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A post on another thread got me to thinking about what we see as difficulties or problems in our lives. Things that use to bother me greatly when I was younger, now seem very trivial by comparison with what I've been through.

Right now, my biggest problem is keeping my head above water financially until this coming May. What's yours? Why do you feel it's a problem and what are you doing/going to do about it?

Mine is trying to battle extremism in my own party. DLC all the way!

I generally go about my days without a care in the world. My biggest troubles at the moment are my upcoming midterms. In a slightly larger sense I'm worried about paying off my student loans.

Thats all I got.

Money. I need money to do what I want to do with my life...

my main problem at the moment is a lack of any future or ability to do anything worthwhile. i have pretty much solidified my future as a penniless hobo.

my main problem at the moment is a lack of any future or ability to do anything worthwhile. i have pretty much solidified my future as a penniless hobo.

I don't think I've ever known anyone, with the possible exception of serious druggies, who had NOTHING to offer. Have you ever done a skills self-analysis?

Hrmmmm ....

Finances? Nah ... I'm ok there. I'm poor, always have been poor, don't mind being poor. I am rich in other ways, richer than most.

Relationships? I'm good there, too. Three wonderful children, a wife who has been my best friend for 15 years, and enough friends to satisfy any social cravings I may have.

Spirituality? Every day is a new struggle to become a better Muslim. It will be that way until I die. I do what I can.

Possessions? I think I have everything I need these days. I don't concern myself too much with "things", though.

Regrets? One or two, but nothing life consuming.

Illnesses? A small worry due to the fact that in 10 years, I will be exactly as old as my father when he died. I have a very different lifestyle than he did, though, and only half his genetics. But, still, it is troubling.

Wow ... when I really think about it ... I don't really have any problems. Thanks, Eutrusca! :D

Well, I don't have any immediate problems but I frankly don't have any idea what I want to do with my life. That's it. I'm just trudging along.

Money is not a problem, school is not a problem, so love must be it. My biggest problem at the moment is that while i was painting with the girl i love, she said to me: "I have a boyfriend, you're the first to know".

Hrmmmm ....

Finances? Nah ... I'm ok there. I'm poor, always have been poor, don't mind being poor. I am rich in other ways, richer than most.

Relationships? I'm good there, too. Three wonderful children, a wife who has been my best friend for 15 years, and enough friends to satisfy any social cravings I may have.

Spirituality? Every day is a new struggle to become a better Muslim. It will be that way until I die. I do what I can.

Possessions? I think I have everything I need these days. I don't concern myself too much with "things", though.

Regrets? One or two, but nothing life consuming.

Illnesses? A small worry due to the fact that in 10 years, I will be exactly as old as my father when he died. I have a very different lifestyle than he did, though, and only half his genetics. But, still, it is troubling.

Wow ... when I really think about it ... I don't really have any problems. Thanks, Eutrusca! :D

For what? YOU did it! :D

Money, money, money!
Okay, I'm crazy, have too many cats, a fourteen year old car, messy roommates and a family even crazier than I am. And I live in Oklahoma. But most of these could be cured with money.

Well, I don't have any immediate problems but I frankly don't have any idea what I want to do with my life.

Not that unusual at all. What turns you on ( BESIDES that! )? What are you interested in? Name ( for your own use ) five things you've done so far that you did really well, can be hobbies, pasttimes, etc.

I don't think I've ever known anyone, with the possible exception of serious druggies, who had NOTHING to offer. Have you ever done a skills self-analysis?

nope, never done one. is it an apitude test of some sort or one of those things you do on your own?

oh, and i was, at one point, a semi-serious druggie (for about a year, maybe less). and i was pretty young, so that might have something to do with it now. it was dumb, yeah. oh well.

Money, money, money!
Okay, I'm crazy, have too many cats, a fourteen year old car, messy roommates and a family even crazier than I am. And I live in Oklahoma. But most of these could be cured with money.

1. You don't come across on here as "crazy."

2. If you have fewer than 12 cats, you're good to go.

3. My car is older.

4. Roomates can be replaced.

5. Family can be ignored ( especially if you can leave! ).

6. Living in OK is only a problem if you like lots of night-life.

7. Others have become rich. Are you sure that's what you want? Read "So You Want To Be Rich?"

Not that unusual at all. What turns you on ( BESIDES that! )? What are you interested in? Name ( for your own use ) five things you've done so far that you did really well, can be hobbies, pasttimes, etc.

