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I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I want her back. If I don't act soon enough, another boy will probably ask her out. Any suggestions on how to get her back?

Why did she dump you?

Just let her go man, it's her choice what she wants to do.

Haven't got to ask her yet, I will today.

If *she* dumped you without it being your fault, or with out it being a "that was fun but lets just stay friends" thing, find another one because she's likely a cold-hearted bitch.

Haven't got to ask her yet, I will today.
You don't know why she dumped you?

Just let her go man, it's her choice what she wants to do.

I'm not gonna force her to go out with me....

If she didn't tell you why she dumped you, you probably have no chance at all

You really should know why someone dumps you.... But like was said just let it go...

If she didn't tell you why she dumped you, you probably have no chance at all

Nice to see you again Legless by the way. [/hijack]

You don't know why she dumped you?


I said I'm asking her today.

leave it alone - you will only make your life a living hell by pursuing this. i'd say 'trust me, i've been there' but a) all women are different and you didn't (i hope) just get ditched by my ex) and b) it would be hideously patronising. what i will say is that even when i've seen people get back together after a break up, the only time i've seen it successful is after a long period of time, e.g. 1 year after break up they get back together. if you push it now and it doesn't work out you will have been rejected twice and hurt more than you can imagine

leave it alone - you will only make your life a living hell by pursuing this. i'd say 'trust me, i've been there' but a) all women are different and you didn't (i hope) just get ditched by my ex) and b) it would be hideously patronising. what i will say is that even when i've seen people get back together after a break up, the only time i've seen it successful is after a long period of time, e.g. 1 year after break up they get back together. if you push it now and it doesn't work out you will have been rejected twice and hurt more than you can imagine

So you want me to wait a year? She'll have a boyfriend by then....probably

Eh, you might wanna be careful in this situation...did she give you any reason for dumping you?

Nice to see you again Legless by the way. [/hijack]
I missed you too :fluffle:

Just get yerself a ho and forget the slap-dag.

Eh, you might wanna be careful in this situation...did she give you any reason for dumping you?

For the fifteenth time, no, but I'll be seeing her in an hour or so so I might has well ask her why she did...

Why do you want her back? She didn't dump you accidentally.

have some self-respect, if she dumped you without giving you a reason (im guessing it wasnt een face to face, if youre going to see her soon to ask) then you have every right o be angry at her, and in my opinion you should be.

go on a big guilt trip when you see her:)

Why do you want her back? She didn't dump you accidentally.


Uh, well, hmmmm....

Why do you want her back? She didn't dump you accidentally.
ROFL

have some self-respect, if she dumped you without giving you a reason (im guessing it wasnt een face to face, if youre going to see her soon to ask) then you have every right o be angry at her, and in my opinion you should be.

go on a big guilt trip when you see her:)


Guilt trip?


No it wasnt face to face, she had a friend do it for her.

Seriously, if she dumped you don't bother.

Guilt trip?


No it wasnt face to face, she had a friend do it for her.
I'm not even going to speak on this one.... Because that would call for speculation and i love that a wee bit too much....

Ok I gotta go now. But Just keep posting and when I get home I'll check the thread....

I'm not even going to speak on this one.... Because that would call for speculation and i love that a wee bit too much....


Thanks for nothing....

she got a friend to do it for her? dude thats low.

shes really not worth it, dont ever take her back. and dont ever let her think that shes good enough for you, and feel free to tell her so.

My advice is let it go and move on too making a "getting back at a girlfriend" thread

Seeing as i'm 19 and have never even had a girlfriend my advice should be disregarded.

Follow her around town until one night you break into her house while standing over her watching her sleep. Girls love guys who go crazy over them. If that doesn't work and she doesn't get a restraining order, send her a severed finger (preferably yours). Then she'll really know how you really feel.

So you want me to wait a year? She'll have a boyfriend by then....probably

fuck, how old are you? tell me i haven't given adult advice to a high schooler?

having her friend dump you? sounds like you got out easy. run for the hills. or the next girl

Have you tried hitting her with a stick or bat?

I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I want her back. If I don't act soon enough, another boy will probably ask her out. Any suggestions on how to get her back?

The best way to get her back is to take all the wheels off her car! That's be getting her back OK..... or do you mean it in a different context?

I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I want her back. If I don't act soon enough, another boy will probably ask her out. Any suggestions on how to get her back?

Reading that you haven't found out why she dumped you.

The only logical other suggestion to get her back is to threaten her that you'll kill her dog and her family unless she goes out with you.

Either than that.... Probably buy chocolate. Flowers and pop up at her door grovveling at her feet asking for forgiveness for "You did not know what you did"

hmm, have 2 say let her go. ive never been dumpd fortunately but recently i startd really liking a girl i was seeing for 3 months but she said she wanted 2 finish school before finding a boyfriend, it hurt me 4 a day but i dnt mind now, im seeing another girl. ya need 2 learn how 2 move on

hmm, have 2 say let her go. ive never been dumpd fortunately but recently i startd really liking a girl i was seeing for 3 months but she said she wanted 2 finish school before finding a boyfriend, it hurt me 4 a day but i dnt mind now, im seeing another girl. ya need 2 learn how 2 move on


you recently started liking a girl you'd been seeing for 3 months. wtf were you seeing her for?

you recently started liking a girl you'd been seeing for 3 months. wtf were you seeing her for?
sex?

