Physical or Emotional Needs?
I am, for lack of a better phrase, torn between to gentlemen. I am friends with both of them, but one better fulfills emotional needs, while the other better fulfills physical needs. I could be happy with either one, so it really boils down to sex vs. friendship. Would you rather be a nun or a whore? It's not as drastic as all that, but I'm just curious here
Lunatic Goofballs
30-01-2005, 23:15
Invite them for a threesome. :)
Ashmoria
30-01-2005, 23:17
you can get a "toy" to satisfy you physically
try teaching the "emotional" boy some new tricks.
Glitziness
30-01-2005, 23:20
What we would choose is really irrelevant. Its what would make you happiest. What kind of relationship are you looking for? What's more convenient? Who has more other factors going for them? I'm assuming they've both shwon interest in you.
If you went for the physical guy... then you could miss out with the emotional guy if he thinks he has no chance or gets hurt. Whereas if you went for the emotional guy, theres more chance, if it doesnt work out, of still being able to have a go with the physical guy.
My simple advice would be to follow your heart. Or if you're more of a logical person, write a list of pros and cons.
Good luck with it.
For argument's sake, they both have the same things going for them. I'm going to be moving in less than a year, so the potential for a long-term relationship with either is slim to none.
Glitziness
30-01-2005, 23:36
Then it depends if you could break off with the emotional guy easily without hurting both of you.
The physical relationship would be easier.
Oh, and which is stronger? A need for emotional attachment or physical?
Swimmingpool
30-01-2005, 23:51
you can get a "toy" to satisfy you physically
try teaching the "emotional" boy some new tricks.
Ashmoria is right, assuming the emotional guy is not butt-ugly or anything like that.
Ashmoria
30-01-2005, 23:55
so why limit yourself to just physical boy?
if all you want is sex, there are LOTS of hot boys out there. why stick with one who is emotionally unsatisfying. that makes no sense. if emotional boy isnt good enough, drop them both and start shopping around for a more well rounded experience.
Kastoria
31-01-2005, 00:09
As someone who's not terribly experienced in the sack (go ahead, laugh, I'm a relic of another time), I gotta pull for this emotional guy. If he's the cliche sensitive guy, you'll prolly be more fulfilled by going with him.
Then again, who doesn't like sex with someone who can do amazingly sexy things? ;)
Your choice. It's romantic nights and mental fulfillment vs. :fluffle: . Tough one.
Faithfull-freedom
31-01-2005, 01:15
I am, for lack of a better phrase, torn between to gentlemen. I am friends with both of them, but one better fulfills emotional needs, while the other better fulfills physical needs. I could be happy with either one, so it really boils down to sex vs. friendship. Would you rather be a nun or a whore? It's not as drastic as all that, but I'm just curious here
I think lunatic goofballs summed it up if all three are adults in the situation and all three agree on what is happening should be happening. The nun and whore labels dont do the situation justice. Also I believe you may be suprised if you talked about this with each of them individually. Of course something you should realize is that which one could you sustain the distance with through the thick and the thin? But then what if also the one that you need for emotional support also needs your friend for thier emotional or physical support... if things were that perfect..well then .... sweet dreams my friend....