Music is my main interest. I can't say i'm hopeful for a career in it at all though :p

I thought about going into politics in the future, but a person with my political viewpoint simply won't get elected, and i'd hate to tow the party line.

I thought about transferring into an economics course at uni, but they wouldn't have me because I didn't do the right maths in high-school.

Can't think of much more right now.

So...i'm kinda stumped.

Hate to say, the above responders don't seem to have enough death in their lives. I appreciate the positive attitude, but there is nothing like a half dozen loved ones pushing up daisys to make finances seem secondary. Eat, drink & be merry my friends.

Has anyone seen SNL where the character says things that are such a downer that it ends all conversation?

nope, is it an apitude test of some sort or one of those things you do on your own.

oh, and i was, at one point, a semi-serious druggie (for about a year, maybe less). and i was pretty young, so that might have something to do with it now. it was dumb, yeah. oh well.

It may indeed be something with which you struggle for many years. It is, however, possible if you over-compensate by sheer strength of will.

It's not a test, per se. It's where you take a pencil and a piece of paper and list all the things in your life to date which you have really enjoyed, regardless of whether they were on a job, part of a hobby, involved entertainment, etc.

Wen you've exhausted your memory of things like this, set the list asside and come back to it later for review to see if you've missed something.

Once it's complete, under each of the listed items, try to list as many different jobs or careers you can think of which use that particular skill. ( That's what they are ... skills, even when you don't think they are. )

If you're at all interested in this process and want to pursue it, may I suggest "What Color Is Your Parachute?" http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1580081231/102-4083461-7640902

Hate to say, the above responders don't seem to have enough death in their lives. I appreciate the positive attitude, but there is nothing like a half dozen loved ones pushing up daisys to make finances seem secondary. Eat, drink & be merry my friends.

I don't want to sound cold, but grief fades with time. Trust me, I know.

Need some perspective? Two words: Banda Aceh

Has anyone seen SNL where the character says things that are such a downer that it ends all conversation?
Debbie Downer :D

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Right now, I have one HUGE problem:

I flunked college, and I'm looking for work in a crappy economy. Most likely, my parents may kick me out of the basement, and I'll end up either freezing to death (if its winter) or getting mauled to death by a bear (if its summer).

Can't fix that, now can you? :p

It's not a test, per se. It's where you take a pencil and a piece of paper and list all the things in your life to date which you have really enjoyed, regardless of whether they were on a job, part of a hobby, involved entertainment, etc.

well thank you, i will try that.. who knows, i might actually find something. of course theres the whole "nobody in gods name will hire me even if i am good at it" thing.. i havent exactly got the best resume. but dont listen to me, im just being pessimistic. thank you again, i will check that book out a little more.

Music is my main interest. I can't say i'm hopeful for a career in it at all though :p

Why not? You don't have to play or sing in order to have a career in music.

well thank you, i will try that.. who knows, i might actually find something. of course theres the whole "nobody in gods name will hire me even if i am good at it" thing.. i havent exactly got the best resume. but dont listen to me, im just being pessimistic. thank you again, i will check that book out a little more.

Kewl. It's a lot of work to follow what the book suggests, but anything worth having is worth working for. If you decide to follow the process the book suggests, let me know how you're doing with it. :)

Why not? You don't have to play or sing in order to have a career in music.

Good point. I guess I should look into it some more :)

Right now, I have one HUGE problem:

I flunked college, and I'm looking for work in a crappy economy. Most likely, my parents may kick me out of the basement, and I'll end up either freezing to death (if its winter) or getting mauled to death by a bear (if its summer).

Can't fix that, now can you? :p

No, but you can.

Have any of you seen 'the butterfly effect'? That movie creeped me out, and I could not exactly tell you why. Many people (well, at least me and my friends do) say things like 'if I only hadn't done that one thing', 'if only I could change this, everything would be so much better'. But would it? Who's to say that it isn't exactly the one thing you think was the worst part of your past the really contributed to your happiness today?

Wow...it *is* early in the morning. I need coffee...

No, but you can.
Great!




How?

Have any of you seen 'the butterfly effect'? That movie creeped me out, and I could not exactly tell you why. Many people (well, at least me and my friends do) say things like 'if I only hadn't done that one thing', 'if only I could change this, everything would be so much better'. But would it? Who's to say that it isn't exactly the one thing you think was the worst part of your past the really contributed to your happiness today?


ive always thought that too, i think its one of the very rare actual scary movies.

Great!