The best way to get her back is to feel pretty rotten for a couple of days.
Then:
1. At the weekend invite a couple of your best mates roud and get rotten drunk watching all those crap movies and sports she never liked.
2. The next day go out for a hike with said best mates.
3. The following week ask the girl out you've been fancing for a while but never done anything about it cause you were going out with someone.
4. After a while of seeing each other and it's starting to get serious, you'll suddenly realise that you haven't thought of you ex for weeks.

Hope this helps.

you recently started liking a girl you'd been seeing for 3 months. wtf were you seeing her for?

if u read wat i said, i said i startd 2 REALLY like her

Guilt trip?


No it wasnt face to face, she had a friend do it for her.

And you want her back? :rolleyes:
No accounting for tastes.
My advice is find someone with better tastes.

If you continue acting like that Marabal, woman will be your downfall.

I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I want her back. If I don't act soon enough, another boy will probably ask her out. Any suggestions on how to get her back?

Have some pride. Move on with your life and forget about her.

The best way to get her back is to feel pretty rotten for a couple of days.
Then:
1. At the weekend invite a couple of your best mates roud and get rotten drunk watching all those crap movies and sports she never liked.
2. The next day go out for a hike with said best mates.
3. The following week ask the girl out you've been fancing for a while but never done anything about it cause you were going out with someone.
4. After a while of seeing each other and it's starting to get serious, you'll suddenly realise that you haven't thought of you ex for weeks.

Hope this helps.

Works for me and you, but he's still in high school, so not such good advice (we wouldn't want to be advising anyone to engage in illegal acts, would we? ;))

Have you tried hitting her with a stick or bat?

I tried that once .. it's suprisingly effective.

I dunno, you see, I was dumped, and now my ex wants me back, which is scary because though she's hot I honestly can't be bothered with relationships atm... and I'd feel sorta guilty because she doesn't know that I smoke pot.

How'd it happen? No idea... just remained friends with her and one day out of the blue she told me she wanted to get back together... was quite odd.

Have you tried hitting her with a stick or bat?

I find that punching is much more intimate, and shows that you are in for the long haul. Girls like commitment....commitment by fist.

I find that punching is much more intimate, and shows that you are in for the long haul. Girls like commitment....commitment by fist.

That works until she pulls out her pistol...

I find that punching is much more intimate, and shows that you are in for the long haul. Girls like commitment....commitment by fist.

I hope i'm not the only one who has an explicit image in his head from that :eek:

I find that punching is much more intimate, and shows that you are in for the long haul. Girls like commitment....commitment by fist.
Yes, but girls also like toys... and diamonds. So perhaps a cane with inlaid diamonds

For those unfamiliar with the technical side of love:

http://www.encuentro2000.org/punch.jpg

The ultimate solution to recovering a girlfriend:

One word: Sedative.

If you continue acting like that Marabal, woman will be your downfall.

haha, u got there before me. i was just gonna say that haha. persoannly marabal, i wud just leave it, u will start to look desperate if you keep bothering her about why u broke up or why u want to get back. best thing to do is to not let it bother u or act like it doesnt bother u in front of her. and i know that every girl will think im a spa for saying this but try 2 make her jealous. be with a girl right in front of her face, maybe her jealousy could get the better of her

The ultimate solution to recovering a girlfriend:

One word: Sedative.

Now that's just low. How could you ever say such a thing? You sick, sick, person.

:p

The ultimate solution to recovering a girlfriend:

One word: Sedative.
How would you know? :eek: :fluffle:

I have experienced the same thing, and to you i say this - tell her that you still have feelings for her, how strong they are, and that you would to try again. If she says no, then i quote "It's better to have loved and lost love, then to never have loved at all"

Why the hell do you want your exgf back? She had a friend tell you that she dumped you (low of low of lows). What the f*** is wrong with you? Just backhand her and get on with your life.

If you really want her back, get a gf thats hotter than her.

Now that's just low. How could you ever say such a thing? You sick, sick, person.

:p

*Fires tranquiliser gun at Kanabia*

Dinner is served... MWAHAHAHAHA! :D

Your best option is to beg. Women find begging sexy.

And start crying if you have to, especially in front of her friends.

Why the hell do you want your exgf back? She had a friend tell you that she dumped you (low of low of lows). What the f*** is wrong with you? Just backhand her and get on with your life.

If you really want her back, get a gf thats hotter than her.


its true - slip on that diamond ring and show her your pimp hand is way strong

*Fires tranquiliser gun at Kanabia*

Dinner is served... MWAHAHAHAHA! :D

So...*gasp* thats why you never had a girlfriend...

So...*gasp* thats why you never had a girlfriend...

Who said anything? I said Dinner time, and I'm hungry.

*Puts Kanabia in oven*

Lets see... gas mark 6 for 45 minutes then baste...

Who said anything? I said Dinner time, and I'm hungry.

*Puts Kanabia in oven*

Lets see... gas mark 6 for 45 minutes then baste...

Watch out for the baster, Kanabia!

I hear TIN is a master baster.

"Living well is the best revenge"

And from my own and other peoples experience...

Never go back

Really never go back

It has never in my experience worked (I used to say different but then it didn't again.)

Who said anything? I said Dinner time, and I'm hungry.

