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Regardless of sex or gender. How do you, personally, flirt with people you're attracted to? Please keep sexual slurs to a minimum, if you would...

I usually wind up making fun of them and we hit each other or something

I dunno.
I don't consciously do anything, yet my friends accuse me of being a shameless flirt. Which is funny, since trying to do it on purpose usually petrifies me.

I put a gun to their forhead and make them go out with me. :mp5:

I do my best to not offend someone, so I never say anything that might be considered risque. That's probably why I don't a gf either. :)

I don't know how to flirt! *weeps uncontrollably*

I'm the joking and social type. I introduce myself and strike up a conversation filled with lots of laughter and smiles (which happens to be one of my better attributes, so I've been told). I just keep the conversation light and not too serious, but yet have a genuine interest in the other person.

I do my best to not offend someone, so I never say anything that might be considered risque. That's probably why I don't a gf either. :)
Not a good idea, in my experience. People don't want to go out with sycophants. Intellectual stimulation is what I consider to be the best move. And risks are vital, in my experience, if you want to get a girlfriend. Especially since it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out, as far as I know.

Try to start an interesting conversation. I don't really know how to flirt, so I don't really. I hate small talk.

Depends on the situation. When I flirt, I do so with such extreme subtlety that the person I'm flirting with won't realise that they're being bent to do my evil bidding.

#1: Eye contact.
#2: Smiles.
#3: Intelligent discussion.

'nuff said.

whatever you do, don't hit on a person of the same gender

#1: Eye contact.
#2: Smiles.
#3: Intelligent discussion.

'nuff said.
*stares Skalador straight in the eye*

*evil grin*

*says "I LIKE TO KILL BABIES!"*

homigosh I flirted with you!

Try to start an interesting conversation. I don't really know how to flirt, so I don't really. I hate small talk.
Myself as well. Just like The Plutonian Empire said, I don't really have a clue. But I want to work on that for a very specific purpose...

#1: Eye contact.
#2: Smiles.
#3: Intelligent discussion.

'nuff said.
Is that really all that's required? That would make it pretty easy, since I already do that. Though I'm not too good at the whole smiling thing...

I don't have to flirt. I'm so damn hot that women just throw themselves at me. It's kind of annoying, actually, all these women all the time like this.

whatever you do, don't hit on a person of the same gender
What if you're homo- or bisexual?

Different types of smiles, once she blushes I approach her, and ask her to cook me dinner :D

What if you're homo- or bisexual?
*gasp*

*stares Skalador straight in the eye*

*evil grin*

*says "I LIKE TO KILL BABIES!"*

homigosh I flirted with you!


Two things:

Are you a guy or a girl?

Do you just kill them for fun, or do you actually eat them? :D

Two things:

Are you a guy or a girl?

Do you just kill them for fun, or do you actually eat them? :D
a dude that kills babies for money, fun, sport, and for dinner.

What if you're homo- or bisexual?

Well, that's obviously a sin and should be punishable by immediate death.

whatever you do, don't hit on a person of the same gender
Unless you're gay.

Different types of smiles, once she blushes I approach her, and ask her to cook me dinner :D
I'd slap you for being a chauvinistic pig.

Me...I dance. About the only time I feel sexy. And I've been told I'm a very sexy dancer ;)

Well, that's obviously a sin and should be punishable by immediate death.
Hmm, I'd better pop off and shoot myself then.
Ta-ta!
:D

I've followed the basic formula

-Listen
-Smile
-Respond
-Listen
-Listen
-Listen
-Listen
-Nod
-Listen
-Smile
-Laugh
-Listen

If I've ever almost had a gf it was through this formula. I recommend printing it out and carrying it with you. ;)

I've followed the basic formula

-Listen
-Smile
-Respond
-Listen
-Listen
-Listen
-Listen
-Nod
-Listen
-Smile
-Laugh
-Listen

If I've ever almost had a gf it was through this formula. I recommend printing it out and carrying it with you. ;)
Well, with yours and Skalador's statements, then apparently I've been flirting without even realising it...

Laughing, joking, and smiling usually does the trick. If it's someone I really like (but can't have), I'll throw in some light physical contact, like a punch in the arm (very seventh grade, I know). If it's someone I'm really, really hot for (and I can have) I'll fiddle with my necklace, bite my lip, sidelong glances, that sort of thing.

I'd slap you for being a chauvinistic pig.

Me...I dance. About the only time I feel sexy. And I've been told I'm a very sexy dancer ;)

I get that alot, I have a bright red palm mark on my face from last night


nah im just joking, What I ask them depends on the situation, at a club I would ask you to dance, or if you were at the bar offer to buy you a drink.

Well, with yours and Skalador's statements, then apparently I've been flirting without even realising it...

Flirting is nothing really elaborate just have fun with someone while talking to em :)

I dunno what I do, but girls seem to either like it or hate it... usually like it.

;)
:fluffle:
:(
repeat

I dunno.
I don't consciously do anything, yet my friends accuse me of being a shameless flirt. Which is funny, since trying to do it on purpose usually petrifies me.
Pretty much that. If I don't know I'm doing anything, I rule-gaggles hanging off my every word...until I notice...then it aaaallllll falls down the crap heap. Uncomfortable glances...chicks calling their friends so they can have an escort home...all bad.

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.

^_o

Have we met before?