How?

This is kind of personal to be discussing on here, plus I need to get some sleep. Telegram me and I'll help you get started.

ive always thought that too, i think its one of the very rare actual scary movies.
I thought so, too. My friends thought I was crazy (which I most certainly am) but that movie really got me hooked on what if's and what not's ;)

A post on another thread got me to thinking about what we see as difficulties or problems in our lives. Things that use to bother me greatly when I was younger, now seem very trivial by comparison with what I've been through.

Right now, my biggest problem is keeping my head above water financially until this coming May. What's yours? Why do you feel it's a problem and what are you doing/going to do about it?
I wouldn't have anything to do with this would I?

as to my problem, I respect you and all, But it's too personal to tell over the net, I even had a hard time telling people that are really close to me in person.

ive always thought that too, i think its one of the very rare actual scary movies.

I watched "Jeepers, Creepers" again tonight. That movie freaks me out. I'm not really sure why though. Perhaps the mood, with all the dark, and the fact that the damned thing just wouldn't friggin' DIE! Heh!

A post on another thread got me to thinking about what we see as difficulties or problems in our lives. Things that use to bother me greatly when I was younger, now seem very trivial by comparison with what I've been through.

Right now, my biggest problem is keeping my head above water financially until this coming May. What's yours? Why do you feel it's a problem and what are you doing/going to do about it?

I have the exact same problem as you, I have to maintain myself financially and mentally until I graduate in May. I am beginning to feel that if I screw up either way I won't graduate at the end of this semester, and that I might not graduate period. I am slowly slipping away from reality here, I have managed to stem the drug use, but I still completely ignore my problems.

I wouldn't have anything to do with this would I?

as to my problem, I respect you and all, But it's too personal to tell over the net, I even had a hard time telling people that are really close to me in person.

No one said you have to share personal stuff on here. I can respect that sort of decision. :)

You wouldn't have anything to do with what? This thread? Nahhh! Just me and my incessant desire to help. :)

No one said you have to share personal stuff on here. I can respect that sort of decision. :)

You wouldn't have anything to do with what? This thread? Nahhh! Just me and my incessant desire to help. :)
it was the part about the post on another thread part that made me wonder.

and I'm going to bed, because I have to go to school tommorow (or today depending on how you look at it)

I watched "Jeepers, Creepers" again tonight. That movie freaks me out. I'm not really sure why though. Perhaps the mood, with all the dark, and the fact that the damned thing just wouldn't friggin' DIE! Heh!

as horrible as it may sound, i thought that movie was funny... especially the part where they were in the speeding truck then slammed on the breaks and that one guy flew farther then hell. classic comedy scene. i cant stop laughing thinking about it... heh does that make me a bad person?

my biggest problem is you sucking to hard.
next thread.
loser.

I have the exact same problem as you, I have to maintain myself financially and mentally until I graduate in May. I am beginning to feel that if I screw up either way I won't graduate at the end of this semester, and that I might not graduate period. I am slowly slipping away from reality here, I have managed to stem the drug use, but I still completely ignore my problems.

Can't do that, my friend. You have to come to terms with your reality before you can change your life.

You're probably not going to believe me, but I'm very serious about this: one of the very best things you can do for yourself is strenuous exercise. It clears the mind as well as building the body. Try walking a mile or so every other day, then bump it up to two miles. When you've become accustomed to that, try run/walk for 1/2 mile, then bump that up to a mile. When you can run a mile, try two ... you get the picture.

I promise that not only will you feel better physically, you will be clear-minded, and a big plus is you will notice your sexual stamina improves rather remarkably. :D

my biggest problem is you sucking to hard.
next thread.
loser.

I love you too, sweeeeetie! :fluffle:

My biggest problem is self doubt!
Im too scared to try anything to impove my life incase I fail, which would destroy what little confidence I have left.

as horrible as it may sound, i thought that movie was funny... especially the part where they were in the speeding truck then slammed on the breaks and that one guy flew farther then hell. classic comedy scene. i cant stop laughing thinking about it... heh does that make me a bad person?

Heh! Not at all! It's just one of those things that are hard to figure out ... why it freaked me out. I usually love horror and fantasy and SciFi films, but this one ... !

I love you too, sweeeeetie! :fluffle:
nice to know you have a really good sense of humor, most people would have freaked out
I'm off this time
No really I mean it! .........*shifty eyes*

my biggest problem is you sucking to hard.
next thread.
loser.
you mean you have a problem with pre-mature ejaculation? Go see a doctor for treatment, I hear there are things that can be done. Try more foreplay

Can't do that, my friend. You have to come to terms with your reality before you can change your life.