*Puts Kanabia in oven*

Lets see... gas mark 6 for 45 minutes then baste...

*nibbles through gas pipeline*

Hey, i'm skin and bone anyway. You should find a more meaty person if you're that hungry.

Follow her around town until one night you break into her house while standing over her watching her sleep. Girls love guys who go crazy over them. If that doesn't work and she doesn't get a restraining order, send her a severed finger (preferably yours). Then she'll really know how you really feel.
Have you tried hitting her with a stick or bat?
<snip>I tried that once .. it's suprisingly effective.
<snip>I find that punching is much more intimate, and shows that you are in for the long haul. Girls like commitment....commitment by fist.
The best way to get her back is to take all the wheels off her car! That's be getting her back OK..... or do you mean it in a different context?
Reading that you haven't found out why she dumped you.

The only logical other suggestion to get her back is to threaten her that you'll kill her dog and her family unless she goes out with you.

Either than that.... Probably buy chocolate. Flowers and pop up at her door grovveling at her feet asking for forgiveness for "You did not know what you did"
The ultimate solution to recovering a girlfriend:

One word: Sedative.
I don't find this amusing. I officially don't find this amusing. Do all of you understand me?

"Think about it for a moment."

--The Modified Democratic States of Cogitation
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For the remainder of this post, I am speaking as an ordinary player, not as NationStates Moderator.

Getting back on-topic.... Marabal, I have to concur with those who are advising you to forget about your ex-girlfriend.

First, you're in high school. High school relationships are notorious for being transient, anyway, so you shouldn't fret over this. You're not likely to form any serious, lasting romantic relationships until you're older.

Second, you weren't dumped to your face, you were dumped by proxy. This is generally regarded by many people as disrespectful and strongly suggests to me that she can't (or won't) be straightforward with you. Assuming that she's about as old as you are, we might be able to chalk this up to inexperience on her part. Nevertheless, it is still a very bad sign.

Third, if she dumped you, then she's not interested in you to begin with.

For a relationship to work, the girl has to respect you and she has to be interested in you. Neither is the case here, so the relationship is dead. I know it hurts, but there's nothing you can do about this. Once you realize that you don't need her, you should be okay.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
"Think about it for a moment."
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I don't find this amusing. I officially don't find this amusing. Do all of you understand me?

"Think about it for a moment."

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A little humorous misogyny goes a long way.

Guilt trip?


No it wasnt face to face, she had a friend do it for her.
So she's a cowardly slimeball too?

Don't even try to get her back. You would be a sucker/pushover/etc. to do so.

So lemmie see if I have this straight: she has no respect for you, no maturity, no courage, apparently little self-respect, and not much respect for her friends. Why in God's name would you want anything to do with her??? Hmm. Only thing I can figure is she must have mammoth mammaries. LOL! :D

I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I want her back. If I don't act soon enough, another boy will probably ask her out. Any suggestions on how to get her back?

Don't get her back. There are plenty of other women.

What you need to do is become a man. Leave town right now and join the French Foreign Legion.

You don't need this girl. Someone who doesn't have the backbone to end their own relationship isn't worth wasting your time with.


That said, are you back from finding out why she dumped you?

If she dumped you, then there probably isn't a lot you can do.

You said you were going to talk to her about why she dumped you, so until then any advice isn't going to do you much good seeing as you don't know what to fix yet.

Most of the time the only chance a guy has of getting back with a girlfriend is to be persistent, but not annoyingly so. The best way to be persistent though, is in a fairly subtle way. Remaining friends with your ex is a good way of going about this, since you're still talking to her and "hanging out", you'll still be a part of her life.

I remember in HS though, relationships tend to be rather fickle. I wouldn't put to much effort into trying to get back with her and more effort into staying friends, and finding other possible girlfriends.

On the bright side, when this dude fails to win the girl back, the thread title will still apply to plotting revenge.

If she dumped you, then there probably isn't a lot you can do.
You said you were going to talk to her about why she dumped you, so until then any advice isn't going to do you much good seeing as you don't know what to fix yet.

Most of the time the only chance a guy has of getting back with a girlfriend is to be persistent, but not annoyingly so. The best way to be persistent though, is in a fairly subtle way. Remaining friends with your ex is a good way of going about this, since you're still talking to her and "hanging out", you'll still be a part of her life.

I remember in HS though, relationships tend to be rather fickle. I wouldn't put to much effort into trying to get back with her and more effort into staying friends, and finding other possible girlfriends.

Yeah dude everybody knows the trick to relationships is to dump the girl a split second before she is about to dump you- thus winning the relationship.

All this persitence and talking to her crap is futile though, at most all you will get is some sympathy/guilt making out, but thats all. You have to know when to dump the girl, dumping girls makes them insanely lust after you and it will drive them crazy when they see you with another girl. Getting a girl back after you dump her is not too hard, but getting a girl back after she dumps you is next to impossible and is something I have never done, but tried many times.

I would guess if it is possible it would involve first not crying and blubbering and acting like a baby.

Second not calling her up for like 2 weeks and acting like you don't care about her.

Third make her jealous by hanging out with other girls. Even if you do come crawling back to her on your hands and knees and she does take you back she is going to totally own you.

If you do get her back try to have some crazy wild make up sex or at least make out with her or something if you are one of those 14 year old types, and then dump her so you are the one who owns her. Your cause sounds pretty hopeless though so just try to keep yourself respect and try to find someone else.