Well, with yours and Skalador's statements, then apparently I've been flirting without even realising it...
its the body language you use that makes it flirting and not chit chat

Hmm, I'd better pop off and shoot myself then.
Ta-ta!
:D

Have fun!

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.
If you did that to me, I would think you were trying to infect me with a pathogen or something.

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.

My friend did that to a girl who he barely knew and she thought it was absolutely hilarious. My jaw must have dropped to my ankles.

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.
It does, it really does.

If you did that, I would think you were trying to infect me with a pathogen or something.

I'd assume I had ketchup on my face or something.

Regardless of sex or gender. How do you, personally, flirt with people you're attracted to? Please keep sexual slurs to a minimum, if you would...
To hell with people I'm attracted to. I flirt with everyone, regardless of sex or gender. Except for the sex part. *wink wink*

Pretty much that. If I don't know I'm doing anything, I rule-gaggles hanging off my every word...until I notice...then it aaaallllll falls down the crap heap. Uncomfortable glances...chicks calling their friends so they can have an escort home...all bad.
When I realize I'm talking to somebody attractive, I usually fuck up about then. Stupid leftover instincts from being an effeminate, gawky boy in high school.
Damn, being transsexual fucks up your life.

Before I start ranting about my problems, i'm going to go have a nice tall glass of STFU so I don't hijack Gnostikos's topic here.

its the body language you use that makes it flirting and not chit chat
And what type of body language is it that males use? I'm pretty sure what females do, but how is it to be reciprocated?

Before I start ranting about my problems, i'm going to go have a nice tall glass of STFU so I don't hijack Gnostikos's topic here.
Eh, don't worry. I do things like that accidentally all the time. My mind goes everywhere, and I do it to people here and in real life all the time unwittingly. So don't worry too much.

Have fun!
I'm back.
The bullet seems to have missed anything vital, although I'm having a bit of trouble with speech and short-term memory.

Amazingly, I'm not even weak from blood loss! It is a bit annoying having the back of my head missing, though...

I miss the back of my head...

:D

Eh, don't worry. I do things like that accidentally all the time. My mind goes everywhere, and I do it to people here and in real life all the time unwittingly. So don't worry too much.
Ha, in real life, when I'm manic, I'm a bitch to try to communicate with, because I hijack every conversation and start talking in stream-of-conscioiusness about whatever the hell runs through my mind.

*gasp*

a dude

I'm assuming from that previous post you're hetero. In which case I highly doubt I am your type.

Y'know. What with me being male and all. :p

Really if I knew I'd tell ya.
This is basic night of hook-ups for me goes as follows:
1. Piquantrax and crew enter club to Pimpin theme song.
2. Piquantrax finds an attractive female.
3. Piquantrax follows the simple 3 S's (it's in spanglish so hang with me here):
a. Sola
b. sonrisa
c. stare
4. If all three can be checked Piquantrax approaches.
5. 3 or 4 hours later Piquantrax is saying good-bye while thinking about how he managed such a fine piece of ass, and yet remembers nothing of the process.

And what type of body language is it that males use? I'm pretty sure what females do, but how is it to be reciprocated?
they stare at the boosoms :D

I'd assume I had ketchup on my face or something.
just assume you look like you would taste good, birthday boy

they stare at the boosoms :D
Alright. Anything else?

go up and lick his face. i do it all the time. it works, i swear.

I've never done that, but I did once walk face-first into a guy's chest repeatedly. (He's 6'9", I'm 5'0"). Oddly enough, it worked; he thought it was cute.

I've also eaten a saliva-covered dead fly to impress a guy. That worked, too.

NOTE: These guys were actors. Results may vary when attempted with normal humans.

Alright. Anything else?
looks at your hands, hair and other small features,
leans towards her,
smiles,
eye contact,
ANY physical touching,
is basically attentive,
there is lots of little things

a big sign he wants to approach, he looks at her while talking to other people

Just curious am I the only person here with a pen and paper taking notes?

If you did that to me, I would think you were trying to infect me with a pathogen or something.
well there is the uptight one.
i have, for the record never done this. well, i do it to my friends all the time, but it is to gross them out. it was done to me once, and it worked, he was AWESOME , so what the hell, right?

i just tried to say something interesting, besides the standard- be yourself. which is what i do.

I've also eaten a saliva-covered dead fly to impress a guy. That worked, too.
Not a good idea if you don't want to get sick. That is one of the most stupid things you can do regarding epidemiology.

NOTE: These guys were actors. Results may vary when attempted with normal humans.
Actors are pretty damn awesome, I have to say.

looks at your hands, hair and other small features,
Whose? Yours or the girls?

ANY physical touching,
is basically attentive,
there is lots of little things
What do you mean by this? Is the physical touching attentive?

I've never done that, but I did once walk face-first into a guy's chest repeatedly. (He's 6'9", I'm 5'0"). Oddly enough, it worked; he thought it was cute.
Something like that happened to me in high school.
There was one guy that I thought looked really cute, but was afraid to talk to. One day, I turned a corner and accidentally walked right into him. I started apologizing profusely, and he replied with "Hey, you're cute enough that you can run into me whenever you want!"

well there is the uptight one.
No, not at all really. I am just very into pathology, epidemiology, and aetiology. So I know how things work, and I'm not too keep on getting the avian flu anytime soon.

Just curious am I the only person here with a pen and paper taking notes?
*prints out entire thread*
:p

I'm assuming from that previous post you're hetero. In which case I highly doubt I am your type.