You're probably not going to believe me, but I'm very serious about this: one of the very best things you can do for yourself is strenuous exercise. It clears the mind as well as building the body. Try walking a mile or so every other day, then bump it up to two miles. When you've become accustomed to that, try run/walk for 1/2 mile, then bump that up to a mile. When you can run a mile, try two ... you get the picture.

I promise that not only will you feel better physically, you will be clear-minded, and a big plus is you will notice your sexual stamina improves rather remarkably. :D

That sounds like a good idea, but I do not enjoy it anymore, and I seldom have the motivation to get out and exercise. I get out just enough to go to work everyday and get shitfaced at night.

Music has become a very good release, but I am sure that it doesn't have near the beneficial effects of a good amount of exercise.

My biggest problem is self doubt!
Im too scared to try anything to impove my life incase I fail, which would destroy what little confidence I have left.

Ever hear of Babe Ruth? For many years he held the home run record in basball. What many don't know is that he also held the record for number of strike-outs. He wasn't all that much better than many other players, he just swung more often. :)

I had a similar problem when I was younger, until I remembered that someday it was inevitable that I would die. When that sank in, I decided that nothing was going to stop me from doing what I truly wanted to do before it was my time to die!

"Most problems can be solved by not making a problem out of it"

That sounds like a good idea, but I do not enjoy it anymore, and I seldom have the motivation to get out and exercise. I get out just enough to go to work everyday and get shitfaced at night.

Music has become a very good release, but I am sure that it doesn't have near the beneficial effects of a good amount of exercise.

Motivation is all internal, reagardless of what "motivational speakers" may tell you. Sometimes it helps to begin with baby steps and slowly work up to whatever it is you want to do. One thing that just might help is if you ask yourself "what will be the ultimate consequence if I do" ( or don't do ) whatever it is. Sometimes knowing the consequences can get you going.

Unfortunately, there are times in many people's lives when they have to hit rock bottom before they can begin to improve. You don't sound like that sort to me. Clue: it would help if you cut back on the drinking. :)

Hate to say, the above responders don't seem to have enough death in their lives.

Hrmmm ... I'm gonna have to disagree there ... I've been to many a funeral in my day ... closest being my father, who died when I was 16, but I've attended the funerals of grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, brothers in arms, pets ... the only death I have never had to go through is the death of a child (my own, I mean) and I damn well better never have to.

Death, however, is nothing. It is merely a passing, much like birth. Grief happens, but time does heal. Even losing my father, while I do still feel the occasional pang of sadness now and then even though it was 16 years ago, my life has gone on.

I am intimately familiar with death and I laugh at it.

"Most problems can be solved by not making a problem out of it"

True, but that takes a bit of mental agility that may be lacking at a low point in a person's life.

Immediate problem: Deciding whether to stay in Japan for another 6 months or another year and a half.

Long term problem: My own anti-socialness, which sometimes borders on crippling.

"Most problems can be solved by not making a problem out of it"
yet avoiding problems wont solve anything, I should know, like I said my problem is avoiding problems

Immediate problem: Deciding whether to stay in Japan for another 6 months or another year and a half.

Long term problem: My own anti-socialness, which sometimes borders on crippling.

This can be a real problem for lots of people. I'd love to talk with you about it, but I'm falling asleep at the keyboard! Heh!

I'll try to pick this up tomorrow. If I don't and you'd like to ask me again, please do so! :)

yet avoiding problems wont solve anything, I should know, like I said my problem is avoiding problems
If you just avoid that, you'll be in the clear :D

Long term problem: My own anti-socialness, which sometimes borders on crippling.
seconded

If you just avoid that, you'll be in the clear :D
hehe wow problem solved.. Im now perfect

This can be a real problem for lots of people. I'd love to talk with you about it, but I'm falling asleep at the keyboard! Heh!


will it help if I slapped you to keep you awake? It maybe a difficult task but I think I could take it for the team :D

A post on another thread got me to thinking about what we see as difficulties or problems in our lives. Things that use to bother me greatly when I was younger, now seem very trivial by comparison with what I've been through.

Right now, my biggest problem is keeping my head above water financially until this coming May. What's yours? Why do you feel it's a problem and what are you doing/going to do about it?
My biggest problem is finding direction for the rest of my life, and the motivation to follow it.