A little humorous misogyny goes a long way.


Agreed.

Has anyone noticed Marabal has been gone for quite a bit? I wonder how it went for him.

If she got a friend to ditch you, then she's a loser. It's hard to hear if you still like her, but it's true. Move on. After all, it's better to lose a lover than love a loser...

Has anyone noticed Marabal has been gone for quite a bit? I wonder how it went for him.

Maybe he is getting it on! :fluffle:

ok heres where you draw the line. You put your foot down and stop acting like such a pussy. you go up to her and tell her how it is, and how its gonna be.





PS...oh and uh... if you want i could take that other guy out of the picture for ya for a small price if ya know what i mean... :sniper:

No it wasnt face to face, she had a friend do it for her.

Ask the friend out, then let your ex worry about how to get you back.

Ask the friend out, then let your ex worry about how to get you back.

Now that is some good advice!

Ask the friend out, then let your ex worry about how to get you back.

i actually know someone who did that... Except then the original girl got p*ssed off that the friend went out with the guy, and then they fell out for, like, EVER, and so the 1st girl was annoyed at friend, and ex and then started blaming him for the 'destruction of such a friendship - a friendship which has endured forever!'.

Yeah, so don't do that. You could, however, try getting the friend on your side to tell the other girl how cool and amazing you are.

Your best option is to beg. Women find begging sexy.

And start crying if you have to, especially in front of her friends.


Wow.

You expect me to cry in front of her friends?



YEAH RIGHT!

Ask the friend out, then let your ex worry about how to get you back.


Thats not bound to work, and there were actually four friends.

I was leaing Math and the four of them called me back in the room. They then started giggleing and told me My girlfriend was dumping me.

You could, however, try getting the friend on your side to tell the other girl how cool and amazing you are.


*Strokes chin and ponders....*

man, that's harsh, i don't think i could forgive anyone for doing that... :sniper:

wtf?

Now that I'm back you dont help?

Bump

Well you said you went to talk to her. What did she have to say for herself?

speaking as a girl, the best thing you can do is talk to her (one her own!) and make her give you an explanation. you deserve that. sounds like shes pretty immature if she couldnt break up with you herself. let her know how you feel... but dont beg! if you're honest and direct she'll respect you and chances are she feel stupid knowing what shes thrown away. failing that tell her to grow up... sounds as if she needs to.

i had broken up with my current girlfriend about two months ago, and let me tell you i wanted her back really bad. i asked a few friends what to do and they said thati shouldn't try to go back it isn't worth it. But i swore that she may still like me. So i got up the guts to go ask her back out and turns out she felt the same way. We've been as happy as hell since. So the only way to find out is to ask her yourself, but i can't gurantee a happy ending.

Wow.

You expect me to cry in front of her friends?



YEAH RIGHT!

I was only joking. It would be very funny if you had taken my advice.

And you want her back? :rolleyes:
No accounting for tastes.
My advice is find someone with better tastes.

I do have one question, do you in fact know that you were dumped? I mean her friend could have been interfereing, I know it's rare, off the wall but I would not count myself as truely dumped BY ANYONE without a face to face. I'd go over to her house and see her personally. If her parents answer and run you off, consider it over. If SHE personally dumps you, consider it over. Do not go there again. Do this in a civil way. I really believe all dumpage should be done by the dumper to the dumpee. It could all have been a terrible misunderstanding.
Still any nonsense at her house must be taken as a no, it's over.

Thats not bound to work, and there were actually four friends.

I was leaing Math and the four of them called me back in the room. They then started giggleing and told me My girlfriend was dumping me.


OK I didn't see that, that looks more like a really really sick prank! I would really insist on a face to face. IF she really hasn't dumped you, or if she has those people are real tacky. I hope they aren't REAL friends of hers. That might be a problem. That's just ILL

OK I didn't see that, that looks more like a really really sick prank! I would really insist on a face to face. IF she really hasn't dumped you, or if she has those people are real tacky.


A face to face would be better. If she has friends like that, or is like that, she needs to grow up and find new friends.

Thats not bound to work, and there were actually four friends.

I was leaing Math and the four of them called me back in the room. They then started giggleing and told me My girlfriend was dumping me.
I don't normally reply to posts like this , but...

:sniper:

Ok, this is following my first thread: Getting a Girlfriend Back.... (http://forums2.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=388493)

I talked to one of the four friends who dumped me. She said I was dumped because I:

Dissed my girlfriends friends,
Swore to much
something else

So Any Ideas On how to get her back.

(most of the first ones were very helpful, well, sorta)

Help Please!

Have you even spoken to your girlfriend? Has she, herself, said she's dumping you?

Well, yeah. By now she would have asked why I wasn't talking to her if she hadn't dumped me.

Well, yeah. By now she would have asked why I wasn't talking to her if she hadn't dumped me.

What did SHE say she dumped you for?

Don't ask us if you haven't even spoken to your g/f yet. By the way she dumped u thru her friends, it sounds like she is not worth trying to get back.