Y'know. What with me being male and all. :p
I am as hetero as I am gay.

How's THAT for a brain-teaser?


(yesh I'm hetero)

Something like that happened to me in high school.
There was one guy that I thought looked really cute, but was afraid to talk to. One day, I turned a corner and accidentally walked right into him. I started apologizing profusely, and he replied with "Hey, you're cute enough that you can run into me whenever you want!"

I'm writing that one down.

I am as hetero as I am gay.

How's THAT for a brain-teaser?
You're either 50/50 bisexual or nonsexual.
:D

Just curious am I the only person here with a pen and paper taking notes?

Yes. :p

No, seriously. It's all just about being friendly, appreciative and attentive. And relaxed, if that's at all possible.

I dunno.
I don't consciously do anything, yet my friends accuse me of being a shameless flirt. Which is funny, since trying to do it on purpose usually petrifies me.
:eek: so i'm not the only one like that!

Just curious am I the only person here with a pen and paper taking notes?

What you do is pretty obvious. The hard part is flirting for the first times in your life.
Having trouble with that myself. ;)

Not a good idea if you don't want to get sick. That is one of the most stupid things you can do regarding epidemiology.

I'm sure you're right, but this was *coughmuttercough* years ago, and I'm still alive to tell the tale, so it was worth the risk.

Whose? Yours or the girls?

the girls. For example, say you are standing at a bar, the guy will come up next to you look at your hands while he is gathering the courage to talk to you.

What do you mean by this? Is the physical touching attentive?
I ment them as two different things
1. touching
2. being attentive. For example actually listening to what you say not just nodding and agreeing. Example two, gives eye contact while talking to you, this is an indication he isnt watching her lips, to get signs to nod and agree, but is actually hearing what she is saying.

Yes. :p

No, seriously. It's all just about being friendly, appreciative and attentive. And relaxed, if that's at all possible.

That's what I do. Although I do seem to have the worst timing in the world.

Me: "Wanna go out with me sometime"

Her: "Sorry I already have a boyfriend"

Me: "Whats your man got to do with me?"

minus that last part that's how it always seems, oh well 8th time's the charm! :)

I'm sure you're right, but this was *coughmuttercough* years ago, and I'm still alive to tell the tale, so it was worth the risk.
Oh, yes. The odds that you will get a serious infection are not high, but it is still probably enough to be stupid.

I'm sure you're right, but this was *coughmuttercough* years ago, and I'm still alive to tell the tale, so it was worth the risk.

Years ago?!?

But you were only a child years ago!!!

:D

Years ago?!?

But you were only a child years ago!!!

:D

Now this is a guy who knows how to flirt. Keep talkin', birthday boy. ;)

the girls. For example, say you are standing at a bar, the guy will come up next to you look at your hands while he is gathering the courage to talk to you.
No offense to them, but I'd really prefer a guy not come up and try to flirt with me...

I ment them as two different things
1. touching
2. being attentive. For example actually listening to what you say not just nodding and agreeing. Example two, gives eye contact while talking to you, this is an indication he isnt watching her lips, to get signs to nod and agree, but is actually hearing what she is saying.
So, wait, where are the eyes supposed to be? You've given several different places...

Years ago?!?

But you were only a child years ago!!!

:D

<Writes that one down>

I am as hetero as I am gay.

How's THAT for a brain-teaser?


Wouldn't that make you bisexual?


(yesh I'm hetero)

I'm a little disappointed, but I'll get over it. Send me a TG if you're open to experimenting :D

Now this is a guy who knows how to flirt. Keep talkin', birthday boy. ;)

That's right, I'm 22 today!

When do you turn 22?

I have no fucking idea. I just start talking and hope to god nothing too stupid, offensive, or forward jumps out and screws me over.

This has not worked.

That's right, I'm 22 today!

When do you turn 22?

I turn 22 on april 1st.


Nope, it's not a joke. So you guys were warned in advance. If I create a thread for my bday on april 1st, you'll know it wasn't an april's fool :p

Alright I'm gonna go to bed. Good night you pimps and pimpettes.

<Takes notes from this page and puts them in safe>

Edit: I am now without a doubt in my mind, 100% assured, that I AM THE MOST pathetic person here ;)

No offense to them, but I'd really prefer a guy not come up and try to flirt with me...

all guys are only trying, because there is no sure way to go about it.

So, wait, where are the eyes supposed to be? You've given several different places...
depends on timing, when you are talking your eyes, when they are talking he will probably avoid your eyes looking at your other features, untill the conversation is going positively

Well, I find there are a couple different types of flirting I do:

1) With my good friends, who know I'm not trying to hit on them and besides, it's too dorky to work anyway: lots of winks/raised eyebrows, sultry mouthed phrases across the room, and pretended arousal - followed by a good laugh.

2) Deliberate flirting with people I like: I smile a lot, ask questions about any little interest of theirs, say hi in the halls, or try to get them to catch me staring at them then quickly look away. Usually either a) doesn't work or b) makes me look like an idiot, so I tend to refrain.

3) People I connect with/find attractive: in a phrase, prolonged eye contact often accompanied by sincere smiles. This just kinda happens at first, then when I realize it's happening I do more of it to get the message across.

