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I've been wondering: is at least one common interest (or simply "common-ness)" required for a friendship (to exist or to continue, etc)?

I've been wondering: is at least one common interest (or simply "common-ness)" required for a friendship (to exist or to continue, etc)?

That's part of it, at least interest-wise. But for a long (permenent) lasting friendship there I must feel a deep, strong emotional bond with the other person. Otherwise it will never get beyond the aquantance stage.

I've been wondering: is at least one common interest (or simply "common-ness)" required for a friendship (to exist or to continue, etc)?
I think so. Try having a conversation with someone who has absolutely nothing in common with you. It's very difficult.

Not necessarily--a person with different interests might bring new and interesting topics to the convo. I'd say all you really need is trust and respect of each other.

It is difficult for a friendship to function without at least a means of communication in common. So some degree of common-ness is necessary.
I believe that an interest in the same subjects helps a lot, but holding the same opinion on these subjects is often a hinderence to a friendship. The same opinions should apply to personal ethics and codes of behaviour, not to subjects of discussion.

It depends what kind of friendship you have. I mean, if there are just the two of you, neither of you know what you're talking about and it's boring. If there are more people, there's a better chance.

I know that personally, every single one of my friendships is based on just one common thing; hatred for p.e. lessons.

I've been wondering: is at least one common interest (or simply "common-ness)" required for a friendship (to exist or to continue, etc)?

I've found this to be true. A lot of friends I've known for a long time no longer share my interests, and I've noticed that we tend to drift apart. Most of my current pals have something in common with me that we can talk about or do.

Hmn....yes, having something profound and meaningful in common really helps.

I find, with my closest friends that we have strong opinions on the same subject, but mostly are opinions are completley opposite. We mostly just argue most of the time (in a good, healthy way though).

Respect and love of you fellow man is all that is required. I made friends with a couple of Syrians in Cairo, despite the language and cultural barrier. Lots of good conversations were had. His name was Samer, he kept losing at cards on purpose out of politeness. I had to very gingerly explain that while I appreciated his kindness, the game is more fun when it's competitive. He had a beautiful sister, she bought me a michael jackson poster when I left. I guess she was trying to get me something that she thought I could identify with. The girl's name was rebeka, or something really close to that. She never spoke to me without her brother present though, they were quite liberal for syrians because the girl was an olympic swimmer and she trained in france. Pyramid hotel in cairo, my balcony overlooked the great pyramids which were all lit up at night. Definitely beautiful, many good memories.