Tell her that you are willing to change for her. You will stop cursing (good luck) will spend more time with her and her friends (good luck) and a little poetry, flowers, or candy (good luck with the poetry) will bring her back. Seriously, if she is not the romantic type wing the poetry but be honest with her and Good luck

Talk directly to your girlfriend. If you have time before buy her a piece or a box of her fav food or a flower she likes. Tell her you heard she was breaking up with you and ask her why. If she refuses to say, ask her if what her friends said was true. If she says yes, ask for a second chance and promise to reform. REFORM.

You will stop cursing (good luck)

will spend more time with her and her friends (good luck)

and a little poetry, flowers, or candy (good luck with the poetry) will bring her back.

and Good luck


ROTFLMAO


Not bad thought, actually thats brilliant.

I talked to one of the four friends who dumped me. She said I was dumped because I:

Dissed my girlfriends friends,
Swore to much
something else
First, fecking talk to her! Talk to her to her face! Or over the phone, but the discourse must be oral, not written or indirect.

Second, are all of those true? You could try to reduce your swearing, for one. Be more considerate of who she cares about--don't be dishonest, just be pleasant. Nothing can change until you talk to her and find out if she really dumped you and what the cause was. You could find out if she was just having a bad day and had to vent her anger or something. Information is the greatest of all power, and you are sorely lacking in that area.

and a little poetry, flowers, or candy (good luck with the poetry) will bring her back. Seriously, if she is not the romantic type wing the poetry but be honest with her and Good luck
Oh, god in heaven no! No poetry! I have read some of my peers' poetry before, and it defys physics by both sucking and blowing simultaneously. And neither are positive. Unless you actually can cime up with some original material, please don't. There's so, so much bad contemporary poetry that I must do whatever I can to stub the flow. Quoting authors that the girl likes seems to work well with me, if she likes any books or certain poets.

it sounds like if she dumped you through her friend she isn't worth it, but if you want her back i think it would be best to just talk to her like a friend, show her you're not angry or desperate. Just go slowly

Information is the greatest of all power, and you are sorely lacking in that area.

haHA!!!!!!!!LOL!!!!!!!!! sounds true

They laughed at you when they said she was dumping you? That's just sick. Honestly, if my girlfriend had friends like that, I'd probably think it wasn't worth it.

Look: You're not going to be able to change your swearing habits and you won't start liking her stupid friends. She wasn't a good bet anyway. Find a girl who likes you.

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First, fecking talk to her! Talk to her to her face! Or over the phone, but the discourse must be oral, not written or indirect.
Actually, Gnostikos brings up a good point, here. I feel a bit sheepish that I didn't bring this up myself.

You've been told indirectly that you've been dumped. How do you know that this is true? Could they be lying to you? Talk to your girlfriend/ex-girlfriend directly. Make no assumptions. Maybe she didn't dump you.

"[So-and-so] claims that you're dumping me. Is this true?"

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

There is no need for two topics on this. iMerge.

--The Modified Democratic States of Cogitation

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Actually, Gnostikos brings up a good point, here. I feel a bit sheepish that I didn't bring this up myself.

You've been told indirectly that you've been dumped. How do you know that this is true? Could they be lying to you? Talk to your girlfriend/ex-girlfriend directly. Make no assumptions. Maybe she didn't dump you.

"[So-and-so] claims that you're dumping me. Is this true?"

--The Democratic States of Cogitation


I already found out it's true. If it wasn't she would have wondered why I wasn't talking to her any more. Plus she use to smile at me in the hallway whereever I saw her, and know she just acts like I'm anybody else.

By the way, thanks for the merge.

Any More Advice???

I want as much as I can get..... :)

OK, I need as much advice as possible before tomorrow so please help.

What did your girlfriend say when you talked to her?

doesn't have the backbone to end their ..the way I see it, Marabal has no backbone at all...nada....zip

My advice to you is talk directly to her and not through her friends. First Ask her why she dumped you. Then tell her that you still have feelings for her. She may say yes, she may say no. But you can't force her to do it.

... put your foot down and stop acting like such a pussy. Ditto

Move on.

What kind of relationship did you guys have where you're this afraid of confronting her all of a sudden?

What kind of relationship did you guys have where you're this afraid of confronting her all of a sudden?We were all very "close" with her.

:fluffle:

We were all very "close" with her.

:fluffle:

I swear OD, one more wise crack out of your smart ass mouth, and you'll see how angery I can get....

If you really want to Get her Back ,After all I,ve Read then do this...

Listen to everything she tells you, completely change who you are just to be with her and never use your own mind again ,do this for about 5-10years and maybe then you might be so use to it you might feel so numb you wont care she's been fucking her boss and the kid,s sports coach .good luck kid
and welcome to slavery. :mp5: :headbang: :mad: :( :eek:

What kind of relationship did you guys have where you're this afraid of confronting her all of a sudden?


A great one, then over one weekend It all shattered. On Monday, I got dumped.

If you really want to Get her Back ,After all I,ve Read then do this...

Listen to everything she tells you, completely change who you are just to be with her and never use your own mind again ,do this for about 5-10years and maybe then you might be so use to it you might feel so numb you wont care she's been fucking her boss and the kid,s sports coach .good luck kid
and welcome to slavery. :mp5: :headbang: :mad: :( :eek:


LOL, as much as I wanna punch you, that made me laugh.

I swear OD, one more wise crack out of your smart ass mouth, and you'll see how angery I can get....:D Go ahead kid, do the "angery" thing...see if I care.