4) With a person I'm going out with: the same sort of stuff as just my friends, also overblow romantic responses to interactions, e.g. quote Shakespeare while imitating a swoon if they unexpectedly give me a flower.

EDIT: O yea... and I've never tried this before but I intend to next time I end up single and crushing, but I read or heard or was advised somewhere that it also works to lightly put your hand on their arm for a second during conversation or as a goodbye.

That's right, I'm 22 today!

When do you turn 22?

Ha. Ha ha ha.

Try 1996.

all guys are only trying, because there is no sure way to go about it.

depends on timing, when you are talking your eyes, when they are talking he will probably avoid your eyes looking at your other features, untill the conversation is going positively
You know, it's absolutely hilarious listening to you two talk about this. I can't understand what either of you are saying, but I can tell neither of you understand the other right now.
:D

I dunno.
I don't consciously do anything, yet my friends accuse me of being a shameless flirt. Which is funny, since trying to do it on purpose usually petrifies me.

yeah, im the exact same way. i actually won the "biggest flirt" and "shyest" awards in school. never understood that.

Never bring up music as the first topic if you like stuff that other people don't.
Like gabba, or experimental stuff.
Never talk to a date about Einsturzende Neubauten or Merzbow.

You know, it's absolutely hilarious listening to you two talk about this. I can't understand what either of you are saying, but I can tell neither of you understand the other right now.
:D

I second that. I have no idea whatsoever what they're saying either.

You know, it's absolutely hilarious listening to you two talk about this. I can't understand what either of you are saying, but I can tell neither of you understand the other right now.
:D
well atleast I know what im trying to say :)

I second that. I have no idea whatsoever what they're saying either.

I actually followed it...which is kinda scary, really.

I actually followed it...which is kinda scary, really.
:eek: some one understands me :eek:

I second that. I have no idea whatsoever what they're saying either.
We are talking about body language, Humans being extremely complex im having difficulty explaining some of it as it can sound contradictory.

-edit gee my typing sucks today-

:eek: some one understands me :eek:

:eek: :eek: :eek:

all guys are only trying, because there is no sure way to go about it.

depends on timing, when you are talking your eyes, when they are talking he will probably avoid your eyes looking at your other features, untill the conversation is going positively
You seem to be missing the fact that I am male...

Different types of smiles, once she blushes I approach her, and ask her to cook me dinner :D


Even though you won't taste it would you prefer cianide or arsnic?

We are talking about body language, Humans being extremly complex im having difficulty expalining some of it as it can sound contradicory.

That much I had gathered :p

Grapefruit... a bathing suit... chew a little Juicyfruit... wash away the night.
Drive in... you guzzle gin... commit a little moral sin... it's good for the soul.

I usually just stare and when I'm caught, I blush and look away, and shyly look back. Usually works. :headbang:

We are talking about body language, Humans being extremly complex im having difficulty expalining some of it as it can sound contradicory.
Yes, I can tell you're certainly having some trouble with paralanguage.

You seem to be missing the fact that I am male...
those were examples

Even though you won't taste it would you prefer cianide or arsnic?
hmmm cyanide tonight hun ;):D

I motion that FC starts over from the beginning, and explains the situation a bit better so it stops sounding like there's something really important going on that I missed.

those were examples
Yes, it's just that you were using the second person pronoun in reference to a female...and giving it from the feminine perspective.

I motion that FC starts over from the beginning, and explains the situation a bit better so it stops sounding like there's something really important going on that I missed.
I second that motion!

Edit:
Even though I understand it...

Originally Posted by Findecano Calaelen
all guys are only trying, because there is no sure way to go about it.

depends on timing, when you are talking your eyes, when they are talking he will probably avoid your eyes looking at your other features, untill the conversation is going positively
You seem to be missing the fact that I am male...
Taken out of context, this is absolutely precious.

hmmm cyanide tonight hun ;):D

Wonderful. I'll make sure to take you right to the edge before it hits.

Yes, I can tell you're certainly having some trouble with paralanguage.
One of my biggest problems in life has been my inablity to express myself how I intend to.

Yes, it's just that you were using the second person pronoun in reference to a female...and giving it from the feminine perspective.
You asked what body language guys use when flirting, I was attempting to use the example of male approching female, nothing was ment to be implied
*embarresed*

I usually just stare and when I'm caught, I blush and look away, and shyly look back. Usually works. :headbang:
You are on your way to greatness.

I second that motion!
I third it, but I really couldnt be bothered

Edit:
Even though I understand it...
w00t :)

I joke around with them, sometimes sexually, like tonight at the bar, this waitress was pregnant, and she said oh, Ihave a foot in my pussy, and I was like really? I have a foot in my pants.

:eek: :eek: :eek:
I doesnt happen very often :)

From what I've gathered...
Signal one: When talking to another person your eyes move in a triangle: the eyes and mouth. If a guy likes a girl the triangle extends to eyes-neck then further until it's at least eyes-breasts.
Signal two: Round things. Guys will fiddle with an earlobe, or a glass..something round.
Signal three: mimicing. This applies to both sexes. If she moves her hand in a certain gesture a lot he will do the same. Body postures mirror. etc.
That's all I can remember.

Neo-Anarchists, you say when you 'were a boy...' you've chosen to be female now, or look/stay 'ambiguous'?

Hmm, if someone chooses neither, does that make them gay or straight...?