This can be a real problem for lots of people. I'd love to talk with you about it, but I'm falling asleep at the keyboard! Heh!

I'll try to pick this up tomorrow. If I don't and you'd like to ask me again, please do so! :)Always willing to talk to someone about such things, and of course any advice is always appreciated. If you post something tomorrow I'll read it at some point, but I won't be able to until around 3 AM eastern time because I have to go to an elementary school. But I think internet access for awesome kids is a good trade. :)

My biggest problem is finding direction for the rest of my life, and the motivation to follow it.
Granted. ... oh wait. this isn't the 'corrupt a wish' thread, is it? :p

Granted. ... oh wait. this isn't the 'corrupt a wish' thread, is it? :p
I guess it is now. *corupts your wish*:D

I guess it is now. *corupts your wish*:D
:D
Ok. so. I wish my bike was fixed (brakes don't work anymore and it's all rusty).

:D
Ok. so. I wish my bike was fixed (brakes don't work anymore and it's all rusty).

So now the temperature will remain at thirty below and snowy for the next ten years. Enjoy your ride.

So now the temperature will remain at thirty below and snowy for the next ten years. Enjoy your ride.
yay, I love snow! :D

Biggest problem....
I'm deeply pretty damn untalkative in real life, so I haven't had contact with any of my friends in a few weeks now, and months before that, despite the fact they live practically around the corner. I can't get to sleep for several hours after going to bed, and despite sleeping for literally more than half the day, I'm perpetually tired. I'm fairly (read: very) depressed, and I'm currently in the middle of screwing up my education.

yay, I love snow! :D
So do I! :)

So do I! :)
Really?
*throws snowball at Plutonian Empire*
:p

Really?
*throws snowball at Plutonian Empire*
:p
*Moans in pleasure*

*Moans in pleasure*
wow I gotta get me some of those snowballs :)

wow I gotta get me some of those snowballs :)
*throws snowball at FC*
there you go!

*throws snowball at FC*
there you go!
ouch, why would you do such a thing? that wasnt pleasurable at all, TPE must be into some kinky stuff :p

Biggest Problem currently in Life?

Definitely finances. Hopefully college would still keep me going, though I can only pay my fee's 3 months late. I offered them to pay in installments, but their being naggy whiners.

My problem, like other here, is my anti-scocialism. I spent a while trying to work through by 'forcing' myself to go out more - doesn't work: I get unconfortable. So instead I've spent time trying to figure out why I get uncomfortable speaking to people or having conversations.
Recently I had to give a speach in front of about 100 or so people, this went brilliantly and people actually commented on how confident and authorative I sounded.
Even more recently I had to resolve a problem that had occured to a mobile-phone I had given somebody as a gift. Because the phone was a gift from me some of the details were in my name, some were in the recipients name. Making the phone call to resolve the problem with the phone was torturous for me - I hung up twice before they could answer. When I eventually spoke to somebody I stuttuered, I repeated myself, and generally I didn't speak very good English. (The problem was easily resolved despite my problems in explaing it).
The difference between the two? When doing the speach I knew what I was going to say - it was prepared. When phoning the phone company I didn't know what to expect.
Figuring this out has led me on to the discovery that I have trouble communicating my ideas on-the-fly, thus when I have a conversation I struggle to get my ideas across and so I tend to avoid having conversations - therefore I become anti-social.
The next step for me is finding out why I struggle with this, allthough I bet a fair amount of money that dislexia is involved. So at the moment I'm trying to save up for a dyslexia test, Catch 22 being that to save up money I need a job, and to get a job (in the area of my degree)I need to be able to communicate well. :headbang: :D

There was a point to this post, but it has escaped the author...

My problem, like other here, is my anti-scocialism. I spent a while trying to work through by 'forcing' myself to go out more - doesn't work: I get unconfortable. So instead I've spent time trying to figure out why I get uncomfortable speaking to people or having conversations.
Recently I had to give a speach in front of about 100 or so people, this went brilliantly and people actually commented on how confident and authorative I sounded.
Even more recently I had to resolve a problem that had occured to a mobile-phone I had given somebody as a gift. Because the phone was a gift from me some of the details were in my name, some were in the recipients name. Making the phone call to resolve the problem with the phone was torturous for me - I hung up twice before they could answer. When I eventually spoke to somebody I stuttuered, I repeated myself, and generally I didn't speak very good English. (The problem was easily resolved despite my problems in explaing it).
The difference between the two? When doing the speach I knew what I was going to say - it was prepared. When phoning the phone company I didn't know what to expect.
Figuring this out has led me on to the discovery that I have trouble communicating my ideas on-the-fly, thus when I have a conversation I struggle to get my ideas across and so I tend to avoid having conversations - therefore I become anti-social.
The next step for me is finding out why I struggle with this, allthough I bet a fair amount of money that dislexia is involved. So at the moment I'm trying to save up for a dyslexia test, Catch 22 being that to save up money I need a job, and to get a job (in the area of my degree)I need to be able to communicate well. :headbang: :D