Only joking mate move on then a better one just round the corner good luc :)

And for the last time, I haven't yet talked to her. I will TOMORROW, so hold anything concering that til then.

:D go ahead "angery" me. see if I care.

*cough, cough, my natons bigger than your's, cough cough*

And for the last time, I haven't yet talked to her. I will TOMORROW, so hold anything concering that til then.

Then how the Christ are we supposed to help you?

Only joking mate move on then a better one just round the corner good luc :)

Thanks

*cough, cough, my natons bigger than your's, cough cough*

*cough cough and my nation is massively bigger than yours cough cough*

Ok, this is following my first thread: Getting a Girlfriend Back.... (http://forums2.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=388493)

I talked to one of the four friends who dumped me. She said I was dumped because I:

Dissed my girlfriends friends,
Swore to much
something else



It seems to me... That she needs an EXCUSE to dump you... Cause those excuses are just lame...

A great one, then over one weekend It all shattered. On Monday, I got dumped.
Do you know what led up to it? Was there any emnity or an argument, perhaps some coldness from one party? Or was this completely unexpected, with no precursor you're aware of?

marabal have you tried not seeing women ,,maybe your gay, and thats why you keep getting dump...
my income tax is lower than yours..ha ha ;)

*cough cough and my nation is massively bigger than yours cough cough*

*cough cough, looks in other derection, trying not to sweat, cough cough*

marabal have you tried not seeing women ,,maybe your gay, and thats why you keep getting dump...
my income tax is lower than yours..ha ha ;)


Wow, you just completly changed my dispostion of you...

marabal have you tried not seeing women ,,maybe your gay, and thats why you keep getting dump...
my income tax is lower than yours..ha ha ;)

My income tax is higher than yours, ha ha. As leader of your very own empire, you want a higher tax rate, because YOU get all that money.

LOL
all in good fun :D

My income tax is higher than yours, ha ha. As leader of your very own empire, you want a higher tax rate, because YOU get all that money.

Its only a game mate
don't take it to seriously

Its only a game mate
don't take it to seriously

You would make a terrible brutal dictator.

LoL

LOL
all in good fun :D
They say...it is not about "how Big it is"...its all about "How you use it" :fluffle:

Taliking about Collected Tax of course

BTW size does matter, say my many "sources" anyways.

Dissed my girlfriends friends


I wasn't aware "dissed" was used anymore.
o.o


something else


Oh yeah? What? :o

I wasn't aware "dissed" was used anymore.
o.o
Well, it isn't used too much, but it still in the vernacular in many places, though not as common as it once was.

That works until she pulls out her pistol...

Oh come on, then you'll pull out your Ingram Mac 10 then she'll pull out a Tec 9 then you pull out a shotgun then she'll pull out an MP5 then you'll pull out an M4 then she pulls out an AK47?

How to get a Girlfriend Back:

Cannot help you for ever.

Why?

I'm a nerd, geek whatever. I am not good at anything with Girls. So yeah.

prolly wasn't good in the sack.





...just sayin is all.

I don't find this amusing. I officially don't find this amusing. Do all of you understand me?

"Think about it for a moment."

I think I understand, you unofficially find it amusing?! :p

I wasn't aware "dissed" was used anymore.
o.o



Oh yeah? What? :o





Yeah, dissed is used in my school, lightly.

And if I knew the thrd reason, maybe I'd tell you. :eek:

Do you know what led up to it? Was there any emnity or an argument, perhaps some coldness from one party? Or was this completely unexpected, with no precursor you're aware of?


Not really, pretty unexpected.

They say...it is not about "how Big it is"...its all about "How you use it" :fluffle:

Taliking about Collected Tax of course

BTW size does matter, say my many "sources" anyways.

lol

You gotta fight!...
For your right!...
To parrrttt-ay!

Well, In about an hour or two, I'll see her,

Well, In about an hour or two, I'll see her,

So ya'll are still friends?
thats good...
Well if u dont know y she dumped u.. how did she dump u?

So ya'll are still friends?
thats good...
Well if u dont know y she dumped u.. how did she dump u?




No, were NOT friends, and If u want anserws to the other questions, read the rest of the thread(s)

it's better to lose a lover than love a loser...
quite a nice way to think

OK, I need as much advice as possible before tomorrow so please help.

sorry dude, but i think maybe your a little obsessive, maybe you kinda freaked her out a bit and didnt give her space. Or maybe you didnt go out in the 1st place, maybe her and her friends teased you from the start. kinda mean but it could be true.

If there's no way of getting back together again (you'll know when you talk to her), the only advice I can give you is round up your mates and have some fun. Try to meet some new people and don't get too obsessed.

I myself was dumped a little more than a year ago by my ex, she dumped me all out of the blue while I thought we were having a great relationship for a reason I still don't know (although we are friends now) through MSN.. I was completely obsessed with her for like six months, engaging in excessive alcohol and weed abuse and extreme aggressiveness (vandalism etc..), which got me into quite a bit of trouble with friends, loved ones, and myself. But yeah, I got over it, when I realized that although you think it does, the world does not revolve around the one you love, it revolves around yourself, and not accepting reality and not moving on is a denial of yourself. I'm now happily "playing the field" and good friends with my ex, so it all worked out, but take my word for it that you don't want to go through a period of desperate obsession. Happiness and love are found everywhere, not at that one person..