I joke around with them, sometimes sexually, like tonight at the bar, this waitress was pregnant, and she said oh, Ihave a foot in my pussy, and I was like really? I have a foot in my pants.
Oh Brad! You're a Geek.

Regardless of sex or gender. How do you, personally, flirt with people you're attracted to? Please keep sexual slurs to a minimum, if you would...
*adopts fake London accent, à la Austin Powers*
I never flirt...

hard.

;)

Not a good idea, in my experience. People don't want to go out with sycophants. Intellectual stimulation is what I consider to be the best move. And risks are vital, in my experience, if you want to get a girlfriend. Especially since it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out, as far as I know.

yup thats about the best one... lol

Neo-Anarchists, you say when you 'were a boy...' you've chosen to be female now, or look/stay 'ambiguous'?

i hope she doesnt get mad that i spoke for her - but i do believe she is a her.

at least thats what i call her.

From what I've gathered...
Signal one: When talking to another person your eyes move in a triangle: the eyes and mouth. If a guy likes a girl the triangle extends to eyes-neck then further until it's at least eyes-breasts.
Signal two: Round things. Guys will fiddle with an earlobe, or a glass..something round.
Signal three: mimicing. This applies to both sexes. If she moves her hand in a certain gesture a lot he will do the same. Body postures mirror. etc.
That's all I can remember.
Thats an example of what I was trying to say earlier

i hope she doesnt get mad that i spoke for her - but i do believe she is a her.

at least thats what i call her.
She is a MtF transgender if I recall correctly.

Neo-Anarchists, you say when you 'were a boy...' you've chosen to be female now, or look/stay 'ambiguous'?
I'm transsexual. Male to female.

EDIT:
Gnostikos beat me to it...

She is a MtF transgender if I recall correctly.

im 85% sure your right, but i have been wrong before.

so i will stop answering her questions and let her do it.. heh, sorry neo

I motion that FC starts over from the beginning, and explains the situation a bit better so it stops sounding like there's something really important going on that I missed.
I agree; they never should have pushed the timing of expansions beyond FC, except from the Borg perspective.

I flirted once. A long, long time ago. It ended like this. :fluffle: Which proved to me that all you have to do to flirt successfully is smile, be funny, good-looking, and be incredibly wealthy.

roofies all the way

im 85% sure your right, but i have been wrong before.
Ooh! I'm good at being wrong!
:D
so i will stop answering her questions and let her do it.. heh, sorry neo
No worries.
:fluffle:

I agree; they never should have pushed the timing of expansions beyond FC, except from the Borg perspective.
Whoa, for a moment there, I was thinking "Which one of the two of us just took a hit of LSD?"

Then I realized what you were talking about.
:D

roofies all the way
Roofie was a bud!

Whoa, for a moment there, I was thinking "Which one of the two of us just took a hit of LSD?"

Then I realized what you were talking about.
:D
I didn't...

except from the Borg perspective.
wah???

that flew straight over my head and bitch slapped me on the way.

Whoa, for a moment there, I was thinking "Which one of the two of us just took a hit of LSD?"

Then I realized what you were talking about.
:D
:D

Prooves me! Go me!

EDIT: It is fun, and uniquely singular, to be drunk.

wah???
FC = First Contact

The game Star Trek:CCG kind of took a warp after First Contact.

:D

Prooves me! Go me!

EDIT: It is fun, and uniquely singular, to be drunk.
I still don't get it, but I think I can fall asleep now, so I'm gonna try. Have fun while it lasts.

FC = First Contact

The game Star Trek:CCG kind of took a warp after First Contact.
ahhh star trek..... that would explain why I had no idea what the fuck you were on about :)

ahhh star trek..... that would explain why I had no idea what the fuck you were on about :)
The thought of Borg bitch-slapping anyone is hilarious. :-)

No worries.
:fluffle:

:fluffle:

The thought of Borg bitch-slapping anyone is hilarious. :-)
im glad your amused :)

I still don't get it, but I think I can fall asleep now, so I'm gonna try. Have fun while it lasts.
Sleep is overrated.
:D
Nighty-night!

EDIT: It is fun, and uniquely singular, to be drunk.
That explains a lot!

I must admit I don't really flirt with people, only one's I really want, and am comfortable with. Besides most people look at me like I'm going to kill them, steer clear of me, and shudder. I have actually scared people by doing nothing more than being present.

I must admit I don't really flirt with people, only one's I really want, and am comfortable with. Besides most people look at me like I'm going to kill them, steer clear of me, and shudder. I have actually scared people by doing nothing more than being present.
That's probably true for most people on NS. Well, me at least. I usually end up being insulting when I try to flirt. So I either scare the hell out of them or get them pissed at me. Yay.

I must admit I don't really flirt with people, only one's I really want, and am comfortable with. Besides most people look at me like I'm going to kill them, steer clear of me, and shudder. I have actually scared people by doing nothing more than being present.
Ha, NoF, it's even worse when people can't tell if you're a guy or a girl and you're wearing black lipstick.
I would know.

Flirt? I don't, and that may be my problem (since I'm optionally single).

I wait for them to hit on me, and when I'm actually looking, that's enough to snag something.

Okay, admittedly, I'm being teh funney.




Unless we count Aerou. Then I'm so writing her back ;)

well the only problem with it being my way is that I don't even usually get the conversation to begin with. And yes I do know what it's like to be confused withthe opposite sex, I had really long hair until about a year ago.