There was a point to this post, but it has escaped the author...
Welcome to my life. I was flirting with a girl a couple of weeks ago, everything went smashingly, mostly because I knew exactly what I wanted to do. Saw the same girl a couple of days later unexpectedly, and I turned into a pile of mush. It sucks.

EDIT: I also have trouble on the phone, though once I work up the courage to call someone I usually stick it out.

EDIT: I also have trouble on the phone, though once I work up the courage to call someone I usually stick it out.

I hardly ever call people now because I can TXT them instead, which means people get really fecked off with me sending tonnes of TXTs and stope replying.

My problem, like other here, is my anti-scocialism. I spent a while trying to work through by 'forcing' myself to go out more - doesn't work: I get unconfortable. So instead I've spent time trying to figure out why I get uncomfortable speaking to people or having conversations.
Recently I had to give a speach in front of about 100 or so people, this went brilliantly and people actually commented on how confident and authorative I sounded.
Even more recently I had to resolve a problem that had occured to a mobile-phone I had given somebody as a gift. Because the phone was a gift from me some of the details were in my name, some were in the recipients name. Making the phone call to resolve the problem with the phone was torturous for me - I hung up twice before they could answer. When I eventually spoke to somebody I stuttuered, I repeated myself, and generally I didn't speak very good English. (The problem was easily resolved despite my problems in explaing it).
The difference between the two? When doing the speach I knew what I was going to say - it was prepared. When phoning the phone company I didn't know what to expect.
Figuring this out has led me on to the discovery that I have trouble communicating my ideas on-the-fly, thus when I have a conversation I struggle to get my ideas across and so I tend to avoid having conversations - therefore I become anti-social.
The next step for me is finding out why I struggle with this, allthough I bet a fair amount of money that dislexia is involved. So at the moment I'm trying to save up for a dyslexia test, Catch 22 being that to save up money I need a job, and to get a job (in the area of my degree)I need to be able to communicate well. :headbang: :D

There was a point to this post, but it has escaped the author...
wow that's got me written all over too - like i wrote the thing... :)
seriously that's wierd... i've even got the dyslexia too :D
problem for me is that i've become complacent the way i am & am not sure how to change things without somehow making a complete tit of myself.

wow that's got me written all over too - like i wrote the thing... :)
seriously that's wierd... i've even got the dyslexia too :D
problem for me is that i've become complacent the way i am & am not sure how to change things without somehow making a complete tit of myself.

Tit is my middle name* so I'm not too bothered about trying to fix it - especially as it is comming between me and my happiness.

*(not actually that would be creul on the part of my parents)

Biggest problem....

Fighting off the return of my paranoia and depression so that they don't come back in full.

Anyone who has ever experienced depression or paranoia, will know how incredibly hard it is.

As well as being in a relationship that has everything against it-age, distance, families etc

I've been watching a lot of "Pimp My Ride" lately, and I've come to the conclusion that everything is going to be alright if Xhibit hooks me up with some 18" rims and seven DVD players.

Nah. I'm going to go with the ever popular "personal finance," cause the taxman's coming around.

Bigegst problem? Paid PLN25000 (~7150US$) in 5 days. I haven't any money...

Good question, Eutrusca.

In some respects, my biggest problem is a lack of problems...

Concretely, there're the ever popular social problems (working on it) and finance problems (working on it - and doing better than I was! :)), and "what do I want to do in the future problems (again, working on it).

Over all I'm in a good spot, which in some ways is it's own problem (what with life being overly easy in ways.)

A post on another thread got me to thinking about what we see as difficulties or problems in our lives. Things that use to bother me greatly when I was younger, now seem very trivial by comparison with what I've been through.

Right now, my biggest problem is keeping my head above water financially until this coming May. What's yours? Why do you feel it's a problem and what are you doing/going to do about it?

