just flip the switch.

I don't gamble, I invest.

The cards tend to give people the wrong idea.

Nobody beats me at armwrestling, I just flip the switch.

you and your pet pythons. still i could. i would make you laugh to hard. works every time.

you and your pet pythons. still i could. i would make you laugh to hard. works every time.

I call them cannons (not to be confused with my bazookas), but "pythons" works.

I call them cannons (not to be confused with my bazookas), but "pythons" works.
you. have. more. than. ONE bazooka? :eek:

you. have. more. than. ONE bazooka? :eek:

No, see that is my love rocket. I only have one of those, but it is equiped with two fuel tanks.

No, see that is my love rocket. I only have one of those, but it is equiped with two fuel tanks.
now that answer upsets me. ;)

*wonders if it could hurt*

okay. thats enough. i should start a nymphomaniac thread.

I don't care what most people think of me. But when someone I really like or admire thinks badly of me it really hurts. And being rude to people who didn't do anything to you really pisses me off. And I hate to be ignored. I grew up being the center of attention, both at home and at school. I'm addicted to it. :rolleyes: I no longer have to be the center of attention, but I MUST be noticed.

I'm starting to get less emotional in response to different situations, too. I think it has to do with the way you think. All feelings are triggered by your thoughts, so if some of your thought patterns changes, chances are your emotional response towards different situations does too. For example, since some time ago, I never feel guilt, thanks to me eradicating a series of thought patterns making up most of my conscience.

While I don't react emotionally especially strong to most situations anymore, I do have as strong emotions as before. They just have a tendency to show up in a more controlled way, when I want them. And then there is a weird exception: I have a bit hard to get angry sometimes in situations where I don't get angry even if I want to.

but , people still think i should have normal [read:female] emotions.Tragical, isn't it? Everyone just has to be perfectly "normal". This is a good example. Just be yourself and don't let "normal" people decide how you should be.

The popularity of the OC. :(

But seriously, I have issues with my parents... Maybe I should just leave it there in the interest of not boring you all to death with my sad tale.

The fact that we are just pre-programmed breeding machines upsets me.

The popularity of the OC. :(

Yep that drives me crazy too, i can't stand the show but everyone in Aus seems to love it... *grumbles* :headbang:

betrayel,nothing hurts like it.