Me? I dunno. I'm a hateful, evil man. Flirting isn't something I do well. I tend to make eye contact, walk over to the guy in question, and just ask him out. Plain and simple. I know, I know, you were expecting more of me; explosions, guns, violence, threats... Sorry I didn't deliver, folks. Next time. Just for you.

Regardless of sex or gender. How do you, personally, flirt with people you're attracted to? Please keep sexual slurs to a minimum, if you would...


With my eyes I suppose.. and tone of voice, smiling.. laughing.. talking. I'm not a touchy feely flirter like some chics. If I get to the point I'm touching on them.. I'm about to jump their bone :)

Flirt?

Usually I tease, Complement and poke their boobs. I'm kidding about the last part.

Oh yeah.. eye contact. mmmMmmmmm

Usually I tease, Complement and poke their boobs.
*pictures Greedy Pig getting bitchslapped*

I'm kidding about the last part.
Ok good.

I'm transsexual. Male to female.

EDIT:
Gnostikos beat me to it...

Oh right, I thought you were...not asexual...one born with both...I forget the name. My apologies.

I just tease them about something stupid, like their shoes or something, and just keep bringing that up around them if they think it's funny.

I flirt so much that nobody takes it seriously. If I'm genuinely attracted to someone, I do the "grab and smooch" method.

Oh right, I thought you were...not asexual...one born with both...I forget the name. My apologies.

Hermaphrodite.

Signal three: mimicing. This applies to both sexes. If she moves her hand in a certain gesture a lot he will do the same. Body postures mirror. etc.
I always thought it was just a coincidence...or that we were both equally bored in class.

I studied a bit o' Body Language, it's more than coincidence; it's the person willing the brains to synchronize, or something. Okay, I didn’t study it very well! :D

Anyway, I have to admit I’m a bit of a coward when it comes to "flirting", my tactic so far in life has been to make friends with various people, which I seem to do fairly easily, possibly by finding people as insane as I am then being relaxed and cheerful. Then, later, if I feel attracted to one of my recently acquired friends, I’ll spend an increasing amount of time with them, establish a set of private in-jokes to isolate all others, then wait until

a) I’m sure I want to risk the friendship (if not at least I’ve got a good friend)

b) I’m absolutely certain they'll say yes (I think I subconsciously fear rejection)

If both aren't fulfilled then I won't ask. This may be why I haven't had a lot of girlfriends, but when I have it's been wonderful and amazingly emotionally fulfilling.

I don't flirt much, it's basicaly 'the look' I use. So far, people only think it's funny.

not-so-clear picture of 'the look' (http://img8.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img8&image=thelook9nu.jpg)

the goeroe (http://www.telesaurus.be/nachtwacht/jan.jpg)

I don't flirt much, it's basicaly 'the look' I use. So far, people only think it's funny.

not-so-clear picture of 'the look' (http://img8.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img8&image=thelook9nu.jpg)
And I would agree with them.

And I would agree with them.
I second that

Oh, shush. He's adorable. You guys are horrid. :p

When i flirt and someone flirts back, we joke around and tease eachother. It's very lighthearted and casual, and i only do it with someone i feel comfortable around and i have gotten to know at least a little bit.

I don't have to flirt. I'm so damn hot that women just throw themselves at me. It's kind of annoying, actually, all these women all the time like this.
Yeah, especially when you are after Patrick "owning you since 1940" Stewart.

Flirt? Hmmm...Well in a very manly way I get on my knees infront of the girl and beg. ;)
I don't really know, just start talking about something we both have in common I guess.

Flirt? Hmmm...Well in a very manly way I get on my knees infront of the girl and beg. ;)
I don't really know, just start talking about something we both have in common I guess.
like this?

*gets on knees, hands together*

GO OUT WITH ME NOW OR I'LL SMACK YOU ACROSS THE FACE!

like this?

*gets on knees, hands together*

GO OUT WITH ME NOW OR I'LL SMACK YOU ACROSS THE FACE!

Yeh, except the "SMACK YOU ACROSS THE FACE" part.

neo, i really admire you

I flirted once. A long, long time ago. It ended like this. :fluffle: Which proved to me that all you have to do to flirt successfully is smile, be funny, good-looking, and be incredibly wealthy.
Merde, I'm not rich.

Guess that's the problem.

;)

Not a good idea, in my experience. People don't want to go out with sycophants. Intellectual stimulation is what I consider to be the best move. And risks are vital, in my experience, if you want to get a girlfriend. Especially since it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out, as far as I know.

Then, for me, all hope is lost. There's no way my mouth would maintain coherent function long enough to get most of the sentence out. I'm screwed. :(

I usually wind up making fun of them and we hit each other or something

And then what? Do you chase each other round the playground?

Um.. how do I flirt? Well.. if I'm flirting it's usually just to get someone in bed. So it's all about touching and inflating their ego!

If you ever saw the movie 'Grind' then think about a female Sweet Lou and you got me.

Not a good idea, in my experience. People don't want to go out with sycophants. Intellectual stimulation is what I consider to be the best move. And risks are vital, in my experience, if you want to get a girlfriend. Especially since it is rare for a girl to ask a guy out, as far as I know.
I agree with the intellectual stimulation - often I'll find myself talking with some guy who, at first look, didn't strike me as terribly attractive, but after a really great debate or intellectual conversation, I want to drag him into bed with me.