Sinfulness. Yes, I'm growing as a Christian, but my relationship with God is not to the place that I feel the latter half of John 17 is completely fulfilled in my life and I long for that day.

That's funny, cause I was going to say that one of my biggest problems was not enough sinning lately. It's been kind of a drought, you know?

That's funny, cause I was going to say that one of my biggest problems was not enough sinning lately. It's been kind of a drought, you know?

To each his/her own I suppose.

I'm just kidding. There's been more sinning than I can stand. Sometimes I wish there were 25 hours in the day.

ouch, why would you do such a thing? that wasnt pleasurable at all, TPE must be into some kinky stuff :p
Not really, I just like it cold....

*Rubs a bright red rash on his arm created by the snowball*
Ouch.

two problems

my biggest problem is that I am so damn lazy - always have been

I do things like exercise and eat as healthy as possible and get enough sleep so that maybe I can have the energy to do all the things I want to do, but when the time comes all I can think about is resting, playing games or watching tv or movies. I try to motivate myself in many ways and have read up on ways to overcome this issue but nothing seems to help.

my other problem is my horrid memory. it seems that it gets worse daily.

both of these problems seems to feed each other.

My problem, like other here, is my anti-scocialism. I spent a while trying to work through by 'forcing' myself to go out more - doesn't work: I get unconfortable. So instead I've spent time trying to figure out why I get uncomfortable speaking to people or having conversations.
Recently I had to give a speach in front of about 100 or so people, this went brilliantly and people actually commented on how confident and authorative I sounded.
Even more recently I had to resolve a problem that had occured to a mobile-phone I had given somebody as a gift. Because the phone was a gift from me some of the details were in my name, some were in the recipients name. Making the phone call to resolve the problem with the phone was torturous for me - I hung up twice before they could answer. When I eventually spoke to somebody I stuttuered, I repeated myself, and generally I didn't speak very good English. (The problem was easily resolved despite my problems in explaing it).
The difference between the two? When doing the speach I knew what I was going to say - it was prepared. When phoning the phone company I didn't know what to expect.
Figuring this out has led me on to the discovery that I have trouble communicating my ideas on-the-fly, thus when I have a conversation I struggle to get my ideas across and so I tend to avoid having conversations - therefore I become anti-social.
The next step for me is finding out why I struggle with this, allthough I bet a fair amount of money that dislexia is involved. So at the moment I'm trying to save up for a dyslexia test, Catch 22 being that to save up money I need a job, and to get a job (in the area of my degree)I need to be able to communicate well. :headbang: :D

There was a point to this post, but it has escaped the author...

You're probably not going to like this, but what I recommend is that you go out of your way to engage in more "social intercourse." [ I said social dammnit! ] This is precisely the sort of thing that almost always inproves with practice. Memorize a bunch of obscure jokes and catch-phrases and use them at every opportunity, although you should try to avoid using them with the same person more than once! :D

wow that's got me written all over too - like i wrote the thing... :)
seriously that's wierd... i've even got the dyslexia too :D
problem for me is that i've become complacent the way i am & am not sure how to change things without somehow making a complete tit of myself.

Don't be afraid of making mistakes. Mistakes are truly the very best teacher!

Biggest problem....

Fighting off the return of my paranoia and depression so that they don't come back in full.

Anyone who has ever experienced depression or paranoia, will know how incredibly hard it is.

As well as being in a relationship that has everything against it-age, distance, families etc

I certainly hope you have consulted a doctor about this. Depression and paranoia are no laughing matters. :(

two problems

my biggest problem is that I am so damn lazy - always have been

I do things like exercise and eat as healthy as possible and get enough sleep so that maybe I can have the energy to do all the things I want to do, but when the time comes all I can think about is resting, playing games or watching tv or movies. I try to motivate myself in many ways and have read up on ways to overcome this issue but nothing seems to help.

my other problem is my horrid memory. it seems that it gets worse daily.

both of these problems seems to feed each other.

Start small and give yourself a reward every time you do something that takes a bit of motivation. I had this problem and that's the only way out I found.

As for memory, drink two cups ( no more ) of non-decaffinated coffee each morning, take Choline capsules, and do memory exercises. Like most things, it can be learned.