Damn, what a huge rant I wrote :eek:

Or you could also offer her some bling-bling :cool:

Some intellegent advice for you...

http://www.allthingsflash.com/files/rant.swf

Y'know, this puts me in mind of a couple of friends I knew that went out with eachother.

They seemed to be doing pretty great together, then for some reason my friend got dumped by the girl for uknown reasons. She subsequently pleaded with him to get back together, and they did. This process repeated a further two times before my friend finally grew tired of it. I have since become convinved that the girl either A) Has abandonment issues, B) Is a paranoid schizophrenic or C) Just a bitch, really.

Therefore, my advice: Cut your losses and run. You got out lucky.

Ok, this is following my first thread: Getting a Girlfriend Back.... (http://forums2.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=388493)

I talked to one of the four friends who dumped me. She said I was dumped because I:

Dissed my girlfriends friends,
Swore to much
something else

So Any Ideas On how to get her back.

(most of the first ones were very helpful, well, sorta)

AH.

Right, that sucks. It's a really lame excuse and you shouldn't let her get away with using it. You should make four of your most immature, arse-like friends go up to her giggling and say 'Oh my GOD, you have such a WEAK IMAGINATION! Is that really the best you could come up with?!'.

If, however, you managed to diss her friends, swear and do 'something else' so often and badly that it was worth dumping you for, here's how you change it:

1. Diss her friends in a way they will never find out. For example, you could diss them in another language (Do you/they speak French/German/Latin?), you could diss them only to someone deaf/blind/mute, or you could move to another country and diss them there.

2. You could swear in a way they will never find out. For example, you could learn swear words from another language and use those, or alternatively - for variety - make up your own.

3. Something else. God, they are vague, aren't they? I don't know about this one. Maybe you could just start being unnecessarily pleasant all the time?

Have fun with that.

You should make four of your most immature, arse-like friends go up to her giggling and say 'Oh my GOD, you have such a WEAK IMAGINATION! Is that really the best you could come up with?!'.
.
IMO, Thats like barking back to a Dog...

She was a Dog to you, do you really want to sink to her level?

wow...u have problems!

but i've onyl had a couple of girl freinds so don't tkae me seriously if you dont want to but one of my really close frnds who is a girl (REALLY close 3 hr phone calls about twice a week etc.) started hating me two months ago..i deserved it lol and about 6 weeks later she started missing me even though she had called me a *** and a two faced **** and a ***** etc. etc. etc. it was all in a A4 sized hate e-miail. so wat im trying to say in a long winded sort of way is that if you were close enough to be going out then she will miss you ;) ...eventually.....

Or maybe you didnt go out in the 1st place, maybe her and her friends teased you from the start. kinda mean but it could be true. Ah, that happened to me.

*Enjoys funny (now) memories*

bump :p

bump :p

only a n00b would bump anothers thread at random... or someone desprate to get their post count up.

Some intellegent advice for you...

http://www.allthingsflash.com/files/rant.swf


LMAO, I added that to my favorites on internt explorer...

But yeah, I got over it, when I realized that although you think it does, the world does not revolve around the one you love, it revolves around yourself, and not accepting reality and not moving on is a denial of yourself.
I take you're either a subjetivist or an egotist...can't tell which.

I take you're either a subjetivist or an egotist...can't tell which.
Hmm...
What about solipsism? I thought that entailed something similar, but I'm probably sorely mistaken.

Simple: SHE'S NOT WORTH YOUR TIME! SHE'S A WHORE AND A DYKE.

(unless it was your fault you broke up, then your an insensitive bitch)

Hmm...
What about solipsism? I thought that entailed something similar, but I'm probably sorely mistaken.
Ah, yes, he could also be a solipsist, thank you, I had forgotten that one. Autotheism and egotheism are also viable candidates. In a lesser vein, egoism, narcissism, and egocentricity are all possible, but those are not quite as serious as the other ones, those are mainly personality characteristics, not beliefs.

Ah, that happened to me.

*Enjoys funny (now) memories*

Pats kiwicrog on the back.

dogg what you all dont understand is that im a p.i.m.p and i have all the girls so i dont curr what yall have to say about getting girlfriends back.

Peace out - Hood Respect

2pac

dogg what you all dont understand is that im a p.i.m.p and i have all the girls so i dont curr what yall have to say about getting girlfriends back.

Peace out - Hood Respect

2pac

Then why are you on NationStates?

dogg what you all dont understand is that im a p.i.m.p and i have all the girls so i dont curr what yall have to say about getting girlfriends back.

Peace out - Hood Respect

2pac
So you are an agent for prostitutes?
What quaint things the younger set seem to be proud of these days...

What is this "curr" you speak of? Is it like curry? I rather enjoy a nice spot of curry once in a while, has a nice exotic spice to it...

"Hood respect"? Hood as in part of a cloak, or hood as in "hoodlums"? I rather suspect the second.
*cue stupid laughter*
Oh, my oh my, but I am so witty!

Oh, my oh my, but I am so witty!

fo' sho'! :D

http://www.allthingsflash.com/files/rant.swfROTFLMAO. That was one of the funniest sites I've ever seen.

fo' sho'! :D
Haha, I see your reply is meant in jest!
*obnoxious chuckle*
*abrupt stop*
Or at least, so I hope!