(Okay, maybe the last part is a little extreme, but the point still holds!)

It's amazing how personality affects the way a person looks to someone else, too.

Or is it just girls who have that experience??

I've definitely had that experience. And the opposite. When you start talking to a real hottie but he turns out to be an asshole, he seems a lot less attractive physically.

I agree with the intellectual stimulation - often I'll find myself talking with some guy who, at first look, didn't strike me as terribly attractive, but after a really great debate or intellectual conversation, I want to drag him into bed with me.

(Okay, maybe the last part is a little extreme, but the point still holds!)

It's amazing how personality affects the way a person looks to someone else, too.

Or is it just girls who have that experience??

That's absolutely, completely true. The more I like someone, the better they look to me over time.

Any helpful sugestions or am I just owned for all time in this department? :confused:

Any helpful sugestions or am I just owned for all time in this department? :confused:

Um...smile. Take a deep breath. Relax. Have fun. And keep telling yourself that, contrary to what you may have heard, women are an awful lot like people. ;)

Um...smile. Take a deep breath. Relax. Have fun. And keep telling yourself that, contrary to what you may have heard, women are an awful lot like people. ;)

You mean they won't crush me with their vice-like talons? :eek:

That's absolutely, completely true. The more I like someone, the better they look to me over time.
Yeah, I hadn't noticed that until I thought back on it, but it seems to be true.
How interesting!

You mean they won't crush me with their vice-like talons? :eek:

Well, I never said that...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Skalador
#1: Eye contact.
#2: Smiles.
#3: Intelligent discussion.

'nuff said.

I definatly agree with this!!! i mean, how can u prove ur confident about urself without even making eye contact?! nd if i think i no guys as well as i think i do, guys like girls tht r confident, but not too much. O yer nd always make an effort! it shows tht u care bout ur looks!!! dont let them go too waste!

That's absolutely, completely true. The more I like someone, the better they look to me over time.

I must be looking pretty good to you about now, then. ;)

You mean they won't crush me with their vice-like talons? :eek:
No, usually we deliver a fatal bite first.
:D

Weeeeelllll, the thing is, I have no problem talking with women normally. But this was only after years of steeling my courage. But if I even been to think along lines other than a platonic relationship, bam, ownage sets in.

nd if i think i no guys as well as i think i do, guys like girls tht r confident, but not too much.

Wow. That would be a guy to avoid, in my opinion.

No, usually we deliver a fatal bite first.
:D

Aggghh, I guess maybe I'm better of the way I am after all. ;)

I think Neo and I are going to scare Der Lieben into the monastery. :p

I think Neo and I are going to scare Der Lieben into the monastery. :p

St. Francis, help meeeee! :D

Don't worry, we aren't all that poisonous!
No permanent brain damage.
:D

*finishes checking door lock, sees screen* Oh, well thank goodness... all the same *deadbolt* :p

I've definitely had that experience. And the opposite. When you start talking to a real hottie but he turns out to be an asshole, he seems a lot less attractive physically.
Oh yes, it totally goes both ways. Which can be wonderful when the guy has lots of intelligence and a great personality... but such a pity when he doesn't! (Particularly when you first think he might be a great person, and then turns out to be a total idiot or jerk.)

*finishes checking door lock, sees screen* Oh, well thank goodness... all the same *deadbolt*:p

Now, see? You'll never find a young lady with that attitude

I guess I'm an outrageous flirt. When we were teenagers my sister complained that when a guy walked in the room I totally changed. She said I came "on" like a lightbulb when a guy I found attractive came in the room. I denied it, but it was true. I'd just done it unconsciously.

I was at a party with my ex-husband doing my usual thing. Some guy went up to Allan (the ex) and told him quietly that his wife was flirting with everyone. Allan shrugged his shoulders and said "So?" Allan knew I'd flirt with anyone and he wasn't worried. When we went to gay bars I'd flirt with everyone. Gay, straight, male or female. Allan thought it was funny.

Sometimes flirting is just fun. It doesn't have to lead anywhere.

Um...smile. Take a deep breath. Relax. Have fun. And keep telling yourself that, contrary to what you may have heard, women are an awful lot like people. ;)
Lol - love the way you put that. (And when I look back on high school, it occurs to me that the boys I knew often seemed to forget that!)

The have fun part is key, for me at least. But I don't know - maybe I'm second guessing myself... because I've flirted with pretty serious people, and as long as they don't take themselves *too* seriously, and loosen up a bit, it's okay...

Which I guess means they're having fun... so yeah. Have fun. Doesn't mean you have to reinvent yourself if you're a more reserved or serious person, though. :)

Now, see? You'll never find a young lady with that attitude.

*Opens door, nervously, checks both ways. "Whew, all clearrrghhhh, ack, ulg, blark" manages to haul mangled self back into room* Your right, it wasn't so bad. Imean, I lived. *dies from lack of blood*

*dies from lack of blood*
Maybe it wasn't such a great idea to pick up a BDSM chick?
:D

I guess I'm an outrageous flirt. When we were teenagers my sister complained that when a guy walked in the room I totally changed. She said I came "on" like a lightbulb when a guy I found attractive came in the room. I denied it, but it was true. I'd just done it unconsciously.