You're probably not going to like this, but what I recommend is that you go out of your way to engage in more "social intercourse." [ I said social dammnit! ] This is precisely the sort of thing that almost always inproves with practice. Memorize a bunch of obscure jokes and catch-phrases and use them at every opportunity, although you should try to avoid using them with the same person more than once! :D

Quite the agony Uncle today aren't you? :D
Yeah that's part of my plan at the moment, need to get some cash to facillitate the process though - I essentally live in the middle of nowhere so I need to go into the city to socialise. There's has been progress on that front though, I think my interview this morning went rather well and with any luck I'll get the call-up next week.

this is a most interesting thread. i don't have any obvious problems, i have enough money, a nice house, car, whatever. i love my job, and my family rules. but, after being in situations where i am forced to reveal my true type personality, i am somewhat horrified. ( the situations are mostly online- some forums i post on, some journal sites, etc. ) i remotely suspect i may be one screwed up individual.. also, i have had the same 5 best friends for the last 24years, and i am the lone female. we have been noticing that our paths are way too intersected, and its difficult to separate, and have personal lives.every one else i know does not see this as bad, so maybe i should rethink it. also- i think i lost a friend this week, with no reason or explaination, and it;s bothering me, even though it shouldn't

Start small and give yourself a reward every time you do something that takes a bit of motivation. I had this problem and that's the only way out I found.

Thanks for the advice Etrusca.

I'm not trying to make excuses to stay in lazy mode. I've actually tried this reward thing, along with countless other methods of self-motivation. I am beginning to think that I have some serious psychological block that I need to get help for. Although I certainly wont be able to pay for it with all my bills and lack of monies.

As for memory, drink two cups ( no more ) of non-decaffinated coffee each morning, take Choline capsules, and do memory exercises. Like most things, it can be learned.

I have given up caffine as it gives me very poor circulation. Choline capsules I have never heard of so I will look into that and I have a whole book of memory exercises, plus a memory enhancing program on tape. I need to overcome my laziness to get started on this. :P (like I said they seem to feed each other.)

I love life right now and don't see most issues in my life as impossible problems but obstacles that I will eventually overcome. Without problems/obstacles life wouldn't be worth living, but these issues have remained with me for most of my life and it is a constant struggle.

I certainly hope you have consulted a doctor about this. Depression and paranoia are no laughing matters. :(

Yes, don't worry. Just they can't do everything-is mainly down to me.

Meh, don't worry. Bad mood. Wait a sec...

*toodles off to get chocolate*
*wanders back with smile on face*

Now I can be hyped up and happy :D

*does crazy dance around room giving random fluffles* :fluffle:

Thanks for the advice Etrusca.

I'm not trying to make excuses to stay in lazy mode. I've actually tried this reward thing, along with countless other methods of self-motivation. I am beginning to think that I have some serious psychological block that I need to get help for. Although I certainly wont be able to pay for it with all my bills and lack of monies.

I have given up caffine as it gives me very poor circulation. Choline capsules I have never heard of so I will look into that and I have a whole book of memory exercises, plus a memory enhancing program on tape. I need to overcome my laziness to get started on this. :P (like I said they seem to feed each other.)

I love life right now and don't see most issues in my life as impossible problems but obstacles that I will eventually overcome. Without problems/obstacles life wouldn't be worth living, but these issues have remained with me for most of my life and it is a constant struggle.

I wish you every success!

More on memory enhancement: http://www.amermed.com/memory_supplements.htm

Interesting that it talks about improving circulation as a possible means of memory enhancement!

I worry I might die in my sleep

1. Will be moving out in a month to attend college in another month. Sad and energizing at the same time. 'Sad' since I was beginning to make friends (first time in a long time) at work; and 'happy' because I'll be living seperate from my mother for the first time ever. I'm beginning to love this independance thing :)

2. Need girlfriend. Had a nice choice from work but since I'll be moving to another province soon it was pointless (long distance relationships and all). I'd rather find one at my college (or three or four... :D ).

3. Money. Had to take out a loan to cover my expenses while I'm away. And, at 25 years of age I should be more financially independant. I'm running a bit behind (in damn near everything!!) and that irks me to no end.

4. Developing myself is a painful process. I procrastinate and am lazy. More so than I really want to be. I am a damn fine writer and I've been trying to write a movie script for well over a year. I don't have to tell you it has been going slowly. Hopefully living away will fix that personality defect. I'm finally beginning to take advantage of what the world has to offer. TRY LOTS OF THINGS GUYS! JOIN THE MILITARY! START A BUSINESS! SKYDIVE! HIKE! DO THINGS! LIVE LIFE!!!

5. I also need to lose some weight. And grow some hair (began to fall out last year :( ).