(hee, this is way too much fun for some odd reason.)

Hee.
Right after that post about being proud of being an agent for prostitutes, my rating is now "pimp". How ironic.

Hee.
Right after that post about being proud of being an agent for prostitutes, my rating is now "pimp". How ironic.

lol, word up. represent. *weird hand gestures*

lol, word up. represent. *weird hand gestures*
*more wierd hand gestures in respone*
Umm, what are we "pimps" supposed to say, exactly?
:D

*more wierd hand gestures in respone*
Umm, what are we "pimps" supposed to say, exactly?
:D

*pink cadillac pulls up*

Hey cracker! I got some fine ass ho's. A G will get you a night with one 'o mah bitches. Aiight?

*pink cadillac pulls up*

Hey cracker! I got some fine ass ho's. A G will get you a night with one 'o mah bitches. Aiight?
*thinks quickly*
*is stumped*
*brain melts to puddle*

*thinks quickly*
*is stumped*
*brain melts to puddle*

owned! :D

owned! :D
Hee.
I shoulda responded with that hilarious excerpt from The Onion, except A) I might get in trouble cause it's a bit on the offensive side, and B) I can't remember which page or which volume it's in.
Damn.
:p

Thats not bound to work, and there were actually four friends.

I was leaing Math and the four of them called me back in the room. They then started giggleing and told me My girlfriend was dumping me.

easy give all 4 ago 1 at a time:) i once did 3 out of 4 :D
altho i dumped the first one for the 2nd one but always told the 1st one a different reason.

well and if that doesnt work......

back to a decent wank :rolleyes:

ROTFLMAO. That was one of the funniest sites I've ever seen.

Exaxtly. I rock.

i really didn't no that boys actually thought about these things!its really interseting to read wot everyone has been saying!

what did you think then? that guys where just sex obsessed animals who didnt give a shit about their girlfriends? we have feelings to u know!
so dont ever cheat on ppl cuz its hurts them the same as it would you vice versa!

Here's my advice.

Girls in your age group (especialy your age group) don't have a friggen clue what they want. Hell, even when you get to college they're still pretty much the same. I was in a somewhat similar situation as yours. I begged for a chance, she told me it wasn't me and decided she wants to wait 4 years for her old boyfriend to get out of the airforce. He's not stationed within traveling distance. Go figure.

My advice is you're still young (like me) so don't fret it. Chicks are a dime a dozen. Just use the slutty ones and when you find one you really like treat her nicely.

I know it sounds horrible, but this is how it works unfortunatly. You tell yourself you can win by being the nice guy; but you never can. :headbang:

Here's my advice.

Girls in your age group (especialy your age group) don't have a friggen clue what they want. Hell, even when you get to college they're still pretty much the same. I was in a somewhat similar situation as yours. I begged for a chance, she told me it wasn't me and decided she wants to wait 4 years for her old boyfriend to get out of the airforce. He's not stationed within traveling distance. Go figure.

My advice is you're still young (like me) so don't fret it. Chicks are a dime a dozen. Just use the slutty ones and when you find one you really like treat her nicely.

I know it sounds horrible, but this is how it works unfortunatly. You tell yourself you can win by being the nice guy; but you never can. :headbang:

You're absolutely right. Bono IS the messiah.

I can't tell you what to do, situations like these are not generic because everybody is different. All you can do is be honest with yourself about your feelings and go from there.

oh y can't i find boyfiends like u!

what did you think then? that guys where just sex obsessed animals who didnt give a shit about their girlfriends? we have feelings to u know!
YO MAN!!...Speak for Yourself ...

what did you think then? that guys where just sex obsessed animals who didnt give a shit about their girlfriends? we have feelings to u know!
so dont ever cheat on ppl cuz its hurts them the same as it would you vice versa!

Just, going off topic a little, what counts in your book as cheating, exactly?

oh y can't i find boyfiends like u!

probably becasue you shouldn't call them fiends.....ill shut up.....

Just, going off topic a little, what counts in your book as cheating, exactly?Its like...say you are in Rome and your neigbor's kid(with a smile in his face) screams at you "Cornuto" :D

see thats cheating

I take you're either a subjetivist or an egotist...can't tell which.

:)

I'm a rational egoist who's recently become extremely attracted to Objectivism. :cool:
How could solipsism be derived from the text I wrote? I'm not really an expert in philosophy, but solipsism is when you believe that the world around you is not real and only the mind exists which "creates" a "reality", right?

What exactly is egotheism? :confused:

Any updates Marabal?

oh y can't i find boyfiends like u!
for starters dont go for the mr popular guy, pay attention to the intelligent guys

I'm a rational egoist who's recently become extremely attracted to Objectivism. :cool:
Well, egoism isn't really all that bad compared to egotism, but still not exactly the ideal. And I'm much more of an existentialist myself, which subjevtivism seems to be a sub-set of.

How could solipsism be derived from the text I wrote? I'm not really an expert in philosophy, but solipsism is when you believe that the world around you is not real and only the mind exists which "creates" a "reality", right?[/QUOTE]
Yes, you're right. But Neo-Anarchists had proposed it, and this:[The world] revolves around yourselfcould be interpreted that way.

What exactly is egotheism? :confused:
Egotheism is really a specific form of autotheism, the deification of the self. Autotheism can have broader and other meanings.