I was at a party with my ex-husband doing my usual thing. Some guy went up to Allan (the ex) and told him quietly that his wife was flirting with everyone. Allan shrugged his shoulders and said "So?" Allan knew I'd flirt with anyone and he wasn't worried. When we went to gay bars I'd flirt with everyone. Gay, straight, male or female. Allan thought it was funny.

Sometimes flirting is just fun. It doesn't have to lead anywhere.
I think it's sad when people shut down all flirting, just because they're in a relationship. As long as it's not serious (and your partner understands - and I can't imagine being with a guy who didn't, at least not long-term), then it's totally cool.

Plus? It's good for your health, and gives you a nice glow! :D

Lol - love the way you put that. (And when I look back on high school, it occurs to me that the boys I knew often seemed to forget that!)

The have fun part is key, for me at least. But I don't know - maybe I'm second guessing myself... because I've flirted with pretty serious people, and as long as they don't take themselves *too* seriously, and loosen up a bit, it's okay...

Which I guess means they're having fun... so yeah. Have fun. Doesn't mean you have to reinvent yourself if you're a more reserved or serious person, though. :)

Yeah I guess its all in the mindset. I'll just have to find the proper one.

Maybe it wasn't such a great idea to pick up a BDSM chick?
:D
I feel incredibly stupid, but what does BDSM mean? :confused:

I feel incredibly stupid, but what does BDSM mean? :confused:
Bondage, Dominatrix, Sado-Masochism.

You know, the really kinky stuff.

I think it's sad when people shut down all flirting, just because they're in a relationship. As long as it's not serious (and your partner understands - and I can't imagine being with a guy who didn't, at least not long-term), then it's totally cool.

Plus? It's good for your health, and gives you a nice glow! :D

Amen, sister. It's a fun way to connect with people.


@Der Lieben: BDSM=Bondage / Discipline / Sadism / Masochism.

Bondage, Dominatrix, Sado-Masochism.

You know, the really kinky stuff.

Oh well, at least I get to be a zombie now. *precedes to terrorize UAH campus*

Bondage, Dominatrix, Sado-Masochism.

You know, the really kinky stuff.
Sounds nice... :p

@Der Lieben: BDSM=Bondage / Discipline / Sadism / Masochism.
Oop!
I got the wrong word for the "D" when I tried to explain it.

I think it's sad when people shut down all flirting, just because they're in a relationship. As long as it's not serious (and your partner understands - and I can't imagine being with a guy who didn't, at least not long-term), then it's totally cool.

Plus? It's good for your health, and gives you a nice glow! :D

I can't even imagine how I would survive if I was ever with someone who didn't want me flirting.

Sounds nice... :p
Well you can have her, my zombie cares not. *eats nearest peasant*

Oop!
I got the wrong word for the "D" when I tried to explain it.

Well, it's not like I'm an expert or anything.

*Hides the handcuffs*

I can't even imagine how I would survive if I was ever with someone who didn't want me flirting.
Exactly - especially because then I'd start wondering if he trusted me at all!

EDIT: besides which, I'm just as likely to flirt with girls as guys (young and old), not because I want to drag them all to bed with me, but because it's just a fun way of interacting with people (as long as it's not overdone, or done in an improper way).

Well I basically ask a few questions and if it looks like she is interested I'll try and crack a few jokes its worked well but if I wouldn't change even if it didn't.

If I do any flirting at all, I don't know if I'm doing it.

Usually, quiet silent me usually gets uber talkative if I'm attracted to someone.

-Asylum Nova

well the only problem with it being my way is that I don't even usually get the conversation to begin with. And yes I do know what it's like to be confused withthe opposite sex, I had really long hair until about a year ago.
what the hell is up with that?????????????you cut your hair???? and guys with long hair do not look feminine- thats such myth.

what the hell is up with that?????????????you cut your hair???? and guys with long hair do not look feminine- thats such myth.
I'm a girly man :p (http://members.lycos.nl/baggerunited/foto/broekrock/hpim1714.jpg)

I'm a girly man :p (http://members.lycos.nl/baggerunited/foto/broekrock/hpim1714.jpg)
:fluffle: i have already scoped you out, guy. ;)

and guys with long hair do not look feminine- thats such myth.
Hey, look at Brian Molko:
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/pla_arc_002.jpg
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/pla_arc_005.jpg
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/wyin_pic7.jpg
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/wyin_pic5.jpg
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/wyin_pic12.jpg
http://www.placeboworld.co.uk/archive/images/bmm_archive014.jpg

Hey, look at Brian Molko:

listen,those pictures are scary. and, he is obviously trying to be his own sister. let him.plus, his isnt long, it is cut and styled by the hairdresser of friends.

note- guys with long hair, and NO MAKEUP are not girly. that better?

I have long hair ... I'm not girly ... although skin care is an essential part of my day.

I have long hair ... I'm not girly ... although skin care is an essential part of my day.
nothing wrong with good hygiene, and not looking all grizzled when you age. :)

How do I flirt?
It depends on my mood, and who I'm flirting with. Usually it is just by being strangely nice, or with compliments, but not infrequently do I do the big, loud, not quite abnoxiuos flirting, and it usually gets returned.

I'm a girly man :p (http://members.lycos.nl/baggerunited/foto/broekrock/hpim1714.jpg)

What a cute baby! Are you really that young? I imagined you a little older.

I'm a girly man :p (http://members.lycos.nl/baggerunited/foto/broekrock/hpim1714.jpg)
You look like a guitarist I